Archive for July, 2006

Posted on Jul 21st, 2006

"We see things not as they are, but as we are. What we are, the world is." — Krishnamurti

Stress–everyone talks about it, and for good reason. The national statistics are frightening. It is estimated that 75 percent of all medical complaints are stress-related. Approximately $15 billion are lost by industry annually because of stress-related absenteeism. About 5 billion doses of tranquilizers are prescribed each year. It has long been believed that stress might contribute to heart disease. Until recently this notion has been supported only by anecdotes: the wife who never had a heart problem, but suffered a heart attack soon after the death of her husband; the surge in heart attacks after such traumatic experiences as earthquakes or personal crises. But several medical studies conducted in countries around the world, including the united States, Israel, and Sweden, have provided evidence that emotional stress precedes the onset of heart disease symptoms.

What is stress? This question crystallized for me one day when two of my patients individually asked me the same question: How were their highly demanding jobs affecting their health? I responded with my own question to each of them: "How do you feel about your job?" The first said, "I hate it! I can’t stand the environment or the people. And my work bores me." The second answered, "I really like what I do. The atmosphere in the office is exciting, and the work is challenging. Of course, there are times when I’d rather be elsewhere, but you can’t expect everything or everybody to be perfect." Needless to say, their jobs were affecting the health of these two patients very differently. The first had job stress, while the second had job satisfaction. What fascinated me most was that these two people were partners in the same business!

As the above example illustrates, stress is not just "out there"; it is not simply a result of circumstances. Stress also depends on how an individual interprets circumstances, on what your own thoughts and feelings tell you about the circumstances. If you look at stress from this perspective, you have more possibilities for dealing with it effectively. You need no longer be limited to being a victim, and letting a particular situation control your emotions. It is worthwhile to evaluate your situation, but if you understand your thoughts and feelings about it, you can discover sensible approaches to handling specific problems.

What causes one to view a circumstance as stressful? Generally, stress is triggered by any situation or event that might appear to control, limit or undermine your power. Frustration and anger develop when you sense that you are not getting what you want or deserve.

People tend to become upset when they feel powerless or helpless, unable to change their circumstances. Recent research has shown that hostility in people increases their risks for heart disease and a heart attack. The Framingham Heart Study demonstrated not only that high levels of hostility increase the risk of heart attack, but also that people married to overly demanding spouses have an increased risk.

Such emotions as anger and hostility, translated into stress and turned inward, have significant consequences on the body. Stress brings with it a sense of resistance and diminishment, of contraction and closing down. When under stress, you may feel constricted, stuck, and irritable. This is precisely how stress is communicated to and by your body, especially your cardiovascular system. How to keep perspective and cope?

Many people tend to become stressed by anticipating being obsessed with situations over which they have no control. Whenever such stress-provoking thoughts arise, ask yourself these questions:

* What is the worst thing that can happen?

* Even if the worst happens, how important will it be to me a year from now? Five years from now?

* If a friend came to me with this problem, what advice would I offer?

* How can I change my thoughts and approach the situation more objectively, more dispassionately?

Take five slow, deep breaths. For each, inhale to a count of 4, pause for a second, and exhale to a count of 4. As you inhale, visualize a soothing blue vapor filling your body; as you exhale, visualize red-hot tension leaving your body. To help relax, picture a scene in nature, the seashore or mountains. Imagine its beauty and serenity. When you feel sufficiently wound down, ask yourself the reality-based questions above.

The key is understanding that it is within your power to control stress rather than having stress control you.

Richard Helfant, MD, is a Harvard-trained cardiologist and developer of cardiac technologies. His book Courageous Confrontations, discusses about how a change in perspective can reduce stress and overcome life-threatening illness.

Posted on Jul 21st, 2006

Recently the well known American news anchor Peter Jennings died of lung cancer, just a few months after he publicly announced that he had the disease and that he was going to fight it with everything he had.

After his death, I read some of the tributes that poured in about the life of Peter Jennings. One of the common themes that appeared in the statements made by his friends and colleagues was that they remembered what a determined, competitive man he was.

They said that he took on his battle with cancer head on, and that he fought his cancer the way he battled everything, with steely will and determination. And unfortunately he didn’t win.

Reading about Peter Jennings’ losing battle with lung cancer reminded me of another conversation about living with cancer that illustrated a very different approach to the disease. recently.

Last week I had a meeting with one of my business associates, a man named Brian, to discuss some business matters.

After our business meeting was finished, Brian started telling me about his mother’s experience of living with cancer. A lot of what Brian had to say was very thought provoking to me.

Brian told me that his mother had been diagnosed with a bad type of bone cancer and doctors had told her that she had only a very short time to live. Yet in spite of the fact that her cancer kept spreading to other parts of her body, she managed to live fourteen years longer than what her doctors had originally predicted.

Brian said that he often wondered why his mother managed to live such a long time with cancer when many of his younger friends who got cancer died of it quite quickly.

Brian told me "I come from a sports and and athletic background, and so a lot of my friends are athletes. My athletic friends tend to be very focussed and competitive people, and they’re used to being very aggressive. When they were diagnosed with cancer, I watched them go into their competitive and athletic mode, and they would say ‘I’m going to fight this thing’.

They would fight their cancer the same way they fought their athletic battles, with gritted teeth and courage and determination.

Brian said, "What I noticed about these guys who were so tough and fought cancer so hard was that in a lot of cases they burned out really soon.

When my mother got cancer, Brian continued, "Her approach was kind of the opposite. She wanted to live, but she never said she was going to fight this cancer. One of the things I watched her do is that she decided to drop everything that was stressful from her life."

Shopping was stressful for her, so she dropped it. Driving a car was stressful so she stopped driving. In fact, she stopped doing everything she didn’t want to do, and she only kept the things she really enjoyed.

And she made a point of becoming very relaxed and enjoying her life.

Then Brian told me, "This experience made me think that maybe the idea of fighting for your life when you have cancer is like trying to fight off insomnia."

"If you decide to fight insomnia by gritting your teeth and saying ‘I’m tough, I’ve fought lots of battles successfully, I’m going to fight this insomnia and I’m going to beat this thing, well, you’ll never fall asleep. It won’t work."

Now I can’t say that what seemed to work for Brian’s mother in living with cancer is the miracle key for anyone else who has cancer. This wasn’t a scientific study, and many other factors are involved.

But Brian’s comments about his mother’s approach to living with cancer, and his comments about trying to use will power to fight insomnia are worth keeping in mind when we are facing a problem. Not every problem can be solved with will power and determination.

In such fields as business and sports, an attitude of determination and competitiveness can be very useful, and can be highly rewarded. If we have been very successful in these fields by being high powered, determined and aggressive, we may try to use the same approach to tackle every problem. Aggressively and head-on. With grit and determination.

However, being aggressive and determined does not work on every kind of problem.

For example, if your mate is unhappy in your marriage, or your child has a serious illness, or if you have too much stress in your life, then using determination and aggression will not solve these problems. In these situations, aggressiveness does not work.

We need to recognize those situations where another approach might work better.

Sometimes what we need to do is relax more, let go of our illusion that we can control everything, become more humble, and be open to living in the moment even when we don’t know all the answers.

Royane Real is the author of several self help books, including “Your Quick Guide to Improving Your Learning Ability” Sign up today for her free newsletter filled with life improving tips at

Posted on Jul 20th, 2006

“Let Go Of Your Stress By Feeding Your Mind The Right Ingredients Such As A Self-Proven Formula Containing A Secret Spice Which Reveals It’s Removable Stress Flavor.”

Giving Up & Giving It Up + Negative V.S. Positive Energy = Removing Your Stress.

I call it the “GGNPR Formula.”

Have you ever checked the exact degree of temperature which rises throughout your mind of emotions?

Or is it possible that your chemistry is producing the wrong chemicals causing undo stress?

I can’t stand when I feel like a situation is taking control and my emotions begin entertaining themselves with outer thoughts. It can be very frustrating when matter over mind seems too great. Just like anything else, there’s a way…

In these types of situations, I recommend to check the PH level within you the same way you would test the water’s PH level in a fish tank. Your level of nutrients should be level symmetrically with the finding of a medium which takes place inside your congruent or incongruent mind. Only you can determine the type of which you are.

When one is congruent he or she is able to make rational decisions based certain behavior as to incongruent minds have irregular or poor decision making due to a mental block which may seem to be uncontrollable at times. This is a known stress maker.

The intake of beneficial information is always the best commodity item to invest in. The value of content is so precious that it enables our mind flow to instinctively be able to decide and differentiate one substance of information to another. Thus, allowing us to overcome the objectives. This then leads into becoming a solution provider.

Just like the roots of a tree, which are grown the same way us humans live throughout our lives. They get watered, sunshine and experience the same seasons we do. The act of complacency is a curse planted on the soil of the anxious one.

For the enemy within is the beast from without. The stirring deception lurks in between the brain cells of the disguiser. The disguiser is you. You create your own stress. The same way you give yourself stress is the same way and capability you have to remove it.

The thoughts of the inner man sometimes get caught up and tangled inside the webs we tend to weave. No matter how impatient you get, aggression can be the key to which breaks off inside the master lock, leaving you an un-open opportunity.

So, being aggressive or anxious or even retaliating with such intense emotion will not be the answer to solving your situations. For you to be a victor, you must use your harpoon like features so that reality can demonstrate its benefits through the underground world of spirituality. By tapping into an unknown realm, unknown things are bound to happen.

As a result of this depth, robotic like movements out from under the stress shell are just city blocks away. The importance here is to redirect your negative energy into a more positive outlook, yet in an enlightening direction. Your stress level will diminish within just a few hours. Just don’t hold onto the negative thoughts.

Replace them with something you like doing or think back to when you were a child, things you liked to do when you were young. These things will ultimately change your outlook for the moment which events into a more content mindset.

Not only to others, but yourself to. The mental mindsets we humans portray are considered to be superpowers of the unaware. It’s a matter of knowing how much and when to use these superpowers to overcome the evil which subconsciously subsides within our own minds. A battle is won first in the mind then physically drawn to reveal its truth.

An ingredient to removing your stress is the same way the headline equation is phrased;

Giving up & Giving it up is a multiple choice of either one or the other. You have to decide which statement you would like to follow. Giving up will wipe the success opportunities right from under your feet.

On the other hand, to give it up is to make a sacrifice by letting something go whether it’s mental or physical. Sometimes you need to get rid of that very thing which is clinging onto you and keeping you from breathing above water. This ultimate sacrifice will give you what you’ve been chasing after.

The removal of stress is only controlled and manhandled when he or she is willing and determined to get up and rip the stress roots right out the ground and throw any negative situation into the chemical pot of weed killer. We create our own garden of weeds when we don’t kill them when they first sprout. The wrong sunshine can grow the wrong plants. Don’t forget that.

Summary Equation:

Giving Up = Negative energy (make this energy temporary)
Giving it Up = Positive energy (make this energy permanent)
End Result = Removing Your Stress

Take a moment and on a blank piece of paper write out the things which tend to give you stress. Then, remove each thing one by one. Certain things may not be removable such as family or self inflictions.

This is where your mental discipline comes into action. I would advise you continue your studies on removing stress and learning how to convert problems into situations turning them into obstacles which lead into solutions.

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Posted on Jul 20th, 2006

Too much driving, too much shopping, too much rushing around, running the kids around. Do family and work demands have you stressed out?

There are many ways to help you control stress. Here are some unique methods I’ve collected.

1. Yell! But—be sure you are alone. The best place is in the car with the windows up. Stuck in traffic? Try it.

2. Sing. This is close to the first one. Lots of people swear by the power of music to release tension and stress. Sing wherever you feel comfortable. It doesn’t matter what. Just have some fun with it! I have done this on all jobs I’ve had. Then I started dancing. Why not! People thought I was crazy, but it works.

3. Do something soothing. Start or try a activity like knitting, crochet, pottery making. Don’t worry about being good at it. It’s the process that’s beneficial. Sitting still while performing repetitive movements is calming and stabilizing for many people. It can be time to collect your thoughts.

4. Start a garden. Even apartment-dwellers can do this. Inside in pots, pots on the patio, pots, a small spot in your yard. There is a little work to setting it up. Tending plants, fruits, vegetables, flowers and watching them grow, bloom, or yield food is rewarding. Avid gardeners say working a garden is the best way

to control stress and worry. An added benefit is the creation of a more beautiful, restful environment.

5. Play with a dog or cat. Experts say Pet owners have longer lives and fewer stress symptoms than non-pet owners. Playing with your pet provides good vibrations. It’s a form of social interaction with no pressure to meet anyone’s expectations!

6. Gaze at the stars. Many times I have gazed up at the stars off my patio. Preferably in a still, dark, and quiet area, sit back and observe the heavens. The vastness of space is awesome. This way can make a lot of problems seem very small.

7. Discover how you can recognize too much stress before it explodes here:

If stress is not relieved it can be very dangerous to your health and can explode into violent behavior.

Kathy Thompson, Wellness Coach, can help you lead a happier healthy life, with products, programs, profiles. With 8 years of teaching and 15 years in Toastmasters, Kathy Thompson really enjoys writing and speaking. She has a B. S. in Business Communications and has taught her programs around the country at various businesses and Adult Education Centers.

She writes and speaks about Health, Personal Communications (writing & speaking), and her unique specialty of "Face Reading" has brought her plenty of media attention. Kathy’s goal is to help you be all you can be and reach your potential.
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Posted on Jul 19th, 2006

In the newspapers, in the magazines, in the cinema, in the television, everywhere we listen people that talks about the stress..

Why is it so?

The stress has been part of the human race from the beginnings of the history, why do we pay it so much attention now?

Has it changed?

Is it now more more dangerous than before?

Or is it because now we have discovered its incidence in our lives?

Stress is an unavoidable consequence of life and it is not something exclusive of the human beings, because the animals also have it. But the stress it is not necessarily bad.

To win the lottery can produce much more stress that to not win it, but the difference rests in the organic answer that we will have in a case and the other.

On the other hand, there are many people that need some pressure to reach more, and stress can provide a state of alert, anticipation and excitement.

How can we achieve a fair balance between not having stress and having too much?

Stress is the answer of the body in front of external conditions that are perceived as dangerous, worrying or irritating. And our natural answer is the modification of the behavior of almost all the body organs, to allow us to escape or to face that danger.

Although in fact for the body any CHANGE in our life implies stress.

When we face a change, the brain activates the secretion of certain hormones that untie a chain reaction in the whole body, and this is not bad, but rather it is the way that the nature uses to protects us, getting us ready to react to the stressor.

If the situation is prolonged during a short time, the stress and its changes are something good, but if the situation is prolonged in time, it can be exhausting, cause ulcers, cardiovascular illnesses, migraines, sexual problems, asthma, nervous tics, baldness, diabetes, back pains, and even weight modifications increasing or removing the appetite.


Anything can cause stress, since what a person perceives as irritating or dangerous, can be indifferent for another person in the same situation, that is to say that the stressors are different for different people.

And we should distinguish among the stress produced by pleasant situations (vacations, to get marryed, to win the lottery) that it is known as "eustress".

And the stress produced by unpleasant situations (a divorce, a death, to lose the employment) that it is known as "distress".

For this reason many people carry a load of stress much bigger than they can imagine.

Any change in our routine and any change in our body is lived with stress.

Some of the more common stress producers are:

To work in excess without the appropriate time to recover

To live in places with extreme climates or extreme altitudes

Toxins like the poisons, the tobacco, the alcohol and the drugs

Fights and discussions


The puberty, with all the physical CHANGES that it bears

The pre-menstrual syndrome: once a month, before the menstruation, the lack of the same hormones that produce stress in the puberty, causes stress states in the mature women.

For the same reason, the sudden fall of the hormones level that takes place in front of the childbirth and the abortion, produce stress

The menopause, although of gradual appearance, it produces stress for the lack of the same feminine hormones.

Being in charge of the actions of another person. This produces CHANGES over our life, which we can’t control, and for this reason it is a strong stressor.


As well as different people react in different ways in front of the same stressor, they also feel different things when they have stress and those things can be:






sexual inability







If the stress symptoms persist during many days, it is reasonable to go to see a doctor or to request psychological support.

As emergency measures the doctor can prescribe analgesic, beta blockers, tranquilizers and antidepressants, but the ideal is to learn how to control the stress by natural means like yoga practices, gymnastics, relaxation and mind control.

When the stressor is an unique cause, like a divorce or the loss of a loved one, it is convenient not over weight yourself with concerns and responsibilities, until the organism adapts to the new situation.

But if the stress reasons are a series of different daily stressors, then it is really necessary to think in the necessity of the psychotherapy or the mind control, to learn how to control your reactions in front of an adverse reality.


We have already seen that the stress is part of the natural answers of our organism, and that the good news can produce as much stress as the bad ones.

Therefore it is IMPOSSIBLE to ELIMINATE THE STRESS and all that you can aspire to do is to learn how to manage it, to learn how to react in front of the CHANGES.

The stress lack will lead us easily to the depression, the boredom or a sensation of rejection, and an excessive stress it can make us get sick.


A good stress level doesn’t exist. A person with sedentary habits, can feel stressed if you put him in a work that requires excessive mobility.

A person accustomed to work on the stock market or in positions that requireS a high level of adrenaline and stress, can feel stressed if it is confined to a sedentary work on a desk.

The good level of stress is different for each person, and for that reason each one must determine what he likes and makes him well. And even this way, this level will modify with the years.

When you feel that the stress has gone beyond YOUR acceptable limit, you should look for a way of dealing with the excessive stress, since more than the strong stressors, what makes us feel sick is the accumulated stress.

Once we detect that we carry accumulated stress, we have two ways to solve it, one is to eliminate the stressor from our lives (which is not always possible) another is to modify the way in which we react.

The steps to follow should be:

Learn how to become aware when you have been surpassed by the stress.

What is it it that usually produces stress on you?

What do you feel in your body?

How do you react emotionally?

Recognize what it is that you can do about it:

Can you avoid that situation?

If you can not avoid it, are you able to experience it with less frequency?

Can you shorten the time that you are exposed to that stressor? It is not the same when something breaks your nerves for one hour, that when it does it during the whole day

Learn how to react in different ways

Do you feel responsible for things that you can not control?

Do you feel in the obligation of pleasing everybody?

Do you always want to be right?

Don´t you agree that everything can not be so serious neither so urgent?

Get used to think that the stress is something that you are learning how to control, and NOT something that overcomes you

Learn how to modify your emotional answer

Learn how to breathe slower in front of stressing situations

Practice relaxation and mind control

Take anxiolitics (only if your doctor has prescribed them) until you learn how to control your mind and body

Build a physical reservation to respond better to the stress:

Feed in a moderate form avoiding the excesses of fat and alcohol

Swim, walk, ride in bicycle, practice jogging or gymnastics of some type, three times a week

Try not to have overweight, neither be below a normal weight

Try to not smoke, and not no drink tea or coffee in excess

Learn how to have resting intervals during your work or study

Rest enough at night and if it is possible take a short nap (30 minutes) after lunch.

Modify your social behavior

Frequent your friendships. Mainly those that are mutually protectors (not those that will always hang emotionally from you, without allowing you to do the same thing when you need it)

Put on realistic goals, according with your age and capacity

Put YOU your own goals, don’t live after the goals that OTHER tell you that you should have (beware of fashion)

Prepare yourself to have failures, displeasures, frustrations and sadness, since they are part of the life. NOBODY is perfect, and NOBODY came to this planet only to enjoy it.

Be always kind with yourself and with the other people (although they are not always going to be kind with you) and this will make you feel well

Written by Dr. Roberto A. Bonomi

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Posted on Jul 19th, 2006

I have yet to see a scientist talk about the impact of time viewing in any article. It will ensure the continuing exponential growth in knowledge. I think it is quite possible that this has been part of what has unleashed Pandora’s Box already and it is a far better explanation for many things that the UFOlogists are talking about. There have been a number of recent Popes who say that aliens will come to teach us in this century and there is a scientist/priest who supposedly developed a chronovisor. The combination of already developing technology in Holography, nanotechnology, and quantum teleporting may make it possible to travel to various potential futures with intelligent machines that include the human brain contents which were dumped onto a computer by Stanford in 1999. The lack of dialogue in the media about these things is very troubling to me as people continue to accept our leaders know what they are doing.

I am even more troubled by the difficulty really good teachers have in getting meaningful curriculums approved. The ex-NHL goalie and Ralph Nader lawyer by the name of Ken Dryden wrote a book called In School. The back flap of it has this tidbit for your consideration: "Ken Dryden tackles what he sees as the education debate’s retreat to a safe, unthinking - and ultimately - black and white ground of issues and policies at the expense of people. Ultimately he discovers that good teachers teach people and not just subjects.” (8) Ken was just elected to Parliament from a Toronto area riding and I expect he will achieve very little change, but who knows?


The prevailing medical opinion of ‘experts’ in the specialized field of heart ailments and the like, was that heart disease was incurable and that heart muscle could not regenerate. Not so long ago this nearly militant and totally negative or ‘head in the sand’ aspect of what some call ‘The Toilet Philosophy’ was rampant in the mechanized and unsoulful vestibules of veracity known as medicine. This model is still predominant but on the retreat because of great people like Patch Adams and the wholistic health movement. As the great sage Voltaire said: ‘Man argues. Nature acts!’

Linus Pauling won a Nobel Prize for scientifically showing the benefits of vitamin therapy but it took over twenty five years for other researchers to prove much of his work. Dr Campbell at the University of Alabama finally drove the point home in 2001 when he gave detailed support, in that the immune system of mice produces a three times more effective partner in the fight against illness with the use of Vitamin C. Pauling knew stress was an important factor in how our bodies function. The thalami are far more important than medical science has historically given them credit for, since the allopathic gurus or ‘drug-pushers’ took over the healing arts.

Stress, a Heart Poison

High blood pressure, high cholesterol and lipid levels, poor glucose metabolism–all of these risk factors for heart disease can be identified and measured by scientifically accepted methods. {How do you measure the conscious input of the soul through the Thalami and the immune or endocrine system? This is the circulatory system of the soul according to many long effective remedies of the homeopathic or ‘occult’ genre we have detailed throughout these books. Clearly acupuncture works and it has for thousands of years but only now are researches of a truly open-minded nature taking place.} For that reason, mainstream medicine has concentrated on assessing and treating these medical problems during much of the twentieth century, for the most part leaving aside another integral part of the cardiovascular picture: the effect of stress on the heart, blood and blood vessels. {This book is recommended reading by the editors of Prevention Magazine Health Books, and he is a good doctor.}

The difficulty many physicians have in assessing stress is three-fold: First, except for extreme situations, like the death of a loved one or the imminent threat of physical harm, a clear definition of stress is not available {My ‘twin’ was a lecturer in the convention auditoriums of up to 15,000 people during the Stress Management ‘fad’ of the 70s and early 80s. She would throw dishes or slam doors when unable to handle her stresses. Of course she didn’t tell others these things when advising them what to do.}. Everything that occurs in your life or exists in the atmosphere is technically a stressor because it affects you in some way. If it is very hot out, for instance, your body will adjust to the increased temperature by cooling the skin with perspiration. In this instance, heat is a stressor because it spurs the body to action. If you receive an unexpected bonus from your boss, the excitement {When I decreed that I would win an RX-7 in Mazda’s nationwide salesman contest in 1988 for a month to all my fellow salespeople at Tom Wood’s dealership in Indianapolis - I won! The manager played head games with me for two hours on the day of the announcement. This was the closest I ever came to a heart attack, I think!} the event stimulates may make your heart beat faster, your muscles tense up, your palms sweat. Despite its positive impact, then, the news of your bonus is a stressor because it forces a physiological reaction–one that will be described in more depth below–to occur.

A second problem in relating stress to disease involves how variable our reactions to stress tend to be. Clearly, not everyone responds to stress in the same way. Some people become outwardly aggravated over the slightest mishap while others never blink an eye even when disaster occurs. It should be noted, however, that the outwardly calm person may actually be seething inside, perhaps negatively affecting his or her physiology even more than the person who expresses anger and frustration in a more open way. {The Carnegie Public Speaking Course is an excellent way of learning to adapt to personal stress responses for many people.}

Third, and even more significantly, stressors vary from person to person. For some, a day spent lying on a beach is completely relaxing, while for others such forced recreation is sheer (often blood-pressure raising) torture. It is how you as an individual perceive an event that determines how your body reacts to it.

Despite the difficulties in defining and measuring stress, it has become increasingly clear to even the most hard-nosed mainstream physicians that a connection exists between the mind the emotions, and health. In the study of heart disease, in particular, evidence has begun to mount that excess stress increases the amount of cholesterol in the blood, thus contributing to the development of atherosclerosis. Stress may also increase the heart rate and raise blood pressure. In many individuals, including Melinda, stress results in decreased circulation to the heart muscle itself, often causing the pain known as angina.

Fortunately, it is possible to learn to control both the way you perceive stress and how your body copes with it, at least to a certain extent. Before we discuss relaxation methods with you, however, it is important that you gain an understanding of how stress affects your cardiovascular system and how you, as an individual, may be affected by stress.

The Physiology of Stress

If you’ve ever doubted that there is a connection between your emotions and your internal physiology {Or ESP.}, just think about the first time you fell in love. When you looked across the room and saw the object of your affection, didn’t your heart beat faster? Didn’t your palms sweat? Didn’t you feel as if you might faint because the blood had rushed from your head to your feet as you tried to make your way to the one you loved?

In addition to infatuation, what you were feeling was fear and anticipation–of rejection, of commitment, of the unknown, perhaps even of success–and your body sensed your emotions. In a completely instinctive and interdependent way {ESP}, your brain, your hormones, and your nervous system worked to prepare you to face what you perceived as a threat to your emotional, if not physical, safety. Whether you are conscious of it or not, your body has a remarkable gift for self-preservation. When its internal balance is threatened in any way, it mobilizes immediately, preparing you either to battle the impending danger or to flee from it. We’re perhaps more used to thinking of this response, known as the ‘fight-or-flight response’, as occurring during times of physical danger: Out of nowhere, it seems, a bus bears down on you while you’re crossing the street. Your heart starts to pound and the muscles in your legs and arms tense up. Before you know it, you’re safely across the street, running faster and harder than you’d thought possible.

The sight of your new love and the sight of the bus set off the same chain of reactions in your body. As soon as a threat to your internal harmony is perceived–positive or negative–your body goes into action. In fact, it is no longer possible to discuss a separation between what we think and feel and our physical selves; they are one and the same. You see a bus coming toward you and your heart starts to pound. Thinking back, you recall you felt afraid, and one of the physical manifestations of that fear was your heart beating faster and stronger. You’ve been taught by mainstream medicine to think that your brain ‘told’ your heart to beat faster and your muscles to tense up. However, recent research is showing that your mind exists not only in your brain, but in cells and tissues throughout your body. {And the chakras are critical centers of coordination.}

In particular, two interrelated systems, the autonomic nervous system and the endocrine system, become more active during times of stress. These two systems are so directly related to what is occurring to us emotionally and intellectually that they can be considered the physical representatives of emotions within the body.

The autonomic nervous system controls bodily functions like the heartbeat, intestinal movements, salivation, and other activities of the internal organs. It is divided into two parts that work to balance these activities: The sympathetic nervous system speeds up heart rate, narrows blood vessels, and raises blood pressure during times of physical or emotional stress, while the parasympathetic nervous system works to slow these processes down when the body perceives that the stress has passed.

Indeed, the two parts of the autonomic system represent a perfect example of the balance we know of as health. In Chinese medicine, the sympathetic nervous system is the ‘yang’ {This is a partial analogy that works for his illustration.} and the parasympathetic system is the ‘yin’ of the body and its responses. Bringing your body into harmony during and after stressful periods, by triggering your parasympathetic nervous system into action, is as important to your health as is reacting immediately, through the sympathetic nervous system, to the perceived threats known as stressors.

Directly related to nervous system activity are hormones secreted by the glands of-the endocrine system. The glands release stress hormones into the bloodstream that, in turn, produce various reactions in the organs and tissues of the body. These hormones are nor epinephrine and epinephrine (also called adrenaline). These two hormones are known as catecholamines. Secreted by the adrenal medulla (the internal part of the adrenal gland) and the sympathetic nerve endings themselves, catecholamines stimulate the sympathetic nervous system to raise blood pressure, continue to increase the heart rate, increase the metabolic rate, and make you breathe faster to provide more oxygen to your muscles. They also increase platelet stickiness, increase ‘the possibility of dangerous arrhythmias and strokes, and cause spasm of coronary arteries. (9)

It has been easy for us to visualize certain extremely complex integrations of bodies and component organ to molecular level real aspects by gross and overly general designations and labels. When we actually believe the labels are what we simplify them to be; and then communicate about them as if their function is either exclusive or unaffected by and from the soul and other aspects such as yin and yang or its real ‘chhi’ that surrounds and is part of ALL there is - we end up missing the merit and value of what happens. This author is extremely enlightened in comparison to his counterparts and fairly reflects the wholistic possibilities.

Author of over 60 books available at, and other places where Diverse Druids is sold. Activist for the truth in our soul that has been aborted or which has been occulted by elites to allow them to bamboozle us and make us live in fear rather than LOVE.

Posted on Jul 18th, 2006

Every job has stress, but the workplace environment can seem almost unbearable when working for an over-demanding or unfair boss. You don’t have to like your boss, but you do need to be able to co-exist and co-operate with him for you to be productive and successful at your job.

Other than a change taking place, as I discussed in the article ‘Unhappy at Work? A Change is Coming,’ there is no perfect solution for dealing with a difficult boss, but here are five suggestions that might make your situation a little less painful.

#1) Think of your boss as a parent and you as his teenage child.

This sounds silly at first, but the relationship between you and your boss is very similar to that between a parent and child. Teenagers often have problems with authority and experience disagreements with their parents. Meanwhile, parents often create rules the child believes to be unfair. If the situation gets bad enough, as soon as the child is old enough he finds a way to move out and make it on his own. Parents aren’t perfect and neither are bosses - both will make mistakes.

#2) Do the absolute best job you can.

Sometimes the child misbehaves.

J. Paul Getty once said, “The employer generally gets the employees he deserves.”

Make sure you are the type of employee you would want working for you if you were the boss. I know this goes against the notion of revenge and tucking it to an unfair boss whenever possible, but by doing the best job possible you give the unfair boss less ammunition he can use to make your life miserable. He also might think twice about upsetting one of his better employees when there are plenty of other, easier targets he can take aim at.

Don’t draw attention to yourself. Unless you are the only one your boss has it in for, there should be plenty of others to draw his wrath away from you. Let someone else wear the target on their back.

#3) Learn all that you can from an unfair boss.

We can learn something from everyone we come into contact with. While from a good boss we can learn good management techniques, it is also true that from a poor boss we can learn how not to act. Don’t just suffer, gain something from the situation that will benefit you in the future. Watch how your boss handles different situations and make a mental note of which techniques worked and which failed.

#4) Forget about yesterday.

Yesterday is history, it’s over with. Try not to let your issues from yesterday spoil today. Instead, start each day with a new, positive outlook, telling yourself that today is going to be better.

Sometimes we get into a rut, expect the worse and act accordingly - we subconsciously force a person (in this case, our boss) to act the way we expect him to act. Make sure you are not unintentionally adding fuel to the fire. Starting each day with a fresh slate is the best way to get past previous differences. Holding onto a grudge only hurts yourself.

#5) Take responsibility.

Don’t expect someone else to end your suffering.

Complaining is easy, but it accomplishes very little. Worrying about a problem won’t make it go away while losing sleep and dwelling on an issue only makes it seem worse. You will never be happy if you are focusing on worry. If you are truly in a situation that is causing you pain, you need to begin taking steps to improve the situation.

The Roman Philosopher Sallust said, “Every man is the architect of his own fortune.”

Have you actually looked for another job? Have you tried to improve your skills through in-house training, adult learning centers, books or correspondence courses? Even the smallest step in the right direction is progress. An obstinate boss won’t change his ways, but you can improve your own skills. Why not let your difficult boss be the motivation you use to better yourself?

Gary Mosher is co-author of the award-winning ‘Buddha in the Boardroom’, the business book that shows you how to excel in today’s chaotic and stressful workplace environment, available from Bodhi Tree Publishing, LLC at

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Posted on Jul 18th, 2006

Everyone worries. As bothersome as it is, worry isn’t all bad, and can actually work for you. Worry can give you a jolt of energy, spark your creative thinking, and help you to meet deadlines. The trick is to keep worry under control and these tips will help you do that.

1. Identify the source. Though it can take days, weeks, or even months, identifying the source of your worry is time well spent. You may feel anxious all the time, for example, constantly looking over your shoulder, and thinking something awful is about to happen. Once you’e identified these feelings as anticipatory grief you can do something about them.

2. See the big picture. Or as author Richard Carlson, PhD puts it, "Don’t sweat the small stuff . . . and it’s all small stuff." Carlson says we let ourselves get "worked up over things that, upon closer examination, aren’t really that big a deal." Getting a flat tire on the way to work is nothing compared to chronic disease, famine, or terrorirm. Sometimes it’s hard to see the big picture, so you may have to consciously de-clutter your mind to bring it into focus.

3. Catch the laughs. According to a University of Maryland Medical Center study, humor is good medicine. Michael Miller, MD, Director for the Center for Prventive Cardiology at the Center, says regular exercise and healthy eating can reduce the risk of heart disease, adding, "Perhaps regular, hearty laughter should be added to the list." Miller thinks we should incorporate laughter into our daily lives by reading funny stuff, watching funny videos, and not taking ourselves so seriously.

4. Start a solutions list. Keep your list on a computer or on a notepad. Every time you think of a solution jot it down. Maintain your list for a week and put it away for a few days. Then take it out, pick the best solution, and start working on it. The solution may not produce dramatic results, but you’ve taken a proactive step and are moving forward with life.

5. Take care of yourself. Poor eating hbits and lack of sleep can make worry worse. So eat a balanced diet and try to get eight hours of sleep a night. If you haven’t had a physical exam in a while this may be the time to get one. And even though you’re worried, make time for your friends and social activities.

6. Get moving. Mayo Clinic psychologist Kristen Vickers-Douglas, PhD, in an article on, says there’s "substantial evidence that exercise can enhance mood." You don’t have to run a marathon or lift weights to boost your spirits, a daily walk will do it. Others find spritual comfort in meditation.

7. Appreciate nauture. Life is more beautiful when you take the time to appreciate birds and flowers and trees. Recognizing this fact, five Wisconsin towns got together and crafted the "Leaf Your Worries Behind" tourism campign, a "relaxing autumn getaway in the Northwoods." No matter where you live, take the time to appreciate nature.

8. Watch fewer newscasts. In the era of 24-hour television newscasts the same stories are aired again and again. Often these newscasts contain horrific images, images that are stored in your mind. For peace of mind you may wish to watch one newscast and skip the rest.

9. Get help if you need it. According to "Treatment of Specific Anxiety-Based problems," a chapter posted on the Psychological Self-Help Website, chronic worriers fret for several hours a day. What a waste! If you’re a chronic worrier you may want to take a stress management course or talk with a trained counselor.

10. Credit yourself. You’ve taken steps to keep worry under control and that’s a huge accomplishment. Applaud yourslf, cheer, or dance around the kitchen. Instead of being a worry wort you’re making worry work for you. Good job!

Harriet Hodgson has been a nonfiction writer for 27 years and is a member of the Association of Health Care Journalists. Her latest book, Smiling Through Your Tears: Anticipating Grief, written with Lois Krahn, MD, is available from http;//

Copyright 2005 by Harriet Hodgson. To learn more about her work go to

Posted on Jul 17th, 2006

Do you think you know where stress comes from? I’ll bet you’ll be surprised about what I am about to say!

Before I reveal the secret I need to go over a little known law of physics. It’s called Newton’s Second Law of Motion. This is science applied to human nature. Bear with me on this. Don’t get lost because I start talking about science. This is easy to understand.

Newton’s Second Law of Motion states: for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. While you are sitting on your chair right now you are exerting a force on the chair called weight. Because the chair doesn’t move downwards it must be resisting with the same about of force as your weight.

This is Newton’s Second Law of Motion applied in the real world.

So in order for a force to exist, as per the law, it can only do so because there is an opposing force. Remember for every action (or force) there is an equal and opposite reaction.

Now, can you put force on the air with your hand? No, you can’t. That’s because it won’t push back.

In other words you can’t have pressure unless you have resistance. Do you follow me so far? If not, reread these last three paragraphs so you do.

So in order for you to feel stress, or in other words, pressure, it follows, as per Newton’s Second Law, there is only one reason why you feel pressure and this is

Because You Are Resisting!

You can’t have pressure without resistance, it’s impossible! So if you feel pressure you must be resisting something. You can’t put pressure on air, it won’t stay still.

You can’t use your hard to put pressure on water in a bucket either. Because it won’t stay still.

When we resist change in life, we stagnate. We choose not to change. When we stagnate, we stop the flow of life. When we stop flowing, we become a rigid. When a force, or a change of circumstance in life comes our way, we resist the change necessary to take it in our stride, to flow with the force and take it on the chin you could say. As a result we feel stress.

The more we resist change, the more pressure we feel. When we feel this force or energy, something has to give. If the force persists and we keep resisting, the pressure will build on us.

When pressure builds up on people they let off a form steam like water does under heat energy.

How do people let off steam?

In the form of emotion, which is energy-in-motion. The steam we let off comes in a variety of styles, anger, anxiety, worry, tears, depression even laughter for some people.

What steam do you let off?

Want to know how to deal with stress? Stop resisting change. Let you life flow. All of life by definition means change. Dead trees don’t change much, live ones do. Plants grow and change because they are alive. To not want to change yourself as a person and grow is to embrace stagnation, and that eventually leads to death.

The more you embrace change the more you embrace life.

You become a creator of new events in your life.

Do you realize in the last 10 years of your life in old age you change very little, if at all? People start to embrace stagnation as they get older. The brain is a muscle. If we don’t exercise it, it deteriorates. Doing what we have always done in life isn’t exercising our brain.

Stop seeing problems as reason for stress. See problems as a new an opportunity for experience, a representation of life itself. There are no mistakes in life, just learning experiences. If we don’t learn from them we’re likely to recreate them to get the lesson next time.

A wise man sees all events in life as experiences, without judgement. Stress is created from within. No one makes you stressed, you do it to yourself by your own response to a person or circumstance.

Choose to be stagnant and not roll with the punches and you’ll DO stress. Yes stress is a doing word, it’s something you have a choice to do.

If you choose to interpret a situation as stressful, would every single person on the planet agree with you? That’s a good question to remember next time you think about doing stress.

I’ll leave you with these words from Neale Donald Walsh, What you resist persists. What you look at disappears.

So see experiences and life for what it truly is. A reason to flow and discover the real you, the creator of a new you so you can be the best you, you can be!

There can be no stress without resistance. Always remember Isaac Newton’s Second Law of Motion next time you feel the urge to DO and feel stress!

Tim Stokes is a student of human nature. He helps people to become super achievers in life through their own business success. His own life story is an amazing journey in itself. Conquering fears of public speaking, heights, eletric shocks, spider and many others.

To find out more about Tim Stokes visit his website at or look for his other articles on human behavior and business success. under expet authors.

Posted on Jul 17th, 2006

In a hectic world, it’s all too easy to reach the point of feeling stressed out beyond our ability to cope. Yet it’s our ability to cope that makes all the difference. The point is that stress is not going to go away; it’s here to stay.

If you find yourself reading a book or attending a seminar that says you can eliminate all stress, either throw the book down or leave the room.

You cannot eliminate stress. But you can learn to handle stress successfully.

Let’s look at six different strategies for successfully handling the stress in our lives. Each can be used separately or in conjunction with the others.

1. Talk it out

Whatever we don’t talk out, we act out. That’s a basic rule of mental health. If we don’t discuss the issue, it’s sure to surface in some other way.

2. Take mini-vacations

It’s a mistake to think that we can push hard all year (or maybe longer) and then expect that all our stress can be healed in a one or two week vacation. It just doesn’t happen.

Our bodies, minds and spirits need more frequent breaks. This is especially true if you are one of those people who schedules a vacation as they would a typical work day, so as to get the most out of it.

3. Distinguish between stress and pressure

Stress comes from the outside; pressure, on the other hand, is an inside job. Pressure is what we tell ourselves about the stress.

Here’s a saying I came across recently:

"All the water in the ocean can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside."

Sometimes, telling ourselves something as simple as "I can handle it" is all we need to keep the stress outside of us.

4. Create your own relaxation triggers

This exercise involves three simple steps that allow you to relax anywhere, any time.

Step 1: Picture yourself in a relaxing place. Create as much detail as you can in the picture, making it bright and colorful. Immerse yourself in the scene: See it, hear it, feel it.

Step 2: While you are picturing yourself in this place, create an immediate trigger that will instantly remind you of the relaxed feeling. It could be a snap of the fingers, a word or phrase, or a mental picture. It should quickly and strongly remind you of your relaxing place.

Step 3: When you find yourself in a stressful situation, simply fire off your relaxation trigger and feel the almost-instant relief.

5. Stop worrying

That sounds too simple, but just consider for a moment: What good, what change has come about from worrying?

6. Take action

Do something about what is causing you to worry. It’s difficult to worry when you are busy doing something about it.

This list began with a suggestion that you talk about your stress. That’s a good idea, most of the time. It can become a bad thing, though, if that’s all you do.

To make stress work for you, it’s essential that you take concrete action.

So there are six strategies for making stress work for you. Here’s one more suggestion: Practice one of these each day for the next six days.

At the end of those six days, you’ll have strong tools for dealing with stress.

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