'Stress Management' Category Archive

Posted on Nov 28th, 2006

Recently I completed some new workshop engagements in addition to my coaching and week-long programs. I am very grateful for the opportunity to stretch and learn but am also acutely aware of the stress I am feeling taking on this new work.

Indeed, I am feeling more stress than I care to admit to. Too often I find myself driven by feelings of “I don’t know enough, not prepared enough, don’t have enough time, don’t have the right answers to their problems…” Translation? “I am not enough; I feel inadequate, anxious, afraid; I won’t be able to do it right.” (Although, a part of me knows with certainty I’ll do just fine!)

It is interesting how we suffer the same feelings when we’re not working… "not feeling good enough, feeling a lack of the skills, knowledge, experience, answers needed to career change." Unemployed or working; money or lack thereof; a relationship or not; we must somehow come to peace with this old ghost that so regularly haunts most of us. Louise Haye, author and internationally acclaimed healer proclaims, “I am not good enough, I am not worthy” is at the core of all humanity.

Rather than continually buy into the idea that the right job, education, experience, skills, relationship, income will make us feel OK; instead, it is helpful to acknowledge the feelings under these thoughts. If we can feel and acknowledge our fear, inadequacy, unworthiness, we can begin to see all the different ways we want to run from it; all the different things we grasp at to make us feel better.

Grasping at externals to allay our fears only drives us further and faster from our truth. Herein, are a few strategies that have helped me manage my stress and inadequacies lately.

Visit the Secret Garden

I discovered life-giving cues within “The Secret Garden.” Yes, the one you read as a child by “Frances Hodgson Burnett.” Recently I reread this delightful book and highly recommend it to you. You won’t be disappointed.

Each night, I happily informed my family I was going to bed early, and slipped into to my “Secret Garden.” Pressures, anxieties, fears of the day (and future) disappeared as I pushed aside the long, sweeping ivy covering the secret door and entered that hidden haven of peace, sweet fragrance and green growing things.

Children, who had been crippled physically, mentally and emotionally by a lack of love, constant negativity, and having everything their own way, slowly but surely became healed within the secret garden. The fresh air; working in the dirt; having a place of safety and beauty; learning to love all living things; and wonderful positive camaraderie caused the children to bloom as surely as the crocuses in springtime.

Couldn’t we all do with our own “Secret Garden?” Finding, tending, minding, our own “Secret Garden” can give us solace and healing too. As they say in the “Secret Garden,” “Where we tend roses; thistles cannot grow.”

Even if we do not own a piece of dirt we can all create our own Secret Garden. How do we find the hidden key and secret door? We find the “buried” key to our garden by returning to our breath. One breath at a time we find our way into that haven of peace and safety within each of us.

Stay On YOur Knees

Each breath brings us back into the present moment. Being Wholly Present is being in the Holy Presence. We can take this even further by literally getting down on our knees to pray in yet, more earnestness.

I’ve been praying on my knees for "grace and ease" in my life and work lately. It seems to me my earnest prayers are always answered (though perhaps not how I imagined). My anxious burdens are lifted (at least for a time!) No doubt we would be best off just staying on our knees! I am not calling for religious converts here but rather suggesting simple, life-giving practices.

Bach Please

Another wonderful technique that continues to help me alleviate stress and fear is to listen to Bach. Or Mozart. Or Vivaldi. Try any classical music that suits you.

This timeless music shifts us into a different part of our brain and can ease us emotionally as well. Put on your favorite classical music and really bring all of your awareness to listening to the notes, instruments, melodies. See if you don’t feel refreshed, lighter, more at peace.

Oh yes, and remember to trust and breathe!

Teresa Proudlove has been inspiring, supporting, and guiding over 3000 people upon their career and life work path for over fourteen years - with compassion and heart. Teresa’s workshops and writing, offer a deeper understanding and respect for ourselves, for others, and for our lifework path. This entrepreneurial woman also owned and successfully operated two women’s retail boutiques for ten years. For over twelve years, Teresa was a well-read newspaper columnist. Visit Teresa at http://www.yourlifework.com; listen to your inner guidance and navigate through life and work with more meaning, acceptance and peace.

Posted on Nov 17th, 2006

You can have control over the stressful events in your life by developing a plan of action. How you manage your life involves choice - you choose to change what you can and develop coping skills for what you choose to tolerate. This plan will assist you in sorting through the issues.

Step One: Review the Basics

We are familiar with how stress makes us feel. We know we’re uncomfortable when we feel the pressure inside building, our heart starts beating fast and our palms get cold and clammy. Sometimes we recognize it for what it is and other times it’s combined with so many emotions that it’s difficult to put a label on it.

Stress - The Energizer

We think of stress as something to eliminate but stress is also essential to a fulfilled life. It’s what enables us to give interesting presentations, makes sporting events fun to watch, serves as a protection in dangerous situations and motivation during a challenge.

My Favorite Definition

Stress is a normal physiological response to perceived threats designed to energize you. It includes physical, mental and emotional reactions to internal or external events.

What Are The Different Kinds of Stress?

Acute stress is short term and short lived. An example would be approaching an intersection and almost getting into an accident.

Repetitive stress is caused by pressures that affect us repeatedly such as driving in rush hour traffic. It’s one of the factors in road rage.

Chronic stress occurs when we are exposed to pressures over a long period of time. Living in an unsafe neighborhood or caring for an aging parent would be examples of chronic stress.

Step Two: The Stress Assessment

Stress Management is an ongoing process. Our lives are so busy that events can take us by storm before we realize there is a problem. Looking at the whole picture can give you a better idea of the stress you face day to day.

Are your surroundings comfortable and pleasing?

  • Is your environment comfortable, organized and clean?

  • Can you easily find important papers?
  • Do you have maintenance issues left unfinished in your environment?
  • Is your home large enough to allow quiet time for each family member?
  • Is your neighborhood safe?
  • Does your car run smoothly and is it reliable?
  • Are you having problems in relationships at home or at work?

    • Do you work with someone that is unusually aggressive or obnoxious?

  • Does your boss make unrealistic demands of you?
  • If you are the boss, are your employees cooperative and reliable?
  • Do you have friends and and family that you can depend on?
  • How is your relationship with family and your significant other?
  • Are you a caregiver?
  • Do you have a blended family?
  • Do you have ongoing custody or divorce issues?
  • Are you a new parent, or parent of a teen?
  • Do you find discipline and limit setting difficult?
  • Is your involvement in organizations or the government giving you headaches?

    • Are you involved with the Zoning commission, City Hall, Social Security or disability red tape?

  • Are you involved with your child’s school and is it a pleasant experience?
  • Are you facing IRS or other governmental or organizational deadlines that you have no control over?
  • Do you hold office or are you a founding member of an association?
  • What does your schedule look like?

    • How rushed is your morning routine?

  • Your commute to or from work?
  • Are you responsible for other family members daily routines, ie: children or parents?
  • How many activities are your children involved in?
  • How many activities are you involved in?
  • What lifestyle choices have you made?

    • Are you eating a balanced diet?

  • Do you exercise?
  • Do you smoke or drink alcohol more than a few times per week?
  • Do you allow enough time to complete scheduled projects?
  • Do you have enough financial resources or are you meeting financial deadlines?
  • Do you have self-limiting beliefs?

    • Do you frequently find yourself saying, "I can’t do this" or "I can’t stand this?"

  • Pay attention to your inner dialog for a few days. What do you find yourself thinking about or saying to yourself?
  • Do you frequently exaggerate events, making "mountains out of molehills?"
  • Are you flexible?

    • Do you look at things as right/wrong or black/white with few gray areas?

  • Do you agree with the saying, "If you are going to do something, do it right?"
  • When you hear someone else’s opinion, can you consider it or are you set in your ways?
  • Do you have a stressful personality?

    • Do you have characteristics such as perfectionism, intolerance for the shortcomings of others, or are you pushing yourself?

  • Do you find yourself regularly working overtime and taking work home?
  • How much importance do you place on other people liking or respecting you?
  • Do your goals match your values?

    Inner turmoil can result if your goals and values aren’t on the same page. It can be just an uncomfortable feeling and difficult to identify.

    How balanced is your life?

    • Does your career take up the majority of your time?

  • Are you leaving time for personal pursuits?
  • Are you neglecting or ignoring critical aspects of your life?
  • Step Three: Evaluate

    What are you doing now to manage your stress? Are you taking into consideration the following?

    The Mind - Body Interaction - New research is acknowledging the interaction between our perception of stress and how we respond.

    Life Balance - If one part of our life is out of balance, it will affect the others and set us up for more issues.

    Prevention - Reduction - Relief. Include all three in your arsenal.

    Self Care - Nutrition, exercise and health. Consider it part of your prevention. It’s difficult to cope if we don’t have energy yet it’s the most frequently overlooked aspect of stress management.

    Evaluate your stressors and take action. Target your coping techniques to the issues. If you’re experiencing worry or a lack concentration - meditation and relaxation breathing might help. If you’re are having neck pain or tension headaches - progressive muscular relaxation in addition to exercise is the Rx.

    Develop resilience or the "hardy" personality. Adjust your attitude regarding stressful events. Adopt a balanced optimism. Take your vacations instead of letting the hours accumulate. Schedule rest and relaxation time daily - even if it’s taking a bath, walking or reading a few pages in a book.

    Are you directing your life or is it directing you? Take charge and develop a plan to deal with the pressures. Be aware of your needs. Pay attention to the signals your body is giving you both physically and psychologically. Look into assertiveness, communication skills, anger management, and time management. The higher our skill set is in these areas, the less likely we’ll be suffering relationship and productivity issues.

    Include these areas into your stress relief plan and you’ll be armed with techniques that will reduce the likely hood of suffering health effects from stress. Your life will be calmer and more productive. If crisis situations develop, you’ll be more prepared to handle it.

    Step Four: Plan Your Coping Strategies

    Think Prevention - Reduction - Relief.

    Prevention:

    We can change our perception of stressful events but it’s one of the most difficult methods of prevention. It is also the most promising method to provide lasting relief. We can include emotional intelligence, exercise and nutrition into this equation also.

    Reduction

    We can reduce the amount of stress we feel by changing what we can and developing coping skills for the rest. We have choices. We can tolerate the issue or make changes. It’s up to us.

    Relief

    Stress relief involves matching the methods of relief to the cause of our triggers. For instance, meditation targets psychological effects of stress and muscular relaxation targets physical effects.

    Where were the majority of your stressors coming from? Take a notebook and designate two columns - change and tolerate. Take each of your stressors and list them in the appropriate column. Your stressors designated in the change column will require setting goals. Your stressors in the tolerate column involves developing coping skills for management. Outline your plan of action.

    Step Five: Evaluate

    Once we make a plan or set a goal, most of us stop right there but the most important part of goal setting is ongoing evaluation. Life will throw us roadblocks. We need to be flexible and re-evaluate often. How is your stress plan working? Have your issues changed?

    Having a stress plan keeps us mindful of our choices. We can choose to react to life - or we can develop a plan to manage it!

    Cathy Gariety is a consultant specializing in Stress Management. Visit her website at http://www.garietygroup.com for more information on stress.

    Posted on Nov 3rd, 2006

    Are you a worrier? Do you frequently spend time and energy worrying about your finances, your children, your career, world politics? Worry can be a highly useful, brilliantly engineered cue to action or a useless and destructive energy drain. The challenge is to decide which it is, on a case-by-case basis, and manage yourself accordingly.

    Here is a quick and dirty, but highly effective way to manage your worrying habit.

    1. Learn to recognize when you are worrying.

    This takes practice. You may not recognize yourself worrying until you’ve been at a particular worry for days or weeks. But whether you catch yourself in the first minute or the first month, the most important step is recognizing the pattern. You can develop your “witness” over time and become more proficient in noticing when you are worrying.

    2. Determine if something needs to be done.

    Ask yourself, “Is the worry a cue to action?”

    • For example, if you are worried that your toddler will get lead paint poisoning from the lead paint on your windows, there is indeed something that needs to be done. You need to get the lead paint removed from your windows. And keep your child well supervised in the meantime.

  • If you don’t know whether or not something needs to be done, find out. You need to get more information – THAT’s what needs to happen.
  • 3. If something needs to be done, get it done as soon as possible.

    Often just deciding to take the action can loosen worry’s grip on you. But it’s critical that you follow through – take that action as soon as it is feasible.

    • Call the state agency that deals with lead paint removal and get the names of contractors who do that kind of work. Get moving with hiring and scheduling a contractor. Call your pediatrician and get advice about how to protect your child during the removal process and follow up on every detail.

    4. If nothing needs to be done, release the worry.

    • If the lead paint removal is scheduled, your child is adequately supervised, and you’re following all of the pediatrician’s instructions, there is nothing more to be done. Your job in this case is to re-focus your attention elsewhere.

    For most people, relinquishing the worry is the hardest part. If you generally let worry run unchecked, you know that it’s a very greedy energy that will take as much of your attention as you let it. It will reduce your effectiveness and productivity. Some serious boundary setting with yourself is required here.

    Experiment with the following strategy. In your mind, respond to the worry with something like this: "Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your concern (this is important). But there is nothing more to be done right now, so I’m going to stop thinking about this.” Then get yourself to focus on something else – find something else compelling and engaging to think about. You might line up some contenders in advance. Just about anything that works for you will do.

    Sooner or later, the worry will return. Repeat steps 1 through 4 as needed. This is an iterative process. Hang in there!

    Here is a short list of some of the worries that my clients have learned to deal with more effectively:

    • Personal finances. My client regularly pictured herself as a bag lady, penniless and homeless, despite her current (and past) circumstances, which were nothing of the sort. The action that was called for was to develop a strong and detailed financial plan with an expert.

  • Global warming. My client, a self-proclaimed “tree-hugger and dirt worshipper” was sick at heart and frequently anxious about global warming. The action called for was to get involved with conservation and political action organizations.
  • Career. For one of my clients who worried she was failing in her current job, the solution was to identify where she needed to improve her performance, and to get training in that arena. Another career-anxious client determined there was no action required. She learned to respond to the angst by listing for herself the ways she was effective in her work; this activity served to change her state of mind.
  • Do you need help figuring out whether a worry merits action or how to disarm a stubborn worry-habit? Invest in yourself and get the help you need. Coaching can make a difference.

    Copyright 2005, Sharon Teitelbaum.

    Sharon Teitelbaum, http://www.stcoach.com, a Work-Life and Career Coach, works with high achieving women with young children, people at mid-career, and professionals seeking greater career satisfaction and work-life balance. She coaches by phone and in person in Boston. Her newsletter, Strategies For Change, offers practical tips for work-life success.

    Getting Unstuck Without Coming Unglued: Restoring Work-Life Balance, Sharon’s first book, was published in 2005.

    A motivational speaker, Sharon also also delivers keynotes & workshops on work-life issues. Clients include Children’s Hospital Boston, SunLife Financial, Arnold Worldwide, and many parent and alumni groups. She’s been featured in national publications including The New York Times, The Chicago Tribune, and Working Mother Magazine.

    Contact me for an initial consultation at no charge.

    Married for 30 years, she is the mother of two amazing young women.

    Posted on Nov 1st, 2006

    The predominant role human conditioning plays in a stressful environment. Perspective, reaction and remedy. How music can help.

    Creating music for stress management can be a rather complicated process. Due to the nature of stress, music must promote and sustain a therapeutic ambience and provide a calming influence that opens the door to reflection, corrective action and ultimately, inner peace. Consequently, creative effort in this genre often leads to considerations that have more to do with psychology than music per se.

    In its development stages a musical sequence may point to possibilities for music therapy, but to successfully complete the final sequence, one must consider the variables of human nature.

    Whether or not these musical possibilities grow into something of benefit depends upon many factors, not the least of which is the creation of sound structures that are compatible with and beneficial to the human organism.

    Another extremely important issue that must be considered during the composition process is that all humans are conditioned since birth and there is little that humans experience throughout their lives that is not filtered through previous layers of conditioning.

    At first glance, human conditioning may appear to have little if any relationship to stress management, anxiety, burnout - or for that matter, music. But a closer look reveals the connection.

    To understand how this connection works, we’ll need to dig into some information that may seem a bit ‘heavy’. The subject of conditioning is extensive and of necessity, comment here must be confined to only a few of its more prominent twists and turns.

    Whether one agrees or disagrees with the statements presented here, the following is the result of years of observation, study and application. Its presentation here is intended to promote a better understanding of how and why we so often react in counter-productive ways when dealing with stressful conditions.

    Admittedly, this information is but a small part of a much deeper subject. Nonetheless, it is my sincere hope that what is presented here will provide some insight for those who suffer from the unpleasant, debilitating and unhealthy conditions of stress. That said, please read on and it will become apparent that where human conditioning is concerned, almost everything is related.

    The problem

    When one studies the work of men such as Roger Sperry, Freud, Jung, Wilhem Reich and others, it becomes clear that (1) general reaction to stressful conditions tends to be aberrant and (2) the manner in which humans perceive and react is, for the most part, a learned behavior.

    This learned behavior has much to do with how we view ourselves and our place in society. The picture that we present to the outside world is our identity, or image, of who we think we are and that image is the direct result of everything we have been taught and everything that has ever happened to us.

    Consequently, each new encounter or situation we experience is filtered through previous conditioning and in this way, previous conditioning becomes the measurement we apply to all future experience. Unfortunately, this measurement is often flawed and when used to evaluate and respond to stressful conditions, tends to produce reaction rather than remedy and this in turn can lead to errors in judgment that may actually make matters worse.

    Why don’t we recognize these reaction patterns when they occur?

    Well, for most of us, the basic underlying causes of conditioned reaction have been lost to conscious memory. Yet, without realizing why, we often continue to react in a sort of robotic way to the emotional stimuli of circumstances that occurred long ago and which contain little if any corrective value for resolving the here-and-now problems of today.

    How does this relate to stress management?

    The relevance to stress management lies in the fact that conditioning is like a one-way street, paved with beliefs, opinions and prejudgments that often lead us in very subtle ways to the wrong destination. In other words, when belief, opinion and prejudgment are used as a measurement of stressful conditions, the results of that measurement will most likely be erroneous due to a lack of facts.

    Stated another way, one might say that in lieu of facts, we are more likely to create and / or contribute to the stressful conditions that we seek to resolve.

    Truth or Belief?

    Belief, opinion and prejudgment indicate a lack of fact or truth. One reason this lack occurs is because of a widespread assumption that the word ‘believe’ is synonymous with the word ‘truth’. When we say we believe in something or believe something to be true, what we are really saying is that we do not possess all the facts. Conversely, if we possessed all the facts we would no longer believe - we would know.

    Thus, the disparity between ‘belief’ and ‘truth’ becomes one of the main reasons we react to stress rather than take remedial or constructive action to minimize it. In other words, the tendency is to make judgments ( based on belief or opinion ) before obtaining all the facts in a given situation.

    According to statistics, the sources below are most commonly mentioned as a cause of stress:

    The boss Not enough sleep Family pressures The workload Not enough money Societal pressures Co-workers Not enough time Marital issues Traffic Health crises Divorce

    When stress enters our lives, the tendency is to blame someone or something other than ourselves. In some cases we may be right. But many times stressful conditions are of our own making. One example would be stress created as a result of maxed-out credit cards or a lack of financial discipline.

    Another cause might originate with any one of the sources in the list above, but because of our tendency to misunderstand and mishandle these experiences we often proceed to make the problem worse and thereby increase the level of stress. Regardless of the causes, how we deal with these conditions is of paramount importance if we are to resolve them successfully.

    Generally speaking, we react emotionally to stress when we have something to defend and when we allow defensive emotion to get out of hand, we’re not being rational - we’re merely reacting. By reacting we compound the problem because our reaction tends to produce a counter-reaction.

    Why a counter-reaction? Well, if the object of our wrath happens to be another person, that person will most likely have something to defend also and our emotional display may therefore be interpreted as a threat. Remember, that other person is conditioned too!

    The Sky is Falling!

    Conditioned reaction also indicates a fear of something. Eugene Albright, the author of Unichotometrics-A New Way of Life, once said, "There is only one valid fear - a direct threat to survival of the organism. All the others can be traced to false concepts of one sort or another."

    If this statement is true, then another reason we have difficulty dealing with stress has been exposed. Excluding a direct threat to our lives, it suggests that we allow stressful situations to provoke aberrant fears of losing something, exposing something, or fear retribution for having done something. The oddity is our seeming inability to consciously recognize this when it is happening.

    Conditioning influences our interpretation of everything we see, hear and project to the outside world and yes, it even influences our choice of music. Generally, we are not aware that we live our lives according to the beliefs, opinions and prejudgments of others, (peer-pressure among teenagers is one example) nor do we realize that by accepting these viewpoints, we are perpetuating them.

    Thus we place ourselves in a loop wherein we often repeat the same mistakes over and over.

    Now here’s the good news: It is possible to break out of the loop when one realizes that (a) over-reaction to stress does not work and (b) there must be a better way - and then takes action by proceeding to summon the courage, stamina and discipline to search out and reveal the truth according to fact. In this way one begins to take responsibility for one’s own actions.

    Aw, do I have to do that?

    Accepting responsibility is the first step we take on the road to a less stressful and more productive existence. By taking control of our lives, we’ll sometimes move against the grain of the status quo and because of that, we’ll most likely meet a measure of resistance along the way. But if we persist in our quest for fact and truth, our ability to deal constructively with stress will become much easier.

    There will be times when we may slip and fall back into the old ways - meaning, when the pressure of stress becomes too much to handle, the general tendency will be to get into someone’s face, blow off steam, antagonize imagined enemies, or worse - meekly swallow the problem and risk a bigger stomach ache in the near future.

    Sure, that’s quite a bumpy, cumbersome and questionable way to move forward and a lot of people bear the scars to prove it. Nonetheless we usually end up learning something from our stressful encounters and when we don’t - well, we’ve fallen back into the loop. If that happens, its not a disaster. It just means we haven’t quite gotten a handle on how to respond to stress in a constructive manner.

    A friend once commented, "If you don’t want to be crucified, don’t hang around crosses". That simple logic may also be applied to stressful conditions. For example, we must learn to recognize and walk away from dead-end situations that are beyond our ability to improve. Next, we must fully understand that resolution of stressful conditions does not come about from trying to change others. Instead, we must change ourselves.

    We may stumble, bruise egos and make mistakes but however inept our approach, if we persist in our search for the facts or truth in all situations, we’ll eventually learn how to live our lives in a more efficient and productive manner.

    Help is out there

    Fortunately, there are tools and methods that can help lighten the load as we optimize our chances for a less stressful tomorrow.

    Among them are inspiring books by authors such as Deepak Chopra, Dr. Wayne Dyer and others that may provide a better understanding of oneself. Employing one of the various methods of meditation may also work. When the need is acute, seeking the guidance of a professional counselor may be an appropriate choice.

    Of course, music is one of those tools mentioned above. One of the nice things about music is its synergistic quality - it often works well as an adjunct to other stress management tools or methods. When we introduce music to the conditioning / stress management equation, some interesting and unexpected results may occur.

    For example, when listening to properly crafted music, it is sometimes possible to by-pass one’s conditioning temporarily. When this happens, the listener may experience strong feelings of freedom, inner peace, and a profound sense of well-being. In other words, the exact opposite of stress.

    We’re speaking here of major changes in perspective. Consciousness may become altered to the extent that conditioned reaction becomes temporarily suspended. Some may describe their musical experience as ’spiritual’. Others may have meditated on a particular personal problem and see it in such clarity that the necessary corrective action becomes obvious.

    At times, people may be moved to tears. Others may find it difficult to put their experience into words. In some cases, the combination of empathy, understanding and emotional release can be life-changing and yes, there will be a few times when a listener may be so rigid and structured as to be unable to get in touch with their own feelings.

    Whatever the response, the point to remember is this: It is the energy of music that initially helps to unlock and open the door - that we might enter a place where peaceful reflection will allow us to sort out things and possibly develop a new, more positive and constructive perspective.

    You mean, It didn’t come from outer space?

    To be sure, music possesses many beneficial qualities but we should be mindful not to attach elements to music that it does not possess.

    Of itself, music does not ‘cure’ anything. It does not ’solve’ anything. And contrary to the more bizarre claims one may find on the internet, it certainly does not ‘originate’ from an "unknown composer who resides on a planet in a distant galaxy"… or other similar nonsense! As a point in fact, the composition "GROVE SUITE" ( offered at http://www.channel1records.com ) was pirated some years ago by a metaphysical organization that actually made that claim!

    What properly created music DOES do, it does very well. It possesses the ability to put our hearts and minds at ease and in so doing, facilitates entrance to a clearer understanding of ourselves, reality and finally - inner peace. By any measurement, that is remarkable!

    That music can be an effective tool for stress management is a given. It has been known for centuries that music can be therapeutic and there are many references in art and literature that attest to its soothing qualities. The therapeutic capabilities of music have been proven many times over and its success as a stress management tool is well documented.

    That fact alone proves that music is able to minimize the disturbing and unhealthy effects of stress, anxiety and burnout! Who knows, it may even take the edge off some of that conditioning.

    Copyright © 2003-2005 Channel 1 Records All rights reserved

    Bill Reddie is the owner of Channel 1 Records, a company that has been producing music for stress relief and stress management since 1972. Further information regarding the beneficial effects of music and its potential for relieving stress, anxiety and burnout may be found at: http://www.channel1records.com

    Posted on Oct 28th, 2006

    Stress management in the workplace is a reality that most of us have to face for one reason or another and coping with it is key to long-term career success.

    Some careers are more stressful than others and some companies and managers you work for might provide you with more stress than you’d otherwise like.

    Having some stress can be helpful because it can provide motivation that allows you to work with a bit of a sense of urgency and purpose.

    When stress in the workplace reaches a high level and carries over to your personal life in a negative way though, this is a sign that you need to do something to properly manage it so that it doesn’t spiral out of control further.

    Here are some suggestions for successful stress management in the workplace:

      1. Try to address issues that might be affecting your stress level that you might not readily think of, especially the ones you can change. Do you drive 1 hour to work each day and feel beaten up by the time you get into the office each morning? Are there ways you can lighten your workload? Do you need to learn how to say “no” to certain requests from time to time? Look for ways of changing how you to things especially ones you have some control over.

      2. Look for ways to improve your time management. Often, stress is a result of simply not having enough time to complete everything you need to do. Stop wasting time talking with colleagues and making personal phone calls, stop surfing the Internet for personal reasons, and eliminate other time wasters. Shut your office door if you have trouble with people walking in and distracting you or find a quiet office where you can work undisturbed if necessary.

      3. Find some sort of athletic endeavor to take part in. I like working out at the gym but you might find jogging, playing squash or taking yoga classes will help. Try something athletic that gets your mind off work. Start by going for a walk at lunchtime just to get out of the office for a bit.

      4. Don’t neglect your personal life. Remember to try to find the proper balance between your work life and your work outside of work. Try when possible to leave work at work. A separation between work and personal life is paramount.

      5. Carefully consider whether or not you are in the right job. If successful stress management at work is just not possible and if you yearn for your time with a previous employer when things were better, maybe you’re in the wrong job. Do you like what do you or is it simply a job to you? If it’s simply a job there might be other jobs that are less stressful that are better suited to your personality. Stress management in the workplace is critical to your long-term career and long-term health. When stress management is simply not achievable through change, consider consulting a doctor for a medical opinion in case you are suffering from more than just stress.

      Carl Mueller is an Internet entrepreneur and professional recruiter who wants to help you find your dream career.

      Visit Carl’s website to separate yourself from other job searchers: http://www.find-your-dream-career.com

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      Posted on Oct 23rd, 2006

      Many surveys and studies confirm that work pressures and fears are, by far, the leading source of stress for adults in the western world. Here are just a few statistics. More than 50% of workers often spend 12-hour-days on work related duties and frequently skip lunch due to the stress of job demands.

      According to an International Labour Organisation study, workers put in an equivalent of an extra 40-hour week in the year 2000, compared with 10 years earlier.

      It’s estimated that one million workers are absent every day due to stress. 40% of job turnover is due to stress. And 60-80% of accidents on the job is stress related.

      Job related stress is more likely to become chronic because it’s such a large part of your daily life.

      What are the causes of stress at work?

      The most common complaints include,

      · Having no participation in decisions that affect your responsibilities.

      · Unrelenting or unreasonable demands for performance.

      · Lack of communication.

      · Conflicts between workers or employers.

      · Lack of job security.

      · Long hours.

      · Excessive time spent away from home and family.

      · Office politics.

      · Wages not equal to your levels of responsibility.

      Many companies often put intense pressure on employees to perform, which can lead to high levels of tension.

      For employers, treating stress has many benefits. In one study a company set up a two year stress management and education program which saved money both in compensation costs and less days lost due to sickness.

      In Japan, where culturally, expectation levels are very high, approaches to reducing workplace stress include educational consultation programs for each individual worker.

      Techniques to reduce work-related stress

      Here are a few ways to reduce your stress at work,

      · Find a sympathetic manager or personnel manager to talk to about your job stress concerns. This can be effective if it’s non-confrontational.

      · Establish a network of friends at work and home.

      · Re-structure your working day and priorities to eliminate unnecessary tasks.

      · Focus on the positive aspects of your work, but if the job is unendurable, plan and execute a career change or transfer roles within the company.

      · Schedule pleasant activities frequently and perhaps some physical exercise during lunch.

      There is one last cause of stress at work. And it slowly but effectively erodes your health, dreams and happiness. None of the stress relief techniques will help if you are in the wrong job or industry. There is only one answer to this.

      You have to work out what you want to do with your life. What activities you love. And you have to plan a career change. Stress caused by job dissatisfaction will never go away until you get a job you love, or at least like.

      The stress doctor provides advice, tips, tools and techniques for beating your stress problems. You can get a free short report "18 health problems linked to stress you should know about" or get daily "Stress Buster Tips" at http://www.howtobeatstress.com

      Posted on Oct 22nd, 2006

      When an object is flexible and adapts easily to the changes in its environment then it is more likely to survive those changes.

      On the other hand when it is rigid the same changes will permeate the inflexible structure and force it to change, often in ways that will cause it to shatter or disintegrate.

      A simple example: note what happens to a glass sphere when dropped vs. the same for a rubber sphere. The "flexibility" or "adaptability" of the latter to such an environmental change is significantly greater. On the other hand, glass is more "adaptable”to a change in temperature than say rubber.

      Applying this concept of "flexibility" or "adaptability" to one’s personality can yield fruit in terms of helping us understand what characteristics might enhance one’s overall resilience to environmental changes.

      One way to conceptualize and operationalize what we call personality is to consider the conditioned beliefs upon which it is based. Such beliefs, acquired during one’s early life, affect one’s perceptual, emotional, behavioral and physiological responses to changes in one’s environment.

      For instance, if one believes that any change in one’s life situation is associated with unknown and dangerous outcomes then one’s response to any change is likely to manifest as some of the following:

      a) A fear of change.

      b) A fear of making decisions.

      c) Feelings of pervasive anxiety.

      d) Feelings of helplessness and vulnerability.

      e) Behavior that seeks to avoid turbulent environments.

      f) Fear of engaging new relationships.

      g) An inability to respond effectively when changes do occur.

      And so on.

      This illustrates how conditioned beliefs can affect the adaptability of a personality and therefore its overall resilience. Such beliefs make the personality structure rigid and vulnerable to disintegration in the face of real and perceived change.

      Stress is what one feels when their personality structure is being "tested" in this way. So if an individual has a set of beliefs that add rigidity to their personality structure they are more likely to "feel stressed".

      Adding resilience to one’s personality structure is then simply a matter of changing one’s repertoire of deeply held beliefs. In order to effect this many forms of therapy attempt to help individuals "reframe" what they perceive to be happening around them. Reframing is a process in which one is taught to think about something in a new and positive way.

      Reframing essentially adds some level of flexibility to the personality structure by giving it more ways of responding to change than it had before. One thing it doesn’t do however is address the already present inflexible beliefs that were originally conditioned from early life experience. They continue to remain part of the personality structure, much like one’s “Achilles’ Heel”.

      This leaves the individual prone to falling back into the "groove" of the conditioned belief rather than the reframed belief. When this occurs the individual is again stuck in a rigidified state and susceptible to feeling stressed.

      Another drawback to reframing is that the individual has to consciously remember to do the reframing exercise each time something untoward occurs to them. In other words a great deal of attention or conscious effort is required to keep the individual prepared to ward off the stress response.

      Clearly this is untenable in daily life as one’s attention must necessarily address other more pressing things on a regular basis. If one were to be constantly on guard and prepared to "rethink" what is happening to one it would severely incapacitate their ability to function.

      There is now a more reliable way to rapidly and permanently enhance the flexibility and resilience of one’s personality that addresses both of the problems mentioned above. A new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM)(MRP) has the remarkable ability to easily and permanently release conditioned beliefs from the personality structure altogether.

      The effect of such an undertaking is to automatically free the individual from the rigidity that the offending and limiting beliefs posed in the first place. This often leaves individuals with a feeling most have never experienced before in their entire lives.

      It includes some of the following: feelings of lightness, detachment, great resilience, inner peace and calm, great inner strength, self confidence, self esteem, a sense of empowerment, greater vitality, more energized and much more.

      What’s more, this is something that occurs spontaneously and which requires no ongoing conscious effort on the art of the individual once the offending belief is released.

      It is my view, as has already been shown, that this new approach will usher in an entirely new way of helping individuals gain the much needed resilience necessary to deal with our rapidly changing world.

      If you would like and experience of MRP right now kindly visit the web link below where you can download free an audio that will begin to change your life.

      Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called "Spirituality And Science" (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.

      Business URL #1: http://www.telecoaching4u.com

      Posted on Oct 21st, 2006

      “We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.” - John Dryden

      1. Is It You … Or Is It “Them”?

      Watch yourself closely on how YOU react to challenging and stressful situations each day. Experiment with, adjust and update your inner resources (Ahh, the old “habits”). Build up the fortress of your balanced being against anxiety and stress with new, better serving habits. This one is the hardest to do, yet it is the most effective and surprisingly, the least expensive in the line up of choices and … consequences.

      2. Input Overload And The Feelings Of Overwhelm

      Closely watch what is the most important for you in a situation. Only you can decide and set the rules of what the priorities in your life are. Focus on what you can control right now and move gently on from here. Consider setting aside some personal quiet time into your daily “mental flossing” routine. The habit of “quietude” is amazingly powerful.

      3. Risk Of Feeling Fatigue - Reversal

      Have you ever thought about this one? If you put the same amount of energy you devote to dealing with stress (negative) into the opposite direction (positive), what pleasant changes would you experience? Once you decide and change the attractor properties of your energies, you can actually vitalize them instead of running them empty most of the time.

      4. The HARDER You Try …

      Despite the common belief, the harder you try to do anything may bring you more of the hard and even harder. To fix this, assume a role of a persistent and flexible researcher who takes frequent power breaks to re-evaluate the progress on the issue. By practicing in this role frequently, you learn the vital steps of the softer, “luckier” go-getter.

      5. The Magic of Determination

      All the books in the world with tips and techniques, or all who have mastered that what you are seeking helping you, will be powerless and void unless you decide to grab all the help with – determination! Overcoming anxiety, stress and burnout will only be the beginning of the magic and delight awaiting you along your new way!

      “Habit is either the best of servants or the worst of masters.” - Nathaniel Emmons

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      Posted on Oct 10th, 2006

      Stressed-out? Too much to do and too little time? Then, check out these five simple stress-busters and feel stress-less soon. These easy steps to instant sanity are quick and effective. And best of all, you can do at least one of them right now, right where you are, in the comfort of your own home or cubicle.

      1. Breathe: Often and always, of course. But also DEEP-ly. Feel the air filling your lungs and expanding your ribcage and belly. As you breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth, offer thanks to the very air you take for granted. Reflect on how life-giving oxygen is given to you with every inhale and life-depleting toxins are removed with every exhale.

      Expand your exhale into a long sigh. Loosen up your shoulders and exhale with your entire body in one long, unbroken outbreath. Fully feel the sigh—starting at the crown of your head and rippling down through your body to the tips of your toes, as you softly whisper "Ahhhhhh. . . ".

      Yaaaaawn. When tense, you tend to take short, shallow, and sporadic breaths. Less oxygen goes the brain and body, and they can’t function at their peak. A slow, relaxing yaaaaawn brings revitalizing oxygen to where you need it most.

      2. Count to 10: Forward or backwards, out loud or to yourself. Either way, the point is to count s—l—o—w—l—y. Insert a word between each number. For example, say "10. . . hippopatumus," "9 . . . hippopatumus," and so on.

      By the end of your countdown, you’ll be feeling more cool, calm, and collected—ready once more to launch into your next activity.

      3. Look to the East: Stretch out with a little yoga. You don’t have to get out of your chair. Desk workers typically build up strain in the neck, shoulders, arms, and hands—and yoga can untie those knots. No time for a yoga mini-break? No worries. Try this quickie to revive and relax your overworked eyes: Rub your palms together briskly to build up some heat, then cover your overworked eyes for a few moments with your palms (no peeking—it should be dark as night in there). This imparts energy to the eyes and also helps them rest.

      4. Eat: No, this doesn’t mean gorging yourself on gobs of greasy fast food (which is often a response to stress). Treat yourself to a new kind of lunch. Think of the daily noontime ritual as a chance for you to unwind, to take a few quiet moments to de-stress and re-group. Head out on your own to refresh and recharge.

      Or, if you’re at home, stay there, but remember to turn off all noise-making electronics. Wherever you lunch, sit down, get comfy, and savor the flavors, textures, and aromas of every morsel of your meal. Eat ‘mindfully’ and chew each bite at least 50 times. You’ll digest better, which in turn means your body will more easily turn that food into energy to nourish and strengthen your overall system. Mindful eating also helps avoid heartburn and indigestion. Another big plus? You’re likely to eat less—and that’s a helpful if you want to slim down.

      5. Take a Hike: Just walk away. Right out the door. Don’t worry, your problems will still be there when you return. Of course, dress for the weather before you hop away, and don’t leave crying babies or boiling pots behind. You can get away from it all—at least for a few minutes—and return refreshed and rejuvenated, with a renewed outlook on life.

      While you’re out and about, look around and appreciate the sights and sounds—the sun, the sky, and the clouds. Be happy for what you have, like the ability to get out and take a walk. A little gratitude goes a long way. Try picking up the pace. ‘Power-walking’ can quickly work out the kinks. Fast or slow, a spin or stroll around the block helps you feel less frazzled and will put the razzle back in your dazzle.

      Each of these five stress-busters takes away your jitters by taking your mind off what’s bugging it. So, why not try one or two of these simple yet powerful de-stressors right now? And, remember, relax.

      For a refreshing 7-minute video of yoga you can do at your desk, go to http://www.myprimers.com/my_primers/yoga_at_desk.

      ABOUT THE AUTHOR

      P J Smith is motivated to write and writes to motivate. Her work can be seen on Public Television and at Healing Headquarters.com. She has been published in newspapers and magazines, and has written press releases for an international spiritual organization. To find out how PJ’s word wizardry will work wonders for you, visit P J Smith-Writer.com.

      Posted on Oct 7th, 2006

      Why do we resist change?
      As the saying goes, the only people who like change are busy cashiers and wet babies. We find change disorienting, creating within us an anxiety similar to culture shock, the unease visitors to an alien land feel because of the absence of the familiar cues they took for granted back home. With an established routine, we don’t have to think! And thinking is hard work.

      Change is a business fact of life
      Is your company is currently undergoing major changes that will affect the lives of all of its employees? These changes are probably in response to the evolving needs of your customers. They are made possible because of improvements in telecommunications and digital technology. They are likely guided by accepted principles and practices of total quality management. And you can expect that they will result in significant improvements profitability–a success that all employees will share. Because our customers’ needs are NOW, we must make changes swiftly, which means that all of us must cooperate with the changes, rather than resist them.

      How do we resist change?
      We tend to respond to change the same way we respond to anything we perceive as a threat: by flight or fight. Our first reaction is flight–we try to avoid change if we can. We do what futurist Faith Popcorn calls "cocooning": we seal ourselves off from those around us and try to ignore what is happening. This can happen in the workplace just by being passive. We don’t volunteer for teams or committees; we don’t make suggestions, ask questions, or offer constructive criticism. But the changes ahead are inescapable. Those who "cocoon" themselves will be left behind.

      Even worse is to fight, to actively resist change. Resistance tactics might include negativity, destructive criticism, and even sabotage. If this seldom happens at your company, you are fortunate.

      Take a different approach to change
      Rejecting both alternatives of flight or flight, we seek a better option–one that neither avoids change nor resists it, but harnesses and guides it.

      Change can be the means to your goals, not a barrier to them. Both fight and flight are reactions to perceiving change as a threat. But if we can change our perceptions, we can avoid those reactions. An old proverb goes, "Every change brings an opportunity." In other words, we must learn to see change as a means of achieving our goals, not a barrier preventing us from reaching them.

      Another way of expressing the same thought is: A change in my external circumstances provides me with an opportunity to grow as a human being. The greater the change is, the greater and faster I can grow. If we can perceive change along these lines, we will find it exciting and energizing, rather than depressing and debilitating.

      Yet this restructuring of our perspective on change can take some time. In fact, coping with change follows the same steps as the grieving process.1 The steps are shock and denial that the old routine must be left behind, then anger that change is inevitable, then despair and a longing for the old ways, eventually replaced by acceptance of the new and a brighter view of the future. Everyone works through this process; for some, the transition is lightning fast, for others painfully slow.

      Realize your capacity to adapt.
      As one writer put it recently:

      Our foreparents lived through sea changes, upheavals so cataclysmic, so devastating we may never appreciate the fortitude and resilience required to survive them. The next time you feel resistant, think about them and about what they faced–and about what they fashioned from a fraction of the options we have. They blended old and new worlds, creating family, language, cuisine and new life-affirming rhythms, and they encouraged their children to keep on stepping toward an unknown but malleable future.2

      Human beings are created remarkably flexible, capable of adapting to a wide variety of environments and situations. Realizing this can help you to embrace and guide change rather than resisting or avoiding it.

      Develop a coping strategy based on who you are.
      Corporate employees typically follow one of four decision-making styles: analytical, directive, conceptual, and behavioral. These four styles, described in a book by Alan J. Rowe and Richard O. Mason,3 have the following characteristics:

      • Analytical Style – technical, logical, careful, methodical, needs much data, likes order, enjoys problem-solving, enjoys structure, enjoys scientific study, and enjoys working alone.

      Conceptual Style – creative and artistic, future oriented, likes to brainstorm, wants independence, uses judgment, optimistic, uses ideas vs. data, looks at the big picture, rebellious and opinionated, and committed to principles or a vision.

      Behavioral Style – supportive of others, empathetic, wants affiliation, nurtures others, communicates easily, uses instinct, avoids stress, avoids conflict, relies on feelings instead of data, and enjoys team/group efforts.

      Directive Style – aggressive, acts rapidly, takes charge, persuasive and/or is manipulative, uses rules, needs power/status, impatient, productive, single-minded, and enjoys individual achievements.

      Read once more through these descriptions and identify which style best describes you. Then find and study the strategy people who share your style follow to cope with change:

      • Analytical coping strategy – You see change as a challenging puzzle to be solved. You need plenty of time to gather information, analyze data, and draw conclusions. You will resist change if you are not given enough time to think it through.

      Conceptual coping strategy – You are interested in how change fits into the big picture. You want to be involved in defining what needs to change and why. You will resist change if you feel excluded from participating in the change process.

      Behavioral coping strategy – You want to know how everyone feels about the changes ahead. You work best when you know that the whole group is supportive of each other and that everyone champions the change process. If the change adversely affects someone in the group, you will perceive change as a crisis.

      Directive coping strategy – You want specifics on how the change will affect you and what your own role will be during the change process. If you know the rules of the change process and the desired outcome, you will act rapidly and aggressively to achieve change goals. You resist change if the rules or anticipated results are not clearly defined.

      Realizing what our normal decision-making style is, can enable us to develop personal change-coping tactics.

      How can we cope with change?
      1. Get the big picture. – Sometimes, not only do we miss the forest because of the trees, but we don’t even see the tree because we’re focused on the wood. Attaining a larger perspective can help all of us to cope with change, not just the conceptualists. The changes underway at my company are clearly following at least four important trends, which I believe are probably reflective of businesses in general:

      • Away from localized work toward network-based work,

    • Away from a feast-or-famine working environment toward a routinely busy working environment,
    • Away from site-limited approaches toward approaches that are consistent company-wide, and
    • Away from vertical, top-down management toward a more horizontal management structure, with shared accountability.
    • Getting at least this much comprehension of the big picture will help us to understand where each of us fits.

      2. Do some anchoring. – When everything around you is in a state of flux, it sure helps to find something stable that isn’t going to change, no matter what. Your company’s values (whether articulated or not) can provide that kind of stability for you. Ours include the Company Family, Focus on the Customer, Be Committed to Quality, and Maintain Mutual Respect. These values are rock-solid; they are not going to disappear or rearrange themselves into something else. Plus, each of us has personal values that perhaps are even more significant and permanent. Such immovables can serve as anchors to help us ride out the storm.

      3. Keep your expectations realistic. – A big part of taking control of the change you experience is to set your expectations. You can still maintain an optimistic outlook, but aim for what is realistically attainable. That way, the negatives that come along won’t be so overwhelming, and the positives will be an adrenaline rush. Here are some examples:

      • There will be some bumps along the road. We shouldn’t expect all of the changes ahead to be painless, demanding only minimal sacrifice, cost, or effort. In fact, we should expect some dead ends, some breakdowns in communications, and some misunderstandings, despite our best efforts to avoid them. We may not be able to anticipate all of the problems ahead, but we can map out in general terms how we will deal with them.

    • Not everyone will change at the same rate. The learning rates of any employees will distribute themselves along a bell curve. A few will adapt rapidly, most will take more time, and a few will adjust gradually. Also, many younger employees may find change, especially technological innovations, easier than those older. The reason may be, as one observer explains, "Older people’s hard disks are fuller."4 On the other hand, you may find some younger ones surprisingly reluctant to take on a new challenge.
    • The results of change may come more slowly than we would want. As participants in an "instant society," conditioned by the media to expect complex problems to reach resolution in a 60-minute time frame, we may find the positive results of change slow to arrive from the distant horizon. If we are aware of this, we won’t be so disappointed if tomorrow’s results seem so similar to today’s. 4. Develop your own, personal change tactics. Get plenty of exercise, plenty of rest, and watch your diet. Even if you take all the right steps and follow the best advice, undergoing change creates stress in your life, and stress takes energy. Aware of this, you can compensate by taking special care of your body.
    • Invest time and energy in training. Sharpen your skills so that you can meet the challenges ahead with confidence. If the training you need is not available through Bowne, get it somewhere else, such as the community college or adult education program in your area.

      Get help when you need it. If you are confused or overwhelmed with the changes swirling around you, ask for help. Your supervisor, manager, or coworkers may be able to assist you in adjusting to the changes taking place. Your human resources department and any company-provided counseling services are other resources available to you.

      Make sure the change does not compromise either your company values or your personal ones. If you are not careful, the technological advances jostling each other for your attention and adoption will tend to isolate you from personal contact with your coworkers and customers. E-mail, teleconference, voice-mail, and Intranet can make us more in touch with each other, or they can keep us antiseptically detached, removed from an awareness that the digital signals we are sending reach and influence another flesh-and-blood human being.

      Aware of this tendency, we must actively counteract the drift in this direction by taking an interest in people and opening up ourselves to them in return. We have to remember to invest in people–all of those around us–not just in technology.

      The "new normalcy"
      Ultimately, we may discover that the current state of flux is permanent. After the events of September 11, Vice President Richard Cheney said we should accept the many resultant changes in daily life as permanent rather than temporary. "Think of them," he recommended, "as the ‘new normalcy.’"

      You should take the same approach to the changes happening at your workplace. These are not temporary adjustments until things get "back to normal." They are probably the "new normalcy" of your life as a company. The sooner you can accept that these changes are permanent, the better you can cope with them all–and enjoy their positive results.

      Notes

      1. Nancy J. Barger and Linda K. Kirby, The Challenge of Change in Organizations: Helping Employees Thrive in the New Frontier (Palo Alto, CA: Davies-Black Publ., 1995). This source is summarized in Mary M. Witherspoon, "Coping with Change," Women in Business 52, 3 (May/June 2000): 22-25.

      2. Susan Taylor, "Embracing Change," Essence (Feb. 2002): 5.

      3. Alan J. Rowe and Richard O. Mason, Managing with Style: A Guide to Understanding, Assessing and Improving Decision-Making (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass Management Series, 1987) cited in Witherspoon, "Coping with Change."

      4. Emily Friedman, "Creature Comforts," Health Forum Journal 42, 3 (May/June 1999): 8-11. Futurist John Naisbitt has addressed this tendency in his book, High tech/high touch: Technology and our search for meaning (New York: Random House, 1999). Naisbitt co-wrote this book with his daughter Nana Naisbitt and Douglas Philips.

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