Posted on Oct 14th, 2006

In this last article in our series on stress we’re going to cover some of the ways that stress can be reduced.

One of the easiest ways to reduce stress is to start with a healthy diet. Medical research shows that a diet composed of whole grains, vegetables, and fruits can greatly reduce stress because of the nutrients being supplied to your body and mind. Also avoiding such things as alcohol, caffeine, and tobacco can greatly reduce stress.

Another great treatment for stress is lots of exercise. This serves two purposes. The exercise itself builds up the body which fights off stressful factors. Also, exercising is a great distraction in itself to get your mind off of the things that are bothering you, and in turn this reduces stress. A varied exercise routine is best because it prevents boredom. Maybe take an hour or two and divide up your time between treadmill, biking and weightlifting.

Other activities that are great for reducing stress are aerobics, swimming and yoga. Signing up for one of these classes is a great way to kill a couple of hours, get your mind off things and at the same time get your body into better shape.

Of course if you are terribly out of shape then you need to start slow. Maybe start with taking a 15 minute walk 3 days a week. Then work your way up to 30 minutes and eventually an hour. Then you can add yoga or aerobics to your routine, maybe starting one or the other for a half hour a week and then working your way up to maybe 20 minutes a day. Of course don’t start an exercise routine until you’ve checked with a doctor.

Besides exercise, another way to reduce stress is through activities that don’t take much physical exertion, but do take time and in the process take your mind off your problems for a while.

The best of these, if you can afford it, is to take a vacation. Go somewhere for a week or at least a few days just to get away from things. Places where they have many attractions like amusement parks or beaches, especially in the summer, are great. An associate of mine personally told me of a time when he was under such terrible stress that he was afraid he was going to have a nervous breakdown. After just one weekend at the beach he was a new person. Yes, vacations work wonders.

Another thing that’s important to do is reduce stress at work. If there is something about your job that is extremely stressful, take it up with human resources. Maybe they can find some ways to reduce the stress by changing your situation slightly.

Practice stress reduction techniques like deep breathing exercises, muscle relaxation, meditation and massage therapy.

Finally, get yourself into a support group. Talking to other people who are also under great stress can be a great comfort. You know the old saying, misery loves company.

These are just some of the natural things you can do to relieve stress without medication. You should see significant improvement by using the above suggestions.

Michael Russell
Your Independent guide to Stress

Posted on Oct 14th, 2006

At what age does the benefit of play cease? Child development experts agree that play is very important in the learning and emotional development of all children. But do we ever grow out of a need for play? I answer with an emphatic no. All the benefits of play continue into adulthood. Would you like to enjoy the following benefits daily?

- Experience fun and joy

- Further develop skills such as reading, problem solving, and strength & flexibility

- Work through emotions and develop values and ethics

- Improve your feelings of self-worth

- Better understanding of the world around you

- Develop social skills and deeper relationships

That’s just a short list of what experts say children gain when they play. Humanity has robed itself of humanity when play is removed from our lives. As we age we continue to learn and grow. In some ways we are always children. Exploration and discovery should not end when we become adults. If anything, play should become more exciting and expansive.

Let me apply this to the work world. If you take a little time to play with your tools and explore what they can do, you will find yourself becoming more efficient and skilled with them. The quality of your work will increase because you’ve been honoring recess and allowing your sub-conscious mind to get involved in the problem solving. Your job will continue to excite you because you will always be finding something new.

In addition, play is a stress relief. If you keep a bow constantly strung up, it will lose it’s spring and cease to function. If you continue to tighten the stings on an instrument, they will eventually break and there will be no more music. Playing allows you to loosen the strings and maintain your flexibility. Without play, we can become so focused on one thing that we sacrifice all other possibilities. Concentrate too hard on a single tree trunk long enough and not only will you miss the forest, you’ll miss the approaching forest fire!

Take a little time and have some fun today. It will not matter what you accomplish in life, if in the end you never enjoyed it.

Dare to Soar with Carolyn Frances,
Life Coach & Spiritual Guide,

Posted on Oct 13th, 2006

After all, it’s already there and stress is not the sort of thing that is dealt with so easily. Stress tends to consume our consciousness, resulting in fatigue, depression, loss of concentration and in some situations can even cause memory problems. In cases like this, it looks like the brain is completely covered up in the mess called stress that there is no room for anything else. Thus, in order to stay alert, conscious and clear headed, it is vital that you develop a strategy for dealing with stress.

As with every other condition or illness, the best cure by far, is prevention. So also, the best method for handling stress is definitely to prevent it from consuming us, in the first place. The best way to achieve this is to learn to concentrate on the present, on what we are doing rather than being worried about what needs to be done. By focusing your mind, for instance on what you are doing you can avoid the anxiety that comes with worrying about how you are going to handle the jobs left to be done. This is quite simple. Living in every moment and allowing each moment and situation to move you forward, will definitely help in keeping your stress level at bay. However, when you step back and look at the big picture and think to yourself, "How the heck am I going to get all this done?" you will not be helping yourself. Instead of working to get things done, you will instead be thinking about how you will never get it done and you will create your own, self-fulfilling prophecy! This, needless to say, is bad. Concentrate on what you are doing and the work will take care of itself.

"Do, everyday, All that can be done that day And do each act in an efficient manner" Wallace Wattles

Now, what if you couldn’t prevent stress from overwhelming you. Now you are completely wrapped up in stress it’s too late to start sermonizing about prevention. What you need now is relief, how do you get it?

The best thing you can do in such a situation is to just walk away. Get away from everything bothering you and let life stay still for a couple of moments. Forget about everything and think about something completely different for that glorious moment. Think about how to make a decent sandwich, pour yourself a nice cup of coffee and watch the fluid fill the cup. Take a look outside the window and watch the people, cars or ducks go by. Just notice something else and concentrate on that. By doing this, you will be able to clear your mind of stress and worry instead about something entirely mundane that is not a source of stress at all.

Give no anxious thoughts to possible disasters, obstacles, panics or unfavorable combinations of circumstances. There is time enough to meet such things when they present themselves.

"You will find that every difficulty carries with it The wherewithal for its overcoming" Wallace Wattles

Meditation is another important weapon to handle stress. When you are stressed you could push it out with a quick round of meditation. This could be done by just sitting down, closing your eyes, and concentrating for a moment on your breathing. Take a deep breath and notice the air coming into your lungs. Then push all that air out and feel it wafting through your nose or mouth. With a few of these deep breaths, you can quickly clear your mind of its concerns and start with a clean slate. Then, once you open your eyes, you will feel very refreshed. If this doesn’t work at first, then do it again and see if it makes a difference. Obviously, it takes some practice to master this quick method of meditation, but many people find quick relief from stress by performing this simple breathing exercise. Just keep trying it and, eventually, you will master this technique of dealing with stress.

Regular exercise and sound sleep are two efficient weapons that can also be used to attack stress. Keeping your body in shape does wonders for the body and mind. Exercise fills your body with hormones that are necessary for the body to relax. These hormones persist longer in the body after the exercise and can help you stave off stress. The more you exercise the farther stress is from you.

Poor sleeping habits also cloud the mind with fatigue, which makes us always tired during the day and easily knocked down by stress. Dealing with stress requires you to maintain a solid eight hours of sleep daily. You would do well to avoid alcohol and caffeine at bed times so that you could have a sound sleep and you will always wake up better the next day

Dealing with stress is not difficult, but it does take practice. No one has ever mastered any skill in a short period of time and dealing with stress is no different. Just be sure to exercise, get plenty of sleep, learn to concentrate and, if need be, meditate so that you can either keep stress away or deal with it when it arrives. Then, once you have mastered these methods and techniques of dealing with stress, you will feel better, be more effective and you will be much happier every day.

"It is not the number of things You do but the efficiency of each separate action." Wallace Wattles

Michael Russell
Your Independent guide to Stress

Posted on Oct 13th, 2006

Seventy-five percent of all our problems – both emotional and physical problems – come from the same source. If you could identify that source, would you want to eliminate it?

For most people, the answer is obvious. Unfortunately, few people are able to identify the core of their problems. And those who do typically don’t know the steps to take to alleviate their challenges.

So what is the course of most of our problems? It is stress. That’s right; stress is the source of 75 percent of all our problems and a major epidemic in people’s lives. Finding ways to control stress is vital, because if your don’t control stress, it will control you.

What Exactly Is Stress?

The concept of stress isn’t new to anyone. But few people truly know what stress is. Physical stress is the depletion of the body’s resources by illness or exhaustion. The most devastating stress, however, is psychological and emotional stress. There are many sources of emotional stress: family problems, social obligations, life changes, work, decision making, phobias, etc.

Emotional stress is powerful and debilitating because it takes away any sense of control we have over our lives. And this feeling of control over our environment and our self is one of our most basic human needs. If it isn’t met, emotional or physical illness can result. For example, a number of studies directly link stress and heart disease.

The only wan to combat stress and stay healthy is to create a complete physical, mental and spiritual equilibrium within the body. Although we used to believe that the mind and body are two separate entities, we now know that all facets of our being are interconnected. Everything that happens to your body and your mind affects your health and stress level in some way. Every thought you have, every feeling and emotion you experience affects your longevity. That is why you must take a total body approach to eliminate stress and balance your life.

Physical And Emotional Stress Relief

If you want to reduce your stress level and live a happier and healthier life, use the physical and emotional stress relief techniques outlined below.

Physical Relief

· Say No

The pressure to perform in today’s world is intense. As a result, people work long hours and take on much more than they can bear. They juggle multiple roles throughout the day and sacrifice sleep or personal time just so they can get everything done. Saying “no” to a demand is out of the question, resulting in increased stress, both at work and at home.

Unfortunately, for most people, saying “no” to another’s request is a challenge. They are anxious to please others, so they put their own needs aside. They fail to realize that no one can be on call 24 hours a day, and that we all need some personal time to rest and rejuvenate.

The next time someone demands more than you can give, remember that you have to take care of yourself first. You simply can’t handle everything. Say “no” gracefully while respecting the other person and letting him or her know that you care. While you may feel some initial guilt for denying the request that feeling will quickly pass and your stress level diminishes.

· Listen to Your Body

Listening to your body helps you take control of your stress

because you become aware of the signals your body gives you regarding comfort and discomfort. Once you’re attuned to what your body is telling you, you can learn which events trigger stress and which events reduce it. Your body talks to you everyday. How often do you listen?

The most common warning of too much stress is a condition called angina. Angina consists of chest pain or tightness in the neck, arms, jaw, and upper back that is the result of a reduced blood supply to the heart. Other indicators of excessive emotional stress are arrhythmias or irregular heartbeat.

In order to listen to your body, you must become responsible for your health and your stress. Having trust in your doctors or in medical tests is now enough. The real solution lies with you and with your own awareness and responsibility for your health. This responsibility may involve doing some things that are difficult for you, such as changing your diet, stopping smoking, learning to control emotions, etc. Whatever change is necessary for you, your body will tell you. You need only to listen.

Physical Relief

· Communicate With Your Heart

Your heart has an important job, pumping 2,000 gallons of blood throughout your body each day. This merits the heart receiving your attention. To reduce emotional stress your heart needs encouragement, appreciation, and love.

Start your heart talk, your communication with your heart, by placing your right hand over the left side of your chest. Become aware of your heartbeat. Stay in that position for a few moments. Soon you’ll notice that the heating sensation becomes less forceful. It is as if your heart knows that you’re in touch with it. With your hand still over your chest ask your heart to help you be peaceful. Ask your heart to create an emotional shield that protects you from whatever the world around you may be fighting with.

Within your heart is an infinite intelligence that is sensitive to your needs. So pose a question to your heart or discuss a problem that’s causing you stress. Your heart will reciprocate with the proper answer. By doing this, you are telling your creative mind to quiet down so you can uncover new solutions to your problems. The more you become aware of your heart and what it tells you to do, the less stress you will experience. You will achieve a sense of peace and calmness knowing that you are doing what is best for you.

· Clear Out the Past Clutter

Just as you do a spring cleaning of your house, you should also do a spring cleaning of your heart to wipe away the old memories and messages that are causing you stress. This is important, because the way we fell from moment to moment, the way we behave, and the actions we take are all conditioned to how we feel inside.

Negative feelings that we harbor from our past – feelings of loneliness, feelings of low self-worth, feelings of sadness, worry, and fear – cause a great deal of emotional stress in our adult lives. It’s similar to carrying a weight on your back. The weight becomes heavier and heavier. You eventually have to walk bent over because the weight is excessive, but you are still not willing to let it go. As you clear out the chatter, you let go of the weight; you regain a sense of peace and are able to walk upright again.

To discover the past chatter that’s causing you stress, think back over your life and identify the most painful experience you have had – the one you thought you needed to hide from the world. What was that mistake or event? What message did the event trigger in your mind? Acknowledge the event, forgive yourself for it, and then release it and the accompanying stress from your heart.

Stress-Free Today

If you want to eliminate 75 percent of your physical and emotional problems, you must first reduce the stress you feel in your life. By practicing the self-communication strategies explained above, you can take the steps to talk yourself out of daily stress. When you do, you’ll gain a sense of balance and inner peace that enables you to accomplish more, enjoy life, and live your dreams.

Bruno Cortis, M.D., is a cardiologist with a major interest in Spirituality and Health. He authored two books, The Spiritual Heart and also Heart & Soul. He is a member of NSA, Illinois Chapter and he delivers speeches and seminars across North America.

You can visit Dr. Cortis at or e-mail him at His telephone number is 708-366-0117.

Posted on Oct 12th, 2006

Intuition was a wonderful gift. It was also an awful curse. By instantly recognizing patterns, intuition was nature’s vital tool for survival. Life ceaselessly faced a train of unlimited choices and, often, baffling problems. These demanded instant decisions. An animal could not remain undecided, whether to drink water, or to eat grass. Should it be aggressive and fight, run away, or relax and accept the situation? It was intuition, which interpreted events to trigger emotions. Anger made them aggressive. Fear made them retreat. And familiarity supported relaxation. Each emotion eliminated groups of thoughts. If fighting was the option, amicable thoughts did not fit. If the decision was to cut and run, it was useless to marshal one’s militant strengths. The intuitive process eliminated mental activity, which did not fit the chosen course of action. Sadly, this elimination process was also the biggest weakness of the system.

Each emotion set off a focused drive seeking solutions. Anger, fear, or friendliness triggered competing drives. Intuition focused each drive by eliminating views that did not fit its compulsive focus. Anger eliminated amicable memories. Fear lost sight of fighting strengths. As any situation evolved, the emotional strengths of these partisan drives varied. Opposing emotions competed for control. Intuition acted in the emotional center, the limbic system, to select the most powerful emotion, which then ruled. If it was anger, it pulled the trigger. When the choice was made, the process inhibited competing drives, with contrary feelings. Opposing views were largely lost to consciousness.

Across species, fear dictated an escape drive, which sought safety. A deer bounded away. A bird took flight. A fish swam off. While the activities of running, flying and swimming differed, it was the drive, which achieved the objective of escaping. Each drive evaluated experience and the environment. Escape was hardly possible by heading into the predator. Getting away demanded evaluation of many escape routes, including slipping into a safe sanctuary, inaccessible to the predator. Like the underside of a rock. Drives involved a search of multiple contexts to uncover the right answer. While intuitive drives usually delivered the answer instantly, some drives failed to uncover solutions.

Modern life offered few speedy answers. Senior positions had added problems. The higher the position, more the solutions needed for the myriad problems faced by a venture. Intuition, driven by emotions, was the creative force, which delivered answers. Hidden from view, drives constantly sought solutions. While one problem was consciously evaluated, subconscious drives continued search processes to solve other issues. Since, anger, fear or jealousy powered such searches, they often sought to achieve conflicting objectives. These hidden emotions troubled the mind, creating distressing internal conflicts. Sadly, this was the negative face of intuition, standing in the way of achieving peace of mind.

Conflicting viewpoints surged in the subconscious. How could they be integrated? In a harsh and unforgiving world, how could a multitude of clashing drives be graciously focused? How could the mind be stilled? Across the ages, many solutions were offered to focus the mind and still conflicts. Meditation, chanting and breathing routines were found to be beneficial. But, those practices treated the symptom, not the problem. The long term solution was to quiet the internal battles of these competing drives. All knowledge and experience lived within. These same drives were powerful search processes, which could delve deep, to deliver answers. Unique new insights and solutions waited to be discovered.

Drives provided windows into the mind. It was a drive, which assisted in the preparation of a simple shopping list. It searched memory and current context to deliver, line by line, a list of all the items you needed to buy. By contextually searching the mind, drives could be made to play a valuable, creative role. When particularly burdened by a problem, drives could draw out a list of one’s deepest concerns. With its sort facility, a spreadsheet could be used to list and comprehend the turmoils of the mind.

The routine could begin by listing, line by line, different aspects of a problem, as it came to mind. Each, a short entry in a single cell of the spread sheet. It may have just begun with, say, "Feel awful" and gone on down. That was the first thought. Many conflicting emotions surged in the background. Each line would sum up a single feeling and its concern. It could be “Negative departmental report” Or, it could be just a hunch. “David will support me.” The worst fears were noted down. “Mortgage payments.” And the common sense thoughts. “This too will pass.”

Writing a list was a calming process. The questioning drive helped still the mind. Differing viewpoints were noted down. These views would arrive in conspicuous sequence. Each entry brought one viewpoint into consciousness – into the general view of isolated and competing drives. Sensible viewpoints would normally have been eliminated from view by angry emotions. Typically, about 60 odd entries would empty the mind of every related thought. Entering opposing viewpoints usually brought balance. The inquiry process stilled background turmoil. The most critical part of this process came next.

A label was entered for each line in an adjacent cell on the spreadsheet. “Fear,” “Opportunity”, or even “Unlikely” could be the labels. With every aspect already considered, it was easier to label an entry. Each label fitted a few more entries. The picture slowly cleared. Underground fears surfaced. Solutions emerged. The closing of one door usually opened another. Those 60 entries would fit a dozen or so categories. A "sort" of the labels column would arrange similar ones together, in alphabetic order. Listing similarly labeled ideas together would bring clarity. They became groups of consistent, allied thoughts. The sorted spreadsheet list integrated the mind.

Isolated drives were forced into the open and a balanced view emerged. Viewed together, “Unlikely” put a label on needless worries. The less likely outcomes could be ignored. The inevitable ones had to be accepted. That left you with the actions you could take. “Opportunities” formed the basis for a future plan. The rest of the list just climbed off your chest. Another threatening issue would have been acknowledged, accepted and foreseen. The spreadsheet evaluation balanced the mind and stilled hidden anxieties and conflicts. Lifted burdens. Anger and fear, love and altruism cooperated to search for solutions which met all the concerns of the mind. With the power of intuition, an integrated mind became the most creative force in the world.

Abraham Thomas is the author of The Intuitive Algorithm, a book, which suggests that intuition is a pattern recognition algorithm. This leads to an understanding of the powerful forces that control your mind. The ebook version is available at The book may be purchased only in India. The website, provides a free movie and a walk through to explain the ideas.

Posted on Oct 12th, 2006

Among the hardest parts of living in the modern world is stress and anxiety. With worries about work, the environment, the economy, natural disasters, terrorism, and the general state of the world, it seems that there is no end to the number of things to worry about. Though we cannot control many of these things, they still weigh on our minds and cause us stress and anxiety. However, despite these concerns, we should try to avoid stress and anxiety.

Stress and anxiety are, at their hearts, mental problems. They are conditions in which the mind is racing and constantly circling around certain concerns. The concerns may be seemingly mundane, but the concerns keep recurring until they push out all the other thoughts in the brain and create their own towering mass of worry. And this tower is, in itself self-propagating simply because stress and anxiety tend to create themselves because stress and anxiety cause the mind to condition itself to stress and anxiety.

There is research to suggest that the mind gets used to stress and anxiety and, once it is conditioned, it will quickly return to stress and anxiety. In fact, there is some evidence that shows that stress conditioning may actually begin when we are too young to do anything about it. Children who face a great deal of stress will find their minds altered such that they will quickly return to a state of stress at the slightest provocation. It is almost as though the mind misses the state of stress and anxiety and wants to return to it once it has found the state.

Unfortunately, this creates serious problems not only for the mind, but also the body. Stress and anxiety put a great many demands on the human body. It causes headaches, high blood pressure, ulcers, sleep problems, immune system deficiencies and can even swell the joints, which can cause severe problems with conditions such as arthritis. As well, stress and anxiety can result in depression, memory problems, and even alcohol and drug abuse for those who suffer from stress and anxiety regularly. Thus, stress and anxiety are not merely problems of the mind, but they are problems of the mind that can cause problems in the body. The mind does, in surprising ways, control the body. And a mind that is overly taxed can lead to a body that is overly taxed.

Thus, you must understand that you can also control your mind. Stress and anxiety do not need to take over your mind. In fact, you can control how your mind responds to the problems that arise in life.

Remember that you can decide not to be stressed. You do not have to be anxious. You can change your mind and let things slide away. Yes, there are many things in this world to worry about. However, worrying about them will not change many aspects of the modern world. Constantly thinking about work, the environment, the economy, or politics will not change them. Instead, resolve to change things that you can change and do not worry about what you cannot control.

The thing to keep in mind is a sense of perspective. Yes, work is stressful, but do you need to worry about being attacked by a lion when you leave the office? When you go shopping for groceries, do you need to think about whether there will be a pack of marauding barbarians in the produce section? Hopefully, the answer is, "No." Thus, you do not have the same concerns as our forebears and you should keep that in mind. Life is pretty safe these days and the so-called "Age of Stress" is entirely of our own creation. We are stressed about things that we decide to be stressed about. And the things that we are stressed about really aren’t that important in the long-run scheme of things.

Stress and anxiety are, seemingly, enough to worry about on their own. So don’t fall into the trap of keeping them going. Keep life in perspective, keep yourself on an even keel and remember that you can control your own mind. If you can manage to do that, stress and anxiety to not need to take over your life.

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Posted on Oct 11th, 2006

It may seem inevitable that operating the command center of a monthly magazine would invite stress. However, many people do not realize that stress is something you can prevent, no matter how intense your occupation or how fast-paced your daily life is. And, every ounce of prevention can help prevent other conditions.

In general, working too hard and almost burning yourself out would directly lead to stress. It is not an ideal upshot because stress can inevitably lead to dozens of physical ailments, from heart disease to dizziness, and it undermines our mental health as well.

Stress can lead to depression, anxiety, irritability, and other emotional problems. So, to prevent stress and to avoid burning yourself out that your body tends to fuse out and releases no more energy because of its condition, take some tips o how to live a healthy, stress-free life.

1. Lighten the load

Are you one of those people who have no downtime? Do you go from work to home to your volunteer position or children’s activities, leaving no time for your pleasures? Then you may be on overload.

Overload is being active without ever attending to your human needs. Health experts say that everyone needs true downtime to relax and recover.

Downtime refers to the time you do not have to answer to anyone, when you have no responsibilities. It is that time when you garden, read a mystery novel, go for a walk, or lose yourself in gourmet-food preparation.

2. Divide the hours

Doing multitasking or handling multiple responsibilities, many people run around like rats in a maze, completely forgetting their own needs.

Set the time for individual tasks, and plan for interruptions or distractions. Try to recognize your needs and care for yourself. Even the busiest person can find 15 minutes every day to be alone.

3. Find your optimum time

Learn to know your individual rhythm and plan the day accordingly.

4. Take time-outs

Stop everything, curb your activities, and take a deep breath. You will generate superior judgments when you are not doing it from a harried state.

5. Get help

If you cannot handle all the work, admit it, do not burn yourself out, and begin delegating immediately.

6. Do a stress rehearsal…with exercise!

According to the health experts, exercise plays a key role in minimizing the damage that stress does to our health. It acts as a stress rehearsal for other kinds of stress. If the body gets used to dealing with the flood of hormones that are released during exercise, then it learns to respond better to all kinds of stress in the future.

Exercise also triggers the release of endorphins, brain chemicals associated with pain relief and euphoria. Endorphin levels rise significantly both in the brain and in the body as a result of exercise. When we make exercise a constant in our lives, our elevated endorphin levels can make us calmer.

7. Breathe easy

Yoga increases self-awareness and makes us acutely sensitive to physiological and psychological stressors in our lives. If you can perceive the source of stress early on, then you can intervene with deep breathing, which is an important component of yoga. IN fact, yoga experts contend that breathing interventions is worth gold.

8. Let nature nurture you

Nature can be a tremendous aid in preventing stress. And you can find nature in some unexpected places: the plant store, a local park, or even outside your own office. Some simple suggestions: Fill your home and work space with lush, living plants; put a fish tank in your office; stroke your pets at least 15 minutes every day; and walk outdoors on your lunch hour instead of hanging around the office or lunchroom.

Best of all, learn to say no to new responsibilities when your plate is already full. One of the main reasons why people feel burnt out or stressed is that they take on too many tasks at once and underestimate how much time they will need to complete them.

The bottom line here is that if you were only more realistic in estimating how much time they need to spend on certain activities, they would probably feel less stress and less burn out.

Try to live a happy and healthy life and rev up that energy!

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Posted on Oct 11th, 2006

I recently received this e-mail message about stress management (author unknown)…


A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, "How heavy is this glass of water?" Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g. The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it."

"If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. "In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."

He continued, "And that’s the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on." "As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden."


What burden can you put down to help you reduce stress? Notice that I did not ask if you had stress. I assume you do. The question is, what are you doing to manage or reduce it?

I’ll bet that you can identify something generating stress in your life right now that you’ve been carrying for a while … something that was probably stressing you a month ago, or even a year ago. So what are you prepared to do about it? Here are five tips to help you reduce stress.

1. Identify what is burdening you right now. What do you hate about your life? What are you tolerating? By stating what you hate or are putting up with in your present circumstances, you can then identify what you want. As you answer this question, consider each of the categories mentioned below. Make a thorough list and be specific. This list is for your eyes only, so spill onto paper whatever you hate about your present circumstances, without trying to sugar-coat how you are feeling. Here are some examples:

* Relationships: I hate feeling like I always have to be right. I hate how my son never wants to spend time with me.

* Health & Wellness: I hate being 20 pounds overweight. I hate getting so out-of-breath when I take the stairs. I hate that I am so stressed that I cannot fall asleep at night.

* Financial Health: I hate how I always defer my tax returns because I am so disorganized with my financial records. I hate how many tax deductions I forfeit because of my lousy record-keeping practices.

* Environment: I hate how my office is cluttered with piles of paper. I hate that I waste so much time looking for things. I hate how much money I waste because I have to buy something I have but cannot find. I hate that I cannot park my car in the garage because of all the junk stored in there.

* Work: I hate regularly working past 5 PM and on the weekends.

2. Deal with unresolved issues. Is there something in your past that you have not dealt with – psychological barriers, untreated disorders, unfinished business from your childhood, unresolved relationships, addictions, or depression? If so, seek professional assistance to clear a path for a new beginning. Without first dealing with these obstacles, you may sabotage your efforts or find major resistance to making the changes you desire.

3. De-clutter and create order. Creating order in your home and work environment may help you to gain clarity as you explore the horizon of some new directions in other areas of your life. Here’s my definition of clutter: Anything you own, possess, or do that does not enhance your life on a regular basis. It’s hard to make room for something new amidst all the clutter … whether that clutter exists in your physical environment, on your calendar, or in your head.

4. Move from complaints to solutions. Look at your list of things you hate (above), and design a vision around what you want and choose for the future. Create a chart that includes the complaints, solutions to achieve your vision, and projected dates of completion.

Tried everything and still cannot find a solution? Ask someone else to help you brainstorm a solution, or make peace with it and quit thinking of it as a problem.

Eliminate excuses that are undermining your vision. For example, if you feel like you have to work late, examine the excuses that are undermining your desire to leave the office by 5 PM. Are you staying late to catch up with e-mail or to meet deadlines? How can you eliminate the excuse? Build in time to handle those activities during regular work hours.

Commit time to take positive action. Carve out protected time for working on an important project that would otherwise not get done until the 11th hour (after hours or on the weekend). For large projects, break them into smaller "bite-sized" projects.

5. Get support as you change behaviors. In order to create new behaviors which will get and keep you at the enhanced level at which you wish to function, you may need support. An accountability partner or personal coach can help you:

* Reflect back what you say you want so you can hear yourself.

* Clarify what it will take to get you from where you are to where you want to be.

* Build in accountability check-ins (without judgment) around the actions you choose to take.

Identify the level of support you need in order to reach the goals you’ve identified, and then ask for help.

Copyright 2005 Kathy Paauw

Wouldn’t you love to stumble upon a secret library of ideas to help you de-clutter your life so you can focus on what’s most important? Kathy Paauw offers simple, yet powerful ideas, on how to manage your time, space, and thoughts for a more productive and fulfilling life.


Posted on Oct 10th, 2006

It is not easy to deal with your fears and anxiety problems while in the business world. The first step is that you should talk to a professional who can get you started in the right path of getting better. In addition, here are some other techniques a businessperson can use to manage their problems.

Learn to take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week or coming month, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with your problems. Focus on the present and stop trying to predict what may happen next week. Next week will take care of itself.

A good way to manage your fear is to challenge your negative thinking with positive statements and realistic thinking. When encountering thoughts that make your fearful or anxious, challenge those thoughts by asking yourself questions that will maintain objectivity and common sense.

Sometimes, we may be nervous doing a certain task that may be scary. When this happens, visualize yourself doing the task in your mind. For instance, you and your team have to play in the championship hockey game in front of a large group of people in the next few days. Before the big day comes, imagine yourself playing the game in your mind. Imagine that your playing in front of a large audience. By playing the game in your mind, you will be better prepared to perform for real when the time comes. Self-Visualization is a great way to reduce the fear and stress of a coming situation.

Take a vacation day to relax. Many people work two jobs nowadays. Sooner or later, the long work hours will catch up with you and take a toll on your health. Take the day off and do something you enjoy.

As a Layman, I realize it is not easy to deal with all of our fears, however there are all kinds of help available. The key is to be patient and not to give up. In time, you will be able to find those resources that will help you with your problems.

Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear" an easy to read book that presents a overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to:

Posted on Oct 10th, 2006

Stressed-out? Too much to do and too little time? Then, check out these five simple stress-busters and feel stress-less soon. These easy steps to instant sanity are quick and effective. And best of all, you can do at least one of them right now, right where you are, in the comfort of your own home or cubicle.

1. Breathe: Often and always, of course. But also DEEP-ly. Feel the air filling your lungs and expanding your ribcage and belly. As you breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth, offer thanks to the very air you take for granted. Reflect on how life-giving oxygen is given to you with every inhale and life-depleting toxins are removed with every exhale.

Expand your exhale into a long sigh. Loosen up your shoulders and exhale with your entire body in one long, unbroken outbreath. Fully feel the sigh—starting at the crown of your head and rippling down through your body to the tips of your toes, as you softly whisper "Ahhhhhh. . . ".

Yaaaaawn. When tense, you tend to take short, shallow, and sporadic breaths. Less oxygen goes the brain and body, and they can’t function at their peak. A slow, relaxing yaaaaawn brings revitalizing oxygen to where you need it most.

2. Count to 10: Forward or backwards, out loud or to yourself. Either way, the point is to count s—l—o—w—l—y. Insert a word between each number. For example, say "10. . . hippopatumus," "9 . . . hippopatumus," and so on.

By the end of your countdown, you’ll be feeling more cool, calm, and collected—ready once more to launch into your next activity.

3. Look to the East: Stretch out with a little yoga. You don’t have to get out of your chair. Desk workers typically build up strain in the neck, shoulders, arms, and hands—and yoga can untie those knots. No time for a yoga mini-break? No worries. Try this quickie to revive and relax your overworked eyes: Rub your palms together briskly to build up some heat, then cover your overworked eyes for a few moments with your palms (no peeking—it should be dark as night in there). This imparts energy to the eyes and also helps them rest.

4. Eat: No, this doesn’t mean gorging yourself on gobs of greasy fast food (which is often a response to stress). Treat yourself to a new kind of lunch. Think of the daily noontime ritual as a chance for you to unwind, to take a few quiet moments to de-stress and re-group. Head out on your own to refresh and recharge.

Or, if you’re at home, stay there, but remember to turn off all noise-making electronics. Wherever you lunch, sit down, get comfy, and savor the flavors, textures, and aromas of every morsel of your meal. Eat ‘mindfully’ and chew each bite at least 50 times. You’ll digest better, which in turn means your body will more easily turn that food into energy to nourish and strengthen your overall system. Mindful eating also helps avoid heartburn and indigestion. Another big plus? You’re likely to eat less—and that’s a helpful if you want to slim down.

5. Take a Hike: Just walk away. Right out the door. Don’t worry, your problems will still be there when you return. Of course, dress for the weather before you hop away, and don’t leave crying babies or boiling pots behind. You can get away from it all—at least for a few minutes—and return refreshed and rejuvenated, with a renewed outlook on life.

While you’re out and about, look around and appreciate the sights and sounds—the sun, the sky, and the clouds. Be happy for what you have, like the ability to get out and take a walk. A little gratitude goes a long way. Try picking up the pace. ‘Power-walking’ can quickly work out the kinks. Fast or slow, a spin or stroll around the block helps you feel less frazzled and will put the razzle back in your dazzle.

Each of these five stress-busters takes away your jitters by taking your mind off what’s bugging it. So, why not try one or two of these simple yet powerful de-stressors right now? And, remember, relax.

For a refreshing 7-minute video of yoga you can do at your desk, go to


P J Smith is motivated to write and writes to motivate. Her work can be seen on Public Television and at Healing She has been published in newspapers and magazines, and has written press releases for an international spiritual organization. To find out how PJ’s word wizardry will work wonders for you, visit P J

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