'Stess Effects' Category Archive

Posted on Jul 22nd, 2006

Trauma can affect our physical and emotional well-being. It results when an event causes a person to feel an overwhelming sense of vulnerability and loss of control. Some people will get through a trauma without many after-effects. However, some people will be profoundly affected. The following factors can affect the trauma response:

  • level of stress in life before trauma occurs
  • tendency to keep things inside rather than talking about them
  • history of prior traumas
  • trauma comes without much warning
  • trauma disrupts your sense of what is "supposed" to happen
  • individual personality and coping style will effect trauma response
  • lack of support system
  • degree of threat or loss
  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) occurs when a person has been exposed to a traumatic event in which:

  • they have witnessed or experienced an event that involves actual or threatened serious injury or death of self or others
  • their response to this event includes intense fear, helplessness, and/or horror
  • The following symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder will show up quickly, and will last for more than one month. Following a severe trauma, a person may experience:

  • feeling numb, or “in a daze”
  • tries not to think about the event but has intrusive memories of the trauma - images, thoughts, sensory memories
  • recurrent, stressful dreams of the traumatic event
  • intrusive, vivid memories of the trauma that cause a person to feel as if they are reliving the event (flashbacks)
  • hypersensitivity to stimuli that remind them of the traumatic event
  • avoidance of people or places that might be reminders of the trauma
  • change in eating and/or sleeping habits
  • increased irritability
  • easily startled
  • hypervigilance – constantly checking their surroundings to make sure they are safe
  • trouble focusing
  • sense of loss or sadness
  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder was first recorded following World War I, and used to be known as shell shock, war neurosis, or combat fatigue. However, severe trauma, (and PTSD) can come from many sources including: violent crimes such as rape, incest, robbery, assault, murder, car accidents, accidents at work, unexpected death of a close friend or relative, fire, natural disasters such as tornadoes and hurricanes.

    Help is available for those with PTSD. Many people find relief through talking with a therapist or counselor. The therapeutic relationship can help normalize the symptoms and let the person know that they are not alone in their struggle. Treatment often includes learning various relaxation techniques to reduce anxiety and bring about a sense of peace. Therapists may also use special treatment modalities to help the person resolve the trauma. These treatments might include Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, also known as EMDR, or hypnotherapy.

    Recovery from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder can be a slow process. Again, it depends a lot on the person’s history of trauma and their individual coping style. PTSD does not have to dominate your life. You can get help. You can get your life back.

    © 2006 Cynthia McKenna LPC, NCC - All Rights Reserved Worldwide.

    Cynthia McKenna LPC, NCC is a therapist and life-coach who helps people transform their lives. Her goal is to help people have more joy and peace in daily living. Cynthia works with individuals, couples, and groups in the Texas Hill Country. She also works with clients online and by phone. For more information or to make an appointment, visit Cynthia McKenna’s website http://CynthiaMcKennaCounseling.com.

    Posted on Jul 15th, 2006

    Rhodiola Rosea, a native plant of arctic Siberia, also known as Golden Root, is the latest natural remedy to join the arsenal of natural anxiety and stress reducers.

    For centuries it has been used by eastern European and Asian cultures for physical endurance, work productivity, longevity, resistance to high altitude sickness, and to treat fatigue, depression, anemia, impotence,gastrointestinal ailments, infections, and nervous system disorders.

    The first recorded medicinal applications of rodia riza (renamed Rhodiola Rosea) was made by the Greek physician, Dioscorides, in 77 C.E. in ‘De Materia Medica’. Rhodiola Rosea has been included in official Russian medicine since 1969.

    Despite its long history, the Western world has only recently become aware of its health benefits. It has come to the attention of many natural health practitioners because of studies, which tested its affects on combating anxiety and stress.

    The herb is considered an adaptogen. This means it has an overall stabilizing effect on the body without disrupting other functions. Its ability to normalize hormones may be effective for treating depression and anxiety.

    Studies show that it stimulates neurotransmitters and enhances their effects on the brain. This includes the ability for the brain to process serotonin which helps the body to adapt to stress.

    Since adaptogens improve the body’s overall ability to handle stress, it has been studied to identify it’s effects on biological, chemical and physical stress.

    A study was performed to test the herbs effects when stress is caused by intense mental work (such as final exams). Such tests concluded that using this plant improved the amount and quality of work, increasing mental clarity and reducing the effects of fatigue.

    These effects have also been tested on stress and anxiety from both physical and emotional sources. A report by the American Botanical Council states that "Most users find that it improves their mood, energy level, and mental clarity." It can also increase stress tolerance while at the same time protecting the brain and heart from the physical affects of stress.

    The generally recommended dose is 200-600mg/day. The active properties should be a minimum 0.8 percent salidroside and 3 percent rosavin.

    It is important for consumers to know that Rhodiola may be sold using other species that do not share the properties of Rhodiola Rosea, or at ineffective strengths for treatment. Anyone with depression or anxiety should also check with a health professional when treating these symptoms.

    Abbas Abedi CHt

    If you are interested in natural techniques to reduce stress and anxiety in your life today, then sign up for my free eCourse titled, "4 Days to Break Free from a Stressful Lifestyle" at http://www.instantstressmanagement.com Instant Stress Management

    Posted on Jul 14th, 2006

    If asked if your job is stressful, chances are you would answer with an emphatic "Boy is it ever"!

    Work is by far the leading source of stress in our lives. Nine out of ten people say they experience high levels of stress several times a week. And one out of four of us have high stress levels every day.

    What you may not know is that your stress from work may, in fact, be affecting your health. Stress affects the body in many different ways. Some kinds of stress are beneficial. Others can cause serious health problems.

    Chronic stress weakens the body’s physiological systems and leads to innumerable health problems. In fact, WebMD estimates that 75% to 95% of all doctor’s visits are stress related.

    Major stress related health problems include:

    work stress, heart disease, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, sleep problems, headaches, faster aging, strokes, depression, ulcers, asthma, weaker immune system (reducing your natural ability to fight off infection), loss of memory

    Even more frightening is that job stress is at an all-time high and continues to rise. For most people the number of hours worked has increased. Where hours don’t increase the number of responsibilities increase and deadlines become more and more intense.

    Job stress even invades our vacation time. According to Anderson Consulting, 80% of people who took vacations in 2000 stayed in touch with the office by taking their laptop or cell phone with them.

    There are several indicators you can use to determine if you suffer from chronic stress. Warning signs of chronic stress include headaches, teeth-grinding, back pain (especially in the shoulders or neck), anxiety, and insomnia. Even lots of day dreaming as escape from your situation is a sign you need to begin to manage your stress.

    If you suffer from chronic stress, there are a lot of things you can do to reduce the stress. Some of the most effective stress management techniques include relaxation exercises and meditation.

    If you are at work and need to reduce stress, try deep (abdominal) breathing while visualizing a peaceful scene or wonderful past memory that brings a smile to your face.

    Ultimately, virtually every job is stressful somewhat. But by identifying and effectively managing your stress, you can reduce its negative effects and enjoy a healthier life.

    Why risk being taken by surprise with a health problem when the stress begins to hit your body. Manage your stress today. The effects of your efforts will increase over time. But you have to start immediately.

    Abbas Abedi CHt

    If you are interested in natural techniques to reduce stress and anxiety in your life today, then sign up for my free eCourse titled, "4 Days to Break Free from a Stressful Lifestyle" at http://www.instantstressmanagement.com Instant Stress Management

    Posted on Jun 4th, 2006

    Do nothing! Yes I mean it. But only for five to seven minutes a day during working hours.

    You are born to work and working is a fun activity for the successful people of the world. I am giving you the “do nothing” advice in order to keep you working and working at your full potential without being depressed or tired.

    During the mid-day sit down on a comfortable chair in a very loose and relaxed position. Your whole body, from head to toe, should feel comfortable. Switch off the telephone and TV. Cut off yourself completely from the outside world for a few minutes. No talking, no listening, no reading, no thinking, and no eating. Close your eyes, breathe slowly and go into deep relaxation. Pretend as if you are a dead person who has nothing to do and nothing to worry about. Be a part of the silent world.

    I want to tell you, without going into lengthy details, that this short “do nothing” break would have magical effects on your mind and body. This practice not only relaxes your inner and outer muscles but also gives you the vital energy sufficient enough to keep you working for another couple of hours!

    No doubt, after working hard for hours and hours your mind and body need some rest. Instead of taking cups and cups of hot coffee or tea to keep yourself active, use this simple technique of relaxation to enhance your working capabilities substantially.

    I myself take a short break from my busy schedule during the lunch hours and practice this “do nothing” technique to relax my mind and body. I really feel great afterwards. Try it!.

    Hifzur Rehman is the editor of http://www.selfimprovement.ch , a website dedicated to the success and happiness of mankind.

    Hifzur Rehman (C) 2006. All Rights Reserved.

    Posted on Jun 3rd, 2006

    These days, it seems like rest and relaxation are guilty pleasures, things to be ashamed of. We live in a world that tells us we must always stay busy, we must always stay focused on our work. There’s no time to get sick. There’s no time for vacation. We have to go, go, go! But is this healthy for us?

    Think about these numbers. The average company in America gives its worker 3-5 sick days per year. They also give, on average, 2 weeks (10 days) vacation. Sick days, for most people, are anything but relaxing. First of all, you’re sick! You don’t feel well, you’re worried about your health. But most people I know (myself included) have their sick days ruined for another reason: guilt. They are worried about taking time off, worried about what their boss will say, worried about things that won’t get done, worried if they will be docked pay if they don’t get better soon, etc. It’s not usually a restful time for most people.

    Vacation time is a bit different. We usually plan ahead for when we’d like to take the time, and we usually plan on doing something fun, getting away from it all. But in this day and age, with e-mail and cell phones, it’s hard to escape the daily grind, even if you are 2,000 miles away.

    So why is it so hard for us to relax? Some would like to blame it on the previously mentioned technology, but there is a deeper cultural issue here. In Mexico, workers are allowed to take siestas, or little afternoon naps. In some European countries, you’re shunned if you show up for work if you’re sick. Every boss I’ve ever had here in America has made it perfectly clear, that if I’m not in the hospital, I’m at my desk (one of the main reasons I work for myself now)! Society has to function, so there is a certain wisdom about being accountable and responsible for showing up to work. But even when we’re not there?

    If you’re one of the many people who suffers from this kind of inescapable “workaholic” stress, there is help. It’s a little thing I call “recharging the batteries.” Below are some helpful tips for helping you get your batteries back up to full power.

    • Spread your vacation out during the year. Take some long, 3- or 4-day weekends. Don’t take all 2 weeks at once!
    • When you do go on vacation, resist the urge to check your work e-mails and voicemail. You’ll have more fun if you don’t know what’s going on. And it will still be there when you get back!
    • Go out with friends after work occasionally. Break out of the pattern of waking up, going to work, going home, going to sleep, repeat.
    • Spend a day (or an evening) vegging out on the couch, with some snacks and some good movies (or if you’re me, some really bad movies!).
    • Give in to some guilty pleasures! Stay up real late on a Saturday, and sleep in on Sunday. Spend a weekend with your kids, doing what they want. Most importantly, have fun!

    These are just a few suggestions, but you get the idea. Take a little time for you. Your voicemails and e-mails will still be there in the morning. If you can’t fix the problem in the Bahamas, why worry about it there? Make some time for yourself, even if it’s just a little bit of time. You’d be amazed at how much better you can feel after just a little bit of time recharging the batteries.

    Jason Stroming is a Life Coach specializing in relationships, career, personal development, and creativity. To learn more about Jason and his company, ACR Personal Life Coaching, please visit: http://www.acrnyc.com

    Posted on Jun 2nd, 2006

    In cubicles and corner offices across the land, people are bombarded with so many “urgent” demands that they’re literally not giving their brains time to think. Speeding through the day in a constant state of adrenaline-fueled arousal – answering voice mails, emails, and beepers; checking cell phones and PDAs – isn’t just bad for the nervous system. It lowers productivity, creativity, and innovation.

    The growing confusion between being in motion and actually accomplishing something has even led to a new syndrome called Attention Deficit Trait, or ADT. It happens when we try to assimilate too much information too quickly, sending our brains into “overload,” and ourselves into a chronic state of “distractibility, inner frenzy, and impatience.”1

    A growing body of research shows that thrashing around adversely affects our brain chemistry. In Working with Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman explains that when people are worried, angry, frustrated or under other types of negative stress, the brain goes into “survival mode,” and “…falls back on simple, highly familiar routines and responses and puts aside complex thought, creative insight, and long-term planning. The focus is the urgent present – or the crisis of the day.” 2

    Much as people lament the panicked scrambling to get the next task done, most feel powerless to really change their circumstances in a meaningful way. They nod approvingly at common-sense advice about breaking large tasks into small steps, leaving the office early once a week for dinner with the family, and getting enough sleep, but somehow can’t motivate themselves to follow through.

    Interestingly, my files are filled cases of clients who significantly improved their work lives, and in a number of instances actually wound up earning more money while working fewer hours. They did it by giving themselves some breathing room and by deciding to change the way they viewed their situations.

    When we’re overwhelmed, we tend to think along the lines of how to get more and more done, instead of setting reasonable expectations. One way to reduce tension and stress is to bargain on a deadline (“I can get it done on Tuesday if I get 3 hours of administrative help”). Another is to politely decline extra requests from colleagues (“I’ve love to help, but can’t consider taking on anything else until the 10th”). A third is to re- prioritize as conditions change (“If Project A is critical, I’ll move the deadline for Project B out one week”).

    It is also imperative to question beliefs such as, “If I don’t work 10 hour days, I’ll be fired” … “In this economy, I’m lucky to have any job” … “People who don’t work weekends don’t get promoted” and others that make it easy to justify staying stuck. Assumptions influence what we perceive, how we feel, and the actions we take. Again and again I’ve seen magic happen once someone decides to believe that something different is possible.

    Ironically, slowing down will enable you to get a lot more done, and to enjoy the process more as well, which alone will set the stage for working smarter.

    1 “Overloaded Circuits: Why Smart People Underperform,” by Edward M. Hallowell, Harvard Business Review, January, 2005.

    2 Working with Emotional Intelligence, © 1998 by Daniel Goleman, Bantam Books, page 74.

    Barbara Bissonnette helps people function more effectively by leveraging their natural strengths and eliminating self-defeating behavior patterns. She is a certified coach and Principal of Forward Motion Coaching. She has more than 20 years of business experience, most recently as Vice President of Marketing and Sales for a privately held firm. For a free copy of her new guide, "The Personality of Business: Manage Your Style for Greater Success," visit http://www.ForwardMotion.info.

    Posted on Jun 1st, 2006

    We have access to time- and labour-saving devices beyond the dreams of any previous generation. Yet poor time-management skills and resultant stress seem a more common problem than ever before.

    Do you recognise yourself in any of these common patterns?

    * Feel overwhelmed by the pressures of modern living * Can't say no * Difficulty setting (and/or achieving) your goals * Can't switch off at the end of the day * Have problems finding time for the things and people that really matter * Repeated procrastination * Beset by interruptions, emergencies and deadlines

    Try these top tips to beat stress.

    1) One of the best ways of relaxing is to take some gentle exercise – 20 minutes every day or half an hour three times a week. Suggestions: take a brisk walk to work – even getting off the bus or train one stop earlier can help. Use an exercise bike while you watch TV or read a book. Take up a new (active) hobby such as dancing or swimming. If you have any form of heart condition, remember to check with your GP before you increase your levels of exercise.

    2) Try meditating. The aim is to still your mental confusion and produce a state of calm which will relax your body and increase mental clarity. Sit quietly in a chair with your head supported and both feet flat on the floor. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and as you exhale focus on a word to suit your circumstances (examples: peace, love, calm). Breathe deeply several times. If you still find it hard to relax, imagine yourself on a beach in the sunshine – enjoy feeling the warmth of the sun on your skin, hear the lapping of the waters. The troubled thoughts of the day will try to force themselves into your mind, don’t worry. Just calmly put them to one side. Do this regularly for only ten minutes every day (more if you can spare the time) and you’ll soon feel the benefits.

    3) If meditating is ‘too much’ for you, just spend some time each day alone and in silence. Research in Paris found that talking can send your blood-pressure through the roof! Silence and a good book may have a calming effect.

    4) Laughter is one of the best ways to relieve tension – it exercises muscles in your face and abdomen and the bigger the belly laugh the greater the effect. Studies have shown that laughing can boost your immune system and even lower your blood pressure. Laughter releases endorphins, the body’s natural painkillers, which can increase your feel-good-factor. You may have to seek out cartoons or even think of silly incidents from your childhood to get you started, but make it a habit – and try and get workmates and family in on the act. You’ll all feel better for it. However if you really don’t feel like laughing don’t let that stop you – even fake laughter can have a beneficial effect as the ‘laughter’ muscles can’t tell the difference!

    5) A glass of red wine in the evening may help you unwind - but don’t overdo it, restrict yourself to one glass a day for women or two for men!

    6) Using a few drops of Camomile, Marjoram, Ylang-ylang, Sandalwood, Patchouli or Neroli essential oils in your bath at bed-time can help you relax after a hectic day. Make sure the bath isn’t too hot, as this could raise your blood pressure.

    7) To help promote sleep, avoid eating late in the day – ideally allow three hours between your last meal and bedtime. When you do eat, make sure you’re sitting at a table concentrating on the meal in front of you, don’t snatch meals on the run, while working or watching television. If your posture is poor when you eat your digestive processes can be hampered, food may linger too long and sleep can be disturbed - let alone leaving yourself wide open to a range of digestive problems.

    8) Learn to say ‘No’. There are only 24 hours in the day. Be careful what you agree to take on.

    9) Every day make some time just for you to do something YOU want to do. It could be reading, a lovely relaxing bath, a brisk walk or even something challenging that you’ve always wanted to do such as learning a new language. Any of these could help you feel better about yourself. Initially you may find you have difficulty setting aside ‘you’ time, so block out half an hour in your diary every day to give yourself permission! If you have a family, don’t feel guilty about this – the whole family will benefit when your stress levels are reduced.

    10) Many people find they can rebalance their ‘Wheel of Life’ more quickly with the aid of a life coach. To find out more about how coaching can help you with stress and time management, visit my website (see below). Contact me with any questions, or just request my free monthly newsletter to help you in various areas of your life, from "Keeping New Years Resolutions", going through the year - month by month - to "Christmas, A time For Special Relationships".

    Joy Healey is a qualified life-coach, conducting telephone or face-to-face sessions. To learn more about coaching visit her website for a free monthly newsletter to help you in various areas of your life.

    Posted on May 31st, 2006

    Many of you "think" your stressful life is the consequence of external events beyond your control that impinge on you and force you to make undesirable choices. In that light you may complain about and feel helpless in the midst of this onslaught of pressures and expectations.

    Unfortunately the belief itself that the problem exists "out there" is also stressful isn’t it? That is because it leaves you, as I said feeling like a helpless victim.

    Well you might say here that it is not the belief that makes you feel helpless rather the situation, correct? So convinced by this you do whatever you can to either control or adapt to the situation to reduce the stress you may be experiencing.

    When you look at the effort you make to control or adapt to the situation you will notice, I feel, that it in itself is also stressful, is it not? So are you feeling like you are really making any progress in dealing with your stress? I’ll leave that for you to contemplate.

    I would like to draw your attention to an example that will hopefully illustrate the fact that all stress is in fact internally generated by your repertoire of unconsciously held beliefs. Beliefs that you have been conditioned and/or programmed with from the time you were conceived (and perhaps earlier).

    Suppose you are in a hurry to get to a meeting and you happen to take an off ramp to a highway that leaves you stuck in a severe traffic jam. You find yourself miles from your meeting and there is a fear that you will likely be late for this very important meeting.

    The stress reaction is largely a mental/emotional/physical reaction that you experience as: frustration, annoyance, anger, confusion, a drain on your energy, physical tension, desperation, feelings of helplessness and so on.

    What inside you is driving all of this?

    Well it’s the fear.

    What is driving the fear?

    The belief of the consequences to you of being late which go something like this:

    I’m going to lose the account, hence,

    I’m not going to make my sales figures this month, hence,

    I’m not going to get my bonus, hence

    I’m going to be cash strapped and won’t be able to make my rental payments, hence,

    I’m going to lose my apartment, hence,

    The quality of my life is going to deteriorate.

    So in other words the underlying belief is that:

    (A) If I’m late the quality of my life will be severely negatively impacted.

    Now how does that make you feel? Well stressed of course?

    I would like to show you that not only are you able to diffuse that belief and its effects on you but by doing so also show you that it is the cause of the stress in the first place.

    Here we go.

    What is the usefulness to you of believing statement (A) above?

    Well you might say that it is supposed to:

    1. Make you plan your time and life well so that,

    2. You will be conscientious, responsible, efficient, so that,

    3. You will make your meetings on time, so that,

    4. You will make a good impression with your clients, so that,

    5. You will make your accounts and sales figures, so that,

    6. You will be successful, so that,

    7. You will feel successful, happy, in control of your life, safe, secure, and at peace.

    In other words if we summarize what has been said we have:

    (B) The belief that "If I’m late the quality of my life will be severely negatively impacted" makes me feel successful, happy, in control of my life, safe, secure, and at peace.

    Does that feel true to you?

    Well if you notice how statement (A):

    "If I’m late the quality of my life will be severely negatively impacted"

    actually makes you feel you will notice most or all of: anxiety, fear, frustration, helplessness, annoyance, anger, tension, powerlessness and so on.

    I’m sure that in this experience there are no feelings of success, peace, happiness, safety or security, much less a sense of being in control.

    Hence that makes statement (B) false doesn’t it?

    That may come as a surprise to you as you likely thought that it was true earlier didn’t you?

    If you’re with me so far simply acknowledge to yourself that (B) is false and then notice how you feel.

    The next time you find yourself in a situation of the kind I described above notice how you feel. You may be surprised that your reaction will be a significantly different one.

    What we have just attempted to do is to "de-program" you from the unhealthy habitual ways in which you have been accustomed to running your life. It is such unconsciously held beliefs that limit your repertoire of responses to a situation and this then manifests as feelings of stress.

    If you would like to become fully conscious and the master of your entire life then kindly visit me at the web link below.

    Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called "Spirituality And Science" (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.

    Business URL #1: http://www.telecoaching4u.com

    Posted on May 30th, 2006

    Ready? Set? GO!

    Another crazy day has begun. Once again, you find yourself stressed to the point of pulling your hair out, or maybe crying.

    What’s happening inside your body right now? Why do you feel so lousy?

    Well, when you start stressing out, the first thing that happens physically is that you stop breathing properly. You won’t drop dead (not from lack of breathing, anyway), because the body still remembers it has to breathe a bit in order to survive, but your breathing becomes shallow.

    Now, the problem with that is that breathing brings oxygen into the body, and oxygen is the body’s source of energy. When you don’t breathe enough, you have no energy, and the body’s functions suffer.

    Stress also hurts your immune system: when your breathing isn’t quite as deep as may be desired, there is less movement in the chest area (less breathing means less movement of the lungs and diaphragm), and the thymus gland, which has a big role in the immune system, gets massaged less. While you may be quite able to live without getting a massage every day, your thymus gland is not. So when you are stressed over large periods of time, your immune system is weakened, and a weak immune system has a hard time keeping you healthy.

    Also, when you’re stressed, the body starts producing stress hormones. That is very nice, of course, except for the fact that the manufacturing of these hormones takes up resources that would otherwise be used to make other kinds of hormones. Sometimes it can be sex hormones, for instance, and then people find that their periods have lost their regularity (women, usually), or that they’ve become impotent (men). The manufacturing of other kinds of hormones is, of course, also affected by the mass production of stress hormones.

    Stress also creates energetic blockings in and around your body. In times of stress, the chakras close down and meridians are blocked. There is no flow of energy around the body, no renewal of energy. And when there is no renewal there is deterioration, because energy doesn’t sit around waiting, it flows, moves on to other places. So you end up with no energy, feeling down.

    So, what can you do about it?

    First and foremost, you should be aware of it. Then, do something about it.

    You can start by taking deeper breaths whenever you remember to. This will help with immediate relief, and give your body some of the oxygen it’s been craving.

    You can continue by learning to manage stress. You will find an abundance of ways and techniques that teach stress management. Pick one that you find suitable and go with it. It just might help you restore your peace of mind and your health. Good luck!

    Copyright 2005 by Dvora Ifat and Shunit Ben-Tzvi

    Dvora Ifat and Shunit Ben-Tzvi are co-authors of "No Stress! How to Save Tons of Money on Shrinks and Doctors - Just by Reducing Stress!", a web authority on stress management and relief. http://www.nostressebook.com

    Posted on Apr 17th, 2006

    Like fall leaves whose deep green begins to display spectacular kaleidoscopes of color, our lives are constantly in the process of change. Sometimes we plan change, other times our lives are unexpectedly on a new course. Where is change in your life? Have you been thrown a curve ball? Do you want a change? Maybe you are about to enter a new phase of your life? A new job? A new direction? A new relationship? Whatever the change is, transformations bring surprise, excitement, opportunity, and challenge to our lives. Wherever change is present in your life, these steps will help handle your fears and finish your course!

    1) What Do You Want?

    Before you embark on this metamorphosis, you need to know which destination you really want. Too often we wander aimlessly because we haven’t figured out where we want to go. How could you plan a vacation to Hawaii if you didn’t know you wanted to go there? Close your eyes for a minute and think about what you want. Where do you want to end up? Shut out the unwanted thoughts, the advice from others, and just listen to your heart. What is it telling you? Take two minutes and write down anything that comes to mind. Hopefully you have an answer now, but if not, that’s ok. Sometimes it can take longer to really figure out what it is we want.

    2) Make Your Plan Real

    Now that you know what you want, see it, write about it, and talk about it in every sense of the word! Visualize your actions, your environment, and your future. Surround yourself with models for success through pictures and friends. Then, write down for yourself exactly what it is that you want to accomplish. Finally, tell supportive individuals about your plans.

    3) Prepare For a Journey

    Change can more often be likened to a marathon, than a quick sprint. Mike came to me wanting to make a career shift. He spent a few months researching options, while also making a physical and mental shift for the change that was about occur. After he told his boss he was leaving, part of him wanted to change his mind. This is natural. He decided to stay with it and stick to his plan. A year after beginning this process, Mike made the change he always dreamed about! Did he think about quitting several times? Of course. Change is hard! But he was prepared for the long journey!

    4) Change Your Belief System

    Our own beliefs are one of the biggest hurdles between us and success. How many times have you thought to yourself? I’m not good enough. I can’t make money. I’m too afraid. I don’t think I can do it, etc…. These self beliefs hinder our progress. Now, write down your ultimate goal for yourself. Then, ask, do I believe I can do this? Do I have the resources to do it? Am I capable of doing it? What beliefs are limiting me from what I want to do? What is telling me I can do this? Now that you know where you need to change your beliefs, you may want to elicit some support to help you.

    5) Find Tools to Help You

    Changing our lives can be a long and difficult voyage made easier by finding tools to assist you. Here are a few ideas. Start a circle of support with group members who also want to make similar changes in their life. Find a good book, like Changing for Good, by James Prochaska. Or, you may discover using a coach is very helpful.

    Now is the time to push fears aside, tell your limiting beliefs to quiet down, and begin focusing on your vision of your dream! By using these steps, your transformation will be one filled with vibrant colors and opportunity.

    About Carrie:

    Carrie Silver-Stock, MSW, LCSW is a personal and professional life coach.

    Life coaching is designed to improve professional or personal lives, successfully make career transitions, and help you live your the life of your dreams. For more information, visit http://www.livinghappyandhealthy.com

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