'Stress Prevention' Category Archive

Posted on Jul 2nd, 2006

If you’re like most people, you have your bouts of frustration, for sure. Not everyone handles these episodes in the same manner, as you most likely already know. One of the biggest problems is that some people don’t seem to get a grip on the fact that they do have a choice as to how to react to people, situations, and events.

We learned how to be angry at a very early age - we cried and, at the time, probably got what we wanted as a result just so we’d be quiet. Hmmm…does that say something? Perhaps that alone extinguishes some of the wonder as to why using our little frenzies when things go wrong has been something worth holdingonto.

Anger and frustration are okay for starters - if used properly. But they are meant to be short-lived. If not, they grow into resentment and all kinds of problems can result - and that’s more than just probable. It’s a given. And it’s not healthy. Can you see that?

This may or may not be astonishing to you, but virtually every emotional and physical disorder can be traced back to anger. To some that’s startling. So why do we hold onto it for so long?

Well, as mentioned above, anger was something we learned at an early age. Thing is, the majority of us never really learned how to deal with it in a healthy manner - and that’s not good. As a matter of fact, we’ve gotten so good at using our anger as a means of dealing that the effects of this potentially disastrous emotion are often never noticed by us! Then it should be no surprise that emotional and physical disorders result, since the warning signs are quite often not there.

Isn’t it time you, once and for all, get a handle on dealing with the anger, frustration, and resentment in your life? The benefits are so huge, they’re unexplainable. In addition, it’s not just you who will benefit. Family members, friends, co-workers, intimate partners, will not only notice the difference in you, but self-control can be catchy. You are sure to serve as a role model for those around you.

It doesn’t have to be a difficult task, you know. As a matter of fact, there is kit designed to make the process as easy as can be. Dr.Sandra Nelson of www.Tell-Me-About-It.com has put together a kit that is so user friendly, your progress is guaranteed. And, yes, the site guarantees your success.

First off, once you receive delivery of your package, you won’t have to go beyond opening the envelope to sense that you’ve got something different in your hands. In addition to being accompanied with some pretty nice goodies, the workbook is written in such a way that no one will be intimidated by its language. It is a priority of Dr. Sandy (as she is so often referred to) to create tools that will be put to use. And, yes, each one is put together with her own care. They are meant to work for everyone who puts his or her hands on them - and they do.

The name of the anger management kit by Dr. Sandy is "It’s A Mad House" - you can have your copy delivered to you within just a matter of a few days by visiting http://tell-me-about-it.com/2itsamadhouse.shtml to learn more. Surely, you will be glad that you made the investment. And, considering its effectiveness, the price is unbelievable. So do yourself and your loved ones a favor and get your copy.Better still, pick up a few as gifts - the thanks you’ll receive will be priceless.

When you really get down to it, it makes no sense whatsoever to avoid the decision to take some action toward the mastery of your emotions. So often we hear others (we all seem to do it at times) complain about how frustrated or upset they are about something and it’s obvious that how they feel was caused by someone or something outside themselves - according to them. This is simply not true. It’s easy to "pass the buck" when it comes to blame; however, there is only one person who can be the master of what’s between your own two ears - and that’s you.

Once you give yourself the privilege of a little self study, you know what will happen? You’ll want to learn more - it will be like a light that goes off in your head - you know, like those "A-HAA!" moments when you say "Why in the world did I not know this stuff about myself before!"

Well, friend, there’s no time like the present to give yourself the luxury of getting to know yourself a little better. Think you’re an alright person now? Wait to you really get to know you - what a genuine treat!

Dr. Sandra Nelson and David Longo are co-founders of self-help website http://www.Tell-Me-About-It.com - Thousands of people from all walks of life visit Tell-Me-About-It.com every month to explore and realize their potential for happiness.

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Posted on Jul 1st, 2006

Whether we are at work, traveling, or at home, we’ve all had bad days. Those stressful times can be difficult, but important, to shake. Your mental, emotional, and physical health depends on you to find ways to relax and regain equilibrium. I’m going to be sharing some practices that you can do to help throw off that stress and reclaim your Happy Self in no time!

First, let me explain a little bit to you about Stress Chemicals. Stress and other forms of negativity affect your sympathetic nervous system and endocrine and hormonal systems. Stress sends nerve impulses to the adrenal glands, which in turn puts a number of different chemicals into your blood stream. They affect the pituitary gland, which causes yet even more chemicals to be released. These chemicals include corticosteroids, such as adrenaline and noradrenaline, other hormones, and neurotransmitters. All the chemical reactions can turn into a vicious cycle making it harder to clear yourself from them and the damage they cause.

The good news is there are a broad variety of tools you can use to relax your mind and body to relieve the stress chemicals before they cause too much harm. Let’s go on an adventure and try a variety of activities to find what works best for you!

My favorite thing to do to help me get back to my Happy Self is to take long hot baths. Bathing works to clear the stress chemicals from our topical bodies, relaxes our muscles, and it feels wonderful! Epsom salts, Bath Salts, or Sugar Scrubs are perfect agents to use. I also use aromatherapy products such as candles or incense. Soothing music is a beautiful touch as well.

Another important thing to do is to Move Your Body! Yoga, Pilates, or any stretching exercise will help release the stuck stress chemicals from your muscles and spine. Any sort of stretching will do, touch your toes and reach up high into the air, as high as you can reach and then bend back down to touch your toes again. Even one minute of stretching is beneficial. Try to take several mini stretch breaks throughout your day. Take a walk, dance, jump up and down, do whatever you can think of to just move, even if only for a couple minutes a day out of your hectic schedule. You’ll be amazed at how this increases your energy and gives you more stamina against stress.

Good breathing practices are critical. Of course, you HAVE to breathe. Good breathing takes some practice and will give you the most benefit of how the oxygen circulates through your bloodstream. Use good breathing to replace stress chemicals with clean energy. This helps your body tremendously and helps your mind react with more stability. The simplest method I’ve found is to breathe in slowly and steadily. Try it! Take three nice deep breaths, through your heart. Now, focus on your diaphragm filling up like a balloon each time you inhale and deflating softly with each exhale. Allow this process to be very natural and steady. This is the perfect practice that you can do anytime, anywhere. I encourage you to practice this one as often as you can think of it. I find rush hour is a particularly good time for me to work on breathing techniques!

Visualization techniques are another great practice to focus on from time to time. Don’t worry if you can’t actually SEE what you are trying to visualize. Every person sees things differently. What’s important is your intention. For example, think of your favorite desert; really think about it, the way it tastes, the texture, and the colors. How are you doing at imagining that? That imagining is exactly what visualization is. You are all ready an expert! Let’s put that expertise into motion with some visualization exercises. Find a relaxing area, sit or lie down, any position works wonderfully for this. When your comfortable, imagine a ball of bright white or very bright blue light as a little spark that starts in the area of your sacral chakra (Your tummy area), allow it to grow into a flame. Allow that flame to grow within you and outside of you. Let the flame fill your whole space and imagine it "burning" out all negative blocks or murky feeling areas. Now, imagine the flame blowing out of you and disappearing into the distance, taking all the negativity with it. Now breathe! You can also do simple visualizations of your favorite Happy Places. The beach, a beautiful sunset, or a loved one always works well for me. Whatever your very own special Happy Places are, spend some time and go there in your heart and mind and notice how refreshed you feel after your “journey”.

One last I’ll leave you with for now is to begin a journal. Use it to record where your stresses come from, what you did to relieve yourself from it and how that turned out for you. You’ll be able to use your journal to fine-tune the methods that work best for you. While you are doing this, remember to mix it up a bit. Try practicing visualization or breathing techniques as you soak in a nice hot bath, or when you are stretching. Mix all the techniques up to find your own variety of stress relief tools. Then, when those yucky, stressful days hit, you’ll be well prepared to handle them with ease!

Tracy Togliatti is a Holistic Practitioner specializing in Energy Psychology and Reiki. She offers a free service at http://www.happyher.com/advice/index.shtml

Posted on Jun 30th, 2006

Most people know of the importance of exercise as a means of weight loss, strength gains, and increased endurance, but exercise can play a major role in the reduction of stress. Along with just stress relief, exercise can help improve mental health, emotion and mood.

When you exercise, your body produces substances called endorphins. Endorphins are formed within the body to help relieve pain and induce a feeling of well-being and relaxation. Endorphins have a similar chemical structure to morphine. Release of these endorphins can make you fall asleep faster, and may help in the reduction of high blood pressure.

When a stressful situation arises, the body undergoes some 1500 biochemical reactions. This is referred to as the “fight or flight” response. In prehistoric times, stress may have come by means of the threat of being eaten by something very large! The chemical changes in the body produced that “pumped up”, adrenaline rush feeling, preparing the body to fight the beast or run like heck! This was and is the means by which the built up byproducts of the chemical changes are released.

Although traffic on the way to work, or knowing the in-laws are coming next week, hardly compare to the possibility of becoming lunch, the body still goes through the chemical changes in response to the stress. If a “fight or flight” action is not taken, the byproducts continue to circulate and can cause illness. Exercise is a perfect way to expel the problem.

Changing the body’s chemical composition is not the only way that exercise can help alleviate stress, however. Stress can be caused by the expression or repression of anger. Exercise offers a target in which one may direct their anger. Try hitting a racquetball, golf ball, or punching bag. Go to a gym and lift some weights. Often times, “getting it out” can make some of that anger go away.

Some forms of exercise have meditative similarities. Steady-state exercise (running long distances, swimming at a slow pace), may alter one’s state of consciousness as the deep breathing patterns maintained over a long period of time are similar to the breathing techniques used in meditation. Some runners experience a “high” feeling during or after a run.

Exercise can also enhance one’s feelings of self-esteem. By participating in bouts of exercise, one tends to feel better knowing they are doing something for their health. Setting and overcoming goals can be a great tool in enhancing self-esteem. And don’t forget about improved body image. Perhaps the greatest self-esteem boost comes from fitting into a smaller size or seeing muscles where there once was flab!

During stressful times, muscles contract. During exercise, muscles do work, releasing stored energy and allowing the muscles to return back to their resting state. This also happens with massage.

Sometimes too little in one’s life can be stressful. It is natural for humans to seek out stimulation and excitement. Exercise provides a social opportunity, which can be of some stress relief. Bored with your daily routine? Run with a friend; join in on a pick-up basketball or volleyball game. HAVE FUN!


There are some times that exercise itself can be stressful. If you are a competitive person, you may not want to engage in competitive exercise or sports as a means of relieving stress. If you are playing or competing against someone, you may lose! If you are trying to beat a personal best, you may not succeed! Keep this in mind if stress relief is a goal.

When choosing your exercise, make sure that you pick something that you enjoy doing. If you don’t like to run, DON’T RUN! Try different exercises; talk to a Fitness Specialist. Exercise is more than treadmills and weight machines. Find out what you like to do, and do it!

Wes Norris, CSCS is a Fitness Consultant and the owner of AllAroundFitness.org based out of Connecticut.

Wes works at Hartford Hospital and trains clients, athletes, and speaks to groups on the importance of exercise for a variety of specific conditions.

He runs a fitness bootcamp, teaches for a National Personal Training certifying agency and creates and produces fitness products for Trainers and Fitness Fanatics.

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Posted on Jun 29th, 2006

…And holding it way down inside you like an old sponge? Be careful. Just like an old sponge that’s held its liquid a little too long, we may start to get stinky in a day or two. I’m referring to “soaking up” all that wonderful information that comes to us mainly through our televisions, radios and computers. Information that is then refortified and nourished through conversations with our friends or relatives.

It’s unfortunately a fact of life. Every minute of every day, the media presents “news” that is frequently disturbing. Coverage of terrorist acts, wars, airline crashes, natural disasters – all kinds of information that show, sometimes in graphic detail, the tragic events of our world and the how they are impacting the lives of our fellow man. As I write this, the TV is blanketed with video footage, stories, commentary, interviews and speculation related to the aftermath of hurricane Katrina. The devastation is truly mind-boggling.

Here’s the problem. Many of us humans have a tendency to become over-focused on these events. For some strange reason, beyond a reasonable desire to be informed, we find ourselves sitting in front of our televisions or our computers viewing, listening to and reading everything we can about the current “terrible event”. We are “soakin’ it up”!

The unfortunate result is that we soon start to feel the negative emotions associated with our current focus. Don’t get me wrong. It’s normal – and good – to empathize – to feel compassion toward those people who are experiencing tough times. That’s just a nice expression of our love toward our fellow man. It’s not good for us personally however, to dwell on the negatives – to continually shove this stuff into our little brains to ferment into mind sludge. Whether we consciously realize it or not, it won’t take long for our bodies to respond to this mental goo. We may find that we’re not feeling quite as well as we did a few days ago. We may find it harder to deal with the pressures of our personal lives. We may notice that our patience level has dropped somewhat – that we’re now kind of cranky and out of sorts. Whatever the effect, it’s our body’s normal reaction to a bombardment of negatives.

So here’s a suggestion. If you find that you’ve been spending a lot of time in front of your TV or computer soaking up negatives - and you are having a tendency to “feel” the emotions associated with this mental input, take a break from it. Switch to the cartoon channel, watch a comedy video, take a walk, bathe the dog, read a book, work on your stamp collection, play with your kids, mow the lawn, go to the mall – anything that will divert your attention away from the yucky stuff and more toward those things you enjoy doing. Give your mind a healing dose of positives. Trust me – you’ll feel better…

Gene Simmons, through NuPathz.com, provides an easy reading self-help blog, articles, quotations, thoughts and links along with affordable self-help and self improvement books & materials - all designed to help folks find the road to a more enjoyable lifestyle, to pass on some of life’s “secrets for survival” in a chaotic world & offer a few smiles along the way. It’s a down-to-earth, simple approach to discovering a better life. You can visit Gene at http://www.nupathz.com/

Posted on Jun 9th, 2006

A recent survey showed that 70-90% of us feel stressed at work and outside. Stress is easy to lead to problems in central nervous system, cardiovascular system, digestive system, respiratory system, immune system, endocrine and reproductive system. There are several ways to control stress. The fact is that Teas they act simultaneously in all the body levels due to it’s many properties, sometimes thousands unlike western drugs that have just a few. This comprehensive general approach that acts in the whole body is the paramount advantage of the natural approach versus the limited drug related one.

Firstly, the optimum alternative would be to leave your stressful environment and you can more easily treat and even cure the conditions. Of course, this is usually difficult if not impossible; so if you gradually reduce the symptoms even while living in the same environment, it will be easier to live and improve your health and emotional condition. When you prepare your tea cup in the traditional way, you will “allow” yourself a few minutes to escape from the stressful environment and emerge in a “different state of mind” even for a few minutes …. Surprisingly these few moments every day it will make a difference. Every time you pour the Teas, you will have the “natural infusion” of tranquility, and healthy nutrients that in the course of time will definitely make you feel better. It’s not a quick fix and it’s meant to slowly improve your condition for the long term.

Exercise is definitely important, as well as meditation and focus on your breathing is paramount. Again not an easy option in the modern way of life but small steps can be effective. Isolate yourself in a space, focus on your breathing, and try to reduce the speed of your heart beat. You can do it standing up or in the lotus position. Yoga and Tai Chi are also excellent. In the Art of Tea, it is said that Teas have the property of slowing altering your “energy” Chi, level and is conducive to a more active way of life. It all works together, mind and body; teas are only one of the ways to bring them into harmony.

All patients suffering from stress, anxiety, and depression will benefit from treatment with herbs or Teas. Some people feel good for a short time, while others can actually stop drugs and even psychotherapy. It usually takes some time but it does have a long lasting effect and more importantly no side effects. Many people will feel temporary relief after two or three weeks drinking Pure Teas between two or three cups a day and a definite over all improvement after a few months.

The question is what is Tea? And how good are they? And which ones to drink?

We believe that any Tea that comes in a bag is already altered from its natural state with loss of its key properties; it has been usually mixed with different elements, processed in an industrial scale and often of lesser quality. In the traditional sense, Teas should be drunk, in its loose form, in its natural form, without any alteration whatsoever from its original form. Never mixed with milk and some, like Flower Tea, may be used with Crystal sugar, never the refined one.

Try different ones; let your body tell you which ones are more suitable to your condition. Please read about them, (www.in-nature.com) and to vary is important. For example: after eating fattening foods one should drink Puehr and when feeling too stresses some Oolong.

This makes the whole difference and this is where lies the dividing line between the “real tea” that can effectively make a difference in your stress level as well as your general well being and the other ones.

It is important to highlight that the caffeine in Natural Teas are far less then in Coffee and easily absorbed by the body due to its small quantities.

For more serious cases of course there are a variety of herbal formulas to treat various psychological conditions. A formula of herbs is similar to a doctor’s prescription in the sense that the dosage and specifics of the medicine need to be closely monitored by a trained professional.

In all we recommend to all the high flyers, workaholics, stress addicted members of the modern world to take this very first simple step and sooner then you think you will feel the difference.

Pure Teas, a simple taste of life … a natural way to control stress created, produced and delivered by Mother Nature.


Posted on Jun 8th, 2006

I’ve spent years researching books on stress in order to find the very best methods to combat this destroyer of happiness, contentment and sometimes life itself. Sure, some stress is good since it can motivate us to take action and even enable us to save our lives and others. But today’s society pounds us with a continuous barrage of stress through long working hours, downsizing, technological changes, two parents working, financial pressures and a host of other influences including war, taxes and death.

There are three excellent methods to combat stress. Make sure you have healthy eating habits, a healthy mind and a healthy body.

Reduce stress with healthy eating habits

What we eat and drink fuels our body. If our body is well fuelled we feel energetic, alert, we sleep better and live longer. If our body is given Big Macs, cake, French fries and fast food continuously we will have high cholesterol, fat, feel sluggish and probably die many years younger than we thought we would. Having healthy eating habits takes a bit of effort. Here is what you do. Read a book on health and become educated on healthy foods. You probably already know that fruits and vegetables are important, but find out what the healthiest ones are (like broccoli). Reducing all processed foods such as white bread, white paste, white rice and reducing sugar is also very healthy. Each Sunday morning take a few minutes to plan the week’s meals. If you are on a budget check the grocery store flyers and buy what is on sale. Get a healthy but tasty recipe book and choose a few recipes for the week. The trick here is to plan the week so that you stay away from last minute junk food temptation. And stay in the habit. It’s really not that difficult.

Reduce stress with a healthy mind.

The fascinating thing about humans is that we all see the world through different perceptions. They way we each see the world is from all the imprints we have experienced throughout our lives. Some of us call these imprints conditioning. These imprints can also cause us stress. Ancient Asian teaching tells us that our mind records about 60 images (or imprints) in the snap of a finger. These imprints enter the subconscious and are part of a vast repository of imprints in your mind, some stronger than others. You may see a winter day as cold and miserable, I may see it as beautiful. I like that person yet you hate them. You believe that the winter and a certain cashier are contributing to the misery in your life (even though that cashier is only at the grocery store). And you carry this anger and misery around like heavy luggage strapped on your back. The most important thing here is to make a conscience effort and avoid having past imprints influence you. The cashier reminds you of a bad teacher, she is just like your strict aunt, and the way she looks at you over her glasses is annoying. These are all past imprints bubbling up to you from your subconscious. And now every time you see her you are annoyed. The cashier may have had a bad day with you once, but is loved by many other people. Different perspectives. The winter is not purposely trying to make you miserable. It can’t. Only you can make yourself miserable. Now try looking at everything from an empty or neutral perspective. Allow the goodness to seep in. This is an incredible peaceful way of looking at the world around us and will erase all kinds of stress. My perception of the winter day is now beautiful. I am the master of my mind, not the winter day. This technique reduces all kinds of unnecessary imprint stress.

Reduce stress with a healthy body.

Our body needs exercise. Without exercise we become lazy, fat, weak, stressed out, and will probably die sooner than expected. There are a million reasons not to exercise. Here are a few tips on getting you in motion. Whatever you do, try to make exercising fun. Go hiking or biking with a friend. Develop a routine by exercising at the same time of day. If you join a fitness club, find one close to home. Nothing worse than finishing work and having to spend unnecessary time commuting to the fitness club. Weigh yourself to keep on track and create motivation. If you have a dog, walk it. It’s not that hard to exercise. Even a brisk walk around the block will help. With a healthier body stress will not affect you nearly as much.

In Summary

What we eat and drink fuels our body. Eat and drink healthy foods through simple planning.

Realize that our past imprints heavily influence our mind and the way we see the world. Try to look at the world in a neutral and empty way. This allows the mind to relax a few precious seconds and shift towards peace and goodness.

Exercising the body isn’t that hard to do. Make it fun.

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Terry Vermeylen is one of those rare people that is passionately driven to help others unlock their own barriers toward fulfillment, meaning and purpose. He is the founder of http://www.mylifechanges.com/, an Internet value identification and goal setting enterprise.

Posted on May 29th, 2006

How many people have you met that do not know what it feels like to be stressed?

Do you even need two hands to count them on?

Since you probably don’t need two hands, and since you are probably familiar with stress yourself, here are the top eight things you can do, or do more of, to deal with stress:

1. Go for a run. Or a walk. Or go swimming, or boxing, or do some other physical activity. Exercise is good for you on four different levels:

a. It will get a large chunk of the accumulated stress out of your system.

b. If your physical activity is outdoorsy, it allows you to get some air and to take a break.

c. Exercise releases endorphins, which make you feel better, happier. It’s sort of a natural high, really.

d. You’ll be fitter and better looking - always a plus!

2. Find a person you can share your troubles with - most of your friends are not the kind you can share your troubles with, but rather people with whom you can talk about lighter matters. There are probably only one or two friends with whom you can really talk about everything. So share with them - talking about it will ease your burden.

3. Be in the company of friends and acquaintances - not for sharing, like in #2, but just for the company. You know, have fun. It will make life better, and it will also distract you from your troubles.

4. Find a hobby. Whether it’s arts or crafts, biking, fishing, or any other hobby you can think of, focusing on something you like to do takes your mind off your troubles, and allows you to relax. You can’t work all day long.

5. Set an appointed time for the above activities, so they don’t get pushed aside by "more important things", stressful things. Monday and Friday evening can be dedicated to some kind of sport. Tuesday afternoons might be your time for painting. Saturday night can be the time all the gang goes out to play pool. Just make sure you set a time for doing the things that make you feel good, and don’t let your "duties" push them aside.

6. Take a deep breath. Now do it again. When you are stressed, your breathing becomes shallow. The moment you take a deep breath, however, you feel better. Remember: breathe. Breath is life.

7. Put on some music. It doesn’t have to be classic music, although it can be if you like it. Just listen to music that makes you feel good, that relaxes you. Happy, quiet or classic music can do wonders. Heavy metal, though, is not relaxing music, no matter what you think and no matter what your taste in music is.

8. Find a distraction from life that makes you feel good - it could be a movie or a book, for instance. That takes your mind off things, takes you into different worlds, allowing the body and the mind time to relax.

There you have it. If you are stressed, you’re probably not doing these eight things enough.

Stress can be dealt with when you know how. Use the above tips to deal with your stress. They can work wonders!

Copyright 2005 Dvora Ifat and Shunit Ben-Tzvi

Dvora Ifat and Shunit Ben-Tzvi are co-authors of "No Stress! How to Save Tons of Money on Shrinks and Doctors - Just by Reducing Stress!", a web authority on stress management and relief. http://www.nostressebook.com

Posted on May 28th, 2006

A force applied with strength to extreme or beyond the capacity is stress. Application of stress is in order to sustain, defend, defeat, or achieve the objective. A stress has both negative and positive impacts that lead to strain. The consequence of stress is strain that means the disturbances resulted due to stress imbalances the arrangement. Continuous stress in one stage increases the capacity and makes powerful on the other hand disturbs internal structure and damages it. A stress applied physically leads to physical strain and if mental gives mental strain. Strain is a sort of pain caused by the disturbances.

Whether physical or mental that disturbs smooth going deteriorates formation. It is like an elastic tape, which is stretchable but has limit to it, trying to stretch over the limitation would only damage the tape. In one way, strain and stress are same, begins from stress, and ends at strain. Thus, the stress is stretch and strain is pain or the outcome. Finally, we call in normal language is “stress” penetrated deep into our human society killing each of us

Stress: Is a stage of blankness within self, led by confusion, frustration, aggravation, irritation, competition, and dissatisfaction. A reason of frustration etc is failure to resist, defend, or defeat. The stress is a result of conflict between two forces that are environment and the self.

The external and the internal forces are two opposite features and related to each other. One is to attract and the other one to react and act. However, when internal force becomes weaker to external force, the inability that we face creates the stress due to strain resulted by helplessness. The external force is also a creation by us to live with it through our ambitions, desires, and the activities etc. The external force is the environment or what we call is the situation that attracts us to react. The reaction when fails to match despite the efforts and deep involvement makes us desperate and we fail to go with it. Internal force is our own self, the personality.

Our personality is always ahead of us that influence us to act according to its requirements and desires. Our brain and body as tool act to fulfill the directions. The process of direction and action is through the chemical reactions in the body. Success and failure are the reaction of chemical substance that cheers us up during success and sadden when fail. Our brain cells too get confused during the act, due to extreme involvement towards the goal whether for happiness or sadness. The brain fails to act in its extreme functioning as the machinery in its extreme overheats and collapses. We can sense this situation when we find ourselves in vacuum and nothingness. Is a confused position or stressed and to overcome the situation we have to forget what we intended in our mind and relax until cools down.

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Posted on May 27th, 2006

We all experience some stress in our lives every day, but if you find yourself worrying so much that you’re losing sleep and having a hard time concentrating at work, then it is time you took action. Worry and fear are powerful emotions, and if left untreated they can often lead to anxiety and even depression.

The first thing to remember is that just as a seed cannot grow without soil and water to nourish it, your anxiety cannot grow without you feeding it. Anxiety is caused by an intense fear or worry about a possible outcome. These are the thoughts that are running unchecked through your head. The only way to control your anxiety is by controlling your thoughts.

You can begin by thinking back to other times when you worried about something. Did the fear come true or was the worry groundless? How much time have you wasted agonizing over something that never came about? It’s okay to have a little anxiety, everyone does. It’s when the worry begins to control your life that it has become a serious problem.

Worry has never solved anything. Because worry is a form of fear and intense fear can paralyze us, anxiety can actually make us fear making a decision and prevents us from solving the problem. Instead, we just keep running the same negative possible outcome over and over through our heads. Our fear actually creates additional fear.

If there is something wrong, then you need to focus on fixing it instead of worrying about it. If it can’t be fixed, then worrying about what might happen tomorrow accomplishes nothing except spoiling today. Worry on its own has never fixed anything.

Anxiety can become a vicious cycle that feeds itself. The only way to overcome the anxiety is to overcome the fear, and this is accomplished by changing your thought process. Rather than having a mind full of fear, fill it with hope and favorable outcomes. Events seldom turn out as terrible or as wonderful as we imagine they will. Our thoughts tend to the extreme while life is usually somewhere in the middle.

Concentrate on the positives and when you feel any negativity creeping into your thought process, push it away and go back to the positives. It is like a tug-of-war, either you control your anxiety or your anxiety will control you. Start with small issues and work your way up to larger ones, always picturing a positive outcome. Once you can keep these positive results in mind, you then need to begin taking positive action to make them come about. The cure for anxiety begins as a thought and then works its way into a positive action.

If you are carrying around a lot of worries, you need to either let some of them go or get yourself bigger shoulders.

Gary Mosher is co-author of the award-winning ‘Buddha in the Boardroom’, the business book that shows you how to excel in today’s chaotic and stressful workplace environment, available from Bodhi Tree Publishing, LLC at http://www.bodhitreepublishing.com.

Posted on May 26th, 2006

Everyone, in one way or another, has some number of problems that bother them. Some people can’t remember names. Some people have difficulty concentrating. I could write page after page just listing some of the many weaknesses people deal with, related to everything from their physiological make up to their socioeconomic background to their attitudes and thoughts. Other problems come from outside of us. Other people can be rude. Cars can break down. The weather may become unpleasant.

Whatever your own personal problem is, it holds you back in some way. Maybe it only slows you down from achieving your goals, or maybe it truly has prevented you from finding lasting happiness. Whatever your problems may be, they are yours to deal with, and they are there whether you like it or not. How is one to deal with such problems? There are a variety of ways, concepts, and strategies that may be utilized, and I would like to mention a few that may be the most impactful.

1. Don’t deal with the problem, just live with the negative consequences

Some people never try to deal with a problem. Sometimes, it works. For example, if an overcast sky is somehow posing a problem, all you have to do is wait. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of time, and circumstances change, eliminating a problem with no effort on your part. It is important to recognize these situations when they arise, because your time and energy could be better used elsewhere, on the things you want to deal with.

Ignoring a problem isn’t always the best course of action, though. Take, for example, someone who never bothers to house train their pet. For as long as they have that pet, it will go to the bathroom. That particular problem won’t disappear after a day or two, but will persist. If the problem isn’t directly dealt with and the pet trained, there are still unpleasant consequences to deal with. This pet will go to the bathroom somewhere, and chances are high that it will be where ever you keep the pet. If you keep the pet in your home, you are asking for trouble, not to mention the lasting effects of such a problem. It’s fairly clear that this problem needs a solution.

2. Change how you see the problem

Sometimes, the real problem lies in how we see things. If you aren’t aware of the facts and circumstances, you may think you face problems that aren’t really problems at all! The other day, I taught my friend’s daughter how to use the TV’s remote control. Being young, she still doesn’t know her numbers very well, and has yet to make a connection between the channel numbers on the TV and the shows she likes to watch. At one point, she got frustrated and said, “How can I remember how to do stuff when there are all these other buttons on here?” Not understanding such things as numbers and channels, she was frustrated by the number buttons, which are actually quite helpful! Very often, our own problems are this way – instead of seeing the water in the glass, we see the empty half. Not knowing how a medication helps us, we complain about how inconvenient it is to take a medication. Not understanding the purpose for the rules of the road, we feel hindered by things such as stop signs, speed limits and one way streets. When we see things clearly, many problems disappear.

3. Remove the cause of the problem.

Many have heard the joke about the doctor whose patient was experiencing tremendous discomfort. During their appointment, the patient told the doctor exactly what the problem was. He would sometimes experience pronounced dizziness and sharp pains in his neck. He was concerned, worried that this might indicate something terrible. Finally, looking for answers, the doctor asked when these dizzy spells and neck pains occurred. Cocking his head at a funny angle and then spinning violently around, the patient demonstrated what caused these problems. Dizzy, with a sore neck, the patient stopped spinning and asked the doctor what to do. ‘Simple’ the doctor replied. ‘Don’t do that!’

Perhaps my problem is that I can’t wake up on time in the mornings. I need to be at work by seven, but I just can’t ever seem to get myself out of bed in the mornings. It’s a serious problem, one that could cost me my job. But what if the cause is that I like to stay up until two-thirty in the morning to watch my favorite late night TV show? The solution is suddenly clear – go to bed earlier, and the difficulty in the morning will disappear! Often, our problems are really the negative consequences of separate problems we haven’t dealt with yet.

4. Work around the problem.

Many problems can’t be ignored or easily fixed. If I lost a leg in an auto accident or due to a disease that necessitated its removal, no change of view could make that problem disappear. No action could undo its removal. Regardless of the cause, there is a reality that must be faced and dealt with.

In these situations, one must simply work around the problem. If I were missing a leg, I could use a crutch or prosthesis to manage in spite of such a debilitating problem. I could lessen the problem by adapting to it. If it makes it difficult to get up the stairs to return home, I could change my circumstances to lessen that aspect of the problem by living in a first floor apartment instead of on the third.

If I have a poor memory and often loose my keys, I could simply replace my keys every time I lost them. I could remove all of the locks and eliminate the need for keys, thus removing the cause of the problem. The only drawback is that this problem could be easily solved. Instead of trying to remember where your keys are, just put them in the same place, removing the need to remember where you might have put them. If that doesn’t quite work, get a keychain with a retractable tether, and let it keep your keys for you. When a problem persists, it is sometimes best to work around it.

5. Move beyond the problem.

Many times, the problem is found in our own reactions, rather than in our circumstances. If someone is regularly rude to me at my bus stop, is it really a problem? They don’t cost me more money, or disrupt my workday. Instead, the problem lies with me. Regardless of what this other person has said or done, I have the ability to react in a variety of ways. Instead of reacting negatively towards this person, I could respond with love. I could simply ignore them, pretending not to even acknowledge their existence. I could ask them why they are so rude. Often with these sorts of problems, we must simply decide that it is not a problem, and move on. Even if the old rudeness continues, we deal with it in a different way, making it a non-problem.

Brian Westover is an author specializing in personal motivation and growth. He is also the director of Project Superhero, an exploration of human potential. To learn more about the author or about Project Superhero, please visit Project Superhero.

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