Archive for October, 2006

Posted on Oct 26th, 2006

Your fears, anxieties, and other business related problems have the best of you and you don’t know what to do. You try to manage your anxieties, but are not able to do so. At this point, what you need to do is to be smart in how you manage your stresses.

The most important thing to remember is to manage your fears and anxieties one step at a time. Some people make the mistake of trying to get rid of all of their fears at the same time. When they do this, they are unsuccessful and the fears and anxieties continue bothering the person.

Try to find out what is causing all of your anxiety. If you have trouble, then use the services of a professional to find out what is the source of your fears.

Once you know the source of your anxieties, then try to break the source of your fear into a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success.

For instance, let’s say that you have a fear of speaking in front of a large group of people. In order to get rid of this fear, get into the habit of speaking in front of 10 people. Once you feel comfortable, then try speaking in front of 20 people, then 30 people, and so forth. As you feel comfortable doing this, gradually increase the number of people you speak to. Breaking the overall goal into a series of steps will make it easier to get over your fear of speaking in front of a large group of people.

In addition, learn to take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week or coming month, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with your problems. Focus on the present and stop trying to predict what may happen next week. Next week will take care of itself.

As a Layman, I realize that our anxieties and stresses can sometimes get the best of us, however remember to tackle each fear one step a time. It might take some hard work and persistence, but eventually you will be successful in conquering your fears.

Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear” an easy to read book that presents a overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com

Posted on Oct 26th, 2006

WHAT THE RESEARCH SAYS

Experts in the stress management field have traditionally found it difficult to pinpoint how much stress is optimum. A very recent study, carried out by the University of Ohio, showed the relationship really depended on your definition of performance. In this study, subjects’ ability to recall simple facts seemed to improve as their stress increased, while their ability to think flexibly and apply those facts to new situations deteriorated.

This is interesting for those of us who learned back in basic stress management theory that the relationship between stress and performance always followed an inverted ‘U’-shaped curve. The top of this curve is our optimal stress level. Insufficient stress will leave us feeling bored, tired and lethargic. The closer our stress levels to that ‘optimal stress’ point, the more excited and enthused we become about our work and our lives. Once we get beyond that optimum level, however, things start going downhill fairly quickly. All manner of negative stress responses kick in, and our performance starts to decline.

Unfortunately, useful as both the new research and the old concept are in terms of general understanding, they’re equally frustrating for those of us who are looking for practical ways to optimise our performance. Even if experts could agree on the relationship between stress and performance, it still wouldn’t tell us where our own optimal levels stress lay, because stress responses are so individual.

FOCUSSING ON THE EFFECTS

If we want a practical guide to optimising our performance, it’s probably more useful to step away from the research and redirect our focus. In the same way as we’ve been taught to ‘know a tree by its fruit’, perhaps the most practical way we discover our optimal stress is to look at the effects. We know that a limited level of stress can have positive effects on our performance, including:

- Motivation to start new projects
- Motivation to finish them on time
- Motivation to produce higher quality work
- The feeling that comes with conceptualising tasks as challenges that can be met

At the same time, we also have well documented cases of too much stress leading to:

- Lack of concentration
- Procrastination and demotivation
- Anxiety and/or insomnia
- Emotional overreacting (irritability or tearfulness)

If we focus on these effects, we can identify our optimum stress level by looking at our current performance and motivation levels. It’s not always easy to be objective. Sometimes asking for a second opinion from a friend or colleague can help. Other times a little time spent reflecting – journaling or just thinking it through alone - may be all that’s needed.

Either way, it’s important to look at what stressors are present, and where performance and motivation levels are. It can also be helpful to look at whether there have been any noticeable shifts in either recently, and what events or changes were taking place at the same time (whether or not they felt like stressors at the time)

Once we have a feel for what stressors we’ve been facing, and how we’re really performing, we’re in a better position to understand the relationship between stress and performance in our lives. And once we understand that, ensuring the right level of stress for optimum performance becomes a matter of details.

Copyright 2005 Tanja Gardner

Optimum Life’s Tanja Gardner is a Stress Management Coach and Personal Trainer whose articles on holistic health, relaxation and spirituality have appeared in various media since 1999. Optimum Life is dedicated to providing fitness and stress management services to help clients all over the world achieve their optimum lives. For more information please visit check out http://optimumlife.co.nz, or contact Tanja on tanja@stressmanagementarticles.com.

Posted on Oct 25th, 2006

Twenty-first century life can be defined using one word - stressful! The noise, the deadlines, money, expectations, and time restraints. Sleep deprivation and food cravings, where does it all end? As busy as we are, taking care of all the things that pass our way, the truth is that we create an enormous amount of stress for ourselves. Our minds are stress factories, constantly taking in information, processing it, and creating unnecessary panic that we add to our drained emotions.

The good news is that you can do something about this! The truth is, sometimes we just think too much. We spend hours thinking about things we have to do, things we want to say, things we want to buy or find, etc. We replay our mistakes over and over in our heads. No wonder we have no energy! Instead of using your time and energy storing all this stuff in your head, put your thoughts on paper.

1. Things to do

One wing of this mental stress factory is named, "Things I have to do." Don’t rely on your memory to get you to all your important appointments. When it fails you you’ll be three times as upset. Maintain lists of things to do, and mark next to each task how long the task will take. Number tasks in the order in which you should perform them or group them by priority. This will help you break your larger projects into smaller tasks so they don’t seem overwhelming, and will prevent you from forgetting important deadlines.

When you assign each task a time limit, you can also schedule them right into your day planner. Then you can see that you only have to struggle through your thesis in thirty-minute increments, and then you’re free to go out and play. Bonus!

2. Things to say

The stress factory in our heads has another wing named, "What I want to say." Amazing creatures as we are, we regularly spend hours and hours thinking about conversations, arguments, presentations, and situations in our head. At the end of it all, we’re entirely exhausted, and the real work hasn’t even begun!

If you’re stuck on a conversation with yourself, write it down. You’ll remove the worry of trying to remember what you’re going to tell your boss when you give your notice, or how to phrase that difficult question to your son. Your mind will be free to move on to other, more important and enjoyable tasks.

3. Learning experiences

The most challenging output that you get from this stress factory comes from the wing titled, "What I did wrong." Life is one learning experience after another, cunningly disguised as something we like to call "failure." In the age of better-faster-stronger-first, we’re not encouraged to make mistakes. The winning ticket goes to those who can do it right the first time, straight out of the chute. Just because this mindset is popular doesn’t make it right, and when we don’t get the results we expected, we’re overly harsh about it.

Just like a conversation, work out your situation on paper. What happened? How did it happen? What did you learn? What questions will you ask next time? What do you need to complete the experience? End your journaling with a short note to yourself, congratulating yourself on being smart enough to allow yourself to learn something new. This is the essence of self-growth, which all strong and intelligent people must accept and embrace.

We know how self-defeating our negative thoughts can be, but who would have thought that most of these thoughts could be tamed so easily? Practice these techniques often, and enjoy the lifestyle that comes with having less stress and anxiety. All it takes is paper and a pen!

Kimberly Dawn Wells is a freelance writer and author of several non-fiction books. For more articles by Kimberly, visit http://www.k23enterprises.com/articles.

Posted on Oct 25th, 2006

CHICAGO - According to a recent article in the September 27 issue of Newsweek magazine, 60–90 percent of all doctor visits are for stress-related illnesses. Stress affects us all and it is especially rampant at the office, where it is not only costly to employees but also to the companies they work for in terms of absenteeism and poor performance. Under stress, you cannot perform at your optimum level.

Following is a list of ten ways to deal with office stress that can help you not fall prey to its ill effects:

1. ORGANIZE!

The most important element in overcoming stress is organization. You must learn to organize your time, your records, and even your interruptions (more about each below).

2. PLAN!

End each work day by evaluating what you’ve accomplished that day and, more importantly, by reviewing your schedule for the following day. Schedule telephone calls for times when you are most likely to reach the other party and plan the topics you want to cover prior to the conversation. Review your "to do" list, see what appointments are coming up, what projects you need to work on. List them in order of importance. It needn’t take more than 10 minutes. Then close the book on that work day and go home. Even if you’re stuck in traffic on your way home, your mind should be congestion-free. You’ll even sleep better.

3. PRIORITIZE!

Not enough emphasis can be given to the importance of establishing goals and mapping a strategy that will take you there. Each successive step must be charted as a priority. Make a written list of everything that must be done in order of importance, then tackle the list beginning with the most vital objective before going on to the next task or project in order of importance. Avoid the common practice of procrastinators who usually do the easiest—usually less important—jobs first.

4. TAKE MOOD BREAKS!

At least once in the morning and once in the afternoon take time to leave your desk and do something that will energize you. The August ’04 issue of Entrepreneur magazine suggests trying the "…..stress-relief CD ‘Laugh It Off’ to lift your spirits. The CD features sounds of people laughing to help get you in a giggling mood. Don’t laugh: Experts say the technique works. Priced at $10, the CD is available at HYPERLINK "http://www.heyugly.org" and proceeds from each sale of each CD benefits this 501C3 nonprofit organization that helps teens.

5. DECIDE!

Do it, delegate it, or discard it. Once you get a project, decide how it will be handled and who will handle it. If you elect to do it, assign a priority to the project. If you decide to have someone else do it, act on that decision immediately. Such decisions and actions preclude inertia, work pile-up, and interference from unexpected projects that might later materialize.

6. DELEGATE!

Decide who is going to do the project and communicate your decision and the project deadline date to that person both orally and in writing to ensure no miscommunication or faulty memory. Beyond which, the written word provides visual reinforcement. If you are still overseeing the project, make sure the evaluation at the project’s conclusion is submitted in writing to the person responsible. Remember to commend the person’s efforts when warranted. If results are less than desirable, point out how they might be more effective in the future.

7. CLEAR YOUR DESK!

Desk Stress is made up of silent interruptions that infiltrate the workplace disguised as files that distract from the task at hand, numerous phone messages and reminders strewn on the desk written on tiny scraps of paper, etc. This is called "paper talk" as the files say "read me" and the phone messages scream "call me." The result is a trail of unfinished or unstarted tasks, unanswered letters, unwritten reports, unreturned phone calls, and unread memos and publications — all of which literally haunt your mind. It’s important that you work from a desk cleared of everything unrelated to the project at hand. Everything else should be in files, drawers or closets.

8. GET IT TOGETHER!

Basic to optimum organization is a system where all necessary information is accessible to you: calendar, telephone numbers, projects, goals, appointments, "to-do" list, notes, etc. Most companies and computer systems have management software such as Microsoft Outlook or Act! that will help you eliminate memo sheets, matchbook covers or napkins with notes and numbers. Such a system is essential to planning and tracking relevant activities. With everything in one place, you are reminded to call someone and are provided with the telephone number; while on the phone you can refer to pertinent notes, set an appointment without fear of a schedule conflict, and jot down results and/or future plans. You can reference a "to do" list and check off each item as it is done.

9. DIVIDE AND CONQUER!

When overwhelmed by the enormity of a project, break it down into smaller tasks and get a different (more reasonable) perspective. Deal with only one task at a time.

10. ELIMINATE INTERRUPTIONS!

Added to silent interruptions are the everyday noisy interruptions which occur once every eight minutes in the form of colleague interruptions, telephone calls, meetings, etc. The result is the daily loss of at least one hour of effectiveness. If your desk faces a hallway where you can see co-workers walking by, the chance of one of them stopping in for a chat or consult is strong. Turn your desk away from the door and this will eliminate stop-by distracters. Screen your phone calls so you can decide who you need to talk to and who can go into voice mail for a call–back at a more convenient time. Cut down on meetings or at least keep them to a tight, specific agenda and timeline so they don’t run over.

Betty Hoeffner has been authoring articles for various media outlets for the past 30 years. She is currently president of Hey U.G.L.Y., Inc. NFP, a 501C3 nonprofit organization dedicated to helping teens with self esteem issues. U.G.L.Y. is an acronym meaning Unique Gifted Lovable You. As the organization says, U.G.L.Y. is the new beautiful.

Posted on Oct 24th, 2006

“There’s only one way to have a happy marriage and as soon as I learn what it is I’ll get married again” – Clint Eastwood.

We all experience relationship problems at some time in our lives. Conflicts can arise between spouse, children, parents, friends, co-workers, employees and bosses.

Most of us assume that relationships should just work. Many people think that humans are naturally loving, caring and committed. That’s not necessarily true.

Much of our relationship stress comes from conscious, or unconscious, efforts to change or control other people. You want others to behave in certain ways and when they don’t you become angry and resentful.

The more you try to change them, the more they resist, and the worse the relationship becomes. We can be very critical and judgmental of other people.

These are all patterns to look out for. However, it’s much easier to see this in other people but not in yourself. Watch carefully and try to observe, objectively, how you behave.

Lack of an established network of family and friends makes you more prone to stress. People who are isolated or live alone are unable to talk about their feelings to others.

We know that older people who maintain relationships with their adult children suffer from less stress.

Cope with emotional stress

Loneliness is a common and challenging form of stress. The isolation can sometimes cause you to feel rejected and depressed. But the stress from loneliness can be challenged when you reach out to other people, face-to-face, over the telephone or in writing.

People who are less emotionally stable or have high anxiety levels tend to experience events as more stressful than others do. They tend to have an exaggerated negative response to stress.

Hostile people and anger can be very stressful and even dangerous to the heart, for those with heart disease. Suppressed anger, irritability and hostility causes narrowing of the arteries, which is a major factor in heart disease.

It’s often the case that you get sick or injure yourself when you are recovering from a difficult situation or emotionally trying event. You manage to stay focussed throughout the crisis, and when the relaxation response kicks-in, you find you pull a muscle in your back or you get a migraine.

These are the results of emotional stress. It can result from closing the door on a relationship, learning to live alone again, or major life changes such as bereavement.

There are ways of managing emotional stress. Firstly, acknowledge that you are suffering from stress. And Then try different stress management techniques, such as massage, aromatherapy and a chiropractor.

Also, for emotional stress, good diet, exercise, adequate rest, and a positive mental outlook, are all helpful.

How to release your emotional stress

Here is a very simple technique that really works,

· Close your eyes place a few fingers on your forehead.
· Visualise the emotion as a movie in your head. Most of us can see pictures in our mind or visualise easily.
· Continue until the pictures fades after a few minutes.

This technique works because when you are under stress the circulation in our brains goes to the back of our head where long-term memory is held.

Placing the hand on the forehead moves the circulation to the front. Within a few minutes you should be less emotional about the situation or event that caused the stress.

The stress doctor provides advice, tips, tools and techniques for beating your stress problems. You can get a free short report "18 health problems linked to stress you should know about" or get daily "Stress Buster Tips" at http://www.howtobeatstress.com

Posted on Oct 24th, 2006

My son was watching a Richard Scarry video this morning as I was doing my usual rushing around, getting ready to leave the house. He’s watched it countless times, but I’ve never managed to sit through the entire thing. This morning one song caught my attention, "If you’re happy and you know it, clap your hands", which I sang many many times as a child in Sunday School, and always followed with "If you’re happy and you know it, then your life will surely show it …" In the version I heard this morning, the first verse was followed by "If you’re angry and you know it, stomp your feet", which made me pause a moment. I muttered to my husband, "Since when do kids need to be taught to stomp their feet when they’re angry?"

What do we do with anger? What do we do with any of our emotions? Are they a right, a luxury, an indulgence, or just a part of being who we are? Some of us "wear our heart on our sleeves," leaving those around with no doubts about what we’re feeling. Others (myself included) tend to keep a poker face, leaving everyone guessing. Sound familiar? Both extremes have their advantages, but as I muttered this morning, kids at least seem to start out putting their emotions out there for all to see, and aren’t one bit shy about it.

The key in all of this? What do you DO with the feelings once you’ve looked them deep in the eye and acknowledged that they are yours? Do you stamp your feet? Clap your hands? Act them out? Give them away? The very bottom line … do you react, do you release, and do you respond? The three basic R’s … three healthy stages.

Reactions are more or less involuntary and spur of the moment. There is no thought involved, but an instinctive gut reaction based on the emotion you’re feeling. Releasing emotions has two parts. First, release everyone but yourself from any responsibility for the emotion. It’s your feeling and your responsibility. Then you can choose to release the emotion entirely and give it up to God or to the universe if you wish, or follow it up with a response. Responses are based on thoughts and reasoning rather than feelings. I believe there is a place and a time for all three, so long as the emotions are acknowledged first. At times a gut reaction may be the most healthy and helpful, usually when associated with positive emotions like joy, love, affection, and so on. Negative emotions like anger usually work better when you make it past a gut reaction to release and response.

Sometimes emotions are overwhelming and we almost can’t help but react. Making a very raw painting was my reaction to a super-strong feeling of anger a few weeks ago … rather than break something (my first impulse), I grabbed the brushes and paints and went to it. I admitted I was angry, and then checked my first reaction and let fly with a slightly controlled response instead. Potential disaster and regret averted!

One last thought on sharing your feelings … letting others know how you feel, especially in a responsive way, gives them the opportunity to respond back to you. Chances are if they can see your face or hear your tone of voice they have a good idea how you feel, but telling them has a much greater impact. The R that doesn’t belong, Repression, never helps. Feelings in the open can be addressed, and I love the fact that my son is old enough now to not only stamp his feet and clap his hands, but to tell me how he feels about things so we can talk about it. Go on then … keep the three R’s in mind when dealing with your feelings … react with abandon, release always, and respond wisely.

Bethany Rule is an experienced personal and professional life coach, championing human development, encouraging change, and helping you break your own rules. Based in NYC, she works with clients all over the world. Please visit http://www.bethanyrule.com to learn more.

Posted on Oct 23rd, 2006

Many surveys and studies confirm that work pressures and fears are, by far, the leading source of stress for adults in the western world. Here are just a few statistics. More than 50% of workers often spend 12-hour-days on work related duties and frequently skip lunch due to the stress of job demands.

According to an International Labour Organisation study, workers put in an equivalent of an extra 40-hour week in the year 2000, compared with 10 years earlier.

It’s estimated that one million workers are absent every day due to stress. 40% of job turnover is due to stress. And 60-80% of accidents on the job is stress related.

Job related stress is more likely to become chronic because it’s such a large part of your daily life.

What are the causes of stress at work?

The most common complaints include,

· Having no participation in decisions that affect your responsibilities.

· Unrelenting or unreasonable demands for performance.

· Lack of communication.

· Conflicts between workers or employers.

· Lack of job security.

· Long hours.

· Excessive time spent away from home and family.

· Office politics.

· Wages not equal to your levels of responsibility.

Many companies often put intense pressure on employees to perform, which can lead to high levels of tension.

For employers, treating stress has many benefits. In one study a company set up a two year stress management and education program which saved money both in compensation costs and less days lost due to sickness.

In Japan, where culturally, expectation levels are very high, approaches to reducing workplace stress include educational consultation programs for each individual worker.

Techniques to reduce work-related stress

Here are a few ways to reduce your stress at work,

· Find a sympathetic manager or personnel manager to talk to about your job stress concerns. This can be effective if it’s non-confrontational.

· Establish a network of friends at work and home.

· Re-structure your working day and priorities to eliminate unnecessary tasks.

· Focus on the positive aspects of your work, but if the job is unendurable, plan and execute a career change or transfer roles within the company.

· Schedule pleasant activities frequently and perhaps some physical exercise during lunch.

There is one last cause of stress at work. And it slowly but effectively erodes your health, dreams and happiness. None of the stress relief techniques will help if you are in the wrong job or industry. There is only one answer to this.

You have to work out what you want to do with your life. What activities you love. And you have to plan a career change. Stress caused by job dissatisfaction will never go away until you get a job you love, or at least like.

The stress doctor provides advice, tips, tools and techniques for beating your stress problems. You can get a free short report "18 health problems linked to stress you should know about" or get daily "Stress Buster Tips" at http://www.howtobeatstress.com

Posted on Oct 23rd, 2006

If you suffer from insomnia of any kind, the chances are you don’t need to be told that there’s a significant connection between sleep problems like insomnia and stress. In fact, as cases of insomnia and related sleep problems increase, more and more people find themselves caught between the pressures and responsibilities of daily life and their desire for a good night’s sleep.

The good news is that insomnia and stress don’t have to go hand in hand. There are a variety of productive ways that you can reduce stress and increase your chances of getting a good night’s sleep at the same time.

If you have already taken the basic steps necessary for a good night’s sleep (the 5 steps to better sleep outlined in my previous article and published here), the chances are you’re suffering from stress-induced insomnia, and it’s time for you to take action. That’s because anxiety of any kind has quantifiable physiological effects such as increasing your blood pressure, your heart rate and your body temperature – which in turn disrupt your body’s natural propensity for sleep and disturb your body’s nightly sleep functions. In other words, anxiety doesn’t just reduce the amount of sleep you are able to get - it damages the quality of the sleep that you do enjoy.

Fortunately, you can reduce stress and improve your sleep fairly simply by undertaking some form of regular relaxation exercise. Depending upon your preference and your degree of stress, there are several different ways to improve your sleep quality through relaxation.

For some people all it takes to reduce stress is a warm bath and some sleep-promoting aromatherapy. Using calming aromatherapy candles or adding soothing essential oils to your bath are the perfect way to diffuse anxiety and induce the sleep you need after a long day.

If you find yourself suffering from more severe stress and insomnia, you may also want to try a guided relaxation or meditation exercise to promote a good night’s sleep. This can be as simple as spending fifteen to thirty minutes sitting comfortably in silence, or as involved as using a specially prepared CD or DVD for a more structured meditation that guides you gently towards sleep. Taking an afternoon yoga class or learning some deep breathing exercises are also excellent natural sleep remedies.

The best approach to including any sleep enhancing relaxation exercise (from sleep-inducing aromatherapy to guided meditation) is to try one approach for at least two weeks and see how you get on. Because your body responds best to routine – especially when it comes to sleep – this will give your sleep cycle a chance to properly adjust. If, after a couple of weeks you find that your chosen approach is having little effect, don’t despair. Simply try another approach until you find a method that works best for you.

It won’t take long for you to discover a relaxation exercise that suits your needs and the chances are you’ll both reduce stress and be enjoying a long, restful night’s sleep sooner, rather than later.

Copyright © 2005 Donald Saunders

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Posted on Oct 22nd, 2006

When an object is flexible and adapts easily to the changes in its environment then it is more likely to survive those changes.

On the other hand when it is rigid the same changes will permeate the inflexible structure and force it to change, often in ways that will cause it to shatter or disintegrate.

A simple example: note what happens to a glass sphere when dropped vs. the same for a rubber sphere. The "flexibility" or "adaptability" of the latter to such an environmental change is significantly greater. On the other hand, glass is more "adaptable”to a change in temperature than say rubber.

Applying this concept of "flexibility" or "adaptability" to one’s personality can yield fruit in terms of helping us understand what characteristics might enhance one’s overall resilience to environmental changes.

One way to conceptualize and operationalize what we call personality is to consider the conditioned beliefs upon which it is based. Such beliefs, acquired during one’s early life, affect one’s perceptual, emotional, behavioral and physiological responses to changes in one’s environment.

For instance, if one believes that any change in one’s life situation is associated with unknown and dangerous outcomes then one’s response to any change is likely to manifest as some of the following:

a) A fear of change.

b) A fear of making decisions.

c) Feelings of pervasive anxiety.

d) Feelings of helplessness and vulnerability.

e) Behavior that seeks to avoid turbulent environments.

f) Fear of engaging new relationships.

g) An inability to respond effectively when changes do occur.

And so on.

This illustrates how conditioned beliefs can affect the adaptability of a personality and therefore its overall resilience. Such beliefs make the personality structure rigid and vulnerable to disintegration in the face of real and perceived change.

Stress is what one feels when their personality structure is being "tested" in this way. So if an individual has a set of beliefs that add rigidity to their personality structure they are more likely to "feel stressed".

Adding resilience to one’s personality structure is then simply a matter of changing one’s repertoire of deeply held beliefs. In order to effect this many forms of therapy attempt to help individuals "reframe" what they perceive to be happening around them. Reframing is a process in which one is taught to think about something in a new and positive way.

Reframing essentially adds some level of flexibility to the personality structure by giving it more ways of responding to change than it had before. One thing it doesn’t do however is address the already present inflexible beliefs that were originally conditioned from early life experience. They continue to remain part of the personality structure, much like one’s “Achilles’ Heel”.

This leaves the individual prone to falling back into the "groove" of the conditioned belief rather than the reframed belief. When this occurs the individual is again stuck in a rigidified state and susceptible to feeling stressed.

Another drawback to reframing is that the individual has to consciously remember to do the reframing exercise each time something untoward occurs to them. In other words a great deal of attention or conscious effort is required to keep the individual prepared to ward off the stress response.

Clearly this is untenable in daily life as one’s attention must necessarily address other more pressing things on a regular basis. If one were to be constantly on guard and prepared to "rethink" what is happening to one it would severely incapacitate their ability to function.

There is now a more reliable way to rapidly and permanently enhance the flexibility and resilience of one’s personality that addresses both of the problems mentioned above. A new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM)(MRP) has the remarkable ability to easily and permanently release conditioned beliefs from the personality structure altogether.

The effect of such an undertaking is to automatically free the individual from the rigidity that the offending and limiting beliefs posed in the first place. This often leaves individuals with a feeling most have never experienced before in their entire lives.

It includes some of the following: feelings of lightness, detachment, great resilience, inner peace and calm, great inner strength, self confidence, self esteem, a sense of empowerment, greater vitality, more energized and much more.

What’s more, this is something that occurs spontaneously and which requires no ongoing conscious effort on the art of the individual once the offending belief is released.

It is my view, as has already been shown, that this new approach will usher in an entirely new way of helping individuals gain the much needed resilience necessary to deal with our rapidly changing world.

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Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called "Spirituality And Science" (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.

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Posted on Oct 22nd, 2006

"Slow down, you move too fast, you’ve got to make the [moment] last!"

Do you ever hear that nagging voice that says, "Stop!" "Slowdown!" "Meditate" "Breathe" "Enjoy your kids while they’re still young"?

What is the wisdom here for you in that nagging voice? We tend to ignore this wisdom and forge ahead. We have places to go, committees to run, projects to do - we don’t have time to slow down!

Expense ~

But, at what expense? What is the cost TO YOU if you don’t slow down? Peace, balance, health? Are you taking time to look at the amazing flowers, enjoy a cook out with friends and family, play a game of badminton with your children, soak up the warmth of the sun, or read a good summertime book?

Slow Down This Week ~

How can you slow down this week, take care of yourself, and nurture yourself? It doesn’t have to be a substantial amount of time, perhaps just taking a few hours off from your merry-go-round life style.

The benefits will be significant ~

When you take the time to slow down and nurture yourself and your spirit, the benefits will be significant. Your productivity will increase, your relationships with others will improve, your family will be happier because you are happier, and you will feel calmer, healthier and refreshed.

As Dr. Phil McGraw says "We’re like bank accounts: If we only make withdraws (carpooling, working late, etc) we wind up emotionally and physically bankrupt. We all must make regular deposits to our minds, souls, and bodies. You must take time for you."

My challenge to you ~

Therefore, I offer you a challenge - to create 2 ways that you can slow down this week and make a deposit into YOUR personal "bank account." A few ideas include:

Explore your state without a map

Have a clambake on the beach

Learn to fish

Meditate by the moonlight

Play hide and seek with your children

Take an afternoon off and play golf or visit a museum with someone who inspires you

Drink a cup of iced tea under a shade tree

Swim in a lake

Take your spouse/loved one on a "mystery date" - surprise them with dinner at a special restaurant, a boat ride on the river, and dancing

"Don’t hurry, don’t worry. You’re only here for a short visit. So be sure to stop and smell the flowers." Walter C. Hagen

Lori Woodhouse, MSW, Life Coach, is dedicated to helping men and women create balance, fulfillment, direction and success in their personal and professional lives. To sign up for Lori’s monthly newsletter: http://www.loriwoodhouse.com/newsletter.html

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Copyright 2005 Lori Woodhouse

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