Archive for July, 2006

Posted on Jul 26th, 2006

Whilst there are hundreds of books, therapies, drugs, herbal remedies, self help courses and specialist activities available for reducing stress, there are still only two ways to have less stress in your life. Firstly remove the cause of the stress. Secondly, find ways to reduce its impact. Put like that it sounds so simple and easy, but the reality is that when you are stuck in the middle of the wood, it’s hard to see the trees.

As in many things, it’s often the natural simple things that can have the most beneficial effect so don’t be fooled by the ‘low tech, back to basis’ style of these suggestions. They are all based on our senses, the five ways that we directly experience life. And most of the suggestions below are free and don’t involve chemicals!

Stimulate the five senses.

Smell – Lavender oil has long been known for its ability to relieve tension and ease stress. Put a few drops on your pillow at night or by day consider keeping a tissue nearby that has been laced with its distinctive aroma.

Taste – Stress strips the body of vital vitamins, especially B and C. And if you rely on high caffeine intake to cope, this also depletes your supplies of vitamin C. So have something good to eat. I will make you feel better and help to replace those lost vitamins. Complex carbohydrates will induce the release of serotonin making you feel calm.

Sight – A daily ‘nature hit’ is essential to our wellbeing. 1980’s study showed that patients recovering from operations recovered more quickly when their view was of nature, plants and trees rather than more urban features such as roads, walls and buildings. So to reduce stress, why not take time out to surround yourself with nature?

Hearing – Meditating by focussing on a single sound can alter brainwave patterns to alpha which are naturally relaxing. Alternatively if you don’t want to spend months learning how to meditate then listen to a binaural beat recording instead. A binaural beat of 4.9hz will produce exactly the same calming alpha state.

Feeling – One symptom of stress is quick and shallow breathing. This starves the body of fresh oxygen, so breathe from the stomach rather than the chest - this also helps to expel stale air that can accumulate in the lower lungs. Breathe slowly and deeply and concentrate on making the out breath longer than the in breath, this naturally reduces stress.

The important thing is that whatever you do, do something. For example you could take a deep breath right now, hold it and exhale slowly… Trust your instincts and rely on your five senses to lead you out of that stressful wood.

Jim Brackin contributes tips, help and advice on popular psychology to variety of magazines like Cosomopolitan and Women’s Own. He is the body language expert for Sky News (UK)and developed that provides free visually based personality profiles.

Posted on Jul 26th, 2006

Here’s a fun little experiment:

Take a few seconds and look around you, noticing and focusing on everything you see that is blue. Just look around and notice everything that is blue.

Now close your eyes, and tell me everything you noticed that is green.

Threw you a bit of a curve ball there, didn’t I?

If you are like most folks, you were expecting me to ask you to name everything that was blue. Instead I asked for something different from which you had focused on.

Here’s an interesting fact from the world of race car driving:

As I understand it, when new drivers are learning how to race, one of the first things they’re taught is what to focus on when they go into a spin.

The natural tendency is for them to focus on the wall they’re trying to avoid hitting - and they usually end up hitting the wall. They are taught instead not to focus on the wall, but on where they want to go. In this way, they have a better chance of avoiding the wall and successfully getting out of the spin.

The exercise and story both point to the incredible power of focus in our lives. Wherever we place our focus, the rest of our mind and emotions will follow.

So how do we learn how to do this focus stuff?

One of the quickest ways to begin to strengthen your focus muscles is to practice the 5-percent/95-percent rule. That means to focus no more than 5 percent on what you don’t want and 95 percent on what you do want.

Focus 5 percent on what you fear and 95 percent on getting educated and skilled to face it.

Did you know that we all have fears? Even people who appear to fear nothing. The trick is not to have no fear but to work at becoming strong and skilled enough to face and conquer your fears.

Focus 5 percent on the problem and 95 percent on the healthiest solution.

Often it’s easy to get caught in the endless definition and redefinition of a problem. "What’s the problem?" is the wrong question. A better question is: "How many different solutions can we create?"

Focus 5 percent on the mistake and 95 percent on learning from it.

There’s a wonderful story about a new employee of a large corporation who makes a $10,000 mistake in his first week on the job. Upon being called into the CEO’s office at the end of the day, he tells his boss that he realizes he will be fired and that he is sorry for the mistake. To which the CEO replies, "Fire you? No way. I just spent $10,000 training you." I bet he became a valuable employee.

Focus 5 percent on who to blame and 95 percent on making sure to heal.

Getting stuck in blame sets you up to be lame. Focusing on healing allows you to move on with your life.

Focus 5 percent on the conflict and 95 percent on the win-win-win resolution.

Conflict, especially in families, does not always have to be a win-lose situation. In any conflict, each side has needs. The question is what kind of solution can be found that meets as many of each person’s needs as possible.

Focus 5 percent on what you must do and 95 percent on enjoying the process of it.

"I have to," "I’ve got to," "I wish I didn’t have to" are all phrases that focus on having to do things we don’t want to do. Better words that shift your focus would be: "How can I get all this done and enjoy the process?"

Finally, and most important:

Focus 5 percent on reading this 95 percent on applying it.

When you drive, your car follows your nose.

When you live, your life follows your focus. Where’s your focus

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Posted on Jul 25th, 2006

Find those techniques that will manage your fear and anxiety. Although I am a layman and not a professional, I realized that the best way to overcome my fears and is to find those coping skills that effectively mange the fear and anxiety.

The first step is to take advantage of the help that is available around you. If possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage your fears and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem. By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future.

It doesn’t stop there. The next step is to apply what you have learned. In my particular case, I made it a point that every time I would experience a fearful or anxiety-related situation, I would use the information I have learned. In every anxiety related situation I experienced, I began to learn what worked, what didn’t work, and what I needed to improve on in managing my fears and anxieties.

If I still had trouble managing my fear, I would continue to do more research to learn of even more effective techniques in managing fear and anxiety. I would talk to more professionals, read more books, and ask more questions. I did this for fifteen years and gained a lot of valuable information on how to manage fear and anxiety.

Remember to focus on the strategies and techniques that actually reduce the fear and anxiety. All it takes is one effective technique to make a world of difference in managing your fears.

The main point of this article is that no matter how difficult it is to manage your fear, the answers are out there if you look hard enough. It might take some hard work and persistence, but it is possible to find those techniques that work for you.

Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear" an easy to read book that presents a overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to:

Posted on Jul 25th, 2006

I’m so excited that I have discovered this secret today. It’s something that I promise will reduce the stress level in your lives. It’s easy, convenient and all you have to do is plan: THE NIGHT BEFORE!

Today was the third day of school for my son Jeremy. Today we were among the very first people at school. Every single day, the kids line up in the parking lot at the school with their teachers. At 7:55am, the principal, Mrs. Katie Walsh, directs the students in The Lord’s Prayer, and the Pledge of Allegiance. It’s a wonderful tradition and unites the school every single day.

Today, because Jeremy was the first boy in his class to arrive, he got to be the line leader! Now, if you know anything about kindergarten, The LINE Leader is a VERY special thing to be. It’s the first person in line. It’s the leader. It’s the HEAD HONCHO!! And today, Jeremy was the line leader! That made him feel special and I know this because he told the teacher that he was the FIRST person in the class to get there this morning. He was quite proud of that fact.

Yesterday though? A totally different story! Yesterday Jeremy and I were running across the parking lot to get there before the class went inside. We completely missed the prayer AND the Pledge and I was rushing him so much he started crying and nearly sat down in the middle of the parking lot. When we got there, I pretty much threw him in line, kissed him goodbye and both of us were nervous with adrenaline as we said goodbye. Whew! We JUST made it. The alternative was the go to the principals’ office to sign him in. I just can’t see me going to the PRINCIPAL’S office during the first week of school. Especially since I was NEVER sent to the Principal’s office in my whole 12 years of school! (Yes, believe it or not.. I was one of the GOOD GIRLS!)

So I vowed last night to get to school early. Sway and I double checked all of our clocks with the world clock. We set them all on time and I set my wrist watch a bit fast. I made sure last night that his book bag was ready, his uniform was ironed and we all got to bed early. My clock went off 15 minutes earlier this morning and we didn’t let Jeremy linger in bed this morning. We fed him, got his snack put together and got him dressed with time to spare.

Was it easy? OF COURSE not! We struggled like crazy to get him to get out of bed, to get him fed and to get dressed. But Sway and I worked together to get it done. Sure we had some crying fits and I think there were a few tense moments from all of our ends, but we did it and we got there early with a LOT of time to spare.

It was great! We got to sit in the car and talk about the day. We got to talk about what the day could be like if he had really good behavior. We talked about him meeting some new kids and introducing himself to others and being kind to others. We even got to call Jeremy’s daddy and tell him how early we were.

When we got to the parking lot, I got to talk with Mrs. Dowell, his teacher and he got to share with her how he helped me yesterday when I sprained my ankle. She was delighted that he helped his mommy and showed the appropriate amount of pride.

Then Jeremy got to stand in line as the other boys lined up behind him. I got to socialize with the other mommies which is always fun. I got to kiss him goodbye as they walked away and he seemed fine today.

It was such a great day that I’m convinced that our habits can change. We can get to bed early EVERY night. We can prepare everything in advance and have a smooth morning and get to school early every day. It’s worth striving for. I want my little boy to get in the habit of being early and enjoying the feelings that it brings.

I want to apply this tactic to every part of my life. To my coaching appointments, to church, or anywhere I must be on a regular basis. I like the feeling of being prepared instead of just arriving in a rush and trying to catch up with everyone else. I like not having the adrenaline rush and having to calm down. I learned this lesson years ago when arriving to the airport and I’ve never regretted getting there early. I’ve always been perfectly calm, cool and collected when I travel. Of course I learned the hard way and remember racing to the gate and being out of breath more than once.

So I know I can change my habits since I’ve done it before. And now, I’m instilling new habits in my son, and in my husband. I think it’s going to make the school year easier. And somehow, I think it’s going to make our life easier too.

So if you have that rushed feeling when you are driving around town or getting to meetings or appointments, try planning the night before. Get the whole family engaged in the new rule of thumb. It can change your whole outlook on school.

So try using this secret of planning to arrive early. It can change your life, your stress and your reputation!

Besides, it’s a whole lot more fun. And isn’t that a better way to live?

Mary Gardner is an Executive Communications Consultant and Coach. She works with, coaches and trains individuals, sales teams, executives, and celebrities. She enjoys seeing the best come out in people and has fun in the process. Mary is married to Sway and is mommy to Jeremy 5 and lives in Orlando, FL.

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Posted on Jul 24th, 2006

We’ve often seen it in the movies, the star lady taking a bubble bath with candles lit all around the tub. You must have thought, “How relaxing that would be!” just seeing that image! Then it’s over and we go on with our lives forgetting that we too can have the same experience.

It’s taking that time for you. You deserve it and to make the most of these moments you can add a little pleasure to your relaxing time. When the kids are all tucked away, and maybe your husband is watching “something”, sneak away to your tub filling it with hot water and your favorite bubble bath. Just the anticipation should start you to feel relaxed as you prepare to slide in knowing you won’t be disturbed.

Now light a few candles and turn off the lights and you are ready. Smell the aroma of the scents. Slowly get in feeling the softness of the bubbles and the warmth of the water. Slide down sinking below just letting yourself go. When you rise again, you will see your candles giving off their soft glow of light. You can smell the aroma of the scents from your bubble bath and candles. Take a deep breath and feel yourself relaxing. Let your mind wonder taking your places as the aroma of your scents remind you of the pleasures from within your mind.

Yes, this is relaxing. This form of relaxing has been practiced from ancient times when the ladies poured special scents into their bath water, and lit their candles. Back then that’s all they had for light. So use it today for yourself. Take that time for you and enjoy the light from your candles, the aroma from your candles and bath oils that opens your mind to the feeling of relaxing. Pleasure yourself if only for these few moments with this special time for yourself.

Now you have created a special place just for you. Candle light, bath oils, hot water, and your special time to yourself. Cherish it and take it often.

This is called Aromatherapy when you use scented candles and oils to product the aroma associated with your bubble bath. Most bubble bath soaps have scents, and many candles have scents. To reach the desire Aromatherapy level to feel that deep relaxation find both scents that will fill your bath with your desired aroma to better allow you to find that special place. The use of Aromatherapy is the use of scents to produce a mood change or a healing process.

Just think about the Bubble bath with lighted candles around the edge of the tub all in the scent that takes you to your relaxing setting. Coupled with the bath, it will be an exhilarating experience for you to enjoy you quiet moment away from the world. Take that bath, breath in the aroma, relax. You deserve it being a Mom, Wife, and Career Woman, all together women. I hope this helps your find that right time for you.

Dan & Bobbie Grasser offers a selection of Aromatherapy candles to aid your Bubble Bath experience and practices the art of self-indulgence. You can find a selection of candles to complement your bath oils and enhance your experience at where special orders are their specialty.

Posted on Jul 24th, 2006

Let’s face it! The majority of our time is either spent sleeping or working. The demands of our employers and our workspace means that we are all highly stressed. We face one hundred and one problems that demand our fullest attention during the day at our workplace and when we return home, we face domestic difficulties that need urgent resolution.

As a result, we keep on postponing a much needed vacation. Our present problems need urgent resolution. We are up to our neck and to our nose with things that we need to work on, to solve, to look into.

So what are we going to do?

Perhaps, we have been so deeply engrossed in the matters at hand that we have forgotten that there are activities that we can indulge in, just for a short weekend, or a few hours that can refresh our minds and our bodies, so that we can be recharged, and get rid of the inbuilt stress to face another week, another month and another year.

Consider that we can just pack some necessary light tools and be away for a short hike to the country-side or the mountains nearby. A one day hike is always possible, and brings you back to nature, and close to the tranquility of the country or the hills or fields and meadows.

Or have you considered some fishing in that creek or that nearby lake? Feel the rush of the wind, the calmness of the environment and the thrill of that fight between man and fish as you reel in your catch! Bask in the glory and self satisfaction as you observe your bounty after a day of fishing and capture the moment with some photographs for sweet memories.

Or just getting onto a cruise down the river or lake on a boat is a good activity to let loose, and refresh from the cares and worries of the day. Water skiing is a good choice for you to really enjoy it all!

And if you are game for some real physical contact, you can join some physical sports that can allow for a good degree of running and physical exertion. Consider the sports of Lacrosse! It is said you are not in the game unless you are physically bruised!

Even in winter, there is no excuse! You can be away for some snow skiing- a change of environment, some time to relax and you will feel much refreshed when you return.

We are humans, we are not machines. Man is built with emotions, with feelings and with physical bodies that need to recharge, and to rebound back with vigor. Imagine, you can be hiking, water skiing, boating, fishing, snow skiing and in a game of lacrosse. All it needs it just some planning and a desire to *really* take action. Once you tried it out once, you will find how refreshing it is, and you will want to do it again!

Peter Lim is a Certified Financial Planner and a webmaster who has interests in outdoor recreational activities to destress and recharge his mind. For more ideas and information on how you can get involved or be prepared for recreational activites such as Boating, Fishing, Skiing, Hiking and Lacrosse, as described above, visit his interesting resources website "World of Recreation and Popular Sports" at

Posted on Jul 23rd, 2006

We live in a remarkable time; communication, entertainment, commerce, and work are evolving at a pace unheard of just 5 years ago. Multiply this with the need to stay current, to learn new languages of business and technology, to absorb information bombarding us from all directions and what do you get? A searing measure of stress added to adult lives already complex with too many responsibilities and personal goals.

My clients, generally small business owners, tell me their stress comes from too little time, too many responsibilities and not knowing where to turn first. Sound familiar? Stress can cuddle up and become your unwanted companion. So, here are some very lo-tech tips to navigate our modern world and minimize stress.

1. How do I handle everything on my plate?

Here’s a novel idea: don’t. Learn to selectively accept requests; being asked doesn’t mean you have to say ‘yes.’ Use your power to choose. And remember: if you continue to over extend yourself, you’ll minimize your ability to handle those responsibilities you truly value.

Seek support. Find at least one person who will really listen to you without judgment. The right family member, friend, or coach could be invaluable.

Stop trying to control every aspect of your life. We never really know what will occur even in the next moment. Take actions that move you toward your intended outcome and know you will handle whatever materializes.

2. There aren’t enough hours in the day!

You think so? We all have the same 24 hours. Consider how you spend them; is there something you can delegate or give up? Make an hourly calendar of your week - be honest. What‘s draining the time you’d prefer to devote elsewhere?

3. How can I avoid over-reacting when I’m stressed?

Envision your best outcome and write it down. What steps will make it real? I know you’ve handled many stressful events in your life. How? Was there something that can help your current situation? Even if you didn’t choose what’s happened now, you can choose your response.

Take time for relaxation and healthful living practices. Don’t use the upset in part of your life as an excuse to abandon healthy routines. These can anchor and support you as other elements of your life are altered. You’ll cope more easily.

Connect with your spiritual side. Use prayer, meditation, reflect on spiritual literature. In the writer’s words you may find an experience that mirrors your own.

Consider minimizing stress. What activities, situations or people literally suck the energy right out of you? You know what they are - why are you tolerating them? How you can confront and resolve those lingering circumstances and get rid of them?

4. What if I’m afraid I just can’t do the things I must?

The most insidious obstacle in our lives can be our own self-view. Ironically, we’re often faced with circumstances that reveal the hero in us, yet our own view about our value and capability can be more flattening than a speeding locomotive.

If you find you’re unable to replace ‘I can’t’ with ‘I can’, try this: Get in touch with 3 people whose opinions you respect. Ask them to email you weekly, with one thing they admire and respect about you. Don’t ask mom or your significant other.

What you learn about yourself may be surprising; this new self- awareness will be powerful. Nothing is more fundamental to overcoming obstacles than the belief that in fact, you can. Use “I can” as your starting point and you’ll find every one of these suggestions much easier to put into practice.

Andrea Feinberg, M.B.A., graduate of Coach University and a Certified Strategic Business Leadership Coach, is the president of Coaching Insight. Andrea’s clients identify and maximize the untapped potential in their underused intangible assets so they enjoy enhanced marketing outcomes, more productive and engaged employees, effective goal setting and, occasionally, time off. For more information, please visit She welcomes your comments at 631.642.7434 or

Posted on Jul 23rd, 2006

In the fast-paced world that we live in today, it seems as though it’s hard to find enough time to do everything that needs to be done. Days at work are long, but too often don’t seem to be long enough… we bring home what we can’t finish and end up creating highly stressful situations for those around us. Even worse, it seems like medical science is constantly finding new problems that are caused by overworking and the stress that results from it. If only there were some way to reduce the effects of this stress and make life more work-friendly (and vice versa)…

Luckily, there are ways to negate the harmful effects of working too much… balancing life and work in a way that makes everything more harmonious. It can take a little getting used to at first, especially if you’re a “Type A” personality that is used to pushing and driving on to finish the project or complete the proposal.

Counteracting the Negative Effects of Stress

Of course, just because you work long hours every day or put in a lot of overtime doesn’t mean that you’re doomed to be done in before your time by stress. There are a lot of methods that can be used to counteract the harmful effects of work-related stress and increase both your quality of life and the free time that you have available. The key to living a long and fruitful life is to learn to balance your life and your work, so that what time you have available to yourself is spent in the most enjoyable ways possible. Below are several ways that you can either decrease the harm that stress causes or free up more time for yourself (which in itself can decrease stress in your life.)

· Pets – Studies have shown that the simple act of petting a dog or cat can cause immediate and significant reductions in stress. Our animal friends have other stress-relieving benefits, as well… for instance, the sound of a cat’s purr is an excellent stress reliever, as is the act of playing with a dog or watching fish swim in a tank. Research has also shown that pet owners tend to live five to ten years longer on average than those people who don’t own pets.

· Schedule Family Time – Setting aside a specific time to spend with your family is a great way to reduce stress and make the most of the free time that you have. Ideas such as planning a “Family Game Night” or taking a weekly picnic to the park are gaining in popularity in many areas, and have been shown to not only reduce stress but also produce children who are more social and less likely to misbehave in adulthood. If you’re not married or don’t have any children, you don’t have to miss out… schedule time to spend with siblings or friends, just to enjoy each other’s company.

· Read – Set aside a little time each night to read. What you read doesn’t really matter… it can be a tabloid, a magazine, or a novel. The important thing is that you’re reading something because you want to do it instead of because you have to, and the act of reading for enjoyment tends to occupy your mind and release some of the pent-up frustrations and stresses of the day. As an added bonus, reading can increase your vocabulary, your reasoning skills, and your overall intelligence and outlook on life.

· Invest in a Filing Cabinet – It may not seem like much, but being organized can actually be a great stress reliever. File away pay stubs, tax returns, business receipts, and bills so that they’re easy to locate should you need them. Not only will this save you time should these records become needed, but the act of organizing can have a calming effect on the mind and reduce stress.

· Lifestyle Management – Lifestyle management is a growing trend that can greatly increase the amount of free time that you have. Lifestyle management agencies can perform a number of services for you so that you don’t have to, from running errands and paying bills to scheduling appointments and performing household tasks. Lifestyle management providers may perform different tasks than the ones listed, so be sure to find out what services an individual provider offers.

· Take a Vacation – One of the best ways to counteract the harmful effects of working too much is to take time away from work. Even taking a single week’s vacation once a year can increase your life expectancy, give you a more positive outlook, and generally make your quality of life much better than it was previously. Just make sure that you follow the cardinal rule of taking a vacation, whether you go on a trip or just stay at home: when you’re away from work, leave work behind and enjoy yourself.

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Posted on Jul 22nd, 2006

Trauma can affect our physical and emotional well-being. It results when an event causes a person to feel an overwhelming sense of vulnerability and loss of control. Some people will get through a trauma without many after-effects. However, some people will be profoundly affected. The following factors can affect the trauma response:

  • level of stress in life before trauma occurs
  • tendency to keep things inside rather than talking about them
  • history of prior traumas
  • trauma comes without much warning
  • trauma disrupts your sense of what is "supposed" to happen
  • individual personality and coping style will effect trauma response
  • lack of support system
  • degree of threat or loss
  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) occurs when a person has been exposed to a traumatic event in which:

  • they have witnessed or experienced an event that involves actual or threatened serious injury or death of self or others
  • their response to this event includes intense fear, helplessness, and/or horror
  • The following symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder will show up quickly, and will last for more than one month. Following a severe trauma, a person may experience:

  • feeling numb, or “in a daze”
  • tries not to think about the event but has intrusive memories of the trauma - images, thoughts, sensory memories
  • recurrent, stressful dreams of the traumatic event
  • intrusive, vivid memories of the trauma that cause a person to feel as if they are reliving the event (flashbacks)
  • hypersensitivity to stimuli that remind them of the traumatic event
  • avoidance of people or places that might be reminders of the trauma
  • change in eating and/or sleeping habits
  • increased irritability
  • easily startled
  • hypervigilance – constantly checking their surroundings to make sure they are safe
  • trouble focusing
  • sense of loss or sadness
  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder was first recorded following World War I, and used to be known as shell shock, war neurosis, or combat fatigue. However, severe trauma, (and PTSD) can come from many sources including: violent crimes such as rape, incest, robbery, assault, murder, car accidents, accidents at work, unexpected death of a close friend or relative, fire, natural disasters such as tornadoes and hurricanes.

    Help is available for those with PTSD. Many people find relief through talking with a therapist or counselor. The therapeutic relationship can help normalize the symptoms and let the person know that they are not alone in their struggle. Treatment often includes learning various relaxation techniques to reduce anxiety and bring about a sense of peace. Therapists may also use special treatment modalities to help the person resolve the trauma. These treatments might include Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, also known as EMDR, or hypnotherapy.

    Recovery from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder can be a slow process. Again, it depends a lot on the person’s history of trauma and their individual coping style. PTSD does not have to dominate your life. You can get help. You can get your life back.

    © 2006 Cynthia McKenna LPC, NCC - All Rights Reserved Worldwide.

    Cynthia McKenna LPC, NCC is a therapist and life-coach who helps people transform their lives. Her goal is to help people have more joy and peace in daily living. Cynthia works with individuals, couples, and groups in the Texas Hill Country. She also works with clients online and by phone. For more information or to make an appointment, visit Cynthia McKenna’s website

    Posted on Jul 22nd, 2006

    No this is not related to praying, this is how your brain works. Looking up will reduce your stress…..immediately. Why, you may be asking?

    All types of stress, especially emotional stress, changes how you view life. When you are tired, rundown and generally stressed, life appears harder.

    Under stress, small problems appear larger. Small obstacles become insurmountable. Daily living becomes tiresome, stressful and your enthusiasm and motivation can hit rock bottom.

    Stress affects your mind and how you perceive your surroundings. Your work life, home life and health will suffer.

    As Hans Seyle (who wrote “The Stress of Life”) once stated ‘90% of stresses never occur, so don’t worry. Of the 10% of stresses that do occur, worry never changed them’. So don’t worry.

    Once stresses affect you, it is very hard to ‘snap out of it’. You project your thoughts down, life becomes tough and energy levels decline.

    Looking up can change this.

    Your brain and mind are easily persuaded to change. Changing where you look can have dramatic effects on your stress levels. There is a saying

    ‘The Sky’s the Limit’.

    This is true. Looking up makes life feel and look better. When you look up at a 20 degree angle, you access areas of your brain that release stress naturally.

    Try it. Think of a stressful situation, look up and try to recall the stress. What you will find is, that it is harder to recall the stress. You may even have to move your eyes about or down to recall the stress. Even if you recall the stress, it appears a lot less stressful.

    Children spend most of the day looking up at this 20 degree angle. This is why they trip over so many objects each day. It is also why children are generally happier than adults.

    Each day go for a walk, just a short walk. Look up, 20 degrees only, and just relax. If you live near a park, walk around it looking up at the trees. Not the tree trunk, the leaves and branches.

    On a nice summer’s day, lie on your back. Spend some time watching the clouds float by. Or just look up at the deep blue sky. Buy a kite (or better still make one) and fly it.

    Again another saying

    ‘Go Fly a Kite’.

    It relates to being stressed and told to go outside and look up at your flying kite. Stress simply melts away.

    Looking up is easy. It is also free. Whether you live in a crowded city or a country area, looking up will open your eyes to sites you have never seen before. All while stress is melting away.

    Just remember, ‘the sky’s the limit’. Looking up can lift your spirits, remove your stress and it helps you realize that life is abundant. Abundant in health, wealth and happiness.

    There are many simple techniques you can do, that cost you nothing, and they remove stress. Most of these techniques help to prevent stress returning also. Simple, easy and effective ways to make your life more fun, relaxing and calm. For more on these techniques and many other stress relief techniques visit

    Dr Graeme Teague is a Chiropractor, Applied Kinesilogist, Acupressure Specialist, Homeopath and Reiki Master. His unique perspective on stress has come about from practicing since 1991, treating patients with many health and stress complaints. Stress management is a process of YOU learning simple and easy ways to remove, repel and prevent stress. This can be achieved quickly and easily with Dr Teagues unique ways of dealing with stress. His new web site is dedicated to teaching YOU to deal with stress easily and quickly. Visit the site at

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