Posted on Nov 13th, 2006

Have you ever noticed what the harvest is from a bitter argument people or groups with contradicting views may have? Who’s the first prize winner?

The one that supposedly wins becomes a short-term superior argument champion. The one who’s lost becomes momentarily an underdog in the situation. One way or another, a disharmony is formed.

Besides disharmony, the feelings of stress, some anxiety and mild panic of the egos have stepped up their ill effects on the health of all parties involved.

The cascading wildfire stress response of the body systems encounters yet another "item" to deal with in a day.

Let’s have a look at a few simple ways of taming the heat of such moments and turning them into more productive, less anxious ones.

Step One:
Learn how to control your ego and temper by welcoming an opposing opinion. Use that opinion to your advantage by discovering yet another angle of looking at "the problem".

Step Two:
Give the benefit of the doubt to your "opponent". By doing so, it will immediately and markedly decrease the inner emotional turbulence on both sides of the table. The flow of events is bound to become more orderly. Remember this during any argument: BOTH parties have been previously wrong one time or another.

Step Three:
Let them talk themselves out. By listening more (practice), you will notice that you have more to say with fewer words. The time you give yourself by listening allows you:
1. To be more tactful (better choice of words),
2. To be sincere
3. To find a common ground
Listen and observe quietly to get clues you need for the next productive step.

Step Four:
When it’s time for it - delay no longer to set matters straight. A humble apology for your mistake brings out the very core of what we all are - gentle students of life at all times (no matter where).

There you have it! Stress relief tips and self help that work for you when you play with them. Can you form such a positive habit to benefit from in many ways wherever you go? You bet!

Lu Smith co-authored a unique book. Using their own case study, discover over 367 amazing techniques to outsmart stress effects on your health.

Posted on Nov 13th, 2006

I came out of a nightmare 5-year period of anxiety and depression and I did it without taking any drugs. What frustrated me is that despite advances in understanding as to why people become stressed, depressed and anxious, sufferers are still told numerous myths about what causes their illness.

This raises an important issue: How can people rid themselves of the pain of these illnesses if they don’t know what is at the root cause? Surely, if progress is to be made, understanding must come first? Well in this article, I’m going to bust the myths and reveal what, EXACTLY, is at the root of these illnesses!

The first myth I want to bust is that a period of serious illness can cause you to become depressed. This could be anything from a nasty virus which confines you to bed for a month or something far more serious such as loss of a limb, cancers, injury, heart attack to name but a few.

None of these illnesses can cause depression, anxiety or stress. It’s very easily proven. Because millions of people suffer from serious illnesses each and every year but only around 20% of them will develop mental illness. If illnesses cause mental breakdown, EVERYONE who becomes seriously ill will enter into an episode of depression, anxiety or stress. They don’t. Why?

Similarly, we can assign the same explanation to traumatic experience. This could be death of a loved one, loss of a job, divorce or moving house for example. Again, every single one of us will experience traumatic times such as these in our lifetime. Yet not everybody enters into a mental illness, even amongst people who have suffered extreme trauma. So we can discount traumatic experience as being at the root cause.

Next on my bust-list is genetics. This is another frequently given reason as to why people suffer from stress, depression or anxiety. But it’s completely untrue. There is no proven link between genetics and these illnesses. In fact, rather than genetics, learned behavior from family members who suffer themselves is the only real link to a family-inherited disposition to stressful illness.

I’ve saved the most widely accepted myth until last and I’ll bet my bottom dollar this is the myth you are not just familiar with but believe to be at the cause of your illness. This is the reason given by the medical community and which has spawned a $12 billion drugs industry to combat it. The myth I’m referring to is of course depletion in neurotransmitters – the so-called “chemical imbalance”.

Neurotransmitters are “happy chemicals” which help to regulate our moods. So, if levels are low, we feel low. To boost these levels, powerful antidepressant drugs are prescribed to sufferers. Sure, they boost levels. But let’s ask a question:

Are low levels of neurotransmitters a cause or a symptom?

Well, every single human being on this earth right now will experience many occasions in their lives when things go wrong, when bad things happen, when times are trying – in short, times when they won’t be their usual happy selves. Now, during these times, their levels of “happy chemicals” will drop, and life will seem a bit of an effort. So, does this mean that everybody on the planet will descend into an episode of stress, depression or anxiety? Of course not!

And do we just wake up one day and feel depressed because the levels of neurotransmitters has “dipped below the critical level?”. No. Because that would mean we’d wake up one day and feel great because the level has risen above the critical point. You know this just doesn’t happen, even after taking antidepressants.

What’s interesting to note is that when we are in an episode of mental turmoil, we also experience physical pain, we cannot sleep or we sleep too much and the feeling of overwhelming exhaustion is also present. But if a chemical imbalance in our brain is at the root, how come you experience physical pain in your legs, arms, and more commonly, your back?

You can see that this is too simple an explanation. This is borne out by the fact that 70% of people who take antidepressants will descend into second and even third episodes of mental breakdown if they stop taking the drugs. This is because antidepressants treat ONE of the SYMPTOMS of mental illness – depleted levels of neurotransmitters.

It’s nearly time for me to say adios, but before I do, I will reveal what, EXACTLY, is at the root cause of mental breakdown. It is all down to flawed modes of thinking. Because the only difference between people who experience an episode of mental illness and those who don’t is all down to flawed perceptions, assessments, explanations and habits performed by sufferers

The following example will describe this more clearly:

Two people suffer the death of a parent. One is absolutely distraught and finds it very difficult to cope and descends into a depressive episode. The other, although sad at the loss, is coping and doesn’t descend into depression. The only difference lies IN THE WAY THEY MAKE SENSE OF WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO THEM. The actual event has no meaning by itself. The meanings only lie within the minds of the individuals affected.

To beat mental illnesses such as anxiety, stress and depression, what’s needed is to learn the powerful and effective mental skills – modes of thinking – used by people who don’t become stressed, depressed or anxious no matter what happens to them and which stop these illnesses dead in their tracks. Once you learn them, you will rid yourself of the pain once and for all.

Something a bottle of prozac will never achieve.

Chris Green is the author of the new book “Conquering Stress”, a special program which will show you how to conquer stressful illnesses such as depression, anxiety, panic and worry permanently and without taking powerful drugs. You can learn more about this new book and purchase it at

Posted on Nov 12th, 2006

Do you like festive holidays and dislike holiday stress?

Do they greatly energize you, or do you feel somewhat on-the-edge? Do you try avoiding holiday stress when it begins, during and especially after it’s gone?

Or, have you been saying for years (with a tinge of unexplained disgust), “It’s just another day." You couldn’t care less about another “meaningless, rather fattening holiday stress, and perhaps an emotional marker” in the calendar?

As you relax, (go ahead now), and look through this article, you may discover valuable tips to put spunk, laughter, and meaning with well deserved emotional rest into the future “festive days off”.

The personal energy of anticipation, preparation and plain attending to any festive times can in fact be preserved, stored and used more effectively – the FUN way!

Here are a few holiday stress reliever tips on how … you can!

Tip # 1:
YOU are in full charge here! Assess the total workload of all festive duties and decide which ones matter the most. It really all comes down to the moments spent with the ones you love. The limited time we all have to spend with each other is the most valuable.

Tip # 2:
Keeping things and matters SIMPLE is the name of the energy-saving game! Gifts, baking, parties, grocery shopping, kids events, menu planning, house decorating and much more – they all can go on a diet instead of you at the end.

Tip # 3:
As for gifts, think gift certificates! They can be mailed-out or delivered directly to the recipient’s address with you going out for a walk by the river or in the winter wonderland park as a cunningly relaxing alternative.

A few helpful gift certificate ideas while managing holiday stress better: Movies, restaurants, babysitters, house cleaning, theatre tickets, window washing, gutter clean out, massages, pedicures, manicures, heating ducts cleaning, yard clean up and landscaping, painting, bed and breakfast getaways, or other various useful services that will save time for you (looking) and for the recipients (doing them in the middle of a temper-bursting work week).

Told you, you are in charge of your stress free holidays!

Lu Smith co-authored a unique book. Using their own case study, discover over 367 amazing techniques to outsmart stress effects on health.

Posted on Nov 12th, 2006

Of all the forms of stress in today’s world, computer stress is the one that is on the rise the fastest. Computers are wonderful machines, but they can also stress out workers by their sometimes confusing demands, their constant presence and their simple inability to work properly. Thus, computer stress must be understood and it must find an outlet or computer users will find themselves even more stressed out than they already are.

The first thing to remember about computers is that they are machines. They do not have feelings, they do not respond to emotional appeals, they only do what they are told to do; nothing more and nothing less. Thus, you need to remember that just about anything that your computer does is probably something you told it to do. Sure, you may not have wanted to tell it to do something, but you told the computer to do it and that’s all it knows. You can save yourself a lot of computer stress by keeping this in mind.

The next thing you need to know in order to avoid computer stress is that computers are machines and, therefore, they will break down. That means that you need to keep backup copies of everything important. If you absolutely need a file, keep a copy on a floppy disk or on a CD. Hard drives are well known to just give out after a while (the average lifetime is about 4-5 years) and therefore you need to keep backups of everything you want to keep. If it’s important enough that you want a copy, it’s important enough to keep a backup copy. The sooner you remember to keep your computer’s failing in mind, the more stress free you will be.

Third, you need to protect your computer. On the most basic level, that means a surge protector. A power surge can quickly fry the delicate insides of a computer and suddenly realizing that you need a new computer is just about the worst computer stress of all.

As well, you need to protect your computer from outside interference. If your computer is hooked up to the Internet, protect it with a network firewall and anti-virus software. There are plenty of malicious hackers out there and they tend to enjoy watching people panic about their computers suddenly dying. These hackers write viruses and worms that can infect your machine and delete important files or send out malicious emails all on their own. You do not want to have your computer taken over like this. Save yourself from this sort of computer stress by keeping your system and your files secure from outside attackers.

Another way to protect your computer is to shut it down properly. Many people simply hit the power button without shutting down the machine first. This is a serious danger, as it can damage the delicate circuits of the computer. Run your computer through its shutdown system and wait until it either turns itself off, or it tells you that it is time to turn it off. This may not seem like a big deal to some, but it can damage your computer in the long run.

Computer stress can also simply arise from sitting in front of the silly thing so long that you realize you do not know what you are looking at any more. You know you need to get work done on the silly machine, but you haven’t gotten anything done and the deadline is looming and you need more time, but there isn’t any and… just slow down. If you are not getting anything done, they save yourself some computer stress by walking away. If you are at work, lock your screen and wander the hallways for a bit. If you are at home, get up and go make yourself a sandwich or something. Just walk away and you will save yourself a lot of stress over something that is really not a big deal.

One of the problems with living in the computer age is, simply, the computer. However, it is only a machine and you can learn to control it without it controlling you. Your computer is a tool no different than a hammer or a crowbar. So save yourself from computer stress and you won’t feel compelled to use a hammer or a crowbar on the computer that is supposed to make your life easier.

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Posted on Nov 11th, 2006

Let’s face it. We all get stressed out now and then. Life is hectic. We often feel like we have too much to do in too little time. People in our lives can be difficult. There are so many factors that can throw our life off kilter at times. One way to reduce stress in our lives is to focus on personal growth and renewal. This includes mental and spiritual renewal along with maintaining our bodies in optimum physical health. The state of our nervous systems can particularly make a huge difference in our capacity to adapt and thrive through all of the curve balls that life may throw us. Proper rest and relaxation, proper nutrition, proper exercise, as well as prayer and meditation can all improve our ability to handle stress. In addition, there are numerous herbs and essential oils that can help us to handle stress better.

Certain herbs can improve our ability to handle stress. Siberian ginseng is one herb that is well known for its adaptogenic functions. This means that it can aid our bodies to adapt to a variety of stressful conditions better. Many athletes use it to improve athletic performance. In China, it is commonly used to help cancer patients undergoing chemotherapy. It can reduce many of the negative effects of chemotherapy. People’s white blood cell counts stay more normal and they have less hair loss and nausea when taking Siberian ginseng. We can take Siberian ginseng in everyday life to cope better with stress. In small amounts, it can also improve our sleep and alleviate insomnia. It can alleviate fatigue and exhaustion in people whose nerves feel fried from doing too much.

Another Chinese herb that increases our resistance to stress is cordyceps. Cordyceps is a Chinese herb that has been shown to improve oxygenation in our body. It enhances our ability to adapt to stress and it boosts energy. It has been shown to be beneficial for people suffering from chronic fatigue. In Chinese medicine, it is considered to be a kidney tonic. This means that it can be particularly beneficial for people who feel adrenal depleted. These people often have fatigue combined with a poor appetite and low back pain.

Free and Easy Wanderer is an herbal formula that can help anyone experiencing moodswings, anger, fatigue or depression along with changes in appetite. It contains bupleurum root, which is renowned in China for its capacity to relieve stress. This herbal formula is particularly beneficial for women with premenstrual syndrome, but it effectively relieves stress in men as well.

An herbal formula called Lung Tan Xie Gan Wan, or Dragon Gallbladder Clear Fire Pill, can be useful for those of us who get angry and enraged easily. This Chinese patent pill can reduce conditions of heat and inflammation in the body, and concurrently alleviate emotional “heat”.

Another herbal formula called Zizyphus Pills can help people suffering from anxiety and insomnia. The main ingredient, zizyphus seed, is beneficial for calming and soothing strained nervous systems. It can increase the nourishing yin energy of the body which helps to promote restful sleep. This herb can also be helpful for people who are continually anxious about the future and for people who tend to hyperventilate or who have panic attacks. Pinellia and Magnolia Bark Formula can also be beneficial for people with panic attacks or for those who experience stress-induced asthma.

Certain essential oils can also increase our capacity to handle stress and can also encourage us to relax so we do not get stressed out in the first place. Simply sniffing these scents by placing a drop on a handkerchief or diffusing the aroma with a room diffuser can make a wonderful difference in our state of mind.

Lavender essential oil is very soothing, calming, and relaxing. One drop placed on or near our pillow at night can improve sleep and may alleviate insomnia. Chamomile essential oil can also promote a good night’s rest. Placing three or four drops in our bathwater before we go to bed can promote sleep and calm our nerves.

When we want to be awake and energized, a number of essential oils can give us a little pick me up. Peppermint essential oil can improve our clarity of mind and our wakefulness. Lemon essential oil can also make us feel more alert. Studies in Japan have shown that lemon essential oil increases the accuracy of people’s work when the fragrance is diffused through their office.

Grapefruit and tangerine essential oil can make us feel more joyful and optimistic. These are good oils for people who tend to get depressed easily. Grapefruit essential oil can also promote wakefulness in people suffering from jetlag. Another essential oil that is helpful for people who get depressed easily is rosemary. Simply inhaling the scent of rosemary can enhance the flow of oxygen to the brain. This can also help improve retention of information and improve people’s test taking abilities.

And last but not least, if you are interested in letting go, letting things flow and taking the stress out of romance, certain essential oils are wonderful for creating a good ambience. Ylang-ylang, jasmine, and rose essential oils can all help to create a relaxing and warm atmosphere to help us loosen up and enjoy an evening with someone special.

As you can see, there are many different remedies that can aid us in our quest to lead a more relaxed life while managing our stress naturally.

Dr. Farah Khan is a licensed Doctor of Oriental Medicine in the state of New Mexico. She is an experienced herbalist, aromatherapist, and acupuncturist. She also practices a form of spiritual energy work that was passed on to her by a line of Mexican curanderas. Her specialties include treatment of Lyme Disease and fibromyalgia. She has a B.A. in psychology from Brown University and an M.A. in Oriental Medicine from the International Institute of Chinese Medicine in Albuquerque, NM. She is available for herbal consultations over the web and has an extensive line of products at her site.

Her web site is at

You can e-mail Dr. Khan at

Posted on Nov 11th, 2006

Do you have the desire for a stress free life? Most people do. After all isn’t this why most people are working so hard, to achieve just that? Sounds like a paradox doesn’t it, "I’m working hard to achieve a stress free life"?

Ironically, by the time you think you’ve gotten there, the "stress" you’ve endured as a result of all that work has likely taken such a toll on your health that you are not far from the end of your life. So is a stress free life actually a myth, is it even possible? In order to answer this we need to look closely at what we mean by the word "stress".

I will propose a very simple definition that you are welcome to try on for size. By "stress" I mean the emotional, mental, phyiscal and spiritual pain one feels when they are not where they desire to be in any given moment. Now by "where" I do not mean simply a physical location but rather a state. This can be a mental, emotional, physical and/or spiritual state.

Let’s say, as an example that the state consists of the following thoughts and emotions:"I really don’t like my job but if I leave it to do what I really have a passion for I won’t survive". The "where" the person would rather be is doing something that they really have a passion for. Instead the fear of pursuing that seems to block or prevent them from realizing their passion.

Now clearly the person is not "physically" "where" they want to be. If you look a bit more closely however you might also notice that the thoughts and feelings that block that person from being physically where they want to be is also "not where they want to be".

In other words such thoughts/feelings and as "I can’t leave this job" or "I’m afraid I will fail" are clearly not pleasant, comforting,freeing or desirable to that person either. It is in fact these "limiting" thoughts/emotions that keep that person in a state of stress and from realizing their passion. With that passion comes a sense of joy, aliveness, invigoration, energy, motivation,creativity, hightened performance, health etc. i.e. a "stress free" life.

Many of you however may believe that such limiting thoughts and emotions are beneficial to you i.e. you probably think that they help keep your life stable, and therefore help you feel safe and secure, and therefore help you experience a stress free life. Don’t you?

If this is what you believe then just say it again to yourself and notice the stress level you feel in your body when you say it: "I can’t leave my job to pursue my passion because I’m afraid I will fail". Now, did you feel your stress level go up or down. Well if you really don’t like your curent job, I think the thought of having to endure it any longer is most likely driving your stress level up, not down.

So, if you follow me so far, living a stress free life is about noticing and releasing anything that keeps you from what you really have a passion for. Most importantly, because these are really the major culprit, it means releasing limiting thoughts and emotions that block you from your passion. It’s that simple.

Just as an aside to be doing so also means that you are holding what you want for yourself in the highest esteem. That is you are holding your "SELF" in the highest esteem. What do you think happens to your "self esteem" when you hold you self in the highest esteem? Well naturally it goes up! Try this for your self if you wish.

Nick Arrizza M.D. is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Life and Executive Coach, Speaker, Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual For Personal Transformation" (available in e-book format at: and developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process(TM). He holds international telecoaching sessions and teleconferences on healing mind, body and spirit.

Posted on Nov 10th, 2006

Stress has thousands of causes, but, ultimately, there’s only one remedy – and that’s to let it go.

How can you let stress go? You can begin by knowing that in the long run “this too shall pass.” Life is not an emergency. Just letting a problem be is often a good solution. Scarlett O’Hara knew how to handle stress. She would inevitably say, “I can’t think about that right now. If I do, I’ll go crazy. I’ll think about it tomorrow.” Sometimes a little procrastination can do wonders.

When life gets rough, just stop, take a couple of deep breaths and chill out. There are lots of things you can do to slow down and let go. Take on a new point of view of the situation, take a break, take a nap, take a bath or take a walk. They all work. Just don’t take a valium. That doesn’t work.

Other stress busting techniques include improving your diet, exercising on a regular basis and getting enough rest. You can also ask for support from family and friends. Be selfish and take good care of yourself. Remember that if you’re not happy, for the most part, nobody around you is going to be happy either.

The problem is most people get so caught up in life’s soap opera they lose perspective. They forget that being cool, calm and collected - no matter what’s going on – is the source of all success, health, wealth and happiness.

Follow Lily Tomlin’s advice – “For fast-acting relief, slow down.” Slowing down changes your perspective and empowers you to see that you don’t have to be a victim. There are actions you can take that will give you more control of your life. You can set reasonable and attainable goals, stop overcommitting yourself, give up perfectionism and minimize or even eliminate most of your sources of stress.

As the Serenity Prayer suggests, change the things you can and learn to accept the things you can’t change. If you follow these guidelines, stress will be a small, manageable part of your life.

Katie Byrd will take you by the hand and teach you the skills she’s used to journey from a financially strapped, bad credit nightmare to debt free abundant living. To find out more visit:

Posted on Nov 10th, 2006

We so often take the feelings of happiness and saddness for granted. Why do we even have such feelings inside us at all? Well if you’ve ever asked yourself that question then perhaps you will find an answer here that resonates with you.

In order to help you understand the crucial role these very special emotions were meant to play in our lives I propose a short exercise.

A) Think of something that makes you happy. Notice where you feel the happiness.

B) Think of something that makes you sad. Notice where you feel the saddness.

Now if you followed my instructions closely you will have noticed that the emotions of happiness and saddness followed spontaneously the thoughts of what made you happy and what made you sad repectively. The fact that there are any emotions at all following the thoughts is rather curious isn’t it. Why should there be any emotions at all. In other words, why doesn’t one just feel neutral or indifferent to the thoughts?

Well, it’s because the feelings of happiness and saddness have a definite and rather cruicial purpose in being there. What do you think that is? In other words, what does it mean when you feel happy or sad about something? Well it means that whatever is evoking the particular emotion is either good or not good for you respectively. It’s that simple.

What is even more interesting is that you didn’t have to create either of the emotions yourself, they just appeared there inside of you spontaneously or of their own accord. In other words there is an inner intelligence inside you that is monitoring and attempting to communicate to you that which is good for you and that which is not good for you at every momemt.

Some people might call this by other names: inner guide, helper, protector etc. I would like to suggest that instead this inner intelligence is coming directly from "YOU". In other words you already "know" inside what is right and what is not right for you. Additionally, and contrary to what you might "think" this intelligence comes via emotions not thoughts.

What do you think happens if you start to heed these inner emotional messages? Try it and see for your self.

Nick Arrizza M.D. is an Energy Psychiatrist, Life and Executive Coach, Healer, Speaker, Researcher, Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" and developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process(TM) ( available in e-book at: He holds international telecoaching sessions and teleconferences on healing mind, body and spirit.

Posted on Nov 9th, 2006

When feeling stressed or anxious, some people sometimes take it out on their coworkers. There is a better way to deal with your stresses and anxieties besides taking it out on your business colleagues. Here is a list of alternate ways that a person can use to help manage their stress, anxieties, and fears.

First and foremost, seek help and treatment from a professional. Getting help from a counselor or other professional is very important and can provide you much help and insights in dealing with your current problem. Getting help from a professional should be the first thing you do if you have trouble managing your anxieties.

Try to learn what is the real source of your fears and anxieties. Knowing what the source of your problem is can go a long way in finding the solution. Think about it and try to figure out what is the source of your fears and stress. As a Layman, I learned that finding the source of your fears will put you that much closer in feeling better.

Sometimes, we get stressed when everything happens all at once. A person should take a deep breath and try to find something to do for a few minutes to get your mind off of the problem. A person could take a walk, listen to some music, read the newspaper or do an activity that will give them a fresh perspective on things. This mental timeout can help you refocus on your current situation.

When facing a current or upcoming task that overwhelms you with a lot of anxiety, the first thing you can do is to break the task into a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success.

As a Layman and not as a professional, I realize it is not easy to deal with all of our fears and other problems, however do not take it out on your coworkers. They didn’t do anything wrong and remember there are better ways to deal with your anxieties and stresses.

Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear" an easy to read book that presents a overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to:

Posted on Nov 9th, 2006

If you’ve recently experienced loss or are going through a time of high-stress or uncertainty, it’s important that you make a special effort to look after yourself. Here are a few things you can do to care for yourself physically and emotionally:

- Take time out. If you can get away from your usual environment then do so. Go away for the weekend or even a day – do something different or something you enjoy and do it just for you.

- Spend time with people you care about. Your friends and family know you best and will be supportive and there for you. It’s wonderful how you find true friends when the chips are down.

- Treat yourself. Get pampered or whatever allows you to indulge yourself. Book a relaxing massage, get retail therapy, savour a glass of your favourite wine or spend a whole day reading a book.

- Look after your body. At times of stress our eating habits change. We’re more likely to reach for packaged or convenience foods. Buy fresh fruit and vegetables and provide your body with the vitamins and minerals it needs to be able to deal with the stress. Your immune system takes a bashing under stress so look after it as your more susceptible to illness.

- Exercise. It’s a great way to get those endorphins going which can help lift your mood and as I mentioned last month - solvitas perambulum – solve it while you walk. The rhythm of exercise and breathing gives your mind time to think. As it’s summer go outdoors and take in some sunshine while you’re at it.

- Don’t overdo the caffeine or alcohol. It might give you a temporary buzz but it will affect your sleep and you need to ensure you’re getting plenty of that too.

- Write it down. Sometimes it can help to write down our thoughts and feelings on paper. It gets them out there and out of our head and when put into black and white it can take some of the emotion out or put them into perspective.

- Do something positive. Don’t indulge yourself for too long but give yourself something to look forward to. Arrange to go to a concert, film, theatre, a weekend away. Keep yourself moving forward. Set yourself little tasks everyday.

- Volunteer. There’s nothing more uplifting that doing something for someone else. Take yourself out of your head for a few hours and feel the benefit of helping others.

- PMA. Positive Mental Attitude. What can you learn from this experience? Instead of focusing on the negative, what’s a positive outcome for your situation?

- Relaxation – learn to relax. Whether it’s doing something like yoga, meditation or just simple breathing techniques - take a few minutes each day to quiet your mind. (Drop me an email if you’d like some ideas on relaxation techniques.)

- Take Action. Yes, that ‘A’ word again. What one thing can you do to change where you’re at? Go and do it!

What’s your coping mechanism? How do you deal with stress? Learn to recognise and deal with stress before it builds up by looking after yourself on a regular basis not just when things get too much.

If you’d like to learn more or need support recognising and dealing with stress then contact me directly.

Clare Evans – Personal and Business Coach

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