'Tips and Techniques' Category Archive

Posted on Feb 28th, 2006

Everyone who has anxiety just wants to get rid of it. Many therapists, some of them unscrupulous, lure desperate sufferers by promising that anxiety can “evaporate”, “float away” or “disappear”. It seldom does, especially using their flawed and expensive gimmicks. The chances are you already know this. Most of the therapists that use such language are either charging a high hourly rate for weekly sessions which in the long term achieve little, or are selling an equally expensive “programme” or “system”. They are not all con-artists, some of them believe in their techniques for good reason: they have helped stressed-out professionals to relax a little or a down-in-the-dumps widow’s mood to lift. They, by and large, have not cured anxiety and, although they may well be full of anecdotes, they can not produce living examples or peer reviewed statistical evidence that supports them. Often they tell you how frustrated they are that the medical profession will not accept them. The medical profession, arrogant and backward as it can be, has good reason to be suspicious.

So if miracle cures do not exist then what help is there for you? Plenty! As while instantaneous miracles do not occur you can make changes which will permanently free you from your anxiety and panic. On my website I have listed some of the therapies I have used and comment on their efficacy. Often it won’t be quick, but Rome wasn’t built in a day. If I were you I’d, right now, give yourself permission to take as long as you need to overcome your anxiety; better that it takes a year and works than having it fail in two weeks. At the same time, paradoxically, you should be open to the idea of being free of it much sooner. I say ‘be open to the idea’ don’t grasp it and demand an instant cure.

Here’s my advice, as an ex-sufferer:

1) Let go of wanting an instant cure. Be prepared to earn your cure and become a stronger person. Remember that it doesn’t have to be awful.

How would you feel if your anxiety or panic evaporated or somehow just disappeared? Most anxiety sufferers would say they would feel amazing and over the moon! But would they? Actually you don’t feel anxiety most of the time anyway, so in a sense your anxiety disappears all the time. You consider yourself to have anxiety, though, as you know it will come back. So how would you know if say your hypnotherapist made your anxiety disappear? Some days without anxiety would pass and gradually it would, one presumes, fade into your personal history. But you would never be sure, and one day the natural emotion and symptoms of anxiety or panic would rear their ugly head and you would be back to square one. How can I be sure? I’ve been there. Everyone feels the symptoms of anxiety at sometime in their life although not everyone labels them as such. I had had full blown panic attacks and lengthy periods of anxiety so I was sensitized to recognise the very first signs, the feeling in the pit of my stomach that “normal” people would call nervousness. As soon as I felt those natural feelings again I was right back where I had started.

I tell you this to stress my belief that you can’t just take away the anxiety, you also have to remove your fear of anxiety returning and your label of yourself as an anxious person. For me, the path to no longer having anxiety was a series of steps and small jumps. No one made me believe I was over my anxiety, I proved it to myself as I lived my life. Things that you learn yourself through experience are far more embedded in you than things you are told, ask any teacher! And you want to be permanently free of anxiety, don’t you?

So despite the fact that doctors seem to prefer to talk about controlling rather than curing anxiety I am not afraid to describe myself as cured. I am cured because I no longer have anxiety, am not scared of it returning, and consider myself to be as normal and able as the next person.

There are three important things there. Firstly I had to learn to not fear anxiety returning. That was most important. Secondly I had to respect myself and understand that I was as capable and good as the next person, and that the time I had “wasted” in having anxiety, and the things I had missed were still obtainable.

2) It is better to have exciting things in front of you rather than behind you. Often the anxiety sufferer can feel amazingly low self esteem as they see the world pass them by. Changing self-image can be an important part of the recovery.

3) Be open to the idea that there may be a positive outcome. Often sufferers are told to “think positive”. Such a statement is a waste of breath. On the other hand many people feel, after trying out a few flawed therapies, that they are incurable, that nothing can help them. I learnt early on to just be open to the possibility that I might actually get over my anxiety. To believe in the possibility of a positive outcome was possible.

So forget instant cures, prepare yourself for some work, and be open to a positive outcome. Then start hunting out the therapies that have been proven to work, and chose the one that’s best for you. It doesn’t have to be expensive (I cured myself from books), and it doesn’t have to be horrid. You will succeed.

Look out for my follow up articles where I discuss other issues to getting over anxiety, panic attacks and phobias. I will post details on www.anxiety2calm.com, where all information is given away for free.

I am an ex-anxiety sufferer campaigning against expensive gimmicks targeted at vulnerable anxiety sufferers by cynical businessmen. I set up http://www.anxiety2calm.com to examine various therapies, techniques and gimmicks sold as a cure for anxiety, panic attacks and phobias. I also have sections on meditation, EFT, TFT, Journey Therapy, and much much more.

Posted on Feb 27th, 2006

The method for stress management which I am going to show you below is actually a combination of two methods; a regular deep breathing exercise and Jacobsen’s Progressive. Both are proven relaxation exercises and by combining them they function even better. These relaxation techniques can help you reduce tension in your muscles as well as manage the effects of the fight-or-flight response on your body - link when you feel you are about to get overwhelmed by panic. In a situation where you have to perform by thinking clearly under pressure, this relaxing exercise is really great. Here is what you do:

  1. Sit down comfortably in a way that enables you to relax.
  2. While you focus your body on relaxation take a series (10, 20 or even more) of deep breaths. For each breath you take, try to relax your body even more.
  3. Tense up the muscles of both your hands maximally, make a fist and hold this tension for five seconds.
  4. From the state of maximum tension, relax your hand’s muscles to the state they were in before you tensed them.
  5. Focus on your hand muscles and try to relax them even further so that you are as relaxed as possible.
  6. Repeat step 3 to 5 but instead of your hands muscles, now concentrate on the following parts of your body in sequenze: your feet, your legs and tighs, your arms, your breast and stomach, your back and finally your neck and head’s muscles.

The idea is that you’ll probably be able to relax your muscles more by tensing them first, than you would if you just relaxed your muscles directly. You can also repeat the deep breathing steps in between the tensing / relaxation of the muscles of your different body parts.

Terje Brooks Ellingsen is a writer and internet publisher. He runs the website 1st-Self_Improvement.net. Terje is a Sociologist who enjoys contributing to the personal growth and happiness of others. He tries to accomplish this by writing about self improvement issues from his own experience and knowledge. For example, stress management by self esteem improvement and relaxation exercises to stop smoking

Posted on Feb 26th, 2006

As we are bombarded by global catastrophes, the increasing threat of terrorism, the increasing pace of technology and many other factors that have a destabilizing effect on our inner emotional state is it possible to develop greater emotional resilience to all of this chaos? In order to answer this question I first wish to underscore the reasons that one’s emotional resilience is impaired in the first place.

Very simply, when a disturbing event occurs one tends to react to it based on how they interpret the event directly affects their life. Such interpretation is indirectly based on deeper beliefs the individual has about the effects the event will likely have. These beliefs are conditioned in us as a result of our life experience and remain deep in the background affecting our reactions to events as well as our life decisions.

Early traumatic life experiences tend to become embedded in the unconscious with feelings of fear, helplessness, shame, inadequacy, guilt, weakness, anger and so on. Associated with these feelings are corresponding beliefs that feed and support them such as "I’m vulnerable", "I’m powerless", "I’m responsible for what happened to me", "I’m bad or defective", etc.

When one of these underlying beliefs and feelings is re-triggered by an event in the present the individual automatically begins to interpret the current event within the framework of the past traumatic event. This can re-evoke old conditioned feelings and beliefs that impair one’s ability to perceive objectively the current situation and therefore to deal with it effectively.

The fact that there exists within an individual’s unconscious stored traumatic memories that act exactly like hidden "emotional land mines" is the prime reason it becomes difficult for the individual to remain objectively anchored in a detached emotional state when something happens in the present. Hence it is these stored traumatic memories that impair one’s emotional resilience.

Additionally, because one’s resilience is reduced this makes them more vulnerable in the present and future, thereby causing them to sustain even more trauma, on average, thereby reducing their future resiliency even further.

Simply said, individuals with early traumatic life histories are more likely to be re-traumatized throughout their lives.

Is this however necessary? In numerous case studies I have undertaken over the last 10 years with a process called the Mind Resonance Process(TM)(MRP) it has been my experience that:

1. Traumatic memories can be completely released quickly and painlessly in a relatively short time.

2. That underlying limiting conditioned beliefs and feelings that result from such trauma can also be completely released.

3. When the effects of trauma are released individuals feel like the trauma never actually happened to them.

4. After releasing trauma individuals feel rejuvenated, more resilient, more confident, more at peace, more content, more compassionate towards self and others, and feel more alive than ever before.

5. Individuals begin to move their lives away from a course that was previously determined by the sum total of unconsciously stored emotional trauma and towards a course determined by them. In other words they reclaim control of their lives.

So in summary, it is possible to enhance one’s emotional resilience in a way that is now easier and quicker than ever before. Imagine what your life would look like if your resilience to external events was 100 times greater than it is now.

If you feel inspired you may wish to visit the web link below where you can request an introductory consultation to MRP.

Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called "Spirituality And Science" (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.

Business URL #1: http://www.telecoaching4u.com

Personal URL: http://www.telecoaching4u.com/Spirituality_And_Science.htm

Posted on Feb 8th, 2006

Why do we get stressed is a common question asked when looking for answers behind stressful moments. What a major breakthrough that would be if we could pinpoint exactly what it is that triggers these stressful bouts - but because we all differ in so many ways then trying to decipher what brings these moments to ahead can be very difficult.

Stressful moments can be brought on by many happenings or mishaps. In a stressful situation a sufferer may feel and experience loss of control of their body actions and emotions which they find is out of their jurisdiction. Stress hormones escalate out of control - this then activates an energetic flush of hormone release which speeds up the beat of the heart to pump faster which then causes muscle tension followed by accelerated breathing. These are not unusual reactions when stressful moments kick in

Other painful ailments suffered by a patient suffering from stress is migraine, back ache, palpitations, perspiration and high blood pressure - these symptoms are all common partners of stress. (Not in everyone) You may find a change in personality where you become touchy and irritable. Different reactions for different people - in some people the effects of stress may contribute to why they develop ulcers cold sores, and heart disease. Once again this does not apply to every one.

There are many stress related factors but the two main one`s are the internal an external - the outer one of the two can be brought on by a bereavement, debt or even a break up of a long time relationship. The other stress factor is where you yourself instigate the situation furthermore by forcefully contributing with the intake of certain matters that are not agreeable to the condition. Alcohol, nicotine, caffeine and many more along with environmental toxins are all chemical substances to be avoided because of how they exhaust the body of energy.

Cutting down or cutting out on your intake of these sources is not the cure but most definitely soothes the condition from flaring up to stages of severity. However, there are various techniques used to help combat stressful moments.

If you can label and identify the reason to why your physical and mental doings take place then there is a possibility that you can calm the condition. By ignoring the signs and symptoms of stress you may hamper your chances of ever having peace of mind thus intensifying the pain causing unnecessary suffering.

Proven techniques practiced to today by millions to help with stress relief and pressure is to take up yoga exercise. Exercise therapy controls the build up of stress hormones. Mental exercises like Yoga meditation is a form of mind control exercise. By controlling the nervous system with relaxation classes you claim back control of your life - your emotions - your feelings - your actions and all because you did it the natural way.

Yoga is a natural remedy that is helping people to cope instead of living in hope for a cure. (Depending on the severity of stress or any other illness)

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