Archive for February, 2006

Posted on Feb 28th, 2006

The great evangelist Billy Sunday once said, "Fear knocked at my door. Faith answered…and there was no one there." That’s the proper response to fear. Our worst imaginations almost never happen, and most worries die in vain anticipation.

Fear holds you back from flexing your risk muscle. It’s been said that worry is a darkroom where negatives are developed. Like a rocking chair, it keeps you going, but you don’t get anywhere.

Most of our fears can be traced back to a fear of man. But the Bible says that " The Lord is the strength of my life; of whom then shall I be afraid?" (Ps. 27:1). People would worry less about what others think of them if they only realized how seldom they do. They are wondering what you’re thinking of them!

Most people believe their doubts and doubt their beliefs. So do like the old saying and "feed your faith and watch your doubts starve to death." Many people are so filled with fear that they go through life running from something that isn’t after them. Fear of the future is waste of the present. Fear not tomorrow. God is already there. Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.

Don’t be afraid to be you.

- John Mason, from the book You’re Born An Original, Don’t Die A Copy. (To find out more about this book, go to www.freshword.com/resources)

John Mason is a national best-selling author, nationally recognized speaker and book coach.

He has authored fourteen books including An Enemy Called Average, Youre Born An Original-Dont Die A Copy, Let Go of Whatever Makes You Stop, and Know Your Limits-Then Ignore Them which have sold over 1.4 million copies and have been translated into twenty-five languages throughout the world.

"I have posted a special message for you to see on my website http://www.freshword.com. In it I talk about right associations and the effect they can have on whether you succeed in life or not. Your best friends should bring out the best in you! If you are an author, or want to be, I have many resources specifically designed for you. Also, make sure to sign up for my Nugget of the Week - I would love to inspire you." - John Mason

Posted on Feb 28th, 2006

Everyone who has anxiety just wants to get rid of it. Many therapists, some of them unscrupulous, lure desperate sufferers by promising that anxiety can “evaporate”, “float away” or “disappear”. It seldom does, especially using their flawed and expensive gimmicks. The chances are you already know this. Most of the therapists that use such language are either charging a high hourly rate for weekly sessions which in the long term achieve little, or are selling an equally expensive “programme” or “system”. They are not all con-artists, some of them believe in their techniques for good reason: they have helped stressed-out professionals to relax a little or a down-in-the-dumps widow’s mood to lift. They, by and large, have not cured anxiety and, although they may well be full of anecdotes, they can not produce living examples or peer reviewed statistical evidence that supports them. Often they tell you how frustrated they are that the medical profession will not accept them. The medical profession, arrogant and backward as it can be, has good reason to be suspicious.

So if miracle cures do not exist then what help is there for you? Plenty! As while instantaneous miracles do not occur you can make changes which will permanently free you from your anxiety and panic. On my website I have listed some of the therapies I have used and comment on their efficacy. Often it won’t be quick, but Rome wasn’t built in a day. If I were you I’d, right now, give yourself permission to take as long as you need to overcome your anxiety; better that it takes a year and works than having it fail in two weeks. At the same time, paradoxically, you should be open to the idea of being free of it much sooner. I say ‘be open to the idea’ don’t grasp it and demand an instant cure.

Here’s my advice, as an ex-sufferer:

1) Let go of wanting an instant cure. Be prepared to earn your cure and become a stronger person. Remember that it doesn’t have to be awful.

How would you feel if your anxiety or panic evaporated or somehow just disappeared? Most anxiety sufferers would say they would feel amazing and over the moon! But would they? Actually you don’t feel anxiety most of the time anyway, so in a sense your anxiety disappears all the time. You consider yourself to have anxiety, though, as you know it will come back. So how would you know if say your hypnotherapist made your anxiety disappear? Some days without anxiety would pass and gradually it would, one presumes, fade into your personal history. But you would never be sure, and one day the natural emotion and symptoms of anxiety or panic would rear their ugly head and you would be back to square one. How can I be sure? I’ve been there. Everyone feels the symptoms of anxiety at sometime in their life although not everyone labels them as such. I had had full blown panic attacks and lengthy periods of anxiety so I was sensitized to recognise the very first signs, the feeling in the pit of my stomach that “normal” people would call nervousness. As soon as I felt those natural feelings again I was right back where I had started.

I tell you this to stress my belief that you can’t just take away the anxiety, you also have to remove your fear of anxiety returning and your label of yourself as an anxious person. For me, the path to no longer having anxiety was a series of steps and small jumps. No one made me believe I was over my anxiety, I proved it to myself as I lived my life. Things that you learn yourself through experience are far more embedded in you than things you are told, ask any teacher! And you want to be permanently free of anxiety, don’t you?

So despite the fact that doctors seem to prefer to talk about controlling rather than curing anxiety I am not afraid to describe myself as cured. I am cured because I no longer have anxiety, am not scared of it returning, and consider myself to be as normal and able as the next person.

There are three important things there. Firstly I had to learn to not fear anxiety returning. That was most important. Secondly I had to respect myself and understand that I was as capable and good as the next person, and that the time I had “wasted” in having anxiety, and the things I had missed were still obtainable.

2) It is better to have exciting things in front of you rather than behind you. Often the anxiety sufferer can feel amazingly low self esteem as they see the world pass them by. Changing self-image can be an important part of the recovery.

3) Be open to the idea that there may be a positive outcome. Often sufferers are told to “think positive”. Such a statement is a waste of breath. On the other hand many people feel, after trying out a few flawed therapies, that they are incurable, that nothing can help them. I learnt early on to just be open to the possibility that I might actually get over my anxiety. To believe in the possibility of a positive outcome was possible.

So forget instant cures, prepare yourself for some work, and be open to a positive outcome. Then start hunting out the therapies that have been proven to work, and chose the one that’s best for you. It doesn’t have to be expensive (I cured myself from books), and it doesn’t have to be horrid. You will succeed.

Look out for my follow up articles where I discuss other issues to getting over anxiety, panic attacks and phobias. I will post details on www.anxiety2calm.com, where all information is given away for free.

I am an ex-anxiety sufferer campaigning against expensive gimmicks targeted at vulnerable anxiety sufferers by cynical businessmen. I set up http://www.anxiety2calm.com to examine various therapies, techniques and gimmicks sold as a cure for anxiety, panic attacks and phobias. I also have sections on meditation, EFT, TFT, Journey Therapy, and much much more.

Posted on Feb 27th, 2006

Money or the lack of it, can cause many people a great deal of stress. People often play mind games with themselves by worrying about certain situations. How will I be able to pay if my car breaks down? How will I cope if I lose my job? In this article, I give money management advice to help people to de-stress about their financial position and future.

Worrying about money is especially true for people who are self-employed. They worry about what might happen if business becomes slow and fear that they will not be able to their mortgage etc. Most businesses go through peaks and troughs and it is of course during the lean times when people start to stress. Even though the peaks are possibly just around the corner it becomes very hard to positive.

In this situation I would advise people who are self-employed to build up a financial safety net. This money can be saved when they are having a good period and can then be spent when things are not going so well. How will I pay for the mortgage if business falls? Answer, by the money you have saved up, so calm down, you will be fine.

The periods when business is slow can be used to re-charge the batteries and can also be used to think up fresh ideas, of the direction you want the business to go in.

For all people it is important to know how much money is likely to be coming in per month and how much money is likely to be going out. In business this is not all that easy to do, however in family life it should not be too difficult to predict.

If the amount that is seemingly going out is more than what is likely to be coming in, we then need to look at what we are spending. This next idea might seem a little sad but can actually be quite fun. I would advise people to keep a record during one month, of everything they spend. It is not as hard as it may sound and will give you an insight on how much money you actually waste.

For example, how many people are members of a gym, but never actually go there? How much money do you spend on take-away food per month? Do you always need to use the car, is it not possible to walk a little more often, therefore saving on petrol costs? How much money do you spend on cigarettes? Do you really need the latest flat screen television?

During the good times we can afford to waste money, however if you are worrying about money, it is time to tighten your belt.

I myself try to save a certain amount of money per month and invest it in a unit trust. Over time the fund value builds up and if I ever need a lump sum for example, car repairs, I just cash in some of the units. I also allow myself to take out a certain amount of money at the start of each year. This helps me to pay for my car insurance, road tax and to book a family holiday. This has been working well for me for the last five years and is something I plan to continue.

It is always worth planning for the future in this way, not just to cover you if your car breaks down but also for many other reasons. You may want to build up a little nest egg to:

pay for your daughters potential wedding

buy the car of your dreams

have the holiday of a lifetime

buy a house

re-locate abroad

buy a business

for your retirement

help fund your childrens university fees

I am now aware of how much money I am likely to spend per month. I like to have treats and waste money as much as the next man. I am more than happy when money is tight to give up these treats and see it as a battle of wills.

I hope you have found this article interesting and of use.

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Posted on Feb 27th, 2006

The method for stress management which I am going to show you below is actually a combination of two methods; a regular deep breathing exercise and Jacobsen’s Progressive. Both are proven relaxation exercises and by combining them they function even better. These relaxation techniques can help you reduce tension in your muscles as well as manage the effects of the fight-or-flight response on your body - link when you feel you are about to get overwhelmed by panic. In a situation where you have to perform by thinking clearly under pressure, this relaxing exercise is really great. Here is what you do:

  1. Sit down comfortably in a way that enables you to relax.
  2. While you focus your body on relaxation take a series (10, 20 or even more) of deep breaths. For each breath you take, try to relax your body even more.
  3. Tense up the muscles of both your hands maximally, make a fist and hold this tension for five seconds.
  4. From the state of maximum tension, relax your hand’s muscles to the state they were in before you tensed them.
  5. Focus on your hand muscles and try to relax them even further so that you are as relaxed as possible.
  6. Repeat step 3 to 5 but instead of your hands muscles, now concentrate on the following parts of your body in sequenze: your feet, your legs and tighs, your arms, your breast and stomach, your back and finally your neck and head’s muscles.

The idea is that you’ll probably be able to relax your muscles more by tensing them first, than you would if you just relaxed your muscles directly. You can also repeat the deep breathing steps in between the tensing / relaxation of the muscles of your different body parts.

Terje Brooks Ellingsen is a writer and internet publisher. He runs the website 1st-Self_Improvement.net. Terje is a Sociologist who enjoys contributing to the personal growth and happiness of others. He tries to accomplish this by writing about self improvement issues from his own experience and knowledge. For example, stress management by self esteem improvement and relaxation exercises to stop smoking

Posted on Feb 26th, 2006

Too often we get so busy and focused managing our businesses that we forget life is supposed to be fun. I’m as guilty of this as anyone. Running a business is serious work so we seem justified by keeping our noses to the grindstones. Unfortunately, when we do that we often forget to enjoy our businesses and our work.

And that’s too bad because after spending 42 years on this planet I am convinced that we are supposed to have fun on a daily basis. They say laughter is the best medicine & I agree. I think we all know that enjoying what we do is healthy for our minds and bodies and our spirits. But, it’s also good for our businesses.

Remember, people like doing business with people they like. And, there’s no one more likable than someone who is clearly enjoying themselves. Nothing brightens my day more than someone with an easy smile and a ready laugh.

Think of the people you spend time with (regardless whether for business or personal reasons). No doubt there are one or more people who always bring a smile to your face just by being around them. Do you think they affect others the same way? Do you think they have customers who enjoy them as much as you do? I’d bet they do.

So, what do you do when you’re NOT enjoying yourself? If you’re feeling stressed and harried and your blood pressure is rising, what can you do? Here are some things that always work for me. Maybe they’ll work for you too:

1. Laugh out loud. You might want to be in private when you do this but try it, it really works.

2. Smile. No matter what the situation, just smile. It simply feels good.

3. Call or visit a friend, your spouse or anyone who is guaranteed to bring some sunshine to your day. (My wife is great at this.)

4. Find a dog to pet. Dogs are naturally happy, their joy is contagious and they like everyone.

5. Take a walk. Exercise, fresh air and a change of scenery are great ways to pull you out of any slump.

6. Help someone. Few things in this world feel better than taking time to do something for another person. Plus you generate good karma!

7. Pay someone a compliment. Of course it should be sincere but it’s usually not hard to do if you think about it.

8. If you’re stuck in an office, look up some good jokes on the Internet. I’m partial to Steven Wright, so here is a link to some of his humorous thoughts.

9. Meditate. Close your eyes, breathe deeply and clear your mind. Here’s a website with some tips.

10. Write down 10 good things about your life. Once you get started, this is easy.

So, there you have my Top 10 ways to keep your spirits up. No matter what you do, be good to yourself and your business and have some fun every day.

Kevin Stirtz is a successful entrepreneur, writer, trainer and speaker. He is a published author of over 200 business articles. He currently writes a marketing column for AllBusiness.com and he is writing his second book, called "Blow Up Your Business". He can be reached at 1-952-212-4681 or at http://www.BlowUpYourBiz.com

Posted on Feb 26th, 2006

As we are bombarded by global catastrophes, the increasing threat of terrorism, the increasing pace of technology and many other factors that have a destabilizing effect on our inner emotional state is it possible to develop greater emotional resilience to all of this chaos? In order to answer this question I first wish to underscore the reasons that one’s emotional resilience is impaired in the first place.

Very simply, when a disturbing event occurs one tends to react to it based on how they interpret the event directly affects their life. Such interpretation is indirectly based on deeper beliefs the individual has about the effects the event will likely have. These beliefs are conditioned in us as a result of our life experience and remain deep in the background affecting our reactions to events as well as our life decisions.

Early traumatic life experiences tend to become embedded in the unconscious with feelings of fear, helplessness, shame, inadequacy, guilt, weakness, anger and so on. Associated with these feelings are corresponding beliefs that feed and support them such as "I’m vulnerable", "I’m powerless", "I’m responsible for what happened to me", "I’m bad or defective", etc.

When one of these underlying beliefs and feelings is re-triggered by an event in the present the individual automatically begins to interpret the current event within the framework of the past traumatic event. This can re-evoke old conditioned feelings and beliefs that impair one’s ability to perceive objectively the current situation and therefore to deal with it effectively.

The fact that there exists within an individual’s unconscious stored traumatic memories that act exactly like hidden "emotional land mines" is the prime reason it becomes difficult for the individual to remain objectively anchored in a detached emotional state when something happens in the present. Hence it is these stored traumatic memories that impair one’s emotional resilience.

Additionally, because one’s resilience is reduced this makes them more vulnerable in the present and future, thereby causing them to sustain even more trauma, on average, thereby reducing their future resiliency even further.

Simply said, individuals with early traumatic life histories are more likely to be re-traumatized throughout their lives.

Is this however necessary? In numerous case studies I have undertaken over the last 10 years with a process called the Mind Resonance Process(TM)(MRP) it has been my experience that:

1. Traumatic memories can be completely released quickly and painlessly in a relatively short time.

2. That underlying limiting conditioned beliefs and feelings that result from such trauma can also be completely released.

3. When the effects of trauma are released individuals feel like the trauma never actually happened to them.

4. After releasing trauma individuals feel rejuvenated, more resilient, more confident, more at peace, more content, more compassionate towards self and others, and feel more alive than ever before.

5. Individuals begin to move their lives away from a course that was previously determined by the sum total of unconsciously stored emotional trauma and towards a course determined by them. In other words they reclaim control of their lives.

So in summary, it is possible to enhance one’s emotional resilience in a way that is now easier and quicker than ever before. Imagine what your life would look like if your resilience to external events was 100 times greater than it is now.

If you feel inspired you may wish to visit the web link below where you can request an introductory consultation to MRP.

Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called "Spirituality And Science" (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.

Business URL #1: http://www.telecoaching4u.com

Personal URL: http://www.telecoaching4u.com/Spirituality_And_Science.htm

Posted on Feb 25th, 2006

You have felt it come over you… the sense of your body overreacting. The knots in the stomach, the tenseness, the rapid heartbeat, the uncomfortable feeling of panic. You have those anxiety attacks, big and small, and you would like to have the control to stop them. You can get that control. You can master your body and its reactions. Just like you have learned to do any of the many things you’ve learned in your life, you can learn how to control and eliminate the causes of anxiety.

Anxiety is a fear reaction triggered by environmental conditions. Somewhere along the way in your life you met conditions that left you uncomfortable. You remember the conditions of that bad time and your brain has stored that combination of events and memories. That brain stored reaction is triggered when conditions arise that have been linked to that prior time.

Your brain is trying to protect you, but in many cases it has inappropriately linked events and memories and fear together in a mix that creates anxiety at the wrong time. You have to do some work to untangle that bad mix in your head. This can be done by you, once you’re shown how. It’s just like learning how to swing a golf club, drive a car, or do a dance.

It’s a question of knowledge and practice. When you learn what to do and then how to do it you can solve problems and do things that you couldn’t do the day before. Take a look at the Resource Guide link that is shown above to get direct information to help you.

We are all sensitive beings. That’s part of being human. That sensitivity gives us the openings to enjoy the many beautiful and thrilling things in the world. But our brain is not perfect at putting events and memories together. Sometimes our brain tries to protect us and help us, but has actually created a mixed up grouping that triggers anxiety at the wrong time and for the wrong reasons. We can fix that. You can fix that. Just like you can learn to play the piano or ride a bike, you can guide your brain and body to learn in ways useful to you. You can also guide your brain and body to overcome reactions or habits that are not serving you well. Anxiety attacks tell you that your brain and body have developed a reaction that is not helpful to you. It’s like having a bad swing in golf. The wrong combinations got embedded. You can work that out and get yourself back to where you want to be. It takes knowledge of what to do and then some practice to get right.

Take advantage of the knowledge available to you to reduce or eliminate your anxiety. The Resource Guide link is one proven method that you can use to reduce your anxiety. If anxiety is bothering you and you want to do something about it, you can. Anxiety can be overcome.

You’ll enjoy life more when you’ve cleared out the bad combination of emotion, environment and fear that is causing you to suffer anxiety. Do you want to enjoy life more? Well, sometimes you’ve got to make the effort to get what you want. Here’s the knowledge to reduce anxiety and eliminate that from your life. If you want to eliminate anxiety, take it. The knowledge and freedom can be yours. It’s a walk in the park. A nice one at that.

(c) 2006

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William T. Gray writes on a variety of health, wealth and personal relationship topics. His articles are widely published. See http://stop-anxiety.5×1.net for more information.

Posted on Feb 25th, 2006

There’s no such thing as a stress-free life. We face challenges every day, and our bodies are designed to react automatically, equipping us to achieve more than we thought possible. But we were also designed to deal with stressful events quickly and then recuperate during a period of rest before facing the next threat. Many of the things that cause us stress today are not easily handled by fighting or fleeing. As a result, our bodies are trapped in a constant state of alert, and it’s killing us.

Stress management tips can be found everywhere, but which ones really do the trick? After compiling and comparing the favorite techniques of experts from around the world, a tally of the votes revealed the list that appears below: ten proven techniques guaranteed to stop stress.

10. Improve your diet.

Eat more fruits and vegetables. By increasing your antioxidant intake, you’ll also be fueling your immune system. Choose high-fiber carbohydrates like whole grains or sweet potatoes. The slower acting carbohydrates will help you relax without the sugar "crash." Cut down on caffeine and drink more water.

9. Get enough rest.

Our bodies are designed to repair, recharge, and refresh while we sleep. Without enough sleep, our bodies can’t keep up with the daily damage of stress. In fact, researchers have discovered that the amount of sleep we get predicts how long we’ll live.

8. Put events in perspective.

When you are being stressed by some event or situation, consider its true importance. Is it really a matter of life or death? How important will it be a month from now? Or even tomorrow?

7. Think positively.

Think in terms of solutions, not problems. Evaluate each day by reviewing progress and accomplishments instead of difficulties and setbacks. It probably wasn’t really the worst day of your life.

6. Take a time out.

When you’ve been doing battle for a few hours, it’s OK to call time out. Step away from whatever is getting to you. Give yourself a few minutes to take a deep breath, say a prayer, listen to music, or do nothing at all. The few minutes of work you give up will be more than compensated by the fresh perspective you get from your change of focus.

5. Exercise.

Exercise prepares us for the battle with stress. It helps us look and feel better, increases our energy levels, and improves our general mood. Exercise enhances our self-esteem and confidence, and helps us think more clearly. A health club or home gym is not required. Just do something that’s fun and gets you moving.

4. Simplify your life.

Not everything in our life needs to be in our life. We all accumulate excess baggage. Simplify by clearing out the physical clutter. Give things you no longer need to people who could use them. Evaluate your everyday tasks and commitments, and delegate what you can. Keeping your life simple may mean saying no to some things so you can concentrate on what’s valuable.

3. Do the stuff you hate first.

Try to tackle your most difficult or stressful tasks early in the day. We are most resilient to stress after a good night’s sleep. Hitting these tasks early puts the source of our stress behind us. Don’t procrastinate and let tasks accumulate. Learn how to break big projects up into manageable bits and get started.

2. Do something that you love.

Find something you love doing, something just for you, and do more of it. At least once a week spend some uninterrupted time doing something that makes you happy. Hike in the forest. Write a poem. Take up a hobby. Time spent doing something you love will refuel your sense of enjoyment and refresh your peace of mind.

1. And finally, the number one stress management technique: Laugh.

There’s no other way to say it: laughter really is the best medicine. Studies have confirmed that laughter actually changes our brain chemistry. It reduces the levels of at least four stress hormones. A good belly laugh produces the same cleansing effect as deep breathing exercises. Laughter strengthens our immune system and alters our perception of pain. Develop your sense of humor. Look for the humorous side of every situation. Think of ways to inject more humor into your day. Laugh!

There are numerous ways to manage stress, but there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. You need to discover what works best for you. These top ten techniques are a good place to start your quest for a happier, healthier and longer life.

Art Turner is a writer, musician, and creator of Relaxation Emporium, where you can learn more about stress, stress management, and relaxation techniques. Visit http://www.relaxationemporium.com

Posted on Feb 24th, 2006

In a world where hustle and bustle is normal and expected, it is no wonder you often find yourself stressed, worried and sicklier than normal. More importantly, you sort of just forget about yourself. Now, that might be okay if forgetting about “you,” did not involve every other aspect of your life, as well as your loved ones in your life.

Think about it, how often do you find yourself “on edge,” moody, unhappy, stressed and teetering on the brink of breakdown?

Again, this is normal in today’s society, but it should not be and “you: surely do not have to allow it either.

Remember, when you make yourself happy, everyone else around you is happy also.

First, read and study the chart below. It is a list of ailments and therapeutic fragrance oils / essential oils that will aid in the reduction of stress, worries, sickness and just everyday mishaps.

Anger
Bergamot, Jasmine, Neroli, Orange, Patchouli, Petit grain, Roman Chamomile, Rose, Vetiver, Ylang Ylang

Anxiety
Bergamot, Cedar wood, Clary Sage, Frankincense, Geranium, Lavender, Mandarin, Neroli, Patchouli, Roman Chamomile, Rose, Sandalwood, Vetiver

Confidence
Bay Laurel, Bergamot, Cypress, Grapefruit, Jasmine, Orange, Rosemary

Depression
Bergamot, Clary Sage, Frankincense, Geranium, Grapefruit, Helichrysum, Jasmine, Lavender, Lemon, Mandarin, Neroli, Orange, Roman Chamomile, Rose, Sandalwood, Ylang Ylang

Fatigue, Exhaustion and Burnout
Basil, Bergamot, Black Pepper, Clary Sage, Cypress, Frankincense, Ginger, Grapefruit, Helichrysum, Jasmine, Lemon, Patchouli, Peppermint, Rosemary, Sandalwood, Vetiver

Fear
Bergamot, Cedar wood, Clary Sage, Frankincense, Grapefruit, Jasmine, Lemon, Neroli, Orange, Roman Chamomile Sandalwood, Vetiver

Grief
Cypress, Frankincense, Helichrysum, Neroli, Rose, Sandalwood, Vetiver

Happiness and Peace
Bergamot, Frankincense, Geranium, Grapefruit, Lemon, Neroli, Orange, Rose, Sandalwood, Ylang Ylang

Insecurity
Bergamot, Cedar wood, Frankincense, Jasmine, Sandalwood, Vetiver

Irritability
Lavender, Mandarin, Neroli, Roman Chamomile, Sandalwood

Loneliness
Bergamot, Clary Sage, Frankincense, Helichrysum, Roman Chamomile, Rose

Memory and Concentration
Basil, Black Pepper, Cypress, Hyssop, Lemon, Peppermint, Rosemary

Panic and Panic Attacks
Frankincense, Helichrysum, Lavender, Neroli, Rose

Sensuality:
Rose, patchouli, the fresh scent of orange, the fresh scent of vanilla and Jasmine

Stress
Benzoin (Benzoic), Bergamot, Clary Sage, Frankincense, Geranium, Grapefruit, Jasmine, Lavender, Mandarin, Neroli, Patchouli, Roman Chamomile, Rose, Sandalwood, Vetiver, Ylang Ylang

Now, what about the remedies?

1) A bath: Use essential oils in the bath by adding three to eight drops to the tub, depending on the oil. Add it just before you get in and soak for at least 10 minutes.
2) Candles: Candles can be a great to enhance the romance in your life. In the evenings, take about five or so candles and place them in safe places around your bedroom. Turn off the lights and add some soft and light sounds of music. Try mixings scents like vanilla and rose. You may try the same thing in your restroom for a nice, sensual and romantic bath with your loved one.
3) Inhalants:
a) Diffuse: Use either an electric or a tea light simmering pot to diffuse the essential oil into the air.
b) To treat congestion (try eucalyptus) or stress (try peppermint or sandalwood). Put four drops in a bowl of hot, almost boiling water. Drape a towel over your head to make a tent and breathe in the steam for a few minutes.
4) Feet soak: You may either use your tub or an electric foot soaker found in any store. You need only add five to seven drops of oil per each quart of warm water used; soak for about 10 minutes. You might try scents such a mint and lemon or tea tree.
5) Put a drop of oil on a hot light bulb. Do not use oil drops on halogen light bulbs.
6) Meditate: You may use Scented Incense, which are made from the above oils, find a quiet corner, put on some light music and just mediate 5 to 10 minutes out of your day

Warnings & Tips:

• Keep actual oils away from eyes, nose and mouth
• Keep away from children and pets
• Keeps candles away from drafts and unstable fixtures
• Use caution and care if using remedies on small children, pregnant women, elderly or adults with health problems
• These tips are not meant to heal any health problems you may have. Please consult your physician for illnesses
• Do a patch test on skin for sensitivity to the oils. Put a little bit of diluted oil in the bend of your elbow and wait 24 hours to see if itching or redness develops.

So, what are you waiting for? It is Time for you to Relax and Unwind.

Written and compiled by
Angel Lopez

Residing in the beautiful Menifee Valley, California And mother to two beautiful teenagers. She has Been selling home interiors and decorating for Several years before opening her business, The Aroma Shoppe, A fun and lively shop full of high quality aromatic and decorative products for the home and office.
http://www.thearomashoppe.net
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Posted on Feb 24th, 2006

A college friend of mine moved from Nebraska to Mississippi. While working at the local Pizza Hut in her new town, she was her usual lively self, greeting the customers with, "Hi guys, what are you ordering today?" She was perplexed that people seemed to be offended but she did not know why. Until one lovely lady replied to her usual cheerful greeting with:"We’re not guys! We are women!". She soon learned the proper way to greet people was "Folks" not guys. And that you always say, "Ya’ll come back now!" when they leave.

According to the Webster dictionary, culture shock is: "a sense of confusion and uncertainty sometimes with feelings of anxiety that may affect people exposed to an alien culture or environment without adequate preparation."

The key here is "adequate preparation."

Here are some tips for preparing for culture shock:

1. Do your homework. Be prepared. Learn about the culture, how they do things, how they like things, what clothes do they wear, etc. Ok, what about the clothes? Even in the U.S., tastes in clothes are not the same everywhere. What they would usually wear in Miami might look out of place or even inappropriate in Kalona, Iowa.

2. Talk to people who have been there. Or even someone who had been in the general area. Find out what the most recent local news was. An out-of-town speaker at a local conference made a joke about tornados in Kansas when she started her speech. She was greeted in silence. She was not aware of the fact that a tornado did actually hit a town in the area and had killed a relative of someone in the audience. In a small town where everybody knows everyone, they felt like one big family.

3. Leave your assumptions behind. Be open and ready to learn new ways of doing. Don’t assume that just because it was ok to stop people on the streets and talk to them, that in this new place it is alright as well. Observe first and watch how the locals interact before you resort to your usual lively self.

4. Expect culture shock to happen. Just because you were all ecstatic upon arrival, the worst is yet to come. Know that after the initial euphoria, that the anxiety and uncertainty will set in. You could start feeling irritable, having second thoughts about moving to this new place, feeling bored to death, and even start hating anything local. Acknowledge that these symptoms mean that you need to start to engage in your own self-development.

5. Find some support networks. Find a friend you can confide in. Take time to meet go out and meet new people. If you are so new that do not have friends from work or school yet, go to a church and find one where you feel welcomed and comfortable. You do not need to change your religion, but you need to have contact with real people who are interested in you. Talk to people at the grocery store, or wherever you go. You might find someone that has connections to your old hometown.

6. Remain physically active. The worst thing to do is lock yourself in your room and staying in bed. Take a walk to the library. Visit a park. Go to a fitness center. You would find how invigorating it could be.

7. Be intellectually curious. Learn about the town, its history. Visit the local museums and important landmarks and public gatherings. Ask questions, be genuinely interested in what you see.

8. Be patient. Give yourself time to get over it. Take a look at the benefits of your experience in this new culture. Be aware that if the symptoms get worse, if you continually have feelings of despair and loneliness, that it is best to seek professional help. But most of the time, culture shock can be managed, if one is adequately prepared to tackle the challenges.

Being uninformed and making assumptions can get one in trouble. As you can see from the above examples, you can lose friends, and even lose tips because of being unprepared. If you are leaving for an extended stay overseas, you might want to invest in cultural training before you leave.

Ya’ll come back now!

Marlene is a cross-cultural trainer and curriculum designer for cultural competency programs. A non-traditional student, she is completing her master’s degree in liberal studies with concentrations in Communication, Anthropology and International Business. She is particularly interested in culture shock and acculturation issues. She is currently doing a project on the cultural preparation of foreign educated nurses in the U.S.

Find her other articles at: http://www.buzzle.com/editorials/10-13-2005-78818.asp http://www.buzzle.com/editorials/10-9-2005-78456.asp

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