Archive for March, 2006

Posted on Mar 26th, 2006

What are you afraid of? I’m sure that like almost everybody else you are afraid of something.

Charles F. Haanel defines fear as “…a powerful form of thought.” I think it is a very good definition, because mostly fear is in our minds. Phobia is abnormal fear. We are often afraid of things which we have no reason to be afraid of. This is because most of the fears and phobias are only the creations of our minds.

For example some people are afraid of flying. Why? Probably because they have heard about some plane crashes and that all of the people died in those accidents. Of course plane accidents do happen, and usually all of the people who are in such accidents die. But the same people who are afraid of flying are usually not afraid of traveling in cars and on buses. Cars accidents cause many more deaths than airplane accidents. The probability of dieing in the car accident is much higher than in plane accident. Flying is the safest way of traveling. So, why people are afraid of flying? Like with most phobias the reason is that they do not control their minds.

When we listen about different tragedies and unhappy news, a subconscious mind accepts everything which comes from a conscious mind. The subconscious mind is a creator, it makes things happen, but it does not have the power to differentiate between what is good and bad for us. The conscious mind has the power to differentiate, but most of the people often do not use this power.

So, when you listen to news or a story your conscious mind accepts the news and makes a fearful picture of the situation. Maybe even you or your loved ones are in this picture. If the feeling of fear is there and it gets to your subconscious mind, it gets deeply rooted in your sub consciousness and it will be very difficult to get rid of that fear.

Of course there are some techniques to get rid of different fears and phobias. But first you should be careful to not allow any fears or phobias to get to your subconscious mind. Avoid dwelling on any pessimistic and negative feelings. Try to cultivate positive feelings. Be optimistic. Even if you are not happy at the moment, thinking about your unhappiness will not make you feel better. It will make you feel worse.

Think about something that would make you happy, about something you want very much. Close your eyes. Try to visualize yourself in a happy situation, in your perfect environment. Think of the reasons why you want what you want. See yourself as already possessing what you want. Try to really feel it. Let the feeling excites you. Hold on that feeling.

If you do that you cannot feel unhappy. It might be difficult at first, but if you practice often it will become easy and natural for you. You will not only feel better but you will start attracting the things you really want. And by concentrating on positive feelings and by being charged with positive energy you will become immune to any fears and phobias. You will start manifesting the life you want. Now you are what you thought mostly about in the past. Do not allow your negative thoughts to create the unhappy future for you.

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Posted on Mar 26th, 2006

Any form of physical exercise can be a great way to reduce stress. By regularly going to a gym, for a run or competing in a team sport, an outlet is created that gives you the opportunity to focus on an enjoyable activity and literally forget about the day to day events that may contribute to stress in your life.

By doing physical exercise the body will inevitably get fitter and stronger. A fit person is less likely to get sick and tired especially during stressful periods. As a person becomes fitter, their self esteem and self worth will naturally increase. This also reduces the likely hood of succumbing to stress and in fact will typically have a better chance of coping with stressful situations.

Competitive forms of exercise can also help reduce stress. Normally, competitive sport will require participants to regularly train, set goals and work in a team. They are also required to learn how to cope with stressful moments during a game as well deal with both victory and defeat. Such activities emulate real life situations and therefore will help you to deal with the challenges that life may bring you.

Some physical exercises which involve repetitive movement, such as running or riding a bike, can have a meditative effect bringing on change in your the state of consciousness. Like any other form of meditation, the result is usually an increase in mental alertness and feeling calm yet more alive.

On an “etheric” level, it is believed that physical exercise has a cleansing affect on the energy body. All the dirty energy that contributes to stress is automatically expelled during physical activity. The energy body will naturally replace this with fresh energy freely available in the air and the earth.

David Tomaselli is the creator of Stress Management and Self Improvement Techniques – The Wholistic Development Exchange. The aim of the Wholistic Development Exchange is to empower you to deal with stress, pressure and the day to day challenges that life brings by providing you the latest Tips, Techniques, Articles, News, E-Books, Products and other Resources related to Stress Management and Self Improvement. To download free E-Books go to our Free Stress Management E-Books section. To find out how to create an Extra Hour in your Day, have a read of our NEW seven part Time Creation Tips series.

Posted on Mar 25th, 2006

The simple pleasures are sometimes the sweetest.

Here are twelve affordable pleasures to help you slow down and taste the sweetness of the simple life.

1. Take a walk out in the world and pay attention to the signs that summer is on its way.

2. Go barefoot whenever possible.

3. Eat fresh fruit with each meal. Spring and summer bring such delightful fresh and healthy foods.

4. Dab some energizing essential oil behind your ears so you can enjoy the aroma as you go about your day. Try lemon, basil, bergamot, sweet orange, peppermint, eucalyptus, tangerine, or any floral blend.

5. Invest in some quality cotton sheets and breezy cotton pajamas. Fold up the flannels and put them away until next winter.

6. Send a bouquet of bright spring flowers to someone, anonymously.

7. Make a habit of buying simple things that make you feel as though you live in the lap of luxury: fresh raspberries, a silk eye pillow, homemade soap.

8. Ride your bike to work.

9. Plant something beautiful.

10. Choose a fresh floral perfume from your local cosmetics counter. Request a sample, or buy the bottle.

11. Sip a chai and browse the bookstore for a "beach book"…a simple, absorbing story that you can enjoy without thinking much at all.

12. Think of your own simple pleasures, and continue to enjoy one each day.

Susie Cortright is the founder of Momscape.com as well as Momscape’s Online Scrapbooking Magazine and Momscape’s Organic Living Channel - all of which celebrate the simple splendor in our everyday lives. Visit her site today to subscribe to her free weekly newsletters featuring fresh new ideas and inspiration.

Posted on Mar 25th, 2006

Prayer is a direct way of way of communicating and conversing with God. Prayer is a spiritual exercise that helps strengthen your own spirit as well your connection to God. The more you pray the more intimate your relationship with God becomes. It involves more than just asking for help. You can discuss the happenings of your day; you can give thanks to him for all his divine blessings; you can ask him to share his blessings with your family and the whole world; you can even use it as a way to listen to God.

The use of prayer can be a great form of stress relief. However it requires that you believe in God and that you have faith that he knows what is best for you and most importantly that he will look after you. By praying to God for help, especially during stressful periods, during your darkest hours, you can rest assured that God is listening to you and will help. No matter how hopeless your situation may be, have belief that miracles can and do happen. This ultimately gives you hope and the strength to carry on in your time of need.

Incorporate a regular prayer schedule in to your life. It does not take much time or effort to say a small prayer just after you wake up and/or before you go to sleep. It is your opportunity to thank God for his continual blessings and help, to tell him you love him and acknowledge that he loves you. The more you do this, the more blessings you will receive. Over time, you will find that your life will become easier, and hence less stressful. And if times get tough, your strengthened spirit will help you deal with stress better.

David Tomaselli is the creator of Stress Management and Self Improvement Techniques – The Wholistic Development Exchange. The aim of the Wholistic Development Exchange is to empower you to deal with stress, pressure and the day to day challenges that life brings by providing you the latest Tips, Techniques, Articles, News, E-Books, Products and other Resources related to Stress Management and Self Improvement. To download free E-Books go to our Free Stress Management E-Books section. To find out how to create an Extra Hour in your Day, have a read of our NEW seven part Time Creation Tips series.

Posted on Mar 24th, 2006

In the first of two articles on home relaxation, I covered the majority of working people, those who go out to work. This second article looks at those who work at home, and how they can establish a work routine that incorporates periods of relaxation.

For those who have a daily grind of commuting to their job, sometimes long distances and for an hour, two hours or even more, the thought of working at home may seem like a dream. They probably assume that those of us who work at home do not have any problem at all with home relaxation; after all, working at home is like a permanent holiday, isn’t it?

In reality, though, having the optimum amount of relaxation mixed in with your working day is only easy in theory. One of the problems of working at home is that work can so easily take over. While it is true that you can decide to relax whenever you want, it is also true that you can decide to work whenever you want. If you are trying to get a new home business established, or to increase its success, a determined person can lapse into an “all work no play” mode very easily. I know that I have been guilty of that.

At the other extreme, those who are working at home for the first time, may be tempted to relax all day long, watch television, go to the local pub or whatever it is they like to do, and never actually settle down to any work. Their success prospects diminish due to this lack of focus, and they can end up having to get a job again.

How, then, can you find a happy medium, in which work and relaxation are nicely balanced, in a way that makes you happy and helps to keep you healthy? Below are a few tips to help you in your work-relaxation routine on a working day.

Try To Exercise Before Starting Work

Exercise may not sound much like relaxation, but even light exercise before you even think of starting work will help to get you into a good frame of mind, and more in control of your day’s activities. If you work at a desk or computer all day, then this is even more important than if you are actively out a lot and meeting customers and so on.

It is good to mix in a bit of exercise at intervals throughout the day too. Just a few minutes here and there can make a big difference. For example, if I am boiling water for a green tea break, I sometimes have a short session with some light dumbbells while the water is boiling, thereby making positive use of that time. I find that makes the tea break all the more relaxing, following immediately from the exercise.

Work With Music If You Can

Music can have a soothing effect if you are working, so if you are able to work with music playing that you find relaxing, there is no reason why you should not do so. However, you do need to choose carefully, as some music may actually distract you from your work rather than provide a relaxing ambience in which to work effectively.

Get Outside as Much as Possible

If you are working at home at a desk or computer all day, then it is important to get regular breaks from that immediate environment. A few minutes of fresh air is an added benefit. Whether that is possible will depend on the weather, of course, so a covered terrace is a great boon if the weather is warm enough but rainy.

I take all of my breaks outside, even a short tea break. That is something I can do all year, living in a tropical climate, but wherever you are, the principle is the same. Getting away from your immediate working environment regularly through the day is important to keep you relaxed.

Take a Full Lunch Break

If you work at home, especially if you have your own business, then your daily routine is for you to decide about. A proper lunch break, again away from the working environment, is an essential element of that routine. Eat well but not heavily, and if possible take a walk somewhere pleasant, peaceful and attractive. When I still lived in England, my lunch break included a walk by the sea unless it was raining or (very rarely) just too hot. The midday sun is too much in the tropics for that, but I still ensure I have a lunch break of about an hour.

Lunch Time Meditation or Power Sleep

The lunch break gives you a good opportunity for some real relaxation. Sleep is probably not a good idea, as you can sleep too long, wake up feeling awful at 3 or 4 o’clock, and lose vital working time.

However, your eyes and brain probably need a rest, so meditation is perfect for lunch time. I now practice what I call a power sleep. I stretch out on the bed, on my back, and close my eyes, and ease my way into a meditative state. I do not actually sleep; it takes a little bit of practice, but you can easily stop yourself sleeping. I put no time limit on the meditation, either minimum or maximum, as I know that my body will tell me when to open my eyes and get off the bed.

Whether it is ten minutes or half an hour later, when I get off the bed I am feeling reinvigorated, my eyes rested, and totally relaxed. That’s why I refer to it as a power sleep, as I always feel I have had a power infusion while my eyes were closed. I have found that as long as I am determined not to fall asleep, then I will not. I have also found that I feel as good on a few minute meditation as I do on thirty minutes.

The above ideas are just those I use in practice. Everyone is different, so you may have other alternative methods you can try. The important thing is, though, that you do consciously set aside time for relaxation, and use it to the full.

This Home Relaxation article was written by Roy Thomsitt, owner and part author of the Routes To Self Improvement web site, where you can also find audio articles, including this one, and articles on meditation.

Posted on Mar 24th, 2006

Meditation is a great way to manage and reduce stress. It is widely known to have positive effect on the human body physically, emotionally and psychologically. Meditation produces a state of relaxation that benefits the heart, the brain, the lungs and blood. It is even known to reduce the lactate level in the blood which is directly related to feelings of anxiety, tension and fatigue. The emotional and psychological improvements include an increase in mental alertness, feeling more alive, healthier, happier, and a general sense of well being.

There are many types of mediation techniques that can be employed. The easiest technique is to sit in a comfortable chair, close your eyes, connect your tongue to your palette and start abdominal breathing. With abdominal breathing you expand your abdomen slightly when breathing in and contract your abdomen slightly when breathing out.

While breathing, try to achieve single mindedness by emptying your mind or just focusing on one thing only. There is a common saying in martial arts and yoga disciplines that if the water is turbulent, it is difficult to see what is under it…if the water is calm, one can easily see what is under the water. Similarly when the mind is calm and emotions are still, it is possible to achieve a level of self realisation or illumination.

Because the mind literally has “a mind of its own”, it can be difficult to control the chaotic emotions and thoughts that go on inside. It does actually take some discipline and practice to focus and stop your mind from wandering from one unrelated thought to another. A common method used to keep your mind focused is by chanting a mantra such as "Om" or "Amen". By chanting your mantra, you will find that the mind will not wander so much. In certain traditions the use of a mantra actually carry a deeper meaning, usually a single word or expression, or even a complete prayer, which is considered to be of great spiritual significance. In time you will find that your mantra will be the trigger that puts you into the correct mental state required for meditation.

With as a little as 10 minutes of regular meditation every day, it is possible to live a progressively stress free existence without making dramatic changes to your lifestyle.

David Tomaselli is the creator of Stress Management and Self Improvement Techniques – The Wholistic Development Exchange. The aim of the Wholistic Development Exchange is to empower you to deal with stress, pressure and the day to day challenges that life brings by providing you the latest Tips, Techniques, Articles, News, E-Books, Products and other Resources related to Stress Management and Self Improvement. To download free E-Books go to our Free Stress Management E-Books section. To find out how to create an Extra Hour in your Day, have a read of our NEW seven part Time Creation Tips series.

Posted on Mar 23rd, 2006

To beat anxiety you need to keep yourself in a high life state. Most people who suffer from Anxiety, Panic Attacks or Agoraphobia tend to link their symptoms with certain situations: crowded shops, being far from home, elevators, freeways etc. These associations are of course completely erroneous, they are just our minds trying to make sense of something we don’t properly understand.

Anxiety disorders seem to develop when people undergo great stress, hardship or fear at a time when their lives are already at a low ebb. Life stressors which tend to create the conditions in which anxiety disorders take hold include:

bereavement
work stress
illness
divorce
physical/sexual/psychological abuse

And many more. Anxiety disorders also often seem to spring out of a period of depression.

Unsurprisingly, if being in a low life state helps us fall into an anxiety disorder, getting ourselves into a happier, higher life state greatly helps us climb out of the anxiety and fear cycle. So how do we get into a higher life state when we feel so anxious and rotten? Let us examine two options:

Firstly I recommend looking for the good in your anxiety. Whether you have religious faith or not you probably believe things happen for a reason. “What good can possibly have come of anxiety?” do I hear you say? I suspect that if you look hard enough you will find that you have benefited from your anxiety. I did.

In my case:

1.Anxiety caused me to find true happiness because I wouldn’t settle for anything less.
2.It made me a fighter – overcoming anxiety left me feeling invincible.
3.It saved me from a dull career in the financial sector, where I would have become a clone.
4.It made me understand the true value of friendship. I would not be the person I am today without it.

I could go on but my benefits are not useful to you, we all have our individual benefits. Try and understand what your anxiety has told you, and what you have gained from it. Try to be grateful for it. That is not as ridiculous as its sounds. When you are grateful for your anxiety and you see it as a part of you that is trying to help you, it becomes easier to release.

The second step of gaining a higher life state it to deal with the people who make your life miserable. These are the people you fear, the people who you feel you need to impress, and the people that control you and put you down. Whether you change your relationship with them or remove them from your life is up to you. There are no short cuts or magic wands here. If someone is making you feel rotten then the situation has to change, and you can’t hang around waiting for them to act in your best interest. The action you take depends on your particular scenario, in many cases coolly and calmly becoming more stubborn and less guilty pays a lot of dividends. It may take time for friends and family to adjust to the new you, they may even resent the fact that you are willing to put yourself first for once. This is all part of the process, relish every second: because you’re worth it!

A word should be said about domestic violence and bullying at school or in the workplace. If standing up to your aggressor will put you in danger then don’t do it. Instead, speak to someone else. You do not have to suffer on your own. When you speak out people can help you in all sorts of ways that you can barely imagine, and your anxiety will improve in droves as you take further control of your life!

In part two of this series I will examine several more ways of raising your life state to beat anxiety.

Anxiety 2 Calm looks at various techniques to overcome anxiety, panic attacks, phobia and stagnation. It includes sections on the Sedona Method, EMDR, and much more. All information is free and there is also a blog and a forum and many more interactive features. Feedback on experiences with medication and those expensive programmes and CD courses that are always advertised is useful to help others who are in a similar predicament to yourself or your loved one.

Posted on Mar 23rd, 2006

In my practice as a hypnotherapist, I have many clients who come to me for stress management. Many of those clients are working mothers who fret about the demands on their time: children, husband or partner, paid work and unpaid household chores all pull these women in different directions. The day-to-day, constant small stressors leave them inadequate physical and emotional resources to deal with life’s BIG stressors, such as personal and family health issues, financial worries, etc. Frequently, these women lose any sense that they are entitled to some "me" time, and therein lies part of the solution to stress relief.

Typically, one of the things that I teach these clients is self-hypnosis. There are quite a few self-hypnosis techniques that anyone can learn in order to manage stress. But I also give my clients many practical tips to give themselves some stress relief.

Here are 10 tips for stress management that I frequently recommend:

1. Aim for 7 to 9 hours of sleep each night. Our bodies do so much restorative work while we sleep, and it’s harder to deal with emotional and physical stress when we don’t have enough sleep. Additionally, nights of uninterrupted sleep are better than nights of interrupted sleep. So if you have very young children who wake you up each night (for feedings, diaper changes, etc.), try to share those duties with your husband or partner so that you get some nights of uninterrupted sleep. And don’t feel guilty about napping when you get the chance! The energetic demands on your body as a woman juggling numerous roles are enormous. The more you can cater to those energetic needs, the more resources you will have for dealing with life’s annoyances and real stressors.

2. Prioritize and organize errands to minimize the running around time you have to do. You may need to plan a "route" that takes you to the post office, the dry cleaners, etc. once a week. And don’t fret if you forget to bring something with you – 99% of the time, it can wait until your next trip. Also, minimize the number of times you go to the supermarket by stocking up during fewer trips.

3. Take 10 to 15 minutes each day to just sit by yourself and let your mind float. Turn the phones off, if possible. You can also listen to a relaxation CD or a CD of your favorite music. Don’t stress if you can’t achieve the "quiet mind" Buddhist monks can achieve. Just giving yourself some "down time" each day is a very important stress management strategy. Treat this down time like you would treat brushing your teeth – as something you wouldn’t dream of skipping! You don’t have to necessarily do it at the same time each day, as long as you do it. Don’t feel guilty about giving yourself this time. Not only do you deserve it, it will keep you emotionally and physically healthier and better able to give yourself some stress relief.

4. In the back of your mind, keep some sort of mental scale for judging how stressful something is. I typically tell clients to think of some minor annoyance, and then think of the worst thing imaginable (or at least something truly BIG and stressful), and put each thing on opposite ends of the scale. Then when you feel stressed, ask yourself which end of the scale the stressor is closer to. Most things fall much closer to the minor annoyance end of the scale, and this helps keep things in perspective. Perspective is a crucial tool for stress management.

5. Keep in mind a sense of your physical and emotional energetic resources as a discrete quantity. No one is a superhuman; everyone has limits. When you feel stressed about something, or have the urge to react to something, ask yourself, "Is this worth spending my life’s energy on?". Very often, the answer is "No," and you can move on without wasting your time and energy on something that doesn’t amount to much.

6. Learn the art of limited procrastination. For example, if a letter from your insurance company arrives in the mail, and it tells you your car insurance premium is going up 300% in 60 days, put the letter aside. Very often, these sorts of things resolve themselves or become moot. You might get a letter in 3 days that says, "Whoops! We made a mistake!" and you would have gotten stressed over nothing. Obviously, you don’t want to procrastinate about everything, because that can lead to more stress. But when something seems to demand your immediate attention, let it "age" for a couple of days. Or hand it to your husband, partner or other trusted person to take care of it. Stress management is made easier when we are willing to let others help us. There’s no need to be Super Woman!

7. Plan nights out with your husband or partner or friend, so you two can have adult time together. Do this once a week or once every two weeks – whatever works for you. Then you have something special to look forward to, which makes it easier to deal with minor stresses and the endless demands on your time.

8. Give your current work schedule some thought. You may ultimately decide that you want to keep or that you must keep your work schedule the same, but at least you will have given it some thought with regard to what’s healthiest for you to do at this time in your life. Sometimes we get caught up in the routine of everyday life, and we don’t always take the time to consider whether this routine is the optimal one for us. When we engage in stress management strategies, we need to consider all aspects of our lives, including those that seem more or less set in stone, such as our work situation.

9. Humor is a wonderful tool for stress management. Get some funny DVDs (movies, animated TV shows, etc.) that you, alone or with someone else, can watch in small chunks of time.

10. Exercise is also great for stress relief. It’s a good way to blow off steam and get endorphins (feel-good hormones) flowing. If your life is so frantic that you hardly have time to think, no less exercise, just keep it in mind or start in small ways right now. Some of my clients build a library of exercise DVDs, which are great, because most of the DVDs have small segments (15 to 20 minutes) that can be done without taking a big chunk out of your day. Some of my other clients take a yoga class or a pilates class once a week, and it gives them something to look forward to. Exercise should be something you do as part of your overall “taking care of me” strategy.

If you implement some or all of these stress management tips, you will find that your day-to-day stress level can be significantly reduced. That will leave you with the maximum resources for dealing with life’s "big stressors."

Loretta Sernekos, Ph.D., is a Certified Hypnotherapist in private practice in Cherry Hill, NJ and Philadelphia, PA. You can visit her hypnosis practice website at http://sghypnosis.com for more information and audio podcasts. For additional hypnosis information and articles, both modern and antiquarian, visit http://hypnosisgateway.com.

Posted on Mar 22nd, 2006

Tossing and turning is an annoying habit. There are nights when we just can’t get comfortable in bed and keep tossing and turning all through the night. Why is our bed more comfortable some nights than others?

Tossing and turning is not necessarily due to a feeling of bodily discomfort, it’s probably more related to out mind not being comfortable. In other words stress and worry. We are not relaxed in our mind and the body follows suit. What we have to do then is to change out thought patterns (easier said than done) or to practice some form of mental relaxation technique. Relaxation has to come from within you and is related to your thought process.

The most common cause of stress is worry. Worry is probably the most useless emotion on the planet. Worry is thinking about some future event that may turn out badly. Worry doesn’t supply any answers, it just makes us miserable and tense.

Why do we worry at night? Simple! During the day our minds are taken up with other things like our daily routines, conversations with friend, work etc… When we lie down at night, our minds are free to roam and think over things that happened during the day. That’s when worrying thoughts can arise and we start tossing and turning.

The best way to combat worry is don’t let it start. Don’t even let the first worrying thought come in. Say to yourself, “I’ll think about this tomorrow, tonight is for sleep.” Some people find writing down any worries before going to bed is useful. This can get them out of your mind and down on paper where they can be dealt with at a later time

Have a “grab bag” of thoughts to replace any worrying ones. Think of relaxing scenes or happy memories. One of my favorites is “gratitudes” Think of everything you’re grateful for, a nice dinner, a thoughtful spouse, a phone call from a friend – it’s hard to worry when you’re feeling grateful!

The progressive muscle relaxation technique is also very useful as it involves concentrating on contracting and relaxing all the muscle groups in the body. This will take the mind away from worrying thoughts. More information can be found on relaxation techniques at the site below.

When you feel the urge to toss and turn on the bed, give it time, wait. It will gradually go away. Eventually the habit will wear off completely. Lie still and think about re focusing your mind elsewhere and the urge to toss and turn will be out of your system in a few moments. Otherwise if you start tossing and turning it becomes a never ending process for most of the night.

At times when you feel that the urge to toss or turn is very high and you really have to move, try doing it very slowly. This won’t wake you up as much.

Tossing and turning keeps us awake because we tend to do it quickly and impulsively, the more quickly we do it, the more agitated we get. Try it in the way said above, you will feel the difference and probably get out of the habit very quickly.

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Posted on Mar 22nd, 2006

One of the best ways to manage stress is to develop a positive attitude. The way you think, day in day out, affects all aspects of your life. Studies have shown that people that maintain a positive attitude, and hence a higher level of wellbeing, have lower cardiovascular risk, lower levels of stress hormones and a stronger immune system.

By listening to your “internal dialogue” you will learn to recognize your thought patterns and how they may be affecting the way you handle the stressful situations of daily living. When first tuning into your internal dialogue, you may be surprised to find that much of it is negative, for example, “I could never do that” or “What if I fail?”. Such thoughts will have a negative effect on your behaviour and can induce higher levels of stress hormones which can cause damage to the body.

Being positive does not mean pretending that everything is great all of the time. It is about being cautiously optimistic and positively realistic when things go wrong. To adopt a more positive you can try the following:

  • Use positive affirmations to increase your self-esteem. A negative mindset can be very limiting.
  • Focus on the good things that people have to offer instead of their bad traits.
  • Get rid of all negative words in your vocabulary. Eliminate words like “can’t” “won’t” and “shouldn’t”.
  • Be realistic, yet positive, rather than negative. Don’t let the fear of failure stop you.
  • Don’t stress over the small issues or trivialities in your life.
  • Make life an adventure. Put 100% into everything you set out to do.
  • Be willing to help others. By helping others, your outlook on life and sense of pride will improve.
  • Take it one day at a time during the hard times. Remember the big picture and believe that tomorrow will be a better day.
  • Believe in your judgement. Don’t let negative thoughts question your decision.

Thinking positively and approaching life with a positive attitude will give you the mental strength and determination to accept stress as a part of life and manage it effectively.

David Tomaselli is the creator of Stress Management and Self Improvement Techniques – The Wholistic Development Exchange. The aim of the Wholistic Development Exchange is to empower you to deal with stress, pressure and the day to day challenges that life brings by providing you the latest Tips, Technique, Articles, News, E-Books, Products and other Resources related to Stress Management and Self Improvement. To download free E-Books go to our Free Stress Management E-Books Section. To find out how to create an Extra Hour in your Day, have a read of our NEW seven part Time Creation Tips series.

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