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Posted on Aug 3rd, 2006

Question 1

“How do I get more time to play?”

Answer: Schedule it in. Why? Because if you don’t schedule it you will generally let other things have a higher priority and put yourself and a life further down the list. So just write 15 minutes a day, play time into your diary and don’t change it for anything. To get started, get your diary NOW and write in one fun thing you have been hanging out to do. Call a friend and tell them that you are going to do it, and DO IT today. Question 2

“What happens when I feel guilty for not working?”

Answer: Get over it, and value yourself. Here’s why: Emotions like guilt are more damaging to your health than physical stress. So, when you feel guilty for taking a break reward yourself for noticing and tack an extra five minutes playtime onto that break. If you give yourself a hard time for feeling guilty you add more stress. Relax and realise you are human we all need a break. Even your computer gets downtime and goes into “energy save” mode. Question 3

“How do I stop myself getting frustrated with life?”

Answer: Realise your expectations are just that, your expectations. Why? Because you only get frustrated when your expectations are not met. Get over that you cannot control everything or everyone. Relax and go with the flow. Ylang Ylang essential oil helps release anger that can come from frustration. It helps you relax and enjoy life your life. Vaporise it at home and work to relax. Question 4

“Where do I get the discipline to say No?”

Answer: Realise discipline is easier to handle than regret. Here’s why: You cannot turn back time, and regret sucks the life out of you. Saying no to stuff that is draining your energy for life, feeds you the energy to keep saying no. Consider living by the rule “If its hard to do, all the more reason to do it”. If you play that game, you have self-discipline and can say NO easily.

Question 5

“How do I leave work on time?”

Answer: Make you the priority. Why? Because you are the only one in control of your life and it’s only you who can make it happen. Start telling yourself and everyone else that you finish and leave work at 5pm. If you keep saying you never get away on time, you won’t. Use positive language to get what you want. Question 6

“What happens if I ask for what I want?”

Answer: You will gain the respect of others for actually asking for help. Here’s why: People admire people who are straight and honest with them. It helps validate how they are also feeling. We all basically want the same things in life, but most people won’t show their “humanness” and ask for what they want. If you don’t ask in the first place you have no possibility of getting it. So create the possibility and ask for what you want. Question 7

“How do I get a social life?”

Answer: Get out and meet people. Why? Hiding from life only fuels the problem. Stop using work as an excuse and an avoidance tactic. Go for quality people and outings not quantity at first. If you need to be in control, bring people to your safe place like maybe home or local café and have a casual dinner or lunch. Question 8

“Why don’t I feel deserving of rest time?”

Answer: You have too much fun whining about it. Here’s why: It’s easier to complain about stuff than to do something about it. If you respected yourself and took quality rest time, you would have nothing to whine about. Wow you would be happy. Shock. So, get off your soapbox about not having enough time and not being deserving and get on living the happy life you deserve. Question 9

“How do get more energy for life?”

Answer: Do something you enjoy. Why? You always naturally have the energy for the things you love doing. So just change your perception to what you are doing. If you tell yourself you are tired and life is now fun. That is what it will be. Change your perception to what is happening, tell yourself you have all the energy you need and you love life. Question 10

“What happens if I don’t plan for play?”

Answer: You won’t get it. Here’s why: It’s easier to do something for someone else than for yourself. So schedule it to the tiniest detail like you would a task at work, and focus on the joy that playtime will bring. Planning to this amount of detail feeds you energy and excites you into doing it more often. Write tomorrow’s playtime in your diary right now. Question 11

“How do I get balanced?”

Answer: Allow yourself to be human. Why? Because no one person or thing is ever perfect. You will drive yourself mad trying to be perfect. Being balanced is noticing if you are not balanced and taking action to rectify it. For instance if you have extra coffee today the world will not end, simply have two extra waters to balance it out. Question 12

“What do I do if I’m in overwhelm?”

Answer: Stop and breathe. Here’s why: Breathing keeps you alive. It really does. If you don’t breathe when overwhelmed, you will never think straight to get yourself out of it. So stop, breathe, see what is really happening compared to what you think is happening and deal with it. Question 13

“How do I take a block of time off?”

Answer: Plan ahead and schedule it. Why? Something will always come up otherwise. Commit to your health and wellness. Time away from work is the time you will get your best ideas, because your mind is free to be creative. If you don’t already have a break of at least two weeks planned for this year, do it now. If you need to apply for the time off, apply today, then work out where you want to go. Question 14

“What happens when I don’t eat properly or I skip meals?”

Answer: You increase your chance of losing your life. Here’s why: Food is the fuel that keeps you alive. It’s that simple, and the first thing that goes hungry is your brain. How can you think straight if your brain is not nourished? See food as a fuel and behave in your eating six days a week and have one FREE DAY a week to let loose. Question 15

“How do I make me the priority?”

Answer: You stop making excuses and do it. Why? You deserve to be happy and to enjoy life. Get a close friend to keep you in check. Each time you are copping out and not looking after yourself, ask for their help. And you do the same for them. Be honest with each other, plan for fun and get a life.

About Jennifer Jefferies

Life Balancing expert Jennifer Jefferies is one of Australia’s best-known authors and speakers. Jennifer’s simple, practical and proven 7 Steps to Sanity can help bring balance to anyone who wants to have it all without sacrificing their health, sanity or sense of humour along the way. Jennifer is a qualified health practitioner, who speaks to corporations throughout Australia, New Zealand and Southeast Asia, sharing practical real-life strategies that help people to improve their health, wellbeing and productivity by finding balance in their lives. Jennifer has also written numerous books and e-books and life balancing products. You can contact Jennifer at:

Jennifer Jefferies International Pty Ltd
Po Box 4298,
Elanora, QLD 4221 Australia
Phone: +61 7 55986035
http://www.jenniferjefferies.com

Posted on Jul 25th, 2006

I’m so excited that I have discovered this secret today. It’s something that I promise will reduce the stress level in your lives. It’s easy, convenient and all you have to do is plan: THE NIGHT BEFORE!

Today was the third day of school for my son Jeremy. Today we were among the very first people at school. Every single day, the kids line up in the parking lot at the school with their teachers. At 7:55am, the principal, Mrs. Katie Walsh, directs the students in The Lord’s Prayer, and the Pledge of Allegiance. It’s a wonderful tradition and unites the school every single day.

Today, because Jeremy was the first boy in his class to arrive, he got to be the line leader! Now, if you know anything about kindergarten, The LINE Leader is a VERY special thing to be. It’s the first person in line. It’s the leader. It’s the HEAD HONCHO!! And today, Jeremy was the line leader! That made him feel special and I know this because he told the teacher that he was the FIRST person in the class to get there this morning. He was quite proud of that fact.

Yesterday though? A totally different story! Yesterday Jeremy and I were running across the parking lot to get there before the class went inside. We completely missed the prayer AND the Pledge and I was rushing him so much he started crying and nearly sat down in the middle of the parking lot. When we got there, I pretty much threw him in line, kissed him goodbye and both of us were nervous with adrenaline as we said goodbye. Whew! We JUST made it. The alternative was the go to the principals’ office to sign him in. I just can’t see me going to the PRINCIPAL’S office during the first week of school. Especially since I was NEVER sent to the Principal’s office in my whole 12 years of school! (Yes, believe it or not.. I was one of the GOOD GIRLS!)

So I vowed last night to get to school early. Sway and I double checked all of our clocks with the world clock. We set them all on time and I set my wrist watch a bit fast. I made sure last night that his book bag was ready, his uniform was ironed and we all got to bed early. My clock went off 15 minutes earlier this morning and we didn’t let Jeremy linger in bed this morning. We fed him, got his snack put together and got him dressed with time to spare.

Was it easy? OF COURSE not! We struggled like crazy to get him to get out of bed, to get him fed and to get dressed. But Sway and I worked together to get it done. Sure we had some crying fits and I think there were a few tense moments from all of our ends, but we did it and we got there early with a LOT of time to spare.

It was great! We got to sit in the car and talk about the day. We got to talk about what the day could be like if he had really good behavior. We talked about him meeting some new kids and introducing himself to others and being kind to others. We even got to call Jeremy’s daddy and tell him how early we were.

When we got to the parking lot, I got to talk with Mrs. Dowell, his teacher and he got to share with her how he helped me yesterday when I sprained my ankle. She was delighted that he helped his mommy and showed the appropriate amount of pride.

Then Jeremy got to stand in line as the other boys lined up behind him. I got to socialize with the other mommies which is always fun. I got to kiss him goodbye as they walked away and he seemed fine today.

It was such a great day that I’m convinced that our habits can change. We can get to bed early EVERY night. We can prepare everything in advance and have a smooth morning and get to school early every day. It’s worth striving for. I want my little boy to get in the habit of being early and enjoying the feelings that it brings.

I want to apply this tactic to every part of my life. To my coaching appointments, to church, or anywhere I must be on a regular basis. I like the feeling of being prepared instead of just arriving in a rush and trying to catch up with everyone else. I like not having the adrenaline rush and having to calm down. I learned this lesson years ago when arriving to the airport and I’ve never regretted getting there early. I’ve always been perfectly calm, cool and collected when I travel. Of course I learned the hard way and remember racing to the gate and being out of breath more than once.

So I know I can change my habits since I’ve done it before. And now, I’m instilling new habits in my son, and in my husband. I think it’s going to make the school year easier. And somehow, I think it’s going to make our life easier too.

So if you have that rushed feeling when you are driving around town or getting to meetings or appointments, try planning the night before. Get the whole family engaged in the new rule of thumb. It can change your whole outlook on school.

So try using this secret of planning to arrive early. It can change your life, your stress and your reputation!

Besides, it’s a whole lot more fun. And isn’t that a better way to live?

Mary Gardner is an Executive Communications Consultant and Coach. She works with, coaches and trains individuals, sales teams, executives, and celebrities. She enjoys seeing the best come out in people and has fun in the process. Mary is married to Sway and is mommy to Jeremy 5 and lives in Orlando, FL.

For More information: mary@stressmanagementarticles.com
WEB: www.marygardner.com

Posted on Jul 24th, 2006

Let’s face it! The majority of our time is either spent sleeping or working. The demands of our employers and our workspace means that we are all highly stressed. We face one hundred and one problems that demand our fullest attention during the day at our workplace and when we return home, we face domestic difficulties that need urgent resolution.

As a result, we keep on postponing a much needed vacation. Our present problems need urgent resolution. We are up to our neck and to our nose with things that we need to work on, to solve, to look into.

So what are we going to do?

Perhaps, we have been so deeply engrossed in the matters at hand that we have forgotten that there are activities that we can indulge in, just for a short weekend, or a few hours that can refresh our minds and our bodies, so that we can be recharged, and get rid of the inbuilt stress to face another week, another month and another year.

Consider that we can just pack some necessary light tools and be away for a short hike to the country-side or the mountains nearby. A one day hike is always possible, and brings you back to nature, and close to the tranquility of the country or the hills or fields and meadows.

Or have you considered some fishing in that creek or that nearby lake? Feel the rush of the wind, the calmness of the environment and the thrill of that fight between man and fish as you reel in your catch! Bask in the glory and self satisfaction as you observe your bounty after a day of fishing and capture the moment with some photographs for sweet memories.

Or just getting onto a cruise down the river or lake on a boat is a good activity to let loose, and refresh from the cares and worries of the day. Water skiing is a good choice for you to really enjoy it all!

And if you are game for some real physical contact, you can join some physical sports that can allow for a good degree of running and physical exertion. Consider the sports of Lacrosse! It is said you are not in the game unless you are physically bruised!

Even in winter, there is no excuse! You can be away for some snow skiing- a change of environment, some time to relax and you will feel much refreshed when you return.

We are humans, we are not machines. Man is built with emotions, with feelings and with physical bodies that need to recharge, and to rebound back with vigor. Imagine, you can be hiking, water skiing, boating, fishing, snow skiing and in a game of lacrosse. All it needs it just some planning and a desire to *really* take action. Once you tried it out once, you will find how refreshing it is, and you will want to do it again!

Peter Lim is a Certified Financial Planner and a webmaster who has interests in outdoor recreational activities to destress and recharge his mind. For more ideas and information on how you can get involved or be prepared for recreational activites such as Boating, Fishing, Skiing, Hiking and Lacrosse, as described above, visit his interesting resources website "World of Recreation and Popular Sports" at http://www.dynamic-guides.info

Posted on Jul 23rd, 2006

In the fast-paced world that we live in today, it seems as though it’s hard to find enough time to do everything that needs to be done. Days at work are long, but too often don’t seem to be long enough… we bring home what we can’t finish and end up creating highly stressful situations for those around us. Even worse, it seems like medical science is constantly finding new problems that are caused by overworking and the stress that results from it. If only there were some way to reduce the effects of this stress and make life more work-friendly (and vice versa)…

Luckily, there are ways to negate the harmful effects of working too much… balancing life and work in a way that makes everything more harmonious. It can take a little getting used to at first, especially if you’re a “Type A” personality that is used to pushing and driving on to finish the project or complete the proposal.

Counteracting the Negative Effects of Stress

Of course, just because you work long hours every day or put in a lot of overtime doesn’t mean that you’re doomed to be done in before your time by stress. There are a lot of methods that can be used to counteract the harmful effects of work-related stress and increase both your quality of life and the free time that you have available. The key to living a long and fruitful life is to learn to balance your life and your work, so that what time you have available to yourself is spent in the most enjoyable ways possible. Below are several ways that you can either decrease the harm that stress causes or free up more time for yourself (which in itself can decrease stress in your life.)

· Pets – Studies have shown that the simple act of petting a dog or cat can cause immediate and significant reductions in stress. Our animal friends have other stress-relieving benefits, as well… for instance, the sound of a cat’s purr is an excellent stress reliever, as is the act of playing with a dog or watching fish swim in a tank. Research has also shown that pet owners tend to live five to ten years longer on average than those people who don’t own pets.

· Schedule Family Time – Setting aside a specific time to spend with your family is a great way to reduce stress and make the most of the free time that you have. Ideas such as planning a “Family Game Night” or taking a weekly picnic to the park are gaining in popularity in many areas, and have been shown to not only reduce stress but also produce children who are more social and less likely to misbehave in adulthood. If you’re not married or don’t have any children, you don’t have to miss out… schedule time to spend with siblings or friends, just to enjoy each other’s company.

· Read – Set aside a little time each night to read. What you read doesn’t really matter… it can be a tabloid, a magazine, or a novel. The important thing is that you’re reading something because you want to do it instead of because you have to, and the act of reading for enjoyment tends to occupy your mind and release some of the pent-up frustrations and stresses of the day. As an added bonus, reading can increase your vocabulary, your reasoning skills, and your overall intelligence and outlook on life.

· Invest in a Filing Cabinet – It may not seem like much, but being organized can actually be a great stress reliever. File away pay stubs, tax returns, business receipts, and bills so that they’re easy to locate should you need them. Not only will this save you time should these records become needed, but the act of organizing can have a calming effect on the mind and reduce stress.

· Lifestyle Management – Lifestyle management is a growing trend that can greatly increase the amount of free time that you have. Lifestyle management agencies can perform a number of services for you so that you don’t have to, from running errands and paying bills to scheduling appointments and performing household tasks. Lifestyle management providers may perform different tasks than the ones listed, so be sure to find out what services an individual provider offers.

· Take a Vacation – One of the best ways to counteract the harmful effects of working too much is to take time away from work. Even taking a single week’s vacation once a year can increase your life expectancy, give you a more positive outlook, and generally make your quality of life much better than it was previously. Just make sure that you follow the cardinal rule of taking a vacation, whether you go on a trip or just stay at home: when you’re away from work, leave work behind and enjoy yourself.

Call the Butler is an innovative new lifestyle management company operating in and around Central Scotland. Too much too do and not enough time to do it? Why not Call the Butler?

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Posted on Jul 22nd, 2006

No this is not related to praying, this is how your brain works. Looking up will reduce your stress…..immediately. Why, you may be asking?

All types of stress, especially emotional stress, changes how you view life. When you are tired, rundown and generally stressed, life appears harder.

Under stress, small problems appear larger. Small obstacles become insurmountable. Daily living becomes tiresome, stressful and your enthusiasm and motivation can hit rock bottom.

Stress affects your mind and how you perceive your surroundings. Your work life, home life and health will suffer.

As Hans Seyle (who wrote “The Stress of Life”) once stated ‘90% of stresses never occur, so don’t worry. Of the 10% of stresses that do occur, worry never changed them’. So don’t worry.

Once stresses affect you, it is very hard to ‘snap out of it’. You project your thoughts down, life becomes tough and energy levels decline.

Looking up can change this.

Your brain and mind are easily persuaded to change. Changing where you look can have dramatic effects on your stress levels. There is a saying

‘The Sky’s the Limit’.

This is true. Looking up makes life feel and look better. When you look up at a 20 degree angle, you access areas of your brain that release stress naturally.

Try it. Think of a stressful situation, look up and try to recall the stress. What you will find is, that it is harder to recall the stress. You may even have to move your eyes about or down to recall the stress. Even if you recall the stress, it appears a lot less stressful.

Children spend most of the day looking up at this 20 degree angle. This is why they trip over so many objects each day. It is also why children are generally happier than adults.

Each day go for a walk, just a short walk. Look up, 20 degrees only, and just relax. If you live near a park, walk around it looking up at the trees. Not the tree trunk, the leaves and branches.

On a nice summer’s day, lie on your back. Spend some time watching the clouds float by. Or just look up at the deep blue sky. Buy a kite (or better still make one) and fly it.

Again another saying

‘Go Fly a Kite’.

It relates to being stressed and told to go outside and look up at your flying kite. Stress simply melts away.

Looking up is easy. It is also free. Whether you live in a crowded city or a country area, looking up will open your eyes to sites you have never seen before. All while stress is melting away.

Just remember, ‘the sky’s the limit’. Looking up can lift your spirits, remove your stress and it helps you realize that life is abundant. Abundant in health, wealth and happiness.

There are many simple techniques you can do, that cost you nothing, and they remove stress. Most of these techniques help to prevent stress returning also. Simple, easy and effective ways to make your life more fun, relaxing and calm. For more on these techniques and many other stress relief techniques visit www.fast-stress-relief.com

Dr Graeme Teague is a Chiropractor, Applied Kinesilogist, Acupressure Specialist, Homeopath and Reiki Master. His unique perspective on stress has come about from practicing since 1991, treating patients with many health and stress complaints. Stress management is a process of YOU learning simple and easy ways to remove, repel and prevent stress. This can be achieved quickly and easily with Dr Teagues unique ways of dealing with stress. His new web site is dedicated to teaching YOU to deal with stress easily and quickly. Visit the site at http://www.fast-stress-relief.com

Posted on Jul 21st, 2006

Recently the well known American news anchor Peter Jennings died of lung cancer, just a few months after he publicly announced that he had the disease and that he was going to fight it with everything he had.

After his death, I read some of the tributes that poured in about the life of Peter Jennings. One of the common themes that appeared in the statements made by his friends and colleagues was that they remembered what a determined, competitive man he was.

They said that he took on his battle with cancer head on, and that he fought his cancer the way he battled everything, with steely will and determination. And unfortunately he didn’t win.

Reading about Peter Jennings’ losing battle with lung cancer reminded me of another conversation about living with cancer that illustrated a very different approach to the disease. recently.

Last week I had a meeting with one of my business associates, a man named Brian, to discuss some business matters.

After our business meeting was finished, Brian started telling me about his mother’s experience of living with cancer. A lot of what Brian had to say was very thought provoking to me.

Brian told me that his mother had been diagnosed with a bad type of bone cancer and doctors had told her that she had only a very short time to live. Yet in spite of the fact that her cancer kept spreading to other parts of her body, she managed to live fourteen years longer than what her doctors had originally predicted.

Brian said that he often wondered why his mother managed to live such a long time with cancer when many of his younger friends who got cancer died of it quite quickly.

Brian told me "I come from a sports and and athletic background, and so a lot of my friends are athletes. My athletic friends tend to be very focussed and competitive people, and they’re used to being very aggressive. When they were diagnosed with cancer, I watched them go into their competitive and athletic mode, and they would say ‘I’m going to fight this thing’.

They would fight their cancer the same way they fought their athletic battles, with gritted teeth and courage and determination.

Brian said, "What I noticed about these guys who were so tough and fought cancer so hard was that in a lot of cases they burned out really soon.

When my mother got cancer, Brian continued, "Her approach was kind of the opposite. She wanted to live, but she never said she was going to fight this cancer. One of the things I watched her do is that she decided to drop everything that was stressful from her life."

Shopping was stressful for her, so she dropped it. Driving a car was stressful so she stopped driving. In fact, she stopped doing everything she didn’t want to do, and she only kept the things she really enjoyed.

And she made a point of becoming very relaxed and enjoying her life.

Then Brian told me, "This experience made me think that maybe the idea of fighting for your life when you have cancer is like trying to fight off insomnia."

"If you decide to fight insomnia by gritting your teeth and saying ‘I’m tough, I’ve fought lots of battles successfully, I’m going to fight this insomnia and I’m going to beat this thing, well, you’ll never fall asleep. It won’t work."

Now I can’t say that what seemed to work for Brian’s mother in living with cancer is the miracle key for anyone else who has cancer. This wasn’t a scientific study, and many other factors are involved.

But Brian’s comments about his mother’s approach to living with cancer, and his comments about trying to use will power to fight insomnia are worth keeping in mind when we are facing a problem. Not every problem can be solved with will power and determination.

In such fields as business and sports, an attitude of determination and competitiveness can be very useful, and can be highly rewarded. If we have been very successful in these fields by being high powered, determined and aggressive, we may try to use the same approach to tackle every problem. Aggressively and head-on. With grit and determination.

However, being aggressive and determined does not work on every kind of problem.

For example, if your mate is unhappy in your marriage, or your child has a serious illness, or if you have too much stress in your life, then using determination and aggression will not solve these problems. In these situations, aggressiveness does not work.

We need to recognize those situations where another approach might work better.

Sometimes what we need to do is relax more, let go of our illusion that we can control everything, become more humble, and be open to living in the moment even when we don’t know all the answers.

Royane Real is the author of several self help books, including “Your Quick Guide to Improving Your Learning Ability” Sign up today for her free newsletter filled with life improving tips at http://www.royanereal.com

Posted on Jul 19th, 2006

I have yet to see a scientist talk about the impact of time viewing in any article. It will ensure the continuing exponential growth in knowledge. I think it is quite possible that this has been part of what has unleashed Pandora’s Box already and it is a far better explanation for many things that the UFOlogists are talking about. There have been a number of recent Popes who say that aliens will come to teach us in this century and there is a scientist/priest who supposedly developed a chronovisor. The combination of already developing technology in Holography, nanotechnology, and quantum teleporting may make it possible to travel to various potential futures with intelligent machines that include the human brain contents which were dumped onto a computer by Stanford in 1999. The lack of dialogue in the media about these things is very troubling to me as people continue to accept our leaders know what they are doing.

I am even more troubled by the difficulty really good teachers have in getting meaningful curriculums approved. The ex-NHL goalie and Ralph Nader lawyer by the name of Ken Dryden wrote a book called In School. The back flap of it has this tidbit for your consideration: "Ken Dryden tackles what he sees as the education debate’s retreat to a safe, unthinking - and ultimately - black and white ground of issues and policies at the expense of people. Ultimately he discovers that good teachers teach people and not just subjects.” (8) Ken was just elected to Parliament from a Toronto area riding and I expect he will achieve very little change, but who knows?

Wholistics:

The prevailing medical opinion of ‘experts’ in the specialized field of heart ailments and the like, was that heart disease was incurable and that heart muscle could not regenerate. Not so long ago this nearly militant and totally negative or ‘head in the sand’ aspect of what some call ‘The Toilet Philosophy’ was rampant in the mechanized and unsoulful vestibules of veracity known as medicine. This model is still predominant but on the retreat because of great people like Patch Adams and the wholistic health movement. As the great sage Voltaire said: ‘Man argues. Nature acts!’

Linus Pauling won a Nobel Prize for scientifically showing the benefits of vitamin therapy but it took over twenty five years for other researchers to prove much of his work. Dr Campbell at the University of Alabama finally drove the point home in 2001 when he gave detailed support, in that the immune system of mice produces a three times more effective partner in the fight against illness with the use of Vitamin C. Pauling knew stress was an important factor in how our bodies function. The thalami are far more important than medical science has historically given them credit for, since the allopathic gurus or ‘drug-pushers’ took over the healing arts.

Stress, a Heart Poison

High blood pressure, high cholesterol and lipid levels, poor glucose metabolism–all of these risk factors for heart disease can be identified and measured by scientifically accepted methods. {How do you measure the conscious input of the soul through the Thalami and the immune or endocrine system? This is the circulatory system of the soul according to many long effective remedies of the homeopathic or ‘occult’ genre we have detailed throughout these books. Clearly acupuncture works and it has for thousands of years but only now are researches of a truly open-minded nature taking place.} For that reason, mainstream medicine has concentrated on assessing and treating these medical problems during much of the twentieth century, for the most part leaving aside another integral part of the cardiovascular picture: the effect of stress on the heart, blood and blood vessels. {This book is recommended reading by the editors of Prevention Magazine Health Books, and he is a good doctor.}

The difficulty many physicians have in assessing stress is three-fold: First, except for extreme situations, like the death of a loved one or the imminent threat of physical harm, a clear definition of stress is not available {My ‘twin’ was a lecturer in the convention auditoriums of up to 15,000 people during the Stress Management ‘fad’ of the 70s and early 80s. She would throw dishes or slam doors when unable to handle her stresses. Of course she didn’t tell others these things when advising them what to do.}. Everything that occurs in your life or exists in the atmosphere is technically a stressor because it affects you in some way. If it is very hot out, for instance, your body will adjust to the increased temperature by cooling the skin with perspiration. In this instance, heat is a stressor because it spurs the body to action. If you receive an unexpected bonus from your boss, the excitement {When I decreed that I would win an RX-7 in Mazda’s nationwide salesman contest in 1988 for a month to all my fellow salespeople at Tom Wood’s dealership in Indianapolis - I won! The manager played head games with me for two hours on the day of the announcement. This was the closest I ever came to a heart attack, I think!} the event stimulates may make your heart beat faster, your muscles tense up, your palms sweat. Despite its positive impact, then, the news of your bonus is a stressor because it forces a physiological reaction–one that will be described in more depth below–to occur.

A second problem in relating stress to disease involves how variable our reactions to stress tend to be. Clearly, not everyone responds to stress in the same way. Some people become outwardly aggravated over the slightest mishap while others never blink an eye even when disaster occurs. It should be noted, however, that the outwardly calm person may actually be seething inside, perhaps negatively affecting his or her physiology even more than the person who expresses anger and frustration in a more open way. {The Carnegie Public Speaking Course is an excellent way of learning to adapt to personal stress responses for many people.}

Third, and even more significantly, stressors vary from person to person. For some, a day spent lying on a beach is completely relaxing, while for others such forced recreation is sheer (often blood-pressure raising) torture. It is how you as an individual perceive an event that determines how your body reacts to it.

Despite the difficulties in defining and measuring stress, it has become increasingly clear to even the most hard-nosed mainstream physicians that a connection exists between the mind the emotions, and health. In the study of heart disease, in particular, evidence has begun to mount that excess stress increases the amount of cholesterol in the blood, thus contributing to the development of atherosclerosis. Stress may also increase the heart rate and raise blood pressure. In many individuals, including Melinda, stress results in decreased circulation to the heart muscle itself, often causing the pain known as angina.

Fortunately, it is possible to learn to control both the way you perceive stress and how your body copes with it, at least to a certain extent. Before we discuss relaxation methods with you, however, it is important that you gain an understanding of how stress affects your cardiovascular system and how you, as an individual, may be affected by stress.

The Physiology of Stress

If you’ve ever doubted that there is a connection between your emotions and your internal physiology {Or ESP.}, just think about the first time you fell in love. When you looked across the room and saw the object of your affection, didn’t your heart beat faster? Didn’t your palms sweat? Didn’t you feel as if you might faint because the blood had rushed from your head to your feet as you tried to make your way to the one you loved?

In addition to infatuation, what you were feeling was fear and anticipation–of rejection, of commitment, of the unknown, perhaps even of success–and your body sensed your emotions. In a completely instinctive and interdependent way {ESP}, your brain, your hormones, and your nervous system worked to prepare you to face what you perceived as a threat to your emotional, if not physical, safety. Whether you are conscious of it or not, your body has a remarkable gift for self-preservation. When its internal balance is threatened in any way, it mobilizes immediately, preparing you either to battle the impending danger or to flee from it. We’re perhaps more used to thinking of this response, known as the ‘fight-or-flight response’, as occurring during times of physical danger: Out of nowhere, it seems, a bus bears down on you while you’re crossing the street. Your heart starts to pound and the muscles in your legs and arms tense up. Before you know it, you’re safely across the street, running faster and harder than you’d thought possible.

The sight of your new love and the sight of the bus set off the same chain of reactions in your body. As soon as a threat to your internal harmony is perceived–positive or negative–your body goes into action. In fact, it is no longer possible to discuss a separation between what we think and feel and our physical selves; they are one and the same. You see a bus coming toward you and your heart starts to pound. Thinking back, you recall you felt afraid, and one of the physical manifestations of that fear was your heart beating faster and stronger. You’ve been taught by mainstream medicine to think that your brain ‘told’ your heart to beat faster and your muscles to tense up. However, recent research is showing that your mind exists not only in your brain, but in cells and tissues throughout your body. {And the chakras are critical centers of coordination.}

In particular, two interrelated systems, the autonomic nervous system and the endocrine system, become more active during times of stress. These two systems are so directly related to what is occurring to us emotionally and intellectually that they can be considered the physical representatives of emotions within the body.

The autonomic nervous system controls bodily functions like the heartbeat, intestinal movements, salivation, and other activities of the internal organs. It is divided into two parts that work to balance these activities: The sympathetic nervous system speeds up heart rate, narrows blood vessels, and raises blood pressure during times of physical or emotional stress, while the parasympathetic nervous system works to slow these processes down when the body perceives that the stress has passed.

Indeed, the two parts of the autonomic system represent a perfect example of the balance we know of as health. In Chinese medicine, the sympathetic nervous system is the ‘yang’ {This is a partial analogy that works for his illustration.} and the parasympathetic system is the ‘yin’ of the body and its responses. Bringing your body into harmony during and after stressful periods, by triggering your parasympathetic nervous system into action, is as important to your health as is reacting immediately, through the sympathetic nervous system, to the perceived threats known as stressors.

Directly related to nervous system activity are hormones secreted by the glands of-the endocrine system. The glands release stress hormones into the bloodstream that, in turn, produce various reactions in the organs and tissues of the body. These hormones are nor epinephrine and epinephrine (also called adrenaline). These two hormones are known as catecholamines. Secreted by the adrenal medulla (the internal part of the adrenal gland) and the sympathetic nerve endings themselves, catecholamines stimulate the sympathetic nervous system to raise blood pressure, continue to increase the heart rate, increase the metabolic rate, and make you breathe faster to provide more oxygen to your muscles. They also increase platelet stickiness, increase ‘the possibility of dangerous arrhythmias and strokes, and cause spasm of coronary arteries. (9)

It has been easy for us to visualize certain extremely complex integrations of bodies and component organ to molecular level real aspects by gross and overly general designations and labels. When we actually believe the labels are what we simplify them to be; and then communicate about them as if their function is either exclusive or unaffected by and from the soul and other aspects such as yin and yang or its real ‘chhi’ that surrounds and is part of ALL there is - we end up missing the merit and value of what happens. This author is extremely enlightened in comparison to his counterparts and fairly reflects the wholistic possibilities.

Author of over 60 books available at Lulu.com, World-Mysteries.com and other places where Diverse Druids is sold. Activist for the truth in our soul that has been aborted or which has been occulted by elites to allow them to bamboozle us and make us live in fear rather than LOVE.

Posted on Jul 18th, 2006

Everyone worries. As bothersome as it is, worry isn’t all bad, and can actually work for you. Worry can give you a jolt of energy, spark your creative thinking, and help you to meet deadlines. The trick is to keep worry under control and these tips will help you do that.

1. Identify the source. Though it can take days, weeks, or even months, identifying the source of your worry is time well spent. You may feel anxious all the time, for example, constantly looking over your shoulder, and thinking something awful is about to happen. Once you’e identified these feelings as anticipatory grief you can do something about them.

2. See the big picture. Or as author Richard Carlson, PhD puts it, "Don’t sweat the small stuff . . . and it’s all small stuff." Carlson says we let ourselves get "worked up over things that, upon closer examination, aren’t really that big a deal." Getting a flat tire on the way to work is nothing compared to chronic disease, famine, or terrorirm. Sometimes it’s hard to see the big picture, so you may have to consciously de-clutter your mind to bring it into focus.

3. Catch the laughs. According to a University of Maryland Medical Center study, humor is good medicine. Michael Miller, MD, Director for the Center for Prventive Cardiology at the Center, says regular exercise and healthy eating can reduce the risk of heart disease, adding, "Perhaps regular, hearty laughter should be added to the list." Miller thinks we should incorporate laughter into our daily lives by reading funny stuff, watching funny videos, and not taking ourselves so seriously.

4. Start a solutions list. Keep your list on a computer or on a notepad. Every time you think of a solution jot it down. Maintain your list for a week and put it away for a few days. Then take it out, pick the best solution, and start working on it. The solution may not produce dramatic results, but you’ve taken a proactive step and are moving forward with life.

5. Take care of yourself. Poor eating hbits and lack of sleep can make worry worse. So eat a balanced diet and try to get eight hours of sleep a night. If you haven’t had a physical exam in a while this may be the time to get one. And even though you’re worried, make time for your friends and social activities.

6. Get moving. Mayo Clinic psychologist Kristen Vickers-Douglas, PhD, in an article on www.MayoClinic.com, says there’s "substantial evidence that exercise can enhance mood." You don’t have to run a marathon or lift weights to boost your spirits, a daily walk will do it. Others find spritual comfort in meditation.

7. Appreciate nauture. Life is more beautiful when you take the time to appreciate birds and flowers and trees. Recognizing this fact, five Wisconsin towns got together and crafted the "Leaf Your Worries Behind" tourism campign, a "relaxing autumn getaway in the Northwoods." No matter where you live, take the time to appreciate nature.

8. Watch fewer newscasts. In the era of 24-hour television newscasts the same stories are aired again and again. Often these newscasts contain horrific images, images that are stored in your mind. For peace of mind you may wish to watch one newscast and skip the rest.

9. Get help if you need it. According to "Treatment of Specific Anxiety-Based problems," a chapter posted on the Psychological Self-Help Website, chronic worriers fret for several hours a day. What a waste! If you’re a chronic worrier you may want to take a stress management course or talk with a trained counselor.

10. Credit yourself. You’ve taken steps to keep worry under control and that’s a huge accomplishment. Applaud yourslf, cheer, or dance around the kitchen. Instead of being a worry wort you’re making worry work for you. Good job!

Harriet Hodgson has been a nonfiction writer for 27 years and is a member of the Association of Health Care Journalists. Her latest book, Smiling Through Your Tears: Anticipating Grief, written with Lois Krahn, MD, is available from http;//http://www.amazon.com

Copyright 2005 by Harriet Hodgson. To learn more about her work go to http://www.harriethodgson.com.

Posted on Jul 17th, 2006

Do you think you know where stress comes from? I’ll bet you’ll be surprised about what I am about to say!

Before I reveal the secret I need to go over a little known law of physics. It’s called Newton’s Second Law of Motion. This is science applied to human nature. Bear with me on this. Don’t get lost because I start talking about science. This is easy to understand.

Newton’s Second Law of Motion states: for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. While you are sitting on your chair right now you are exerting a force on the chair called weight. Because the chair doesn’t move downwards it must be resisting with the same about of force as your weight.

This is Newton’s Second Law of Motion applied in the real world.

So in order for a force to exist, as per the law, it can only do so because there is an opposing force. Remember for every action (or force) there is an equal and opposite reaction.

Now, can you put force on the air with your hand? No, you can’t. That’s because it won’t push back.

In other words you can’t have pressure unless you have resistance. Do you follow me so far? If not, reread these last three paragraphs so you do.

So in order for you to feel stress, or in other words, pressure, it follows, as per Newton’s Second Law, there is only one reason why you feel pressure and this is

Because You Are Resisting!

You can’t have pressure without resistance, it’s impossible! So if you feel pressure you must be resisting something. You can’t put pressure on air, it won’t stay still.

You can’t use your hard to put pressure on water in a bucket either. Because it won’t stay still.

When we resist change in life, we stagnate. We choose not to change. When we stagnate, we stop the flow of life. When we stop flowing, we become a rigid. When a force, or a change of circumstance in life comes our way, we resist the change necessary to take it in our stride, to flow with the force and take it on the chin you could say. As a result we feel stress.

The more we resist change, the more pressure we feel. When we feel this force or energy, something has to give. If the force persists and we keep resisting, the pressure will build on us.

When pressure builds up on people they let off a form steam like water does under heat energy.

How do people let off steam?

In the form of emotion, which is energy-in-motion. The steam we let off comes in a variety of styles, anger, anxiety, worry, tears, depression even laughter for some people.

What steam do you let off?

Want to know how to deal with stress? Stop resisting change. Let you life flow. All of life by definition means change. Dead trees don’t change much, live ones do. Plants grow and change because they are alive. To not want to change yourself as a person and grow is to embrace stagnation, and that eventually leads to death.

The more you embrace change the more you embrace life.

You become a creator of new events in your life.

Do you realize in the last 10 years of your life in old age you change very little, if at all? People start to embrace stagnation as they get older. The brain is a muscle. If we don’t exercise it, it deteriorates. Doing what we have always done in life isn’t exercising our brain.

Stop seeing problems as reason for stress. See problems as a new an opportunity for experience, a representation of life itself. There are no mistakes in life, just learning experiences. If we don’t learn from them we’re likely to recreate them to get the lesson next time.

A wise man sees all events in life as experiences, without judgement. Stress is created from within. No one makes you stressed, you do it to yourself by your own response to a person or circumstance.

Choose to be stagnant and not roll with the punches and you’ll DO stress. Yes stress is a doing word, it’s something you have a choice to do.

If you choose to interpret a situation as stressful, would every single person on the planet agree with you? That’s a good question to remember next time you think about doing stress.

I’ll leave you with these words from Neale Donald Walsh, What you resist persists. What you look at disappears.

So see experiences and life for what it truly is. A reason to flow and discover the real you, the creator of a new you so you can be the best you, you can be!

There can be no stress without resistance. Always remember Isaac Newton’s Second Law of Motion next time you feel the urge to DO and feel stress!

Tim Stokes is a student of human nature. He helps people to become super achievers in life through their own business success. His own life story is an amazing journey in itself. Conquering fears of public speaking, heights, eletric shocks, spider and many others.

To find out more about Tim Stokes visit his website at http://wwww.bbms.com.au or look for his other articles on human behavior and business success. under expet authors.

Posted on Jun 10th, 2006

Shunning the elitism of Greek and Latin roots its name is derived from two common Anglo-Saxon words: 1. Cause; to create an effect; to make things happen. 2. Ism; a doctrine, system or principle.

Causism is very much a practical philosophy, for in addition to its revolutionary theories and principles, it embodies an equally revolutionary practical component called the Mace Method. It has this mission statement: To assist people to be in control of their lives and live their own dreams. It is from this statement that the name Causism was adopted, for the words ’cause’ and ‘control’ are synonymous.

Knowledge can give you a real advantage. To make sure you’re fully informed about stress, , keep reading.

Causism is a scientific examination of life. Its fundamental principles are to be found in its close cousins, magnetism and electricity. Although we are commonly referred to as Spiritual Beings, we are in actual fact energy and each and every one of us is a unit of energy, a Human Energy Unit, which is an expression coined by Causism.

Causism postulates two universes, the Energy Universe and the Material Universe. The laws or logics of each universe are different and you cannot use the laws of one to explain phenomena in the other. Understanding this has created the Mace Method, for its procedures are built on the laws of the energy universe, not the laws of the material or physical universe. Very importantly, the energy or spiritual universe contains no time.

Energy in any form is invisible and as science knows, energy is also indestructible. From this it follows that as energy units we are invisible and indestructible, in other words immortal. We are immortal, timeless, sentient and aware units of energy using and activating bodies.

The bodies are used to play a game, the game of life.

There’s no doubt that the topic of stress, can be fascinating.

My name is Sandra Hedditch, The Author of this Article John Mace my good friend has given me permission to share his work with you. If you would like to know more about the Mace Method and see more of Johns Articles Please go to http://www.how-what-why.com

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