Archive for September, 2006

Posted on Sep 10th, 2006

Stress management is an absolute requirement when we get into a mode of defending various beliefs and opinions. We can get to a point where we would rather die than be proven wrong. This mindset can place us in a self-imposed box that closes us off from the wonders that Life offers. However, we can give ourselves immediate relief.

The ego is composed of beliefs, attitudes and the resulting energies. The ego believes these positions are necessary for its’ survival. The ego believes it is right and everything else is wrong.

This variation from reality produces a tremendous amount of stress. Management of this discomfort becomes necessary if we’re going to have a meaningful life. We can make amazing progress by simply letting go of the idea that we have the only right opinion.

Right or wrong depends on context. From the context of a computer programmer, it’s right to spend all day in front of a computer. From the context of a sales person, it’s right to spend all day saying good things about their product.

Stress management becomes necessary when we lose track of the above. You can experience relief when you recognize the above. Socrates said that we all believe we’re doing the right thing.

This right and wrong context extends to all life situations. In the grand scheme of things all of us are divine. In every day living we can simply observe ourselves with love and silently give ourselves approval. Then we can observe other people with love and silently give them approval.

It’s easy to read the above paragraph. However, the above is a powerful tool for living. If you focused on the above as your basic principle for living, your life experience would go through the roof.

Copyright 2006 by Jim Kitzmiller

Jim Kitzmiller conducts self improvement workshops and retreats. He is the author of a home study stress management class.

Posted on Sep 10th, 2006

Matthew 11:28
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

In this verse, Jesus Christ invites those that have struggles and those who are buried with issues and dilemmas. He invites people who have come to the point where they begin to feel as if all hope is lost. Mental, physical and spiritual fatigue are the bi-products of heavy burdens that we attempt to bare single handedly. Trying to handle our problems and situations on our own, more times than not, usually creates un-wanted and un-needed stress. Hebrews 12:3 states that we become faint in our minds, if we do not consider He that endured, "He" being Jesus Christ. To consider Him means to rely on Him - to share our load with Him.

Quite often we are even weighed down by false doctrine and seducing spirits, unknowingly, according to I Timothy 4:1. False slogans and mindsets such as "sometimes we win, sometimes we lose", or "sometimes God says yes, and sometimes he says no," are just two examples of lies that are derived straight from the pits of hell, and are really doctrines of the devil because they are the exact opposite of what the word of God says. According to 2 Corinthians 1:20, God always answers with a "yea", or yes. In 2 Corinthians 2:14 we will find that Apostle Paul says God always causes us to triumph in Christ. Therefore, the mentality of "winning some and losing some" is not scriptural, and if it is not scriptural, or has not been Holy Spirit inspired, then we should not partake in this mindset.

"Well, what are the sources of stress?" you may ask. There are five major sources of stress that I can think of, with five solutions to the sources also.

1) Uncertainty About the Future - Hebrews 10:34-39 teaches us not to relinquish our confidence in the will of God and the promises of God. Verse 38 says that the just shall live by faith.

2) Unresolved Conflict - Ephesians 4:26-27 instructs us to not let a day pass without resolving our conflicts. Doing so will give room for Satan to insert doubt, confusion, worry, along with a host of other demonic spirits, into our hearts and inner man.

3) Unrealistic Comparison - 1 John 4:17 reads "…because as he is, so are we in this world." If we are compared to God Himself, why should we waste time and energy comparing ourselves to our peers and wanting what the Jones’ have. We have eternal life - what more do we need?

4) Unconfessed Sin - In Psalm 32:1-5, David explains that his sin was forgiven when he acknowledged his sin (Verse 5). In verse 3, David said that when he kept silence, or when he held his sin within, his physical condition suffered (his bones waxed old). I believe that a lot of sickness and disease that exists within the bodies of people today are due to unconfessed sins. Confess the sins and begin the healing process.

5) Unrealized Expectation - Romans 5:5 says that as long as we have hope, we will not be ashamed, we will not fail or miss the mark because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts. Hope never fails. Our hope should never end. We shatter the stress of unrealized expectation by sustaining our hope and faith in the word of God.

These five sources of stress are not only trouble for our mental and physical health, but are detrimental to our spiritual growth as Christians. We cannot be used by God to our fullest potential if we continue to allow stress to act as a major stronghold within our daily lives. Cancel the stress today. Cut off stress today. Let’s cast our cares on the Lord and share our burdens with Him. Use the word of God to dismantle the lies of Satan, the enemy of God’s will. As we all know, Satan’s main objective is to steal, kill and destroy. Let’s slam the door shut on Satan’s face by understanding who we are in the eyes of God and understanding God’s promises for us.


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Posted on Sep 9th, 2006

Here’s how to do it. We can observe ourselves. There are ancient meditation practices based on simple self observation.

We take a moment and just notice ourselves. This can be done by noticing the feelings in our bodies. Notice our breathing. Notice the inhale and exhale. You can do this as a regular practice as a powerful stress management technique. You can get fast relief when you find yourself in stressful situations.

If you wish, you can listen to a free audio meditation on self observation. This will help you get started. After you’ve used the audio for a while, you can practice self observation on your own.

What does this have to do with the ego? When we observe "our self" we are usually observing the ego. This observation tends to help us realize that we are not really the ego. This is a very powerful step in stress management. It skyrockets the way we experience life.

You can practice this throughout the day. You might decide to walk very slowly and observing yourself when you’re walking. This greatly increases your awareness and brings you into the Now.

Over time this can be amazingly relaxing practice of stress management. It brings amazing relief. You’ll get more insights about life. You can step out of life’s challenges. You can return to the challenges with a refreshed and relaxed state of mind.

Copyright 2006 by Jim Kitzmiller

Jim Kitzmiller conducts self improvement workshops and retreats. He is the author of a home study stress management class.

Posted on Sep 9th, 2006

An excellent stress reducer can be something as simple as walking or doing any form of physical activity. Physical activity has the ability to calm jangled nerves and improve bad moods. It can have a calming effect, enhance self-esteem and even combat depression.

Stress reducer physical activities trigger the release of endorphins which are potent brain chemicals that relieve pain and stimulate relaxation. The higher the level of endorphins, the greater your sense of calm and well being.

Some research shows that a brisk 20 to 30 minute walk can have the same calming effect of a mild tranquilizer. Overall walking as exercise will just make you feel good.

The key to walking is to use your mind in a positive way while you are in motion. During a 16 week study, people who meditated while they walked reported a decrease in their anxiety level and a more positive feeling about themselves.

A walking exercise program can also be a fantastic workout to help you tone up, lose weight and get into shape. You can even start a treadmill walking workout if you want to stay indoors or like to use the gym. The best thing about walking is that anyone from a novice to a serious athlete can get a good workout.

The key to healthy walking is to walk tall and keep your eyes forward. Hold your shoulders back and don’t slouch. Maintain a natural stride and focus on quicker, not longer strides.

When you start walking your body begins to release endorphins and energy producing chemicals to help fuel your walk. Your heart begins to speed up, boosting the blood flow and warming your muscles. Your joints begin to release lubricating fluid to help you move more easily.

As you continue to walk your body temperature keeps rising, you start to perspire and you begin to burn calories. You feel invigorated and start to relax and feel your body release tension.

Whether you meditate while you walk or just pay attention to counting the number of steps and visualizing each number in your mind, the benefits soon become evident.

You may be surprised at how quickly walking or physical activity can make you feel better, be a good stress reducer and become a habit you enjoy.

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Posted on Sep 8th, 2006

Self esteem and stress management go hand in hand — big time. This is especially true when we desperately seek approval from others. The truth is that we can be our own source of approval.

Have you noticed that the stress free people are often the ones with the highest self esteem. They have a quiet self assurance that is independent of external circumstances. They don’t need to have other people liking them.

Stress management seems to come naturally as part of their style of living. Self esteem isn’t really much of a concern. The strange thing is that many people admire and like them.

As we progress there is less need to control others and outside circumstances. We have a sense of calm and confidence. There is no need to impress anyone. Stress management becomes effortless.

Your own personal stress management / self esteem clinic

This is so simple you won’t believe it! And it’s so simple that you might need to frequently remind yourself to do it.

Do you really believe that you need to have approval from others? Are you at the mercy of other people? Do you need to be liked?

Well here’s a major secret. You can give yourself approval. The beauty of this is that you’re in control of the way you feel. And it works very, very well.

A few years ago I met a fellow who deliberately gave himself approval three hours every day. He is one of the most confident, peaceful, and powerful people I’ve ever met.

This has a cumulative effect. As you use this stress management technique more you keep feeling better. Your self esteem will keep rising and rising.

You can start giving yourself approval by saying words or praise to yourself. Eventually you’ll be able to do this just by doing it with feelings. Feel that you’re a great person. Feel that you are capable. Feel that you are wonderful.

This is not the same as bragging to others about how great you are. You can do this quietly to yourself. Others will catch on without you offending them.

This can feel so good that you might give yourself approval on a regular basis.

Copyright 2006 by Jim Kitzmiller

Jim Kitzmiller conducts self improvement workshops and retreats. He is the author of a home study stress management class.

Posted on Sep 8th, 2006

Who hasn’t experienced "worry" at one time or another? Almost everyone I’m sure. As a result many if not all consider this to be not only a normal human "emotion" but also a necessary fact of life. I would like to show here that in fact "worry" is completely unnecessary.

I begin with the following question. Why do we choose to entertain the state of worry in our minds/bodies?

Well most think that:

1. Worry keeps us alert and in a state of preparedness, thereby,

2. It makes us more able to handle untoward events or situations that may come our way, thereby,

3. It helps protect us from such events, thereby,

4. It keeps us feeling safe, secure, calm and at peace.

In summary then from the above we can say that:

(A): Worry makes us feel safe, secure, calm and at peace.

Now does statement (A) above resonate with you as the truth? (Yes or No)

If you’re not sure I ask you to do the following. Think of something that you worry about. As you are thinking about this allow the feelings of worry to emerge so that you can reacquaint yourself with how it feels to be in the "worried state". Now notice how the worry makes you feel.

I think that most will notice perhaps feelings of uneasiness, tension, anxiety, a sense of dread, feelings of insecurity, feelings of uncertainty, a sense of distractedness, a feeling of heaviness, and perhaps a host of negative thoughts running through your mind.

So what you have just deliniated for yourself is the experience of "worry" itself.

So, now in this experience do you recognize any feelings of security, safety, calmness or inner peace?

If you are honest with yourself I think you will see that none of these feelings exist in that experience of worry, correct?

So that makes statement (A) above false doesn’t it?

At this point you may feel that something strange is going on here. You might ask yourself "Is he trying to trick me or something?".

Well no I’m not trying to trick you. In fact I’m just trying to show you how you’ve been tricking yourself into believing that a falsehood was in fact a truth. The falsehood being statement (A).

You may wish to answer the following questions for yourself at this point in order to experience an remarkable transformation for yourself:

1. Do you recognize that you have been harboring statement (A) inside you as if it were the truth? (Yes or No)

2. Do you want to go on harboring this false statement inside of you? (Yes or No)

3. Is the experience of "worry" toxic to you? (Yes or No)

4. Do you want statement (A) living anywhere inside of you? (Yes or No)

5. Do you want the "worry" living inside of you? (Yes or No)

6. If you answered No to question 2, what is the consequence to you of going on harboring statement (A) inside of you (i.e. to go on believing that it is true)?

Now if you’ve followed me so far you are likely having one of two experiences.

For one you may be feeling a sense of great relief, feeling lighter, feeling energized, feeling more at peace, calmer, a greater sense of security and more optmiistic.

Or, you may be feeling confused and frustrated with the entire exercise.

If you are feeling the former I congratulate you on your courage to take this monumental step forward in your life.

If you are feeling the latter, you are likely still reluctant to let the worry go because you believe at some deeper level that it still is useful to you.

In which ever case if at any time you would like to move further forward in your life kindly contact me at the web links below.

Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called "Spirituality And Science" (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.

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Posted on Sep 7th, 2006

When considering how to start your presentation, here is a brief list of “don’ts.” Do not start by apologizing, tapping your microphone, or making a joke. A little measured humor in your presentation is fine, but do not start with a joke. Whether you get laughs or not, this is not stand up comedy routine and can get you “side tracked.”

Start with your objective and a brief bio. For example: “Good morning, I am Paul Jerard. How would you like to walk away from this workshop with six solutions to manage everyday stress?” This puts the audience in a positive frame of mind. They are mentally answering you with a “yes,” even if they don’t verbally say it.

At this point, you can mention a few of your accomplishments. Your accomplishments are the most impressive part of your bio, but please get straight to the point. There is nothing more boring than listening to self-flattery. So, please stick to a few of your very best accomplishments. This builds credibility and explains why you were selected to make a stress management presentation.

You can always list your complete bio in your written materials and “handouts.” Do not make written materials available, until your presentation is over. The reason for this is they serve as a distraction during the actual presentation. We have become a multi-functioning society, but tasks are completed accurately, when we focus on one thing at a time. This is another reason why workers are so “stressed out,” and why so many products or services are sub-standard.

After a brief bio, I follow up with an overview of objectives, as this is why your audience is listening to you. Emphasize solutions and gravitate away from a grievance committee atmosphere, unless management wants grievances to be “aired out.” As you can imagine, management could be the creator of all the work-related stress.

Bear in mind that we have only considered job stress so far. Many people in your audience have unique situations with their families and friends. Therefore, stress, and their reactions to it, are all different.

Make sure that your stress management presentation has an air of mutual respect. If you appear to “look down on the audience,” you will not be able to present solutions effectively. You have to observe the audience at all times, in order to keep the “communication link” open. This is one good reason why you shouldn’t waste your time memorizing a speech.

If you carry cards with you, that’s fine, but you should have “bullet points” on your cards that you fully understand. In this way, you thoroughly know stress management solutions and your speech will be completely natural.

© Copyright 2006 – Paul Jerard / Aura Publications

Paul Jerard is a co-owner and the director of Yoga teacher training at: Aura Wellness Center, in North Providence, RI. He has been a certified Master Yoga teacher since 1995. He is a master instructor of martial arts, with multiple Black Belts, four martial arts teaching credentials, and was recently inducted into the USA Martial Arts Hall of Fame. He teaches Yoga, martial arts, and fitness to children, adults, and seniors in the greater Providence area. Recently he wrote: Is Running a Yoga Business Right for You? For Yoga students, who may be considering a new career as a Yoga teacher.

Posted on Sep 7th, 2006

This is a tool to measure the amount of stress you experience in your daily life. 66 statements are included. Read slowly and carefully, state how far it is true in your case. You may please choose any one of the following five options to each item.

A. Very true, I agree fully
B. True, I agree
C. I cannot say
D. Not true, I disagree
E. Not true, I totally disagree

Once you finish writing your responses to all items, you can go to the scoring key, given at the end. Now start taking the test.

1. I do things in a hurry.
2. I like to travel slowly.
3. I eat food faster.
4. I never interrupt when others talk.
5. I want to finish works with neatness and perfection.
6. I speak slowly.
7. Seeing lazy people I get angry.
8. I never bet with others.
9. I feel tensed on thinking about my responsibilities.
10. I am not happy to wait in a queue.
11. I always consider the feelings of others while talking.
12. I take intoxicants.
13. I pray regularly.
14. I am interested in religious books.
15. My sexual life is not satisfactory.
16. I watch movies and plays.
17. I practice meditation.
18. I don’t reveal secrets to others.
19. I can’t stay away from home.
20. I fell tensed on unexpected arrival of a guest.
21. I feel disturbed on an unexpected expenditure.
22. I have debts.
23. I quarrel frequently with spouse.
24. I feel that some of my family members are against me.
25. I am not properly understood.
26. I feel devaluated in society.
27. I can’t plan my financial budget properly.
28. I am not being loved.
29. I have a lot of family problems.
30. I reach home late.

31. I discus my problems with family members.
32. I have experiences of loosing job unexpectedly.
33. I am often scolded by superiors for coming late.
34. I fear my work place.
35. I quarrel with colleagues.
36. I had been a scapegoat in fight between superiors.
37. I don’t like in engaging in love affairs.
38. I receive confusing and contradicting instructions from above.
39. My job is boring one.
40. I am not paid adequately.
41. My work evokes prick of conscience.
42. I had to bear injustice silently.
43. I am satisfied at work.
44. I am well trained for my work.
45. I get angry soon.
46. I don’t loose opportunities to help others.
47. I believe and spread rumors.
48. I am a patient listener.
49. I am willing to accept my faults.
50. At times I feel like destroying everything.
51. I suffer from headache.
52. I have fre3quent attacks of chest pain.
53. I have poor appetite.
54. I sweat without reason.
55. I don’t get adequate sleep.
56. I have nightmares.
57. I loose control soon.
58. I hate criticism.
59. I feel anxious.
60. I feel calm.
61. I usually regret for what has happened.
62. I fell sorry.
63. I feel frustrated.
64. I am happy.
65. I am confident.
66. I feel worthless.

For more information on development of this inventory.

Dr. Hari S.Chandran, M.Phil (Psy), Ph.D, PGDPC is working as Cons. Psychologist ,Department of Deaddiction&Mental Health,St.Gregorios Mission Hospital, Parumala. Kerala,

This is a questionnaire to measure your STRESS in different life situations.

Once you finish answering, give scores to each response.

Scores 1,2,3,4,5 respectively for A,B,C,D,E.

Qns. 2, 4, 6, 8, 11, 13, 14, 16, 17, 31, 43, 44, 46, 48, 49, 60, 64, 65 should be scored in the opposite order.( Scores 5,4,3,2,1 respectively for A,B,C,D,E)

Find your total score.

If it is above 150, you should find out what makes you tensed, may be your life style… try to change it.

If above 250, you need professional help to reduce stress.

Thanks, Dr.Hari

Dr. Hari S.Chandran, M.Phil (Psy), Ph.D, PGDPC is working as Cons. Psychologist, Department of Deaddiction & Mental Health, St.Gregorios Mission Hospital, Parumala. Kerala, India

Posted on Sep 6th, 2006

One of the recognized symptoms of stress is waking up in the middle of the night, usually around 3 o’clock, and worrying about your troubles. Why this happens to us isn’t very clear. But lying awake in bed in the middle of the night with only your fears as company is a sure way to make your stress worse and to leave you with a sleepless night. So, for all those who experience panic attacks in the quiet of the night, here is a foolproof way to resolve them, put your mind at complete rest, and send you back to sleep with pleasant dreams.

1. Recognize You’re Panicking. The first thing you must do if you wake up at night in a cold sweat is to recognize what is happening to you. Don’t worry about why. That will just add to your worries. Simply recognize that you are having a panic attack and use this awareness to trigger the steps that follow. Know with absolute certainty that when you do this, your panic will disappear and you will feel right again.

2. Accept Your Panic. Now recognize that you have two choices in what to do with your panic. First, you can… well, panic. In other words, you can trigger the sympathetic branch of your autonomic nervous system and do what your ancestors have done for thousands of years: go into flight or fight mode. This means that you can lie there and grit your teeth against all the anguish going on in your head or you can curl up into a ball and try to hide from it. The trouble with this reaction is that it validates your panic and gives it power over you. The scenario you are creating is: my worries are my tormentors and I am the victim. The alternative reaction is to accept it. Simply say to yourself: ah, there’s that panic attack again. Don’t resist it, don’t run away from it, don’t judge it, and don’t judge yourself. You will find that your surprise tactics will completely bamboozle your panic and put you into a winning position.

3. Notice Your Body Reactions. When we have a panic attack, the thoughts, feelings and reactions are often simultaneous. That means that when you recognize you are panicking, you will often also be reacting in different parts of your body. We now know that our thoughts have a far greater influence on our bodies than we used to believe. Hans Selye’s theory of how stress creates disease is directly based on the idea that our thoughts trigger certain chemical reactions which then appear in different parts of our bodies. Some people get a feeling of drowning or going under, others tremble; some get butterflies or churning sensations in their stomach, others throbbing headaches; some feel as if they’ve been punched in the belly, others get a tightening of their hands and feet. For the moment, just notice where in your body you’re reacting.

4. Breathe Evenly. You’re now going to take the first positive step to resolve your panic and it’s a physical one. You’re going to get rid of all those uncomfortable bodily sensations by practising slow and rhythmical breathing. Simply breathe in to a slow count of 4 or, if you can manage it, 6 or 8. Then breathe out slowly to the same count. Do this rhythmically and consciously and very soon your bodily discomfort will disappear.

5. Kill Your Fear. Now that you have stabilized your physical reactions, you’re going to deal with your mental state. This is the thought or thoughts that caused you to wake up in the first place in panic. When you start to investigate, the thought that’s worrying you will almost certainly be a fear: fear of some harm befalling you, fear of some awful tragedy that you are convinced is going to happen, fear itself. The next thing you must do is very important. You must tell yourself that your fear is not real. You may believe that what you fear is really going to happen; all the evidence tells you it will; all the experts tell you; it is inevitable. However, quietly tell yourself that absolutely nothing on this earth is 100% certain. Don’t take issue with what you’ve been told. Just quietly tell yourself that your F.E.A.R. is False Evidence Appearing Real. It isn’t real at all. If this is a bit tough to do, here’s a way that will really nail it. Check yourself here and now. Almost certainly you will be in no immediate danger. You will probably be safe, warm, comfortable, in no harm, OK. Hold on to this important reality. It is far more real than your imagined fears.

6. Profit From Your Panic. You’ve now dealt with your physical reaction to your panic and the mental cause itself. You now need to take the experience and actually profit from it. Say that again? Did you say, “profit”? Yes, you don’t just want to control your panic, you want to make it a valuable experience. And the way to do that is to move up a notch from the physical and mental reactions and react spiritually. Here are 3 ways you can do that.

• see the panic attack as a problem and all problems as gifts from God. I know that this might be hard when you’ve just woken up in a cold sweat, but if you can see the attack as an experience that will help you grow and become stronger, it will be a valuable experience for you. If you are comfortable with your spiritual side, this will be easier than if you aren’t. For example, one way to do this is to tell yourself that the situation that is worrying you has been sent by God to test your faith. Not to harm you but to make you stronger. You may perceive it to be your worst nightmare, but in the grander scheme of things this could be the greatest thing that has ever happened to you. Since you really don’t know, believe the latter. And when you do that, something really strange will happen to you. You’ll sense yourself thanking God for sending you the problem. Your fear will dissipate and be transformed into gratitude and joy.

• put your situation into context. The chances are that the thing you are worrying about is nothing like the monster you first believed it to be. Instead of focusing on the monster, focus on all the wonderful things in your life. In other words, count your blessings.

• see the joke. Now you might think I’ve really gone over the top. Joke? In the middle of the night just after panicking? Well, yes. Don’t you see the funny trick your mind and body has just played on you? It made you believe one thing when something else was really true. So, just smile at things. If you can, let out a chuckle. And if nobody else is going to mind, let out a roaring laugh.

7. Let Go. There’s one last important thing you have to do before dropping back to sleep. Take all your worries, metaphorically package them into some kind of container and hand them over to God (or whatever higher being you believe in). Simply let go of all your problems and worries and believe with absolute certainty that God wants you to pass them over to him knowing that if you don’t know how to deal with them, he most certainly does. Let go and let God.

There is nothing trivial about waking up at night in a panic. It can be a most terrifying experience. But it can also be managed. Follow these 7 steps and you will find that, not only will you be able to manage your panic, you will actually come out of it an infinitely better person.

© Eric Garner,

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Posted on Sep 6th, 2006


It’s a good thing to do. As the story goes, even God rested one day out of seven.

Yet our culture treats rest like it’s a dirty four-letter word.

Benefits and suggestions

1) Relaxation: You can say you heard it here first - it’s OK to relax. Yet many of us act as if it’s a dangerous or wrong thing to do. Rest brings the relaxation of your mind and your muscles.

2) Recreation: You do not have to stay still to rest. Recreation means to re-create your energy and your life. Make a list of the things you do to relax and for recreation. Now, how many of those have you done in the last month? Not many I bet. To change this, all you have to do is pick one activity, do it, pick another, do it, etc. That’s not too hard, now, is it?

3)Energy: "Runnin’ on empty, runnin’ blind. I’m runnin’ into the sun, but I’m runnin’ behind." Many of us live out these lyrics from the Jackson Browne song. We run on empty from pushing so hard, and then push harder still. True rest restores the energy to run ahead and stay there.

4) Ease: I see this in many of my counseling and coaching clients - an inability to be at ease with themselves, others and their surroundings. We get so revved up in our lives, we become uncomfortable with ease. But as Matthew Broderick said in the movie "Ferris Beuller’s Day Off," "Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop to enjoy it sometimes, it will pass you by."

5) Simplicity: I can always use a little more simplicity in my life, and I’m betting that you can too. Schedules to keep, deadlines to meet, bills to pay, etc. We get seduced into believing that the more scheduled and complex our lives are, the more productive and successful we will become. Quite the opposite is true, however.

6) Solitude: While you do not have to be alone to rest, solitude can certainly be restful. Remember that there are two words for the state of being alone. One word is lonely, not a good or desired state in which to be. Another word for the state of being alone is solitude, which is the enjoyment of being alone.

7) Time: Rest requires time. If you believe you do not have enough time to rest, you have just proven how badly you need to rest. There are times when you must carve out some time to rest. Write it in your calendar and then protect it just like you would any other important appointment. The fear is that when you rest you lose time. The curious paradox is that rest gives you more time.

8) Temple: It’s been said that the body is a temple. If that’s true, then treat your body well.

Rest it.

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