Archive for September, 2006

Posted on Sep 15th, 2006

I’m sure that if you reflect on some of the annoying behaviors that you may repeatedly manifest you’ll get a sense of how they slip into your repertoire silently only to be noticed by you after the fact. Of course by then it’s too late because the damage has already been done. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you how much stress all of this causes you.

These negative behaviors may include, but are not limited to, the following:

1. Being unable to say No when it’s necessary.
2. Being overly controlling.
3. Becoming impatient with clients, staff and colleagues.
4. Losing your cool and getting angry.
5. Procrastination.
6. Unable to adopt new more successful strategies when required.
7. Stopping to look after your emotional, mental and physical health.
8. Sticking to a job that is killing because you’re too afraid of change.
9. Failing to listen to others.
10. And so on.

Such reactions are automatic in nature and leave you feeling trapped and victimized by them. Consequences of such behaviors may include:

1. Becoming exhausted and burnt out.
2. A marked reduction in performance.
3. A loss of energy and motivation.
4. A loss of creativity.
5. Mental and emotional confusion.
6. Job loss.
7. Relationship failures.
8. Emotional, mental and physical illness.
9. Addictive behaviors.
10. Suicidal thoughts.

All of this equates to an increase in stress levels.

Much has been written about methods of becoming aware of such negative automatic behaviors so that you can "head them off at the pass” so to speak. Such strategies often require you to be alert and aware of what is going on in your environment at every moment so that you will be ready for the triggers that set them off.

Unfortunately, if you have ever undertaken such an approach you will readily admit that you would rather be focused on the task at hand rather than have to be vigilant for this unwanted unconscious material. In fact having to do this in many ways actually “increases” you stress level doesn’t it? It only adds one more layer of things to remember.

There is a better way!

What if you could just erase, once and for all, whatever it is inside you that are responsible for the automatic behaviors? What if doing this could free you up to focus all of your energy to what ever else you are doing without any concern that those negative behaviors will creep up behind your back and harm you?

Yes, I can sense that you may be feeling skeptical yet at the same time excited by the prospect that this is even possible. Well let me assure you that it is and that I have been helping individuals do just that over the last ten years with a new but little know modality called the Mind Resonance Process™.

If you’d like to know more about this kindly visit the web link below where I have a special audio message waiting for you.

Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called "Spirituality And Science" (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being. Business URL #1: http://www.telecoaching4u.com

Posted on Sep 15th, 2006

When it is all said and done, do you feel like you stay on an even keel emotionally most of the time? Here is a story about how easy it is to lose one’s emotional balance.

Recently, I was coming home from an evening business meeting in Tokyo. I walked a block, and like all good citizens do in Japan, when I got to the corner and the light was red, I stopped and waited for it to turn green before crossing.

Just as the traffic signal turns amber, to warn drivers to slow down and stop, a motorcycle and its rider slowly grind to a halt. The guy has on a backpack, there is a huge bundle tied to the back seat of the bike, and he has other stuff hanging from the bike handles. He looks like a homeless person who still has enough money to own a bike.

With the bike stops the man uses his feet to balance himself, just as riders always do. The only thing different in this case, is that the man and his bike are leaning quite heavily to the left, as if he has no sense of straight up and down, and can’t feel the pull of gravity.

He wobbles once… he wobbles twice… and then swoosh… . The man, his motorcycle, and all of the stuff he is carrying with him, slide down to the ground.

My first thought is "Wow, this guy must really be drunk, I better get him off his bike and make sure he can’t drive for a while." As I weigh all the variables that might be involved, I notice that everyone else is simply crossing the street as if nothing has happened.

As the guy struggles to get back up, the light turns green and now cars start to whiz by, and I get worried that he will get hit. So as fools often do, I rush in where wise men fear to tread.

I say hello in a loud voice to let him know I am nearby. As he turns to look, I reach out and take the handlebars and right the bike, and walk it over to the side of the road. As I had hoped, he follows along after me, dragging his belongings.

I put the kickstand of the bike down, and the guy starts apologizing profusely, while also thanking me and pointing out how clumsy and foolish he is in general. This act of contrition is a lovely art form in Japanese culture. And I must admit, for the average Westerner, it takes quite a good deal of trial and error practice to reproduce.

I smile at the guy, and playfully ask him if he has had a tough night, and a bit too much to drink. "No, no, nothing at all to drink." he says. "My girlfriend just broke up with me, and I am broken hearted. We divided everything up as equally as we could. I kept the bike and all the rest of what I am carrying. She kept her belongings and the sidecar for the bike, which she always rode around in with me. I guess it’s going to take a while to get used to no longer needing to balance her weight."

I nod my head and smile, to signify that I understand what he is talking about, and indeed, what he says, somehow really touches me.

We look at each other for a moment or two with a sense of brotherhood, and then his face suddenly livens up and he says, "Now that I think about it, maybe I’m the lucky one. I can still get around, but she’s left sitting all alone by the side of the road!"

***

As human beings we have an emotional system, a physical system, an intellectual system, and a spiritual system all working together (hopefully!) at the same time.

Homeostasis comes about when the dynamic range that a person’s multiple systems operate in, create a harmonious balance, and flow together at their optimum. Take in enough food to fuel the system, but not enough food to overburden the system or give yourself a negative emotional image. Take in enough oxygen to fuel your creativity and all of your physical activities, but not enough to hyperventilate. Depend on a friend or loved one to support you, but not to the point that you lose your own sense of balance, and self. Life is a balancing act, and as long as we are alive, the need to maintain, lose, and once again regain our balance, goes on constantly. We don’t so much maintain our balance as a constant. Much more so we need to lose and regain our balance over and over again.

Charlie Badenhop is the originator of Seishindo, an Aikido instructor, NLP trainer, and Ericksonian Hypnotherapist. Benefit from his thought-provoking ideas and a new self-help Practice every two weeks, by subscribing to his complimentary newsletter for individuals and professionals devoted to Somatic Intelligence. Read the articles of Leading Practitioners on Somatics and discover how intelligent our body is and why we should understand the language our body speaks. You can also try the Somatic Self Hypnosis Practice to understand how the way you use your body creates a different experience of the challenges you face.

Posted on Sep 14th, 2006

What is the definition of the word "mistake"?

Well many think it’s doing something that is expected of them but incorrectly so.

I would like to suggest however that a more fundamental definition might be; "Doing something that is not right for you".

Doesn’t that resonate with you at some deep level? At the same time it might also make you feel uncomfortable because you might start to realize that perhaps your entire life starts to feel like a mistake.

What do I mean by this? Well if you look at how you choose to live your life, how happy or stressed you are generally speaking from day to day then I think you will understand what I’m getting at.

If not let me make it clearer. If you are doing what is right for you then it should make you feel happy, calm, at peace, fulfilled, and satisfied should it not?

Is this how you feel most of the time? Not likely correct?

So you see by my definition mistakes abound in your life, don’t they? Now I’m not trying to make your life more difficult than it already is. In fact I’m actually trying to make you more conscious of the consequences of the choices you make for yourself in every moment.

I hope you can see that, even if at first it may make you feel a bit irritated.

So if you have been making "mistakes" by my definition, why is that? Well probably because somewhere in your life you became conditioned into accepting certain beliefs about what was right for you that were false. In other words you allowed yourself to become "programmed" much like how a computer gets programmed.

A computer is told what to do and does it without question, whether it likes it or not. Of course a computer can’t feel anything so it doesn’t matter how unpleasant a task it is given.

But you are not a computer or robot are you? So why are you choosing to behave like one?

Well likely because much of the programming that runs your life is so deeply buried in your unconscious mind and body that you can’t even see that it is there.

The only measure that you have to know that it is however is the level of unhappiness or stress you feel in your life. This is the measure that tells you whether you are going where "you" want to or not.

That’s what makes you different from a computer or a robot. If you want to reclaim you power and your human-ness and stop all of these pre-programmed automatic behaviors that are killing you please visit the web link below where I have a special audio message waiting for you.

Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called "Spirituality And Science" (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.

Business URL #1: http://www.telecoaching4u.com

Personal URL: http://www.telecoaching4u.com/Spirituality_And_Science.htm

Posted on Sep 14th, 2006

In the body, the stress response is mediated by the hypothalamic-adrenal-pituitary axis, or the HPA-axis for short.

When the body perceives stress, the HPA axis, along with the sympathetic nervous system, famous for its “fight of flight” response, are activated together.

Although the stress response is helpful and necessary when dealing with short lived stressors, issues result when the perceived stress remains sustained over a period of time. The sympathetic nervous system (SNS) tends to dominate over its counter balance, the parasympathetic nervous system (PNS). As a result, the individual has difficulty settling back down to their normal physical and emotional state, even if the perceived stress is subsequently removed. Chiropractic care can aid in normalizing sympathetic nerve function.

The HPA-axis is responsible for releasing a hormone known as cortisol, most commonly known as the stress hormone. Cortisol has many diverse physiological functions that occur throughout the body, such as suppressing immune function, increasing blood glucose levels, and breaking down different body tissues. When the stressor is removed, cortisol levels drop and the body returns to its normal level of activity.

Problems result, however, if the perceived stress is not removed. Unless the body has a chance to recover, the effects of stress hormones tend to accumulate and build up. Chronic stress can cause result in either an over activation or an under activation of the HPA axis, depending on the individual. Over activation of the HPA axis may result in increased and sustained levels of the stress hormone cortisol. This in turn can result in a variety of symptoms such as:

  • Anxiety
  • Agitation
  • Irritability
  • Depression
  • Lowered immune response
  • Altered reproductive function
  • Elevated cholesterol levels
  • Elevated triglyceride levels
  • Elevated blood pressure
  • Insulin resistance
  • Fatigue
  • Impaired memory
  • Central obesity
  • Loss of muscle tone and protein wasting
  • Bone mineral loss and impaired injury recovery.
  • In addition, people under stressed emotional states tend to have cravings for sweeter, higher fat foods and more energy dense meals. Without a corresponding increase in physical activity, these individuals tend to experience weight gain as a result.

    Alternatively, the other type of stress response that an individual may experience is an under activation of the HPA axis. Symptoms associated with this state may include:

    • An increased risk of autoimmune diseases
    • An increased risk of inflammatory conditions
    • Apathy
    • Malaise/fatigue
    • Weakness
    • Reduced libido
    • Weight loss
    • Poor, restless sleep
    • Chronic pain
    • Asthma
    • Allergies
    • An inability to carry out routine tasks.
    • If the stress continues unabated, the body can actually experience adrenal fatigue, where the body can no longer deal adequately with the perceived stress. Commonly known as burnout, the body’s ability to respond to any stress becomes compromised.

      Although eliminating stress form one’s life may be the most desired objective, it is not always practical. There are strategies that one may employ to deal with stress. In addition to getting adequate levels of physical activity, restful sleep and eating a well balanced diet, supplementation with adaptogens such as Prime One can be an effective strategy to help mitigate the deleterious effects of stress.

      Author Bio: Dr. Rajiv Laroiya, B.Sc., D.C., F.I.C.P.A., is the Clinical Director of 2 Wellness Centers in Calgary Alberta. He is a Fellow of the International Chiropractic Pediatric Association, and many families across the nation have benefited from his treatments. In addition, he is a Consulting Expert for The Adaptogens for Life Group. For more information about health and stress and what to do, visit us at: http://www.parallelwellness.com and http://www.adaptogensforlife.com

      Posted on Sep 13th, 2006

      According to the Bureau of Standards, "A dense fog covering seven city blocks, to a depth of 100 feet, is composed of something less than one glass of water." So, if all the fog covering seven city blocks, 100 feet deep, were collected and held in a single drinking glass, it would not even fill it. And this could be compared to our worries. If we can see into the future and if we could see our problems in their true light, they wouldn’t tend to blind us to the world, to living itself, but instead could be relegated to their true size and place. And if all the things most people worry about were reduced to their true size, you could probably put them all into a drinking glass, too.

      It’s a well-established fact that as we get older, we worry less. With the passing of the years and the problems each of them yields, we learn that most of our worries are not really worth bothering ourselves about too much and that we can manage to solve the important ones.

      But to younger people, they often find their lives obscured by the fog of worry. Yet, here’s an authoritative estimate of what most people worry about.

      Things that never happen: 40 percent. That is, 40 percent of the things you worry about will never occur anyway.
      Things over and past that can’t be changed by all the worry in the world: 30 percent.
      Needless worries about our health: 12 percent.
      Petty, miscellaneous worries: 10 percent.
      Real, legitimate worries: 8 percent. Only 8 percent of your worries are worth concerning yourself about. Ninety-two percent are pure fog with no substance at all.

      Earl Nightingale co-founded Nightingale Conant an audio publishing company and world leader in personal development with over 2 million loyal customers. In addition to Earl’s audio programs, Lead the Field and The Strangest Secret, Nightingale Conant publishes authors such as Wayne Dyer, Brian Tracy, Napoleon Hill, Deepak Chopra, and many, many more.

      Posted on Sep 13th, 2006

      There are two types of anxiety:

      *Situational
      *Existential.

      Most of us experience both kinds.

      Situational Anxiety

      Common examples of Situational Anxiety that provoke an inner trembling are:

      >Writing an exam,
      >Asking someone for a date,
      >The boss calling us into her office,
      >Entering hospital for a serious operation.

      This kind of anxiety is easily relieved with hypnotherapy. Situational Anxiety is a response to stress. Since you define what is stressful you can change your definition, and your response, with hypnosis.

      That’s because your response to situations is under your control. The control increases the more you use your hypnotic capacities to create confidence and reduce anxiety.

      Existential Anxiety

      Existential Anxiety is universal. It is the frightened wondering we feel about:

      >Why we are here,
      >Why our time is short,
      >What happens after death.

      We deal with existential anxiety in two almost opposite, ways: by denial or by developing meaning.

      Meaning lies mainly in the realms of philosophy and religion. Hypnosis can help you to find the meanings. It does this by helping you relax and use your imagination in creative ways so you can face your questions about the meaning of life.

      Anxiety is nourished by negative thoughts and starved by positive thoughts.

      Your imagination constantly sends messages to your internal organs. These chemical/electrical messages (hormones, for instance) influence your endocrine, nervous and immune systems. When the messages are calming you feel fine; when they are alarming, you feel anxious.

      Hypnosis is your gateway to change those messages. Hypnosis enables you to deal with the symptoms of anxiety, or to get to the root cause.

      That is, you can use hypnosis to better control your worrisome thoughts, stomach upset or clammy hands. Or, with hypnosis, you can uncover the root of your particular anxiety.

      Karl became convinced he was going to die of a heart attack. He frequently suffered with chest pains and the feeling he was about to pass out.

      Karl became anxious about his anxiety. Numerous doctors examined him and declared him physically healthy. Finally, one of the physicians referred Karl to a hypnotherapist.

      Relaxed in hypnosis, Karl rapidly became aware of the origin of his anxiety: his father had died the year before from cancer and Karl felt not only that he had behaved irresponsibly toward his sick father, but guilty that he had wished his mother had died, instead of his father.

      With Karl in hypnosis, several sessions of psychotherapy on these issues calmed his responses and enabled Karl to come to terms with his feelings.

      Feelings of anxiety can arise from organic and physical causes. These possibilities must be explored before you concentrate on psychological causes.

      Organic reasons for anxiety can be any disease or organ malfunction that sends alarm chemicals rushing through your body.

      Physical causes range from smoking cigarettes to drinking colas.

      Rose wanted to be less nervous when she entered public places such as restaurants.

      Her hypnotherapist taught her how to relax into hypnosis. Then he used one of his favourite techniques for the control of anxiety: the Comfort Measure.

      He asked the hypnotized Rose to picture a measuring device such as a thermometer. She chose to imagine a ruler. The hypnotherapist suggested she see the ruler marked off from 0 to 10. Ten represented the most discomfort and 0 the least discomfort, or the most comfortable, that is, no anxiety.

      The hypnotherapist asked Rose to read off the comfort level she was experiencing at the moment. She said "Six."

      Then the therapist asked Rose to see how far down she could push the line marking off her comfort level. When she reported the marker was down to 3, the therapist congratulated Rose and asked her how she was feeling.

      To Rose’s astonishment, she felt quite relaxed. From then on Rose could, and did, use this method to feel comfortable in public places.

      Your feelings are under your control, providing you use your imagination, and not solely your willpower. Like Rose, you can learn various techniques (such as slow deep breathing) to lower anxiety levels both in and out of hypnosis.

      Hypnotherapy will also help you to change the anxiety-arousing messages that float automatically into your head.

      At the door of a restaurant Rose used to be flooded with the certainty that everyone would watch her enter; she would blush deep red and people would notice how much she was perspiring.

      These self-fulfilling prophecies were replaced during hypnotherapy with positive affirmations.

      When Rose enjoyed the results of these post-hypnotic suggestions she further enjoyed the increased self-control they gave her. A virtuous circle had replaced the vicious.

      Copyright (c) 2005 Bryan M. Knight

      Dr Bryan Knight is Canada’s foremost hypno-psychotherapist. His 200+ page website "Hypnosis Headquarters" offers solutions to scores of issues such as phobias, stress, panic attacks and overweight. "From Victim to Victor: Overcoming Childhood Sexual Abuse", is one of several articles that women in particular could find useful. Ebooks, CDs, DVDs and mp3 downloads can be discovered at http://hypnosis.org/women.htm

      Posted on Sep 12th, 2006

      Do you ever have thoughts, feelings or impulses that attempt to hijack you?

      These intense feelings and thoughts come out of nowhere. They show up when you least expect it. It might be anxiety, despair, loneliness, resentment, bitterness, jealousy, or anger. What is your response to this villain who is attempting to take over your mind, body and emotions?

      You have two choices: Willingly become a prisoner, or assert yourself and regain control.

      If you don’t want to be “hijacked,” turn the gun around and hold your thoughts captive. Use your inner voice to coach yourself, and regain control of your emotions. For quick relief, try these five instant "stress soothers:"

      1.Change your perspective. You may not be able to control the source of your stress, but you can control the way you respond to it. Change your perspective by reframing what is happening around you. In other words, change your interpretation. Think about things in a new and positive way. If you’re on the verge of a meltdown, for example, because your spouse trashed the bathroom (and left wet towels on the floor) you could remind yourself that he was running late for work. If your co-worker lashes out at you, remind yourself that they are stressed because of deadlines, quotas, or something else beyond your control. In other words, try to be easy going and don’t take things personally. Whatever happens, strive to be cool, calm and collected. Rather than lashing out and reacting emotionally to difficult people and situations, diffuse your feelings by putting things in a proper perspective. Reframing takes conscious effort, but being flexible and easygoing will reduce your stress level.

      2. Let it go. Be forgiving of others and yourself. There is a difference between conviction and condemnation. Conviction is a healthy form of guilt. If you make a mistake, admit it. Accept responsibility and strive to make things right. Learn from your mistakes. Once you’re dealt with things, let go of all guilt and regret. Don’t rehash, analyze, blame, or continue to ask why things happened the way they did. Don’t condemn yourself; let it go. Release your feelings and don’t apply any more negative energy to the situation. Remember that there is nothing you can do to change the past. Let go of your mistakes. Put it behind you and move on with a clean slate.

      3. Realize that the only person you’re responsible for is yourself. Sometimes obvious solutions are overlooked by the people who need them the most. Your aunt can’t finish a sentence without hacking, and gasps for air after walking up the stairs. The problem? She refuses to stop smoking. There’s a job opening that’s perfect for your unemployed neighbor with seven kids. The problem? He refuses to apply. The man is crippled by feelings of inadequacy and failure. To make matters worse, he refuses to get help for his emotional problems. As much as we want to help other people, they must want to help themselves. We can’t talk them into it. In the long run, individuals must be personally motivated to change. Don’t be stressed out about people, circumstances or events that are beyond your control. If someone refuses to get the help they need, realize that it’s not your responsibility. The only person you’re responsible for is yourself.

      4. Keep a positive mental outlook. You can be resilient to stress in everyday life by thinking positively. Be happy, optimistic, upbeat and adventurous. Let setbacks roll off your back. Change the way you look at problems until you find the best solution. Live your life as a winner, and you’ll perform at your best. Be convinced that you can do anything you set your mind to. No matter what the situation, strive to be cool, calm and collected. Have a good sense of humor about yourself. If all of this seems Pollyannaish to you, consider a person who dwells on negative thoughts, beliefs and attitudes. It will take them twice as long to succeed (if that happens at all.) Pessimism enhances stress, and tends to make things worse.

      5. Be assertive when you need to be. It is important to deal with problems immediately and directly. Speak up for yourself. It may not be appropriate to vent your frustrations at work, but you can confide in a spouse, friend or family member. In other words, express your feelings in a safe environment. Don’t stuff your feelings, or attempt to de-stress by overeating, smoking or drinking excessively. It’s important to be in touch with your feelings and to acknowledge them. Express your thoughts clearly and with conviction. Look at people when you talk to them. You can be assertive and still be considerate of the feelings of others.

      Realistically, there will be always be times when we fall prey to negative emotions. We can train ourselves to recognize these feelings and address them, before they “hijack” us and take us prisoner. Increased awareness and better coping skills will put us on the road to less stress, every time.

      ABOUT THE AUTHOR. Nicky Vanvalkenburgh shares "stress reduction" secrets that will turbo charge your health, wealth, work, and relationships. Check out her website (and get a free e-book) at http://www.20minutestolessstress.com/

      Posted on Sep 12th, 2006

      We are not designed for long term stress.

      It causes us physical damage.

      Coping mechanisms disguise the problem, they do not solve it.

      If you broke a leg would you develop a coping strategy to continue to live with the broken leg, or would you get the leg repaired.

      Stress

      A good day can sometimes be characterised by an event that occurred. An order that was won or a singular success that has put everyone on a high.

      But life is not about singular successes.

      We don’t get married because there was one singular event that turned into love, we don’t support our football team because of one goal that they scored.

      The quality of our lives, the way we feel about ourselves is about an ongoing repeated series of small events.

      If these events are positive then we will feel good.

      If the sum of these events is negative then we start to feel bad.

      The human body is a remarkable thing that is designed in all circumstances to protect itself.

      When we become stressed the body has an automatic reaction to defend itself.

      The reason is that the part of the brain that deals with logical thought shuts down. This allows all of the processing power to concentrate on one of two very simple operations.

      Fight or Flight.

      If this processing power computes that your chances of survival are better if you stayed put then your brain will decide to fight and prepare your body accordingly. If on the other hand your brain’s assessment of the danger is such that your chances of survival are best if you run away, your brain will get revved up, point the body in the right direction and will concentrate all its power on making the flight successful.

      This fight or flight reaction is necessarily of a short duration.

      This is the emergency response during which short term damage to the body is accepted in exchange for the alternative which is non survival.

      In fight or flight mode the body switches off the normal routine maintenance functions and is concentrating on pure survival.

      Unfortunately our modern lives are not quite that simple.

      Our day has become full of situations that cause us stress but for which we are not allowed either of our two natural responses.

      If we are at work and the boss shouts at us for failing to reach a quota or for misplacing last months invoices, we are not allowed to run or fight.

      Instead we are obliged to stand and listen until such time as the boss runs out of rhetoric or forgets why he started shouting in the first place.

      This leaves a huge amount of unresolved stress which in our ancestors would be removed by an adrenaline fuelled activity such as fighting or running.

      In the modern world, after the incident that caused the stress, we look for the release from the stress in different adrenaline fuelled activities.

      We break something, we shout at someone else, we sabotage our work.

      These actions are a direct result of being stressed and are our physiological reaction to the stress that we feel.

      These are our short term reactions to situations that frustrate us and over which we have no control.

      But during our working day the number of times that we are put under stress is increasing and there are only a finite number of opportunities to relieve that stress.

      This leaves the body with a problem.

      There is too much stress and not enough opportunity to relieve it.

      The long term effect of stress on the body is physically damaging.

      We are not designed to be able to manage stress in the long term.

      Our bodies respond to stress in a way that can only be supported in the short term because stress is supposed to indicate an emergency reaction.

      If the stress continues we begin to suffer damage to our bodies as a result of the extended time in a condition that was only ever meant to be used for short term emergencies.

      We create real musculo-skeletal problems for ourselves as a result of extended stress which causes real sickness and long term absence from work.

      If the stress that caused the problem that made us sick is still present at work then we will never be able to return to a productive life.

      But the body has an answer.

      In the modern work place, when we become frustrated we get angry that we are not allowed to do our job and therefore become stressed.

      But we only become stressed if we care.

      We all want to be able to do a good job because we want to care about what we do.

      We want to able to say "Look at me I did that", we want to be proud of what we do.

      If however we are frustrated in our ability to be proud by something outside of our control we start to become stressed.

      The body at this point makes a choice in order to avoid the long term damage that continuous stress causes the body, the body chooses to switch off the stress.

      The body does this by ceasing to care.

      We can only get stressed if we care about the consequences of our actions.

      The body by ceasing to care ceases to be stressed and therefore subject itself to damage.

      This lack of care is seen by most as apathy.

      It is a convenient label to stick onto a workforce to blame them for a failure to perform.

      What we are seeing now is that apathy is not a function of the workforce.

      Apathy is a function of the environment that has been created at work.

      It is that environment that has caused the stress.

      The bodies defensive reaction to the environment that has been created is apathy.

      Apathy is therefore not the cause of the problems but a symptom of the failure of the environment.

      If we change the environment and remove the stress such that staff no longer need to defend themselves against it by becoming apathetic then we have created the conditions that will allow people to start caring about what they do.

      We allow them to take pride in what they do and ultimately allow them to take ownership.

      Imagine the works manager by the gate on a Monday morning moaning to the maintenance supervisor about the quality of the staff that he has been given to work with.

      "It makes me sick" he says "These guys come in here every morning and they switch off as soon as they step through that gate.

      I know they do.

      I see them at the weekend out shopping or at the football The same people are bright, energetic, motivated, animated and then they come in here and they deliberately switch off.

      Look at them, their heads are down, they are not talking to each other, god knows when was the last time that one of them cracked a joke.

      How on earth are we expected to produce anything with people like that?

      The answer is that we can never expect to produce anything unless we can change the working environment.

      By removing stress from the workplace we ultimately allow the workforce to start caring about what they do.

      They will be able to take pride in their work and ultimately ownership.

      When that happens their performance becomes amazing and even the accountants have to admit that it was the right thing to do.

      Stop coping with stress, find the cause then root it out.

      Peter A Hunter, Author of "Breaking the Mould, http://www.breakingthemould.co.uk

      Posted on Sep 11th, 2006

      Some men have a difficult time in managing their stresses and anxieties. It can be difficult but there are ways to handle your stresses and anxieties. Here is a brief list of techniques that men can use to help manage their every day stresses and anxieties.

      Sometimes, we get stressed when everything happens all at once. When this happens, a person should take a deep breathe and try to find something to do for a few minutes to get their mind off of the problem. A person could take a walk, listen to some music, read the newspaper or do an activity that will give them a fresh perspective on things.

      Another technique that is very helpful is to have a small notebook of positive statements that make us feel good. Whenever you come across an affirmation that makes you feel good, write it down in a small notebook that you can carry around with you in your pocket. Whenever you feel anxious, open up your small notebook and read those statements.

      When facing a current or upcoming task that overwhelms you with a lot of anxiety, the first thing you can do is to break the task into a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success.

      In dealing with your anxieties, a person should learn to take it one day at a time. Instead of focusing on exaggerated assumptions that may or may not happen, focus on the present and rely on the facts of the present situation.

      Our anxieties and stresses can sometimes get the best of us, however there are many helpful resources available to us. It might take some hard work and persistence, but it is possible to find those answers in managing your anxieties.

      Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear” an easy to read book that presents a overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com

      Posted on Sep 11th, 2006

      Introduction

      Time magazine called stress the “The Epidemic of the Eighties”. Stress is America’s #1 health problem. The reasons for about 90% of visits to doctors there are stress-related. What is stress, and what are its causes? Why does it lead to doctor visits, and what can you do to reduce it? This article seeks to answer these questions briefly.

      What is Stress and How Does it Affect You?

      Stress is your reactions a threat or challenge. These reactions may cause changes in your body, in your mind or action.

      Changes in your body would include increased heart rate, increased blood pressure, muscle tension, dry mouth, dilated pupils and increased blood sugar levels.

      Concentration problems, forgetfulness, indecision, nervousness, anger and irritability are some of the changes in your mind as a result of stress.

      Examples of changes in action include tremors, difficulty in sleeping, shaky voice, loss of appetite, jumpiness and accident proneness.

      Sources of Stress

      Stress has a number of causes. There are large issues like retirement, divorce, moving, and the death of a loved one. Some relatively minor sources of stress are sitting in a traffic jam while you are late for an appointment, unpaid bills, and an uncooperative neighbour. Our jobs are also a fertile source of stress.

      Children, teenagers, college students the elderly are all experience stress for various reasons.

      Stress-related Ailments

      There is good stress and there is bad stress (distress). Bad stress is the one usually meant when the word is mentioned. Bad stress causes trouble hence it leads to doctor visits.

      Health problems commonly associated with stress are fatigue, sweating, dry mouth or difficulty in swallowing, insomnia or interrupted sleep cycles, relationship or sexual problems, trembling, dizziness, rapid breathing or irregular heart rate and so on.

      Some people turn to hard drugs and alcohol and others take out their frustration on the people they care about the most. But there more acceptable ways of dealing with stress. What are these?

      How to Handle Stress

      (1) Breathe deeply. Relax your muscles, expanding your stomach and chest. Repeat several times.

      (2)Exercise regularly. Neck and shoulder exercises are useful for the desk-bound arthritis sufferers.

      (3) Eat healthy foods. Don’t skip meals. Take time out for lunch no matter how busy you are.

      (4) Don’t let others get you down. Choose positive friends and avoid worriers. Communicate clearly with your co-workers. When instructions are not clear, seek clarification.

      (5) Plan ahead and prevent problems before they occur.

      (6) Retreat to recharge your spirit. Schedule private time every day. You deserve it.

      (7) Savour life’s little delights. Enjoy a movie, watch a sports event, read a book.

      (8) Don’t be filled with gloom. Replace negative self-talk with affirmations.

      (9) Be optimistic. Count your blessings when everything seems to go wrong.

      (10) Plan your time wisely. And realistically. Leave room for unanticipated events. Do one thing at a time.

      (11) Get enough sleep.

      (12) Strive for your dreams. Plan ahead to meet your most cherished

      goals in life.

      You have these twelve keys to stress reduction. Use them and enjoy stress-free living.

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      Copyright Matthew Eigbe 2005

      Matthew Eigbe
      matthew@stressmanagementarticles.com
      Matthew Eigbe is the publisher of Clear Health Guide, a weekly newsletter that seeks to improve your quality of life by making available to you health information in an easy-to-read manner. Suscribe by sending a mail to matbet@stressmanagementarticles.com.

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