Archive for June, 2006

Posted on Jun 30th, 2006

How do you keep a Journal?

Getting things on paper takes it out of your head. Your mind actually will release stress. Writing tasks down helps to clarify issues, helps to analyze goals and set step by step procedures to follow.

Notice how once you write things down, especially your stresses, things don’t seem so bad. You appear to have more time and the tasks seem easier and simpler to complete.

So write down everything. Don’t get carried away, I mean write down your stresses and your daily tasks.

Use a journal or diary for your tasks. You probably want to keep a track record of what you are going to do and what you’ve done.

It also helps to give yourself a ‘pat on the back’ when you have reached your goal or completed a task. Just put a big tick next to the task. Make it large, it feels better that way.

Write down your stresses though. It can be what the boss said, or your employees. It could be the frustrations of a task or a colleague. Anything, but write it down.

On paper, it doesn’t seem that bad. Stresses appear less real and less heavy when you write them down.

Now a word of warning …

Use a notebook or paper you can put in a folder. You may want to dispose of your writings and not let the boss see them. You may have a few pages of how bad you think they are, or colleagues or the task assigned. You may have a whole page of swear words, just because everything is on top of you and it helps to swear … on paper.

But write them down; keep it in a folder or notebook. Just keep it private.

A good technique to do either daily or weekly is to gather all your writings and … burn them.

Yes, set fire to it. Again, carefully, use a fire place if you have one. If not please be safe.

If you can’t burn them, then rip them up. Into small tiny pieces and them throw them away. Send them to a fictitious address (probably don’t sign anything and still rip it up, you don’t want to scare anyone).

By burning, tearing up or sending the words away, you are telling your brain to release and reduce stress.

It can be quite a euphoric ritual. You write it down by journaling, then burn the evidence. All the stress goes up in smoke.

Just one way to reduce stress. Stress relief is essential today due to the many mental stresses you face. Journaling and writing stresses down helps to get the stress out of your head. Just try it and see how easy it is.

Fast Stress Relief
is dedicated to teaching you ways to remove stress; simply, easily and quickly. Using a combination of Eastern and Western techniques – stress can be removed, repelled and prevented … fast.

For all the Tips & Techniques to Reduce Stress and Boost Your Energy simply click here.

Dr Graeme Teague has been in private practice since 1991, teaching and treating many clients with emotional and general health conditions.

Through his many teaching seminars and extensive professional knowledge, he has now released two new e-books on the many simple and effective ways to be healthy and stress free.

His new web-site is dedicated to teaching you ways to improve your health with orthodox and natural techniques.

Just click here to visit Fast Stress Relief.

Posted on Jun 30th, 2006

Most people know of the importance of exercise as a means of weight loss, strength gains, and increased endurance, but exercise can play a major role in the reduction of stress. Along with just stress relief, exercise can help improve mental health, emotion and mood.

When you exercise, your body produces substances called endorphins. Endorphins are formed within the body to help relieve pain and induce a feeling of well-being and relaxation. Endorphins have a similar chemical structure to morphine. Release of these endorphins can make you fall asleep faster, and may help in the reduction of high blood pressure.

When a stressful situation arises, the body undergoes some 1500 biochemical reactions. This is referred to as the “fight or flight” response. In prehistoric times, stress may have come by means of the threat of being eaten by something very large! The chemical changes in the body produced that “pumped up”, adrenaline rush feeling, preparing the body to fight the beast or run like heck! This was and is the means by which the built up byproducts of the chemical changes are released.

Although traffic on the way to work, or knowing the in-laws are coming next week, hardly compare to the possibility of becoming lunch, the body still goes through the chemical changes in response to the stress. If a “fight or flight” action is not taken, the byproducts continue to circulate and can cause illness. Exercise is a perfect way to expel the problem.

Changing the body’s chemical composition is not the only way that exercise can help alleviate stress, however. Stress can be caused by the expression or repression of anger. Exercise offers a target in which one may direct their anger. Try hitting a racquetball, golf ball, or punching bag. Go to a gym and lift some weights. Often times, “getting it out” can make some of that anger go away.

Some forms of exercise have meditative similarities. Steady-state exercise (running long distances, swimming at a slow pace), may alter one’s state of consciousness as the deep breathing patterns maintained over a long period of time are similar to the breathing techniques used in meditation. Some runners experience a “high” feeling during or after a run.

Exercise can also enhance one’s feelings of self-esteem. By participating in bouts of exercise, one tends to feel better knowing they are doing something for their health. Setting and overcoming goals can be a great tool in enhancing self-esteem. And don’t forget about improved body image. Perhaps the greatest self-esteem boost comes from fitting into a smaller size or seeing muscles where there once was flab!

During stressful times, muscles contract. During exercise, muscles do work, releasing stored energy and allowing the muscles to return back to their resting state. This also happens with massage.

Sometimes too little in one’s life can be stressful. It is natural for humans to seek out stimulation and excitement. Exercise provides a social opportunity, which can be of some stress relief. Bored with your daily routine? Run with a friend; join in on a pick-up basketball or volleyball game. HAVE FUN!

BE CAREFUL!!

There are some times that exercise itself can be stressful. If you are a competitive person, you may not want to engage in competitive exercise or sports as a means of relieving stress. If you are playing or competing against someone, you may lose! If you are trying to beat a personal best, you may not succeed! Keep this in mind if stress relief is a goal.

When choosing your exercise, make sure that you pick something that you enjoy doing. If you don’t like to run, DON’T RUN! Try different exercises; talk to a Fitness Specialist. Exercise is more than treadmills and weight machines. Find out what you like to do, and do it!

Wes Norris, CSCS is a Fitness Consultant and the owner of AllAroundFitness.org based out of Connecticut.

Wes works at Hartford Hospital and trains clients, athletes, and speaks to groups on the importance of exercise for a variety of specific conditions.

He runs a fitness bootcamp, teaches for a National Personal Training certifying agency and creates and produces fitness products for Trainers and Fitness Fanatics.

Please visit his websites:

http://www.AllAroundFitness.org

http://www.DesigningExercisePrograms.com

Posted on Jun 29th, 2006

Why Should You Journal?

Stress lives in your head. To reduce stress you need to use journaling. Why?

Writing your stresses down is a simple thing to do for stress relief. It is a simple mind trick to take stress out of your head.

In today’s world you are constantly bombarded by mental pressures. You have deadlines to meet, time constraints on your activities, over-bearing bosses, performance issues and many other mental pressures.

You get home and you have to provide for your family, pay the bills, and plan ahead for retirement. You have to deal with your children and their issues, maintain relationships and many other family stresses.

You have no time for yourself and very little for those you love the most … your family.

All of these stresses sit in your head. They take up all the room so that you seem to be missing a few hours in the day.

The day flies past too quickly and so do the weeks and months. Suddenly it is Christmas again and you have only just got your head around May and June.

Sound familiar?

If you break down what you actually do physically, you will be surprised.

The time you take to perform all your physical tasks, whether they are at work or home, is less than you think. You actually have a few hours left over in the day. Although you feel you haven’t got a spare minute. You probably have a spare four hours.

That time is all taken up in your head. You have thousands if not millions of things flying around inside your head. Stresses, pressures, deadlines etc, all running through your mind taking up space and making you feel tired, rundown, hectic and chaotic. Your stress levels are rising and time just flies by.

Mental activity takes time, unproductive time.

If you plan a task: plan it, set your goals, define tasks and do it. Then forget it, no need to re-analyze it, no need to go over and over the same details.

The same for problem solving and every other task you have.

If you write them down, this is called journaling. You will find you reduce stress.

The next article will show you how to keep a journal…

Fast Stress Relief
is dedicated to teaching you ways to remove stress; simply, easily and quickly. Using a combination of Eastern and Western techniques – stress can be removed, repelled and prevented … fast.

For all the Tips & Techniques to Reduce Stress and Boost Your Energy simply click here.

Dr Graeme Teague has been in private practice since 1991, teaching and treating many clients with emotional and general health conditions.

Through his many teaching seminars and extensive professional knowledge, he has now released two new e-books on the many simple and effective ways to be healthy and stress free.

His new web-site is dedicated to teaching you ways to improve your health with orthodox and natural techniques.

Just click here to visit Fast Stress Relief.

Posted on Jun 29th, 2006

…And holding it way down inside you like an old sponge? Be careful. Just like an old sponge that’s held its liquid a little too long, we may start to get stinky in a day or two. I’m referring to “soaking up” all that wonderful information that comes to us mainly through our televisions, radios and computers. Information that is then refortified and nourished through conversations with our friends or relatives.

It’s unfortunately a fact of life. Every minute of every day, the media presents “news” that is frequently disturbing. Coverage of terrorist acts, wars, airline crashes, natural disasters – all kinds of information that show, sometimes in graphic detail, the tragic events of our world and the how they are impacting the lives of our fellow man. As I write this, the TV is blanketed with video footage, stories, commentary, interviews and speculation related to the aftermath of hurricane Katrina. The devastation is truly mind-boggling.

Here’s the problem. Many of us humans have a tendency to become over-focused on these events. For some strange reason, beyond a reasonable desire to be informed, we find ourselves sitting in front of our televisions or our computers viewing, listening to and reading everything we can about the current “terrible event”. We are “soakin’ it up”!

The unfortunate result is that we soon start to feel the negative emotions associated with our current focus. Don’t get me wrong. It’s normal – and good – to empathize – to feel compassion toward those people who are experiencing tough times. That’s just a nice expression of our love toward our fellow man. It’s not good for us personally however, to dwell on the negatives – to continually shove this stuff into our little brains to ferment into mind sludge. Whether we consciously realize it or not, it won’t take long for our bodies to respond to this mental goo. We may find that we’re not feeling quite as well as we did a few days ago. We may find it harder to deal with the pressures of our personal lives. We may notice that our patience level has dropped somewhat – that we’re now kind of cranky and out of sorts. Whatever the effect, it’s our body’s normal reaction to a bombardment of negatives.

So here’s a suggestion. If you find that you’ve been spending a lot of time in front of your TV or computer soaking up negatives - and you are having a tendency to “feel” the emotions associated with this mental input, take a break from it. Switch to the cartoon channel, watch a comedy video, take a walk, bathe the dog, read a book, work on your stamp collection, play with your kids, mow the lawn, go to the mall – anything that will divert your attention away from the yucky stuff and more toward those things you enjoy doing. Give your mind a healing dose of positives. Trust me – you’ll feel better…

Gene Simmons, through NuPathz.com, provides an easy reading self-help blog, articles, quotations, thoughts and links along with affordable self-help and self improvement books & materials - all designed to help folks find the road to a more enjoyable lifestyle, to pass on some of life’s “secrets for survival” in a chaotic world & offer a few smiles along the way. It’s a down-to-earth, simple approach to discovering a better life. You can visit Gene at http://www.nupathz.com/

Posted on Jun 28th, 2006

Knowing what stress is, is the first step at knowing how to deal with it. Knowing what types of stress there is helps even further.

There are a few simple groups you can place stresses into…

Physical… Immune… Emotional…

Physical Stress: Are stresses that tax your physical frame. Injuries, falls, bumps, sprains, strains etc. These put undue stress on your joints, muscles, ligaments etc. If there is too much stress then injuries in sport, home or work may happen.

Gravity fits into this category. So you need to look at ways to reduce Physical stresses, so that injuries are less likely. But also if you have less physical stress, you expend less energy combating it, which in turn releases energy back into your system to use elsewhere.

Immune Stress: is stress which affects your ability to prevent disease, infection but also includes stresses on most of your organs. Liver, bowel, lungs, kidneys etc.

Food and all its additives, colorings are stressful to the body. Fast foods, junk foods, foods high in fats, sugars etc.

But also, environmental stresses affect the immune response. Allergies, whether it is the Hay Fever season, pollens, grasses etc tax the respiratory system. Pollution does also.

Infections that go through the school yard, community and work place are all immune stresses.

Emotional Stress: this is always the area you attribute most stress to. The work place antics, the home life with all its pressures, families including the extended family, including in-laws etc.

Is depression for example a stress?

No. It is a result of your inability to deal with stress. Grief, sadness, depression, anger etc are all reactions to stress. If your ability to deal with emotional stresses increase, then you tend to respond to stress rather than react to it.

The emotional stresses around you are numerous; they tend to be pressures exerted on you from work mates, bosses, family, work commitments etc. Can you eliminate these? Mostly you can’t, you still have to go to work, and deal with the people around you.

But if you have the mechanisms to deal with emotional pressures then like I said before, you should be able to shrug off the emotional pressures without feeling their ill-effects.

If you deal better with the day to day pressures emotionally, then the major upheavals will be managed better. Life is emotional, if you have a death in the family, lose your job, divorce/separation; these will always knock you around emotionally.

However, if you have a better resistance to stress then the physical effects of emotional stress shouldn’t happen. Major stresses will be emotional, but should not hit you physically, the immune system should still function correctly, energy should remain high etc.

Look at emotional stress this way….

If you were put in front of an audience of 10,000 people, asked to give a speech on something you knew little about. Most of you would be nervous, agitated, and stressed completely. You would have an upset stomach, feel jittery and jumpy, probably snap at people, etc.

However, if you took away all the physical ill-effects of stress, the nervous stomach, the jumpy muscles, and the quivering voice etc. If there was only the emotional stress, but no physical effects. Then the speech wouldn’t feel stressful.

You would have nothing going wrong physically, mentally your brain was calm, energy was high. Then the speech would be no problem at all.

Dealing with emotional stresses allows this to happen. Can you eliminate emotional stress? No. But you can learn to deal with it better.

So stress is all around you and also within you (emotionally), can you change this and make life better. Sure!

Learn to deal with all stresses, not just the emotional, the physical and immune stresses. Learn to reduce stress quickly and easily, use techniques that cover all stress. Stress is said to be the number 1 killer today. Reducing stress is a life saver; you just need to know what to do and how to do it.

Fast Stress Relief
is dedicated to teaching you ways to remove stress; simply, easily and quickly. Using a combination of Eastern and Western techniques – stress can be removed, repelled and prevented … fast.

For all the Tips & Techniques to Reduce Stress and Boost Your Energy simply click here.

Dr Graeme Teague has been in private practice since 1991, teaching and treating many clients with emotional and general health conditions.

Through his many teaching seminars and extensive professional knowledge, he has now released two new e-books on the many simple and effective ways to be healthy and stress free.

His new web-site is dedicated to teaching you ways to improve your health with orthodox and natural techniques.

Just click here to visit Fast Stress Relief.

Posted on Jun 28th, 2006

1. The Law of Gifts

Richard Bach, author of “Illusions” says “There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in it’s hands. We seek problems because we need their gifts.” I suggest we seek problems because we need the gift of their solutions.

2. The Law of Quality

Everyone has problems. The only people I know who don’t have problems can be found in the graveyard. The goal is to have a better quality of problem. Which problem would you rather have: Figuring out how to pay your bills or figuring out how to manage all the money you are making?

3. The Law of Variety

“If the only tool you have is a hammer, every problem begins to look like a nail.” We need a variety of tools, not just one. Use your creativity. Believe you don’t have any creativity? Do you ever worry? Then you have creativity. Worry is just creativity used in a negative way.

4. The Law of Einstein

Albert Einstein said, “You can’t solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created the problem.” This is what is meant by the popular business saying to “think outside the box.”

5. The Law of Size

“There is a time in the life of every problem when it is big enough to notice and small enough to solve.”

6. The Law of Sean Connery

In the movie “Rising Sun” actor Sean Connery says, “In our country, when there is a problem, we look for someone to blame. In Japan, when there is a problem, they look for solutions.”

6. The Law of 5%

Spend only 5% of your energy on talking about the problem, & 95% of your energy on solving the problem.

7. The Law of “And”

When solving problems, many times we get caught in either/or thinking. The problem here is that we are limited to only two choices: this or that. The law of “and” allows us to tap into our creativity & the wealth of other choices available to us. “I can do this & I could do that & I could……..

8. The Law of Hope

When we get it that there is no hope in solving a problem, we lose any ability to solve it. Hope can be defined as a confident expectation, a certainty that problems can be solved. Babe Ruth said, “You just can’t beat the person who never quits.”

9. The Law of Nike (the law of action)

You can read all of the above laws & even post them on your refrigerator. They are just decoration unless you take action and do them. I realize I’m quoting a sneaker company here, you can find it. Nike was right, just do it!

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Posted on Jun 27th, 2006

Here is a simple definition of stress, one which you won’t find in a dictionary….

‘Stress is anything you expend energy on’

Yes, everything you do is stressful. Why? Because it uses up energy from the body.

With society being the way it is, traumatic events, catastrophes, etc are deemed to be stressful, which they are. But these are huge traumas; it is the day to day minor stresses that cause most of your problems.

It is these small accumulating stresses that eat away without you knowing. It is like the proverbial straw that breaks the camels back. Each day things increase until one day some minor event happens and all hell breaks loose.

Most people have noticed a friend, family member, co-worker go completely crazy after what seemed a minor event. It would have seemed bizarre, as from your perspective the event didn’t warrant that huge reaction. This is how ‘road rage’, domestic violence etc occurs.

It is the accumulation of stress that one day allows a minor stress to cause a complete snap. Then the body reacts.

But day to day these stresses are eating away at your health also. Stress is attributed to most of your life shortening diseases. Why?

Because stress eats away at your core level, it affects your ability to heal, recover, resist and prevent disease.

So like I said, “Stress is anything you expend energy on”. But there is also good stress.

Good Stress is where you expend energy on an activity but it returns a greater volume of energy to you. Either immediately, or with time as you continue the activity. For example, exercise is stressful on the body, but done correctly is a good stress.

Bad Stress is where you expend energy on an activity and get less or nothing back. Worries, fears, anxieties, work pressures and deadlines, and many others. Bad Stress is the main cause of your ill health. It is the stress that affects you most and the one you must learn to deal and cope with.

So if everything is stressful, can you group stresses to make it easier to combat and prevent. Sure.

In part 2, I will group the different types of stress, why? Once you where stress comes from, it is easier to work out a plan to combat it.

Fast Stress Relief
is dedicated to teaching you ways to remove stress; simply, easily and quickly. Using a combination of Eastern and Western techniques – stress can be removed, repelled and prevented … fast.

For all the Tips & Techniques to Reduce Stress and Boost Your Energy simply click here.

Dr Graeme Teague has been in private practice since 1991, teaching and treating many clients with emotional and general health conditions.

Through his many teaching seminars and extensive professional knowledge, he has now released two new e-books on the many simple and effective ways to be healthy and stress free.

His new web-site is dedicated to teaching you ways to improve your health with orthodox and natural techniques.

Just click here to visit Fast Stress Relief.

Posted on Jun 27th, 2006

If you have never tried combining your breathing exercises with the use of colours I highly recommend you begin.

It can really aid in eliminating negative feelings and go a long way towards overcoming anxious situations where you may require that little extra shove to step out into the unknown.

DIFFICULT SITUATIONS

For many years I often let difficult situations get the best of me, ruining my performances in martial arts competitions for example.

Fear would overwhelm me and dark clouds of self doubt would swamp my mind. This saps physical strength in a massive way!

It leaves you feeling helpless.

Obviously such feelings are felt in many, many, situations not just in sporting situations. For some, they are debilitating to the extent that they won’t even try to step beyond these feelings anymore as they feel they have no way of controlling them whatsoever.

Well, they do!

Many people realise that breathing can help control feelings and emotions (although not many use it for this purpose). Few, though, actually think of combining it with colours to aid in taking control when their emotions are threatening to prevent them achieving a goal, whatever it may be.

WHY COMBINE COLOUR WITH BREATHING?

If you think for a minute of negativity black imagery may well come to mind.

Positive thoughts often bring with them vibrant light colours.

If you amalgamate your breath with colours you can literally take in positive colours and expel (with conviction!) negative ones.

If you relate expelling darkness with expelling fear about a certain activity you are scared of (and this is a very personal thing and it is hugely different from person to person ) this will help lessen that fear and doubt.

You literally breathe out your fear (the dark) leaving you with the courage (light energy that you’ve breathed in) to take control and at least try!

Obviously if you are an anxious or stressed person you may use this method to rid yourself of anxiousness and stress.

NOTE- You can never rid yourself of fear. It is innate in the human body and is needed. Such a deep breathing exercise that you will find below is more about focusing on the positive and not allowing the negativity and doubt to be the main thing you concentrate upon.

HOW TO COMBINE BREATH AND MIND TOGETHER

Try this simple method below and feel how it can positively change your perception on something you are fearful or negative about. Really expel dark clouds and associate this with ridding yourself of doubt about your own personal challenge.

1. Sit or stand comfortably.

2. Breathe in deeply and ensure the breath is going deep into

your body. Check for undue tension in the shoulders and for

whether they are rising up unnecessarily.

3. Breathe in through your nose and out through the mouth.

4. Initially perform ten breaths in this fashion. You should

now be relaxed and receptive to the next stage.

5. As you inhale now imagine a vibrant pure light entering

your body and filling it. Make the inhale slow so you

can imagine your body filling up with this positive feeling.

6. On the exhale bring into mind dark clouds that are being

expelled with a passion from your lungs. As you do so

relate this to your feared task, event, or whatever it

may be.

7. Take the time to perform this five to ten times. Having done

so you should be left feeling light of body and mind with an

attitude that is now much more receptive to the idea of

attempting the difficult task you are homing in on.

Give this a go right now just to get a feel for how it can make you feel. Truth be told you can use it to simply feel great or, as suggested above, to overcome mental sticking points in your journey to achieve goals or overcome anxiety!

(c) Tim Webb 2005

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Posted on Jun 26th, 2006

If Gravity is one of the biggest stresses in your life, what is the other major stress?

It is an area you seldom consider, stress we believe is things around us; however stress is also within you. The biggest stress around you is gravity; the biggest stress within you is … the other main stress in your life…

You

Or to be precise, your MIND. It is how we deal with stress that is one of the biggest causes of stress.

Your mind, if it is calm and relaxed, will repel stress. Your mind if it is chaotic will make stresses larger than they are. It is then harder to deal with stress. A chaotic mind creates more irrational decisions.

Calming the mind creates a relaxed and calm YOU. Notice when you are calm and relaxed, how the small stresses around you are easier to deal with. The larger stresses are able to be dealt with easier too.

If your mind is calm, decisions are more correct. You tend to be more confident in your decisions. Energy levels are higher and health is generally better.

Meditative techniques are used to relax, slow and calm the mind. They have been used for centuries and are very effective at removing and preventing stress. Western meditation is more of a relaxation technique. Eastern meditation is more dedicated to calming the mind. Both are very easy to learn and can take just a few minutes to do, when you know how.

There are simple meditation techniques you can learn.

To recap…

Your two biggest stresses in your life are gravity and your mind. They are two areas that can be changed easily and simply. It also takes minimal time to do so.

Knowledge is the key…

Understanding how stress affects you, why it affects you, and how you can change it is the key. Each of you deals with stress differently, have stresses unique to you, hence need an approach to combat stress personally.

There is no one perfect technique. Each of the stress relief techniques you find may suit the person who developed it. They may not suit you personally.

Use techniques that are best for you, that work quickly and easily. Remove, repel and prevent stress … all stresses … physically and emotionally.

Fast Stress Relief
is dedicated to teaching you ways to remove stress; simply, easily and quickly. Using a combination of Eastern and Western techniques – stress can be removed, repelled and prevented … fast.

For all the Tips & Techniques to Reduce Stress and Boost Your Energy simply click here.

Dr Graeme Teague has been in private practice since 1991, teaching and treating many clients with emotional and general health conditions.

Through his many teaching seminars and extensive professional knowledge, he has now released two new e-books on the many simple and effective ways to be healthy and stress free.

His new web-site is dedicated to teaching you ways to improve your health with orthodox and natural techniques.

Just click here to visit Fast Stress Relief.

Posted on Jun 26th, 2006

Do you attack problems and solve them or do you whine and moan about how it’s just not fair?

Do you anticipate and plan for the future or do you worry about what’s around the next corner?

When life hands you a lemon, do you make lemonade or do you complain about the size of the lemon?

Do you see the glass as half empty, half full, or perhaps just not big enough?

Let’s look at a few ways to be a worrier, and see if you recognize any thing in your self. Then we’ll look at how to be a warrior.

How to Be a Worrier

We all worry. It’s a part of life. It’s what we do with our worries that make the difference.

In order to be a championship worrier however, you need to adopt a few of the following traits:

Worry. A lot. Raise it to an art form. Believe it makes a difference.

Anticipate the worst in every situation, then drag your mind and emotions into the future as if it’s really happening right now.

Really, honestly believe that worrying enough can actually change something.

Do nothing about your worries. Take no action at all.

Make your ongoing question in life “what if…..?”, and then make no plans for what if.

Your motto is “survive the day.”

You worry that you don’t know enough about something and are afraid to learn.

You spend 95% of your time worrying about a problem and a mere 5% on solving it.

How to Be a Warrior

Before I give you a few traits of a warrior, it might be useful to explain what I mean by the term warrior. What I don’t mean is someone who picks fights, enjoys hurting people, or walks around with a sword and shield.

What I do mean is someone who takes on life as a challenge and lives to get the very most out of each day, for themselves and those they care about.

Here’s a few traits of a warrior:

When you have a fear, you face it. It’s the quickest way to make it go away.

Your motto is “seize the day.”

If you don’t know, you ask!

You spend 95% of your time, energy and resources solving a problem, and no more than 5% of your time worrying about the problem.

You know that the sure-fire cure for worry is ACTION.

You know how to think and problem solve in creative ways, called “thinking outside the box” in the business world.

You have an almost insatiable curiosity about the world.

You have the unique ability to look at something that has always been there, and see something that no one else has seen before.

You have what Stu Weber in his book “Tender Warrior” calls a “provisionary heart.” This is the ability to look at the future, anticipating patterns and trends, and then not only prepare to survive but thrive as well.

If you find your self identifying with the traits of the worrier more than the traits of the warrior, here’s two things you can do about it:

1) stop worrying about it, and then

2) practice and adopt the traits of the warrior. Try them on and see what you can do with each of them.

This is a situation where change is quite possible. It just takes a decision and then some practice.

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